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oneman2k7:
When u released you will realised immediately that the money the olosho call for u is too much. Sex is overrated.

Exactly the reason why I no fit count ordinary 10k give any hookup babe..
Even 1k sef go pain me, not because of the money o, but for the fact that sex itself is overrated, it's not worth all the endless chase and expenses..

Learn self control guys, if we have many men with self control, these stupid girls no go dey misbehave anyhow..

Burob:
His name no dey the register of members, which party are you talking about?

Which one comes first, the law, or the action?

I.e. your name no dey articles of association, you claim say you be director of company?

You be authentic ode!!

The said register tendered was dated April, 2022.
Obi joined LP in May 2022, and just like the Court of Appeal decided in favour of Obi, in a matter by a LP faction against Obi, this very well will be discarded by the court.
Besides, it's an Intra-party affair and the APC are just busy bodies, the court won't hesitate to fling the nonsense away..

Sokoto Mozlems fit begin kill innocent Christians for this story in far away Sweden oo!

We saw it happen when someone drew a cartoon of Muhammed in France few years ago..

Abeg oo

Freshtruth:
This is my biggest fear my 14k no go lost like that man I must do everything to knack this gal this weekend I can't just loss at all

As a Lawyer, this is my free advice to you:

Do "everything" you can, but NEVER rape her!.

Putting drug in her drink so you can have your way amounts to RAPE.
Don't do what you will end up regretting in jail oo, because on how you enter jail upon conviction, one nigga wey no even spend one dime on her fit only use scopes take shift her womb...

Women are women, there is definitely a weak spot that you haven't explored yet, look for it, do it and watch her beg you to knack her..

Vinnie2000:
Mango wen too sweet dey Purge Belle.😒

U Better be kiaful. 😏

I will..

Oluwa is highly involved

goldman777:
every Yoruba person knows females don't bear kunle in Yoruba land except she is from Cameroon in atiku,s town

What about "Bola", Yoruba females don't bear Bola abii??

Stories like this make me cherish my gf the more...
She no even dey act like say i dey work collect salary. Despite being a student, she has never asked me for money, I send her money without her asking and she appreciates even the tiniest thing I gift her, she is a fashion designer and a student at the same time, she also buys me gifts according to her strength..
She made me smile two days ago by sending me 500 naira airtime, even begging me to manage it
That singular act made my day and God knows there will be no limit to what I will do for her in this life, when I finally blow wella...

In addition to the above, she is still a virgin and both intellectually and spiritually sound, to crown it all, na black beauty, I actually prefer her natural looks so she doesn't even wear makeups

The relationship is well known by our both families, I visit her home and her parents know me...
Please put us in your prayers, our marriage will happen soon by the grace of God..

Munamu:
Why does the man want your sister's support ,when he has not been truthful to her?

Okay I get now.

He knew what he was doing from the beginning and had it all planned out.
He knew she wouldn't have agreed if he had come out clean from the beginning, reason why he ensured she already gave birth for him (which I even told her was her own mistake).

isabi2lof:
I don't believe your sister was tricked , some of them knew the kind of men they're getting married to , they just want to get married by all means to avoid being single at 30+ ,this will keep on happening as long as the society has placed an age limit to marriage .

I do ask if I'm in a relationship whether the person has been married before or has a baby mama , we've a lot of baby mamas outside, and there's a possibility, that the person you're dating is either a baby mama or baby daddy .

The guy would've open up to your sister , I've seen this happening to someone not quite long, at the end we found out that she was the one that intentionally got pregnant for the guy cos the guy has already opened up to her before that he has two kids from his baby mama , this is someone that is less than 24yrs ,all of them just want to rush and get married before 30+.

Inasmuch as I agree with you, my sister's case isn't actually the same..
She wasn't actually talking about marriage with him until the pregnancy happened, he himself begged her to keep the child, that he was going to marry her. He immediately started backing his marriage proposal to her with positive steps. Together they've visited most of my auties and uncles, and she's been communicating with some of his relations and already planned on going to his village in Akwa Ibom shortly before the payment of bride price, the traditional marriage itself was supposed to happen last year while she was still pregnant, but she told him to allow her give birth and nurse the child for some months first (he was visiting her in Enugu from Abuja during weekends, to show you how serious he was).
She only got to know about this whole twist earlier this week, and it was even due to her personal attempts in trying to study him.

Thanks for your contribution

Onbami:
Option 2

Okay.
Thank you for your contribution

Mcslize:
Flows001 there is no issue here. Your sister should take the children as hers. With that, there will be no issue.

You see a man that is supporting you. You said you want to be a single mother because the man already has children. That will be the most foolish thing your sister will ever do and she will regret it. Because she will be regarded as a single mother even if she decides to be with another man today, won't she take along her child? So what's the sense in it?

She better go on with the marriage and save herself the stigma of being a single mother. I see no sense in all of that if she follows the first option. Na she lose.

Alright, thank you very much..

Munamu:
He that comes to equity, must come with clean hands

I dont think this equity maxim applies here..

Thanks for your contribution

Bribri:
I really like the way you standing up for your sister. That been said, been a single mother can be quite tough. I suggest she pend it and observe further. A marriage shouldn't start on this note.

Alright.

I really appreciate your contribution 🙏

Beverlyjean:
Look at this failure that calls himself a human being... u that u can't feed 2 times a day ... I know hunger has fried ur brains out... u think he's ur fraud that now depends on penalties to score in important games , just like an old man needs drugs to keep living ... Argentine FA have been busy sourcing for cheap countries for the fraud to stat pad ...below are the last 8 friendlies they played that are marked red...while the ones marked blue are the ones they dubiously awarded them penalties to win games at the World Cup... we know fifa has been pushing Messi agenda like usa is pushing LGBTA agenda

Even Penaldo know say e no near Messi level.
Only his fanboys think otherwise 🤡

forerunner022:
Truth is, if your sister continues with that guy on that faulty foundation that is cemented with the lies and deceit, she should expect to see more of such shockers from the guy, because it is obvious the guy is dishonest and cannot be trusted. And yet, if she walks away as a single mom , it will have telling consequences for her in the future except the Lord sees her through. In all, and whatever the option, it is like chosing between the devil and the deep blue sea. The choice is left to her.

Hmm

Thanks for your contribution

President2001:
There's nothing to panic for the first marriage did not hold is now depends how your sater handle the issue though the trust she has in her husband has been betrayed notwithstanding she can still put herself together

Alright.

Thank you very much

MechanicMike:
Then she needs to keep the baby sir...truss me!!

Please throw more light on your reason, it can be helpful

frozen70:
I think the most important thing is, is this guy responsible, will he be there for your sister or he will abandon her same time ay he did with his first wife

She needs to do a discreet investigation about the man and his wife to be sure both of them are not doing stupid hide and seek game that will finish your sisters heart

Secondly he has to explain to her in details what lead to their separation and are the going for a divorce or they are separating to come back again in future

All this can be done while the bride price date is on going

If she is sure that the man has ended his relationship with her and they don't have hope of coming back again, she has to embrace the children and accept them

But she has to be sure that he will be there to train the children and sponsor their education

Not that he will leave them for her and start another relationship behind your sister

Her discreet investigation can be done behind the man so that she will get full details about him

So that when the man starts telling lies, she will know how to track him

Alright.
I appreciate your contribution

Raymeg7:
Yes he made a mistake best known to him the reason, but u said his nice guy, why would she leave because his married before, she has known so forge ahead with the marriage, or dose she wants to be second hand woman to another man, that is not a good reason to leave the man,

I beg tell her to continue with her marriage plans, he made be the type that don't like to discuss his past, not that he wants to keep it, just that maybe he don't want to remember such marriage again, please let her accept those kids as her own, she won't regret it

Alright

Thank you very much 🙏

gloryhomemaker:
A complicated situation, she should take out time to think and come up with what she really wants.

She might regret other people advise later if it's not favourable and hold resentment against them.

True.

Thank you very much 🙏

okerekingsley90:

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MechanicMike:
my nigggggga . this is commmon sence. she stays.... is she lightskin?(no oofeince)

Yes she is lightskinned.

Why did you ask though? 🤔

TsbAfrica:
Men this one is tough o... Becasue the secret for this long is a very red flag, who knows what else is hiding in his past ... But then again if the children from previous marriage is the only cause for concern then she should stay with him... To give that child a stable foundation ... Men it's a tough one... I am only seeing it from my perspective which Is very inadequate giving that I have no risks involved.

Alright.

Thank you very much🙏🙏

Zonefree:
No one is forcing her to accept anything. Stop using the word "force" here.

I guess you wouldn't want your daughter's first offspring to grow up without the love and presence of a father, every young lady desires to start a fresh family with a young husband, without having to worry about sharing her husband's affection with children from another woman.
It would have been very easy for her to end everything and go away if she never had a child at all.
Thank you for your time.

Savedday2:
The truth is, ur sister already saw the signs B4 she got pregnant for him but her greed for money won't allow her think.

It is only in 9ja you can Bleep 1st daughter, 2nd daughter, 3rd daughter and their mother together all you need to do is show them money.

The funny part is that, when they all get pregnant for the same man, they will be seeking for advice from NL

No she didn't see any sign before then, she was already an entrepreneur who was staying on her own, fending for herself and school, she even helped me with finances in my final year in the University, so she wasn't lured because of money, he merely toasted her like every other guy and he looks quite young.
She even took extra step to go stay at his house for two weeks in Abuja, just to know more about him, and he introduced her to basically all his colleagues and friends, none of them showed any negativity.

She was just an innocent victim which at this point is quite unfortunate.

olamydey:
No need to rush anything at this moment. She should cancel the traditional wedding immediately till she gets a clear direction. He cannot be trusted. Its so unfortunate that she was dragged into this in her ignorance. Turn to God for help and wisdom because It's going to be a long ride.

Alright.

Thank you very much for your time🙏

Zonefree:

How is accomodating your husband's kids traumatising?

Men do marry single mom with kids, accommodate and train them without using the word "traumatising".


If your beloved sister should take the first option which is, "Leave him and become a single mother at her flower age"...when she finds love again and wants to marry, don't you think it would be traumatising for the potential husband to accommodate her child?

Make una dey use una senses for this country!

I didn't mean training the children will be traumatising for her, of course he will be responsible for their upkeep.
I meant that the shock of having to be forced to accept what she didn't plan to live with will actually be traumatising for her.
Of course I will personally advice to treat them nicely, because the man himself has been really nice and responsible to her all along.

Moderators please push this to front page.

My first post on nairaland, so please pardon any error.

Good morning everyone, so let me just go straight to the point.

My elder sister has been dating this guy for more than a year now, she became pregnant months into the relationship and he begged her to keep the child, that he was going to marry her.
So she did and about two months ago, she gave birth to a boy.
Just like he said, he started making moves to marry her, she took him to see my uncle (because our dad is late), alongside with one of his brothers, they also went to see some of my aunties; as well as my Mum. So basically everyone knows them together in our extended family, as well as the street where my sister stays (she resides in Enugu State), because he usually goes to spend time with her and I must admit that he has been really nice to her and made sure she has been comfortable and never lacked anything.
Along the line, my sister started suspecting that this her husband to be has been avoiding picking up strange numbers calling him, she asked him but he told her not to worry.
Fast forward to earlier this week, she stumbled upon a text he received from one unsaved number, the text was begging him to allow the sender to atleast come visit him, apparently; this same guy was already married before and already had two grown children before he left the marriage for reasons which she didn't tell me, so his children have been making efforts to reach their father as their mother went to dump them with his brothers and went her way..

When my sister confronted him, he had to open up to her and apologised, stating that he wanted to start another life and couldn't tell her from the beginning because he didn't want to lose her..

Now my sister is in a dilemma, their traditional marriage was scheduled to hold by the end of this year and he has already started making efforts to officially pay her bride price.
Her two options are:
1. Leave him and become a single mother at this young age (she's a student of NOUN and does business which he supported her to expand).
2. Stay with him and accommodate the children from his former wife.

Please advice 🙏🙏🙏

Please how can I create a nairaland thread?

To my sweet Dad:

It's been 21years since you left us.
You left myself and my siblings when we were still very very young, we didn't really enjoy the privilege of having an Earthly father, it was sincerely hellish for us all, but God has indeed been faithful all the way; despite the challenges and struggles!.

God helped me all the way to eventually become the Lawyer I was always telling you about back then.

Happy father's Day!

Dad, continue to rest in peace with the Lord

triple996:
some people will not like this news .
They will be shouting that there are no Igbo Muslims in existence

This one you are masturbating over this news, are the Igbos no longer IPOB?

I'm not Igbo, but I noticed the hatred and double standard that most people have towards them..

I guess it's so because of their total rejection of Islam and the difficulty that Islam faces trying to penetrate the tribe (no wonder you Muslims tend to celebrate if you see one fake Igbo Muslim amongst like a thousand Igbos)

If Igbos had Muslims like the Yorubas (which can NEVER happen in this life), I bet you the hatred towards them (especially from the Muslims), wont be this bad....

FYI, Islam and Igbo are two opposites, no let this news give you fake orgasm.

Firstorderwizard:
You never jam runs girl wey upgrade to wife for house ?
I negotiated price for one night, this girl ended up spending a week. Though she's just a student that was newly introduced to the game.
I nearly loose guide if not for redpill

Omoh!!

Thank God for your life bro! 😁😁