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Ndubuisipaul1:
After the insult. What is your solution ? Which country are you? And how is it done over there ?

And how is it an insult if its true? Nigerian love to beg you keep proving it

Ndubuisipaul1:
After the insult. What is your solution ? Which country are you? And how is it done over there ?

Im Norwegian/Swedish/Danish but live in Nigeria

I was married to a yoruba woman that died of cancer now im married to an igbo woman and ive never had these problems

Its simple, make your wife happy and they never say no and never even need to think about begging

And before you ask, no I didn't do the humiliation rituals you call weddings for either marriages

naijapikin2:
Whoever told you that religion makes you perfect

Religion makes you a better person not a perfect person. The world would have been o e helluva criss ridden hell home had it not been for religion. I personally don't give a rats a.ss if you believe in God or not. I also don't give two pins what diety you offer obeisance to. God does not need your minute validation to remain the intimate being.

It's your choice how long you choose to live on this earth and through what means you decide to evaporate. The choice is yours. Know that in the end you will answer to the supreme being now or in the after life. So you and your very meagre number of ineffectives cannot sway us from what we believe in. 🙋🙋🙋

Religion doesn't make anyone here a better person at all, fella I live in your country and see the reality
Even on here you've got so called godly people bragging about cheating and encouraging other people to cheat

Ndubuisipaul1:
What is that lie you were told before you got married only to discover after marriage ?

For me I thought that married people enjoy regular sex . Your partner give it to you anytime you desire it . Few months of of getting married. My wife can just tell me she is not in the mood . And she doesn't care how I feel about it. I don't believe in having affair outside my marriage. But this sex denying can make someone go crazy.

On the other side this put woman on a higher advantage. Men need sex more often than them . If she is not in the mood, you will need to beg for it. If any party in marriage is begged for anything regularly. The individual begin to feel he/she has a higher authority in the marriage. That is why men cheat. Because if you expect me to beg for what I should get normally. Then I can get it elsewhere in other to make you feel less important.

The man of the house begging for sex . Makes the woman feel she is too important.

She is a good woman. But I just wish she will be in the mood whenever I need her.

But you Nigerian men like begging, look at your humiliation ritual weddings you literally beg and grovel to a family to marry a woman, its your whole culture as you lot say, Nigerian men beg 😅 make your ancestors proud and keep doing in marriage since you do it for marriage and love it so much

The biggest lie getting married here, is all the crap your families and extended families say in the process

None of it matters
None of it is important
None of it is necessary
None of it is required
None of it is mandatory

Unless the 2 people getting married say it is
Its utterly bizarre you believe what they say

Gerrard59:
We've to agree to disagree.

Do have a nice day.

No, thats Nigerian men
The average worldwide is happy to marry down
The average man will choose to marry a woman that respects him over the woman he loves

Most divorces worldwide are initiated by women, because they get bored in marriage, proving that average woman worldwide likes to monkey branch and showing hypergamy because they like to marry up, just because things are different in your particular country because you men are not normal and are plane weird dont make those claims about the world

naijapikin2:
A person's beliefs should bring good results to him.. otherwise his beliefs will be questioned.. results matter when it comes to what you believe in...

Go and find out the life of george carlin and how his life ended.

You wouldn't want to tow that line.

Fella, I plan to go out in a blaze of glory anyway, I am not going to make it old age and ive made sure of that so who am I judge how someone's life ends. And no, a persons beliefs should never just benefit him but those around him too

Look at your country, how do your claims of being godly benefit you or anyone you know or your country?

All the people in Nigeria claim religion and scream the words of god, yet you still lie, cheat and commit fraud, you will happily watch your neighbours starve and rot slowing dying and doing absolutely nothing to help them at all, you break the laws of your country on a daily basis as a society, violate human rights laws, rob the free will your bibles say your god gave all people

So how exactly does your religion help you or anyone else when this country will always be everyone for themselves and what they want over anything on a fundamental and national level?

You are not religious people in the majority
You are not good people in the majority
You are not honest people in the majority
You are not humble people in the majority
You are not respectful people in the majority

Even to all pastors in this country religion is business not a belief

So when you do meet your god, which direction do you think the majority of you will be going? To the pearly gates or the pit?

CharlotteFlair:
Please Calm down and enjoy the sarcasm.
Even the Op is clout chasing. He has not seen the quarter of a million all his life.

Neither have you, its naira not really worth anything

Remember your government bragging that its the strongest currency in the world? They were talking how its made and not what its worth

One of the hardest to counterfeit but not worth what its made out of

naijapikin2:
Your implications do not tilt at the truth... Your ways are and thoughts are a reflection of a failed upbringing. Of course they are true men of God and the fake ones also, in addition to the ones who vainly try to usurp the gospel in all of these God still reigns supreme.

2.if you choose to be unenlightened about such things as movies then sorry to say, your life must be one compendium of boring sequences.
😛😛😛

3 millions... Nay billions of people globally attest to the omnipotence... To the omniscience.. to the omnipresence.. to the all power.. all sufficient God. Your minute knowledge about God not withstanding.

PS: you and I have been through this road before, and trust me I've got the sounds in my trunk to last the whole 9 yards... So keep shooting your rubber pellets. 😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁

Applies to almost all gods


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6FfYPh144UQ?si=eUEjKQubLv4WyMIj

Especially the 3 Abrahamic gods

BRATISLAVA:
The patriarchy?

Why should men be against these customs built by men to stay in control?

Exactly the father are desperate for it not against it

oluamid:
https://thesheet.ng/wp-content/uploads/2017/02/Single-ladies.png


If you have ever noticed that there are seemingly more single ladies in Nigeria than guys, you may need to relax with some chilled juice because you are not alone with your observation.

In fact, it has called for serious concern in recent times where the spate seems to be on a fast rise.

Some attribute the improper fraction to the fact that more females are born daily than males amidst the population explosion.

Sometimes, ladies who think they have all it takes to be take up the ‘Mrs’ tag are caught in the web of certain things that keep them with their parents longer than they anticipated.

This brings up the fact that it is not always enough to have all the qualities required to become a wife as there are some militating factors that come to play when it’s time to tie the knot.

To this end, TheSheet.ng deemed it fit to bring to fore some of the reasons why so many girls are still single despite having attained marriageable age.

HIGH EXPECTATIONS:

Sometimes a handful of ladies await their potential suitors with high expectations and end up scaring them away when they eventually arrive.

Ephemeral things like money, cars shouldn’t form the basis of choice for a life partner but sadly, a lot of ladies are neck deep into such expectations.

ETHNICITY:

The 1914 amalgamation appears to be Nigeria’s bane. The “One Nigeria” slogan is one of the biggest organised lies of the century as there is really nothing ‘one’ about the country despite the fact our 57th Independence Anniversary is only a few months away.

Among the several other factors that stand in the way of marriage for most girls, ethnicity tops the chart. Most times, it is as a result of family influence and when some decide to go against the family standards, they end up stuck and alone with no support from family.

RELIGION:

Majority of the problems encountered in Nigeria today originated from religious differences which make it safe to conclude that religion has done more harm than good in the country. Most people believe that religious compatibility plays a vital role in the choice of life partner and this is the mentality that has kept more ladies in their parents’ homes till date.

AGE DIFFERENCE:

Sometimes, age difference scares women away from the man they truly wish to settle down with. Usually, most potential unions are threatened when the age difference is wide especially when age is telling on either partner.

POOR ATTITUDE:

Well, like Keith Harrell wrote in his masterpiece, ‘attitude is everything’. Some girls though ripe for marriage have delectable attitudes that easily get men on their feet after a first encounter.

Some ladies who are of age just need to improve on their attitudes so as to attract and embark on the journey of forever with ease.

We are in the 21st century and it’s about time people acted like they really are abreast with issues.

Certain choices should transcend beyond the archaic mentality people used to have into something more.


Source: http://thesheet.ng/ever-wondered-single-ladies-nigeria-guys-read/

I have a theory on why there are more women here than men, here goes.....

Alot of you seem to marry the wrong people to please your family and you end up so miserable that you actually wish to meet your maker

But the women so lovely and take their wifely duties so seriously that they setup the appointments for you 🗡🗡🗡🗡

Kobojunkie:
1. Here's how the game has almost always been for you religious folks.... one man's god of man is another man's charlatan. That is the reason why there are over 46,000 different kinds of gods of men in the religion of Christianity alone, all of them "true gods of men" only to those who subscribe to their own brand of bullsheet... the same kind that has kept women and children existing as subdued individuals in the eyes of their gods.

2. Unenlightened about movies that were meant not to be taken seriously by the entertainers who made them? WOW....🥱🥱🥱

3. They attest, yet to this day not a single one of those billions can be considered any different from those who don't even have a god to attest to. That billions subscribe to a delusion DOES NOT make said delusion of truth or of value, not even to the human race. A delusion remains just that... a delusion/lie!

For 1. I volunteer 🙋‍♂️ ill be the new god Nigerians can worship and praise

The atheistic god, has quite a ring to it but be careful im very very wrathful and my 1st almighty decree is that.......

There is to be complete role reversal in all homes between Nigerian men and women so henceforth all naija queens now wear the trousers in all relationships and marriages since they make better man than Nigerian man and all Nigerian men shall become the submissive women of the house. The almighty norse nutter god commands it, I shall come up with 9 more commandments in the near future and a wacky biblical book shortly after but I feel a few commandments like dont lie, cheat or steal can be lumped together into one like dont be a dick

Oh and from now on prostration is punishable by the culprit being tarred and feathered everyday for 20 years

lawani:
You have formed your opinion. It is OK but there is nothing special in prostrating for any elder in Yoruba land especially an in law and it was not reserved for virgin brides though brides were expected to be virgins in the past

'[A]nd when I came to her I found she was not a virgin': A contextual re-reading of Deuteronomy 22:13-21 among Nigerian Christians https://share.google/UWdK4qWZF8y6A3r8G

lawani:
You have formed your opinion. It is OK but there is nothing special in prostrating for any elder in Yoruba land especially an in law and it was not reserved for virgin brides though brides were expected to be virgins in the past

IRB – Immigration and Refugee Board of Canada (Autor): „Existence among the Yoruba of a ritual done to women to restore the virginity they would have lost prior to marriage; if so, a description and the state protection available to those who refuse to perform this ritual (February 2004) [NGA42319.E]“, Dokument #1069612 - ecoi.net https://share.google/n4v1Nt8yzbGRqITOX

lawani:
You have formed your opinion. It is OK but there is nothing special in prostrating for any elder in Yoruba land especially an in law and it was not reserved for virgin brides though brides were expected to be virgins in the past

Under your logic your 14th century ancestors made a tradition where a whole village of men can run a train on a woman, she has 10 kids outside marriage and your ancestors would have been proud of that? And said "that family is the pride of our tribe and they deserve worship"

Your ancestors had a specific ritual traditionally to restore a woman after divorce or pre marita lsex or sexual assault, you dont practice that tradition anymore or the white cloth tradition

You have a very funny definition of being proud of your culture and history when you hide most of it from the world

lawani:
You have formed your opinion. It is OK but there is nothing special in prostrating for any elder in Yoruba land especially an in law and it was not reserved for virgin brides though brides were expected to be virgins in the past

Yes it was fella, get off your backside and actually research it yourself and good for you if you think its not a big deal, you obviously just lack the self respect to actually verify what the corrupt older generations tell you

ObamaMessi:
Few days ago my elder brother went with his side chick to visit his friend only to meet his girlfriend in his friend's bedroom.

He is seriously heartbroken and he has been crying all the time since then.

Any advice?

Both have sneaky links and both are cheating and hes complaining? 🤣 thats hilarious

lawani:
I am telling you as a Yoruba man that there can be a second wedding for a woman and the groom would still be expected to prostrate. There is no big deal in prostration to the Yoruba. As a young man the normal way to greet your in law is by prostrating

You can tell a man like you an absolute truth like "there is no such thing as a circular square" and even with evidence you are the type that will argue "yes there is, its called a triangle"

BRATISLAVA:
I wouldn't know the law, as I am not subject to it. But I'd say the prostration is their culture. If you don't want to do it, and you know she's desperate for it, don't marry her then. I think this is why people avoid certain cultures.

Its not the women that are desperate for it, its the fathers and uncles

lawani:
I am telling you as a Yoruba man that there can be a second wedding for a woman and the groom would still be expected to prostrate. There is no big deal in prostration to the Yoruba. As a young man the normal way to greet your in law is by prostrating

Then yoruba families should only expect it from yoruba men since you are so willing to do it so freely for anyone one even those your ancestors said traditionally dont deserve it

Chilipepper:
Man shares a lady's response after asking what she would bring to his life if they dated.

He said "say something more intelligent" yet he wasn't intelligent enough to ask what she is studying just immediately looking down on her

You all keep judging the girl the topic is about but did any of you even care to ask or consider what she is studying before debating her value as a human or wife or her further?

Iawani

This is the problem with your particular tribe, you believe you are superior to everyone and everyone must lower themselves below you

BRATISLAVA:
I wouldn't know the law, as I am not subject to it. But I'd say the prostration is their culture. If you don't want to do it, and you know she's desperate for it, don't marry her then. I think this is why people avoid certain cultures.

Everyone is subject the law of a country, Every single citizen even the government and police, thats the problem with Nigeria Everyone thinks they are above the law

And avoiding cultures is the 2nd xenophobic and culturally narcissistic problem if you cannot blend cultures freely instead of demanding submission to yours then you should all strongly consider never leaving Nigeria

lawani:
Virginity until marriage was common in the past only because most women married as teenagers and even today most teenagers are virgins. Are you now saying if a divorcee is being given out in marriage there will be no ceremony in the past and there will be no prostration?

Yes fella, thats exactly what im saying
Its exactly what your ancestors said

Prostration was for the pride meeting a woman as a virgin and marrying her as a virgin, there is nothing traditional about yoruba people at all, just narcissistic

Prostration was only for being a womans first husband and her first man not her second anything at all