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bukatyne: oga highbros, y don't u tell us how old u re b4 we can give u proper advice?

Akpunwa: The encounter in Owerri was long before universal banking thingy started. I had gone to collect money on mum's behalf from a partner.
I collected the money and headed to the park to board a bus home. A young man walked up to me (on Douglas/Mbaise road if u know Owerri) asking for direction to Eke-onunwa Hospital that he's been trying to locate a doctor he supplied surgical instruments running into miilions of naira. I was past listening cos I knew instantly. Without uttering a word, I crossed to the middle of the road (it's a double carriage way) and continued walking to Rotobi park closeby. From the corner of my eyes, I saw a guy (his cohort) cross the road with me, tagging behind and asking me to pity the guy and help him as he's been stranded the whole day. Immediately he made to touch me, I shouted "satan get ye behind me!" lol.
Na so they leave me o.
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Years later when I got to know Owerri fairly well, I discovered the hospital does not exist.

Odinaka00: RIP

Odinaka00: RIP

nanidee: It beats me why some people have to be rude for no reason. Why would someone come here and call another man's wife a slu.t

It's just unnacceptable!

SUV: @ poster:
my nother inlaw is vey mean and hard too. but i conquered all with love, patience and showered her with gifts. i bot her oevr with lillte gesture and treats.
now she call me every time for slight headache and i will tell my hubby to do somethin.

my dear< tell ur sister to try it out< she will be amazed at hw her MIL will reciprocate the love and gesture.
its like magic.

my MIL doesnt visit the other children of hers as much as us, and u know what< i alswyas like her arnd, she pampers my children like anything. and when ashe is coming, i will prepare her favourite meal and then see loads of all the stuff she can get from the village for us including food stuff.


let ur sis try it. dont involve the hubby, let her go out of her way to satisfy her.
ask her what she will like to eat and prepare the food based on the womans choice.
each time she goes to d market, lether get no matter how small, N50 naora worth of stuff she will like, earings, take her to go and have a new hair do even before ur sister changes her own, believe me, she will start to fall in love with u.

when u are abt to go to church, bring out a matching haedtie and tie it for her, then give her a handbag and tell her its "to match".
encourage her to take hot bath and things u know is good for elderly women.

put on TV stations and ask her MIL if she likes those stations, explain to her MIL whats happening on those TV stations,
let her MIL be the one to carry the baby when they are going for immunization, church or little outings.

when ur sis is answering call from ur family, let ur father or other sis greet her MIL through ur sis phone to show her they love her.

i did all those and many more i cant even remember and today if i tell my MIL that i am having headache her battery will run down calling me every minute to check hw i am doing.

we told her we are coming homein August and she has announced it in the whole town...it can only be love my dear
Good Luck.

braveheart2012: There are always two sides to a story. I have read between the lines of your post and I strongly suspect that your sister isn't entirely a saint in this situation.

Which kind of DIL asks her husband to rent a house for his own mother?!!! Haba! Won't she have her own son one day? How horrible can this woman be that you can't live with her for a few weeks? Isn't she the one that raised the man she married? She can't possibly be THAT bad. Even if she's the devil incarnate, your sister as a DIL owes her some respect. Suggesting she go live in a rented house was a HUGE insult to bother her MIL and husband. From what I can infer from your post, your mother is no longer in your sister's life. This might explain this terrible lapse in judgement.

Your sister needs to humble herself and go back to mend the broken hedges. Until she respects and treats this MIL as her own mother, I am afraid that she her marital home won't be at complete peace. She isn't the first woman to have a tough MIL and she needs to reach out to older and wiser women in her family or at her church to seek wisdom on how to deal with the issue. Her MIL isn't God; she is just a mere mortal like everybody else and thus, she can be conquered with love, patience and wisdom. I pray that God looks down on your sister with mercy and give her the grace and clarity to make the right decisions.


PS - your sister's husband's physical abuse is completely unacceptable but it's hard to give you any advice for your sister about dealing with this violence when she's still making basic Marriage 101 mistakes. I hope there are others on here who can look beyond your sister's blunder to give her workable strategies for handling spousal abuse.

flexya: 1)As mentioned above, haulage biznes- tipper, trailer, tanker
2)Transport ie buses for long trips eg Abuja-lagos. It takes a while 2 garner reputation bt once u do, its ok
3)Farmin - cattle, fish, poultry. Its more medium term returns so its advisable u av somethin else for income
4) Hospitality - Hotels, restaurant. Won't suggest nite club cos I had my hands burnt wit this
Location is essential.

5) Not so much a biznes bt investment- PROPERTIES ie lands, hostels, houses. Just look out for cash strapped ppl willin 2 sell - Dats life.

Finally, no matter what u invest in, SIT WIT IT. Don't bite more dan u can chew. Once u feel u don't av the time 2 man-mark it, STOP there. Goodluck

maasoap: I wasn't aware of this before, I would have applied.

obo_man: btw, I also notice dat 9Ja chics with dem kinda attitude are the ugly 1s or the rubbish 1s in bed....


Instead of the ugly 1s to be nice, they tend to be mean, hence double tragedy...E.g ileke-idi....

haha

KDULAR: Good feat but I know of the daughter of a popular deceased politician from who became a Ph.D holder at the tender age of 22 years in Chemical Engineering at a renowned university in England

Eagles man: that should be their school age,I guess.their real age is above that.

mogbomoya: I was about 10 weeks pregnant when I stumbled on my hubby kissing and smooching another babe at a car pack. Information got to me from the security men that my hubby has been doing that for about a week. They said, he locks his office doors sometimes.

I was very hurt. I didn't sleep at home tht night. The worse was tht he initially did nt apologize & tried to deny it. I moved back home the next day & pretended that nothing had happened.

2 days after, he came begging, tht he was terribly sorry. He cried & wept like a baby. He said, he did nt know what came over him. He said, with my throwing up & newly developed moodiness he felt a repulse & sort comfort in the hands of his colleague. He is very much a xtian oh! If he fell, then any man can fall too.

Well, I forgave him & we are very happy.

Ladies, its easier to say u wld divorce the man immediately. I also said so, but when it happened to me, I remembered all the gd times we had had together, i remembered how we had bought suffered and conquered. I did nt want to get defeated & let another woman ruin my home. I chose to forgive him.

I learnt that as women, we are stronger than men when it comes to keeping ourselves. Men can get easily distracted, they love us their wife but at the same time, they want to have quick flings. Also, I noticed the single ladies go to any length seducing young married men! They tend to develop feelings to married men after their wife have brushed them up!

Ladies, please always pray for your hubby as they actually go through a lot of temptation. They are easily moved by what they see!