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Holuwahphemy:
Hello Nairalanders

Please I need your advice on a pressing issue.

I love my girlfriend so much, and to a certain degree, I'm convinced it is reciprocal.

But sometimes I feel overwhelmed by the way she's all over me. There is this three seater sofa in my sitting room that looks older than the other sofas, despite the fact that they were all bought and brought in the same day. This is because I dare not sit elsewhere aside with her on that particular sofa. if I do, I'm calling for a fight. She's always wanting to be in a cuddle with me.

In the bedroom, our bodies must touch. If I stand up to the restroom to ease myself or do the other, if I'm not back within a short period of time, she's either calling out from the room, or coming to the bathroom to check what's up.

She literally follows me everywhere. To buy fuel, cut my hair, get something across the street, pick something from the car, you name it, the list is endless.

This has affected me that, in the rare moments that we are not together, probably when she's visiting her parents. I walk around like a zombie. Sometimes I'll do something as wierd as going to the closet to smell her clothes.

Something happened this morning, that actually called for the creation of this topic.

We were in the bedroom and she was sleeping, so I stood up to ease myself and get something from the fridge. What I wanted to get was stuck, so I left the fridge open to melt down the ice a little. Which I waited, I sat on one of the sofas, and was surfing the web on my phone, just to kill time. Less than 3 minutes later, I heard the bedroom door open, I jumped up and quickly dropped my phone, and started busying myself with trying to get the content from the fridge. She caught me and started laughing.

I was so angry because it's not as if she had caught me cheating or doing something actually wrong. I felt like an !diot for letting it get to the stage where it feels like I'm scared of her. I told her it wasn't funny and when she tried to hold me, I felt irritated and asked her to leave me alone.
She got angry and left me in annoyance.

I want to talk to her later, basically to let her know how i feel and probably find a nice way to tell her to be easy on the 'hovering'. Because it now feels as if I'm being choked or something.

You never choke oo, when you finally get to that level, nobody would tell before you voice out ok.

MEANWHILE,THIS TYPE OF LOVE, PLS HAVE IT AT BACK OF UR MIND THAT, WHEN IT EVENTUALLY FADE, YOU PEOPLE WOULD BE LIKE WORST ENEMY.

Experiences show, this type of Romeo & Juliet, dnt used to pass, the test of time.

kelechi50:
For collecting money from her adultery lifestyle and use it to feed the man, the man's destiny is gone for good.
She might be the reason why the man is jobless in the first place,because if your wife wants to destroy you it will not cost her much but to collect money from her concubine and cook for the husband.

And you don't think, because husband refused to gather his ass and work harder in other to put food on the table for his family that caused it in first place?

diabeticdeals:
There's no manual to this thing. Forget what everyone says.

There are strict rules .....follow them and enjoy your marriage and refuse to follow and endure, if not scattered your marriage.

Here are few of the rules

*Marry someone that both attracted and friendly to.

*Make sure you have minimum finances to power the engine of marriage.

*Respect each other in marriage.

*Ability to reach compromise by both partners.

People had been putting blame on others from time of Adam&Eve.

They put blame on marriage instead of couples involved.
They blame VAR instead of referee in charge.
They blame INEC, instead of politicians.
They blame religion instead of church goers

OmotolaDeniro:
Ashawo no dey shame nau

Coming out from whorre himself.

Pot calling kettle black, what's different oga, Mr gay?

oz4real83:
The woman will be doing fasting and prayer for the marriage to breakup, unfortunately, na that kind marriage dey last pass🤣. The lawyer already knows the mistakes the divorced wife made and will never repeat them, the man will be more matured and has learnt some lessons from the previous wife, the marriage will only keep on getting stronger to the detriment of the ex-wife🤣

If life straight forward the way you express it, everyone would be rich, live long and healthy.

Let me tell you bitter truth...THE MARRIAGE BETWEEN EX HUSBAND AND LAWYER IS JUST 50/50 ,The same level that every couple is in marriage.

Buhari gavē golden opportunity for PDP to come back to power, trio of PDP splited to give APC winning.

Oga stop crying about INEC but blame, Yourself, Atiku and Kwankwaso.

Meanwhile, your wailing would still be continuing for very very long time to come ooo, 4? 8? 12? 16yrs. Maybe Nigerians can show sympathy and give "Dot nation" opportunity then.

StraightGaay:
So proud of a person, he wanted to say Ronaldo is the best, but because of pride and ego he said Madrid. Prideful imp.

Just like what they posted yesterday.

......don't follow society advice/opinion, because many don't even know what they are saying/posting.

I hold that post in high esteem, cos,it tot me alot about different characters in the universe.

Kennyfancy:
Coming from the religion that Is causing problems all over the world even in small Nigeria unah religion still dey do terrorism and bandit and steady killings, Isreal should finish all terrorist religion as soon as possible

Everyone that goes against ur myopic and foolish view is a Muslim.

I will give you assignment to see my posts on Muslim.

It's only a foolish, that religion takes his common sense.

What's different between you and Islamic jihadists?

the neutral minded would know, two of you think and behave alike.

Hypocrite and werey that's fighting for christian, yet going against instructions of Jesus, who is Alpha and Omega of the religion.

StraightGaay:
Israel shouldn't be distracted, they're doing the lords work, doing away with terrorism and restoring worlds peace.

Why did they need to assist God? If truly their god is almighty.


The assistant they are had been helping god to do since time immemorial,yet, they, and their god not able to defeat the enemy til tomorrow.


If they are deceiving you,dnt deceive urself sir .

That number five is great

STAY AWAY FROM SOCIETY ADVISE,MANY OF THEM DON'T EVEN KNOW WHAT THEY ARE DOING, SAYING POSTING ON SOCIAL MEDIA!

I think Ranger is from Enugu, while Enyimba from Abia state?

Anyone of them can win, the most important thing for me is for officials to be completely neutral and let the better team wins.

Even a sales boy who is bowing down for oga on daily basis, upon "peanut he is being paid for enomous work his doing for oga and entire family, would come on faceless forum to talk down on achievers who have reached their peak of their carriers in life.


What's big deal in bend down and salute nos 1 authority in the country?

Apart from being the president, Tinubu is way older than any one of them.

Mr Wike, you don't need to answer every rat and cockroach ranting on social media pls .

Bubu4Sea:
Only God can forgive Sins, Allah cannot.

Here are some differences between God & allah.

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God is the God of Abraham, Isaac & Jacob.

Allah is god of mohammed.
*****

God loves Israel & fights for Israel.

Allah hates Israel & wants to destroy Israel.

*****

God hates people bowing to stones.

Allah loves people bowing to the black stone
*****
Allah is not God & can never be God.

Stop talking bad about someone God/ deity, everyone is free to worship whatever he/she wants, but you can call out worshippers who are doing nonsense in the name of religions

You people would still come back and make correction of exact day.
Always at a cross roads to celebrate ordinary religion festivals

Asiri1991:
Ekiti professors! The most ridiculous in the whole country. Southwest has made that revered position a mere joke. As them her line of research now or local and international publications that warrant such branding they will start foaming in the mouth. No wonder no one takes their professorship seriously. All they want to brag is:we have the highest number of professors in Nigeria. Imagine this woman sitting among Soyinka, Irueweka, Ashiegbu, and Ogbulogo as professors. Tueeh!

Oga professor,check your bolded. I guess, that's type of grammar "blunders" professors are speaking in your own region, the region that is producing quality professors ooo.

Please go back and register for NECO, if you aren't capable of coming out successful in WAEC.

Asiri1991:
Ekiti professors! The most ridiculous in the whole country. Southwest has made that revered position a mere joke. As them her line of research now or local and international publications that warrant such branding they will start foaming in the mouth. No wonder no one takes their professorship seriously. All they want to brag is: we have the highest number of professors in Nigeria. Imagine this woman sitting among Soyinka, Irueweka, Ashiegbu, and Ogbulogo as professors. Tueeh!

Yoruba would say, "Eni ti tie bati jona, yio ma wa eniyan kun'ra ni".

Oga, learn how to celebrate others, if you want to make head way in life.

That's federal university and not Ekiti university, if it's state uni, you would wail, now federal university you are weeping.
If she dnt go to school,you will complain, now promoted to prof, yet you are crying.

Only death that's satisfying human!

....but you can afford to invite OLOSHO from India and pay hoe ₦20M!

Still surprising how a young lady, would travel,and meet a total stranger far away from other state where she resides.

Even if the risky is for love and not to sell her body, people would have said, you did it out of innocent mind.

But to travel and fu-ck a total stranger that you cannot even imagine to let him see ur pant, if not because of money involved, continuing making me speechless

Wale and Cardozo, I pray they won't destroy their oga at the top.

When you surrounded ur people too many around urself at corridor of power, till you would fall yakata, they might not tell you Tru position of things in the society.

Oga Jonathan & Oga Buhari can testify to my submission.

People blame VAR instead of people in charge of var,the way they blame marriage instead of they themselves that messing around .

To me, the advantages of VAR far far outweigh disadvantages.

They should continuing correcting the officials in Manning the technology rather throw away babies with water.

I doubt if Onanuga realized that, though he is at corridor of power, he doesn't know what's going on at Villa.

I won't surprise if they latter come out and disclaim Onanuga .

omoredia:
i disagree cos only a fooI thinks he can carry everybody along as a leader. u cant carry goats along with lions. u cannot carry sinners along with saints. you cant work for two masters or have two conflicting values

Your disagreement doesn't make u re right or that you re not a fool.

Anyway, that's my opinion. Meanwhile, if you have opportunity to lead group of people before, even if they are just 20 people,you will understand me better.

In bible, Jesus as a leader, had both the saint and sinners as followers

.also, when he asked about paying tax, he used wisdom

Among the parisee and Sadducees,wen they were planning to catch Jesus, they planned it discreetly with great wisdom"

Again, Herod & Pilate, were pushing Jesus here and thr, by tactically (wisdom) dodging his blood not to be on their neck.

But if you insist on ur opinion, it show how foolishly you are, becos this world it full of sinners and bad people, where you want to see army of saints to lead isn't yet clear to me.

omoredia:
very nice man that was used by very evil people. you innocence cannot save u. only wisdom can save you!

Indeed one needs "wisdom" to lead variety" of people. Atimes, "total" honesty, justice or stubbornness might lead to downfall of a leader.

ValCon888:
In 10 years time when she's looking for a husband she'll want a God-fearing man.

She's entitled to her actions but should not complain when it's time to face the repercussions.

What surprises me is that these girls have no qualms discussing their immoralities online. There's an absence of shame amongst the ladies of today.

Keep on WAILING on immorality, while she is SMILING to the BANK.


10 years to come, while you would be lamenting about millions on you have wasted on DATA to watch her VIDEOS and other so called nonsense videoS, she would be pointing to MANSION she has built in BANANA ISLAND. By then,your song would change to "she is into CLITOCRACY".

NB. If everyone stops watching and commenting on immoral & nonsense videos, they would die a natural cause.

zombieHUNTER:
We're saying the same thing

Most of these are yahoo plus guys

They use girls, and they always get the greedy ones easily, using money and material things to entice them

Girls can never learn




One is already entering a benz as I'm typing this morning

Try to be removing any form of gender or tribal bias when given opinion, if you want readers to take you serious.

Just because some ladies are selling their body, not enough for you to vilify entire gender, ditto yahoo boys against male gender .

That gender can never listen, is hate speech

pocohantas:
It is not destroying his home. Nobody should be made to ENDURE a cheating partner. He should divorce her and marry another wife.

Would you think I was being witty if the poster were female? I bet you wouldn't. ✌️

Which wife would be having screenshot from her concubines on her phone at all time? Not even when the concubine is husband's friend.

zombieHUNTER:


She went to answer a 1m call

That gender can never learn

Another one is dressing up to meet a stranger as I type..

The post about 💯 yahoo boys that just posted on front page, hope you would remember to write ur usual song.......THIS GENDER CAN NEVER HEAR.

zombieHUNTER:


She went to answer a 1m call

That gender can never learn

Another one is dressing up to meet a stranger as I type..

Hope you also know ur gender also kidnapping people that coming back from his/her place of work.

You should come to my area and see how ur gender snatching okada as early as 7:30 pm.(maybe you will also blame female gender for that)

I pray you won't have heart ATTACK on someone gender.

Every one should know,naija is too tough now, if u re not 101% very sure of the integrity of persons or places you want to visit, pls to go near them/thr.

Even in my area,the way they snatching motorcycle these days is worrisome and frightening.

SavageResponse:
I don't even know why she's bothering to explain, she does not owe anyone any explanation!

You think she owes nobody any explanation? Time will tell.

But if she thinks so, she won't be going to one place to another to release press statements oo.

Maybe, the kid may decide to leave all her life in abroad sha. At least, it would guarantee less bullying.