₦airaland Forum

Ahmed0336:
Close to your children school should do. Your wife should be taking them to school with the car while you use public transport.

I think you're right. Staying closer to school will make things easier. My wife can always find it easier to help whenever I'm not disposed to do school run.

Thank you, dear.

Good morning nairalanders, I recently found a job in a firm at a very busy city (Onitsha precisely), and I'm planning to relocate with my family. The school I'd like to put my children is in another part of the city, Nkpor while my workplace is inside Enu Onitsha.

Please advice on the best choice I should make in choosing accommodation: should I find one close to my workplace or one close to my children's school?

There are some factors to consider:
1. The very busy traffic in the city
2. I'm mobile
3. I'll mostly do the school runs

Thanks guys.

Try this simple trick: go on a travel. If you find the chance on a holiday, travel to another place and stay for at least 2 weeks. The change in environment stimulates children's mental growth. My 2 kids each started to talk when my wife went on holidays to her parents' place from Anambra to Ogun State. We noticed that with our 1st child, and then confirmed it with our 2nd, on separate occasions.

Danger lurks as the pedestrian bridge at MCC Onitsha, Anambra State appears to have shifted from its axis. It seems to be on the verge of toppling over.

However, the entrance to the bridge has been cordoned off as pedestrians no longer take the bridge to cross the highway.

Stop having sex with him. You know why you're irritated? It's the guilt, the feeling of disgust that comes with doing what you should not be doing: premarital sex...and he's the one encouraging you to do it. Your problem is only psychological, but it also shows that you still have some self worth left in you.


You don't need to tell him to go. Just tell him there will be no more sex. That'll do the job for you.

You're 23 and still have your whole life ahead of you. Control yourself, focus on your priorities and try to engage in responsible platonic relationships. You'll become prouder of yourself.

joetem:
I'm still waiting for DNA results, we had a bet here and huge money is involved

You bet money on someone's marriage, someone's home...and you're here waiting for the news of doom.

May God forgive all o' ya.

On the contrary, I have a different advice: if you leave her for the USA, your marriage is done and dusted.

Many are advising you to ditch her, do a DNA test, don't go to the USA with her, etc. But I'll only tell you one thing: love her even more.

You're already married to her and what more? You have a child. I've always advised couples whose marriages are on the brink to work it out for the sake of their children. Trouble-laden marriages often have a ripple effect on the children; they grow up to have less honor for the sanctity of marriage, and they in turn start having problems too, spreading it to their own children and it spreads down to the next generations. The outcome?

I don't usually delve into issues like this without hearing from the other party. You can never get the full behind-the-scene story from one person. However, from all you've written in your post, OP, I failed to see the efforts you made to find out why your wife suddenly became aggressive to you. I doubt it's merely about the birthday as most people are suggesting. Have you tried to sit her down and have a heart to heart talk with her? Have you tried to find out what it is that you do that makes her despise you? For all I know, you may have changed as well. You may no longer be the man she used to know. You may have stopped showering the love you used to shower her when you were still dating her.

I'm married for 6 years now with kids and I dated my wife for 5 years before we finally got married. I can tell you that marriage isn't a bed of roses. It takes two to tango. My wife on certain occasions have been angry or aggressive with me, but each time she did that, we talked and most times I looked inwards and understood that I was falling short in a way. And the only solution to that has always been to assure her of my love by giving her more attention, affection and care.

Nobody is perfect, and I'm not saying your wife is without a fault. But if you really want your marriage to work, you have to look inwards and ask yourself what you've been doing when you guys were crazily in love that you've stopped doing. You said you could work for 48 hrs straight without coming home; I'll be frank, no wife can cope with that. And then when you come home, what do you do? You start demanding for food? No, bro...what you do is to consider first how lonely she's been and the lack of attention, and try to make up for that. Play with her, tell her sweet things. In fact, once in a while, take her out for a treat, buy her some nice things on your way home after such long shifts. Show her that she may be lonely, but she's not alone. Make her understand that your absence/work is a necessity in order to give her a comfortable life, and assure her of a better future where you'd find a better source of income without having to absent from home.

The truth is that women would always crave attention and that feeling of being cared for, and believe me they could go anywhere to find it. It is how they're biologically wired, and we the men have to understand it to that extent. If you don't give your wife attention and care, she'd seek it elsewhere, including from an ex. Now, I'm not saying she's doing the right thing, but once a woman starts comparing you with her ex, it means you've started falling short and you need to up your game. It's usually hard to move on from a past relationship, esp one that didn't break up in bad terms, but with the right amount of care and love from a partner, one can get over it. If you dare leave her behind for the USA, you can kiss your marriage goodbye. It'd just give her the conclusive reason to go full time with her ex. In fact, going to the USA will give her the focus she needs to be with you. You guys will be far from the depression that comes with living in this country.

From your post, I observed that you're kind of saving your money for the 'bigger things' while she's the one providing the money for feeding. She may feel like you're using her. How about making an arrangement with her in such a way that there is a balance in the finances. You have to be the man now by providing more money than she does for expenses. At least, 65/35 would do. It's no longer back then in school when she used to give you money, and cater for you. You're now the head of your family, and if you're earning more than she does, you should provide more than she does.

As for the issue of insulting your mum, talk with her. Find out the reasons behind her disregard for your family. Forgive her and give her more chance. With love, all things are possible.

Please, and please, don't ever entertain the notion of doing a DNA test. Whether positive or negative, it'd do you no good. I'd bet with my last dime that that child is yours. Your wife doesn't seem to me like that kind of woman people are suggesting she is. Your post also shows that you believe in her faithfulness and fidelity. She's just probably frustrated with many things she's not getting from the marriage.

My advice is already taking up a page. But I'd stop here. I'd just ask you to:

1. Look inwards into yourself and find out what you've started doing or stopped doing that has made her change.

2. If you still really want your marriage to work, then work on it, at least for the sake of your little child.

3. Show more love, play with your wife, try to do those things you know got her attracted to you. Always forgive readily.

I wish you a happy married life, bro. May God bless your home.

The police have no right to search your laptop or phone, except with a Court order or on instructions from the IGP or CP.

Know your rights.

TaiKuun:
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Thank you

Two things I got from his statements:

1. The APC are desperate for Atiku not to exercise his right to contest the election in court; seems they are seeing overwhelming evidence of massive fraud perpetrated in favor of APC. They're afraid.

2. Amechi is asking the PDP to join hands with them them in the next 4yrs to make INEC conduct free and fair election...so he's indirectly admitting that this year's election was not free and fair.

ITbomb:
When Army stop you to check your trafficator light, you come tell them say no be their work, say you be lawyer

Nothing wrong with checking, bro...everything wrong with charging or detaining me for that. Stop feeling intimidated, my people!

Yambee:
If to say them carry guns.

No be all this one, you for humble.

Na so you dey fear reach? You pee your pants at the sight of guns? Heiya!

On my way from Benin to Anambra along Agbor-Asaba highway yesterday, I was flagged down by the FRSC. The official asked me for my driver's license, car documents, fire extinguisher and caution sign. I provided all of these in tact. Then the official checked my tyres and said to me "your tyres have expired!"

I replied him, "I don't believe expired tyres are part of the road traffic offences. I'm a lawyer and you cannot charge me for something that is not a written offence."

He looked at me with his eyes wide alert and said, "ehh! Is that so? Let's find out. You think you know more than I do? I'll show u that driving with expired tyres is among the 36 offences in the Offences list...and if it's there, just get ready to see."

I insisted, "as far as I know you can only charge me for driving with worn out tyres or driving without a spare tyre, so go ahead and prove it to me!"

He went ahead with my documents to his superior and was murmuring to him that "the guy say him be lawyer and him dey argue with me say..."

I didn't get the rest of the quiet talks, and meanwhile I've already scrolled up the FRSC Offences and Penalties Sheet from their website, ready for them. In less than 2 minutes, the superior approached me, just handed my documents to me and started walking away. I asked him what happened and he said "oga, you can go pls!"

I couldn't contain the laughter in my heart. The almighty and stubborn FRSC! I've left them dumbfounded. They've met their match today.

So, my dear people...its important to know some of your rights and laws, it needn't take a lawyer to do that. It could take a simple Googling to do that! I'll share the FRSC Offences website link here so you can know the offences and the amount for each of them. Don't be exploited by anyone!! Good day.

https://frsc.gov.ng/offences-penalties-2/

tesppidd:
February 2014, Mike Ozekhime reacts to the suspension of Sanusi by Jonathan.

Mike Ozekhome says Jonathan should have sacked Sanusi long ago.
Mike Ozekhome asserts that the CBN act which allows only two-thirds of the national assembly to remove the CBN governor only talks about removal not suspension.





See above what the bastarrd also said about Sanusi.

Pls share the link to to the purported statement by Mike Ozekhome

Nfora:
Below is Mike Ozekhome ,SAN. Argument Supporting the suspension of Justice Ayo Salami President of the court of Appeal by Jonathan over allegations of corruption without any evidence or case against him in any court. Pls read.5

*”According to Section 11 of the Interpretation Act, Cap 123, Vol. 8, LFN, 2004, the President can suspend indefinitely but not remove without senate. And the President just exercised this”*

This was the law that Mike Ozekhome ,SAN deployed in his argument supporting Jonathan but today he is calling for breakdown of law & order.

So what has Changed?

Pls share the link to the purported statement by Mike Ozekhome.

And where's the video kwanu??

This is a culture I've happened to observe more often amongst many families in Nigeria: the real children of the family will be going to "tushed", expensive school with the best standards of teaching. The little househelp or maid will be sent to a "low class" school, usually the cheapest and nearest to home.

So I was wondering if such is fair. Isn't it discriminatory? Why isn't the child househelp going to same school with the other kids? Why aren't they treated equal as the children of the family?

On the other hand, I'm also thinking: isnt the family even doing a "great" favor for the other child's family by bringing him/her out of hardship and at least sending them to some school? If the child were left in the village, he/she would probably waste there with no hope or bright future.

It's just an observation. Let's have our opinions on that.
Thanks.

shegzy0514:
so law self na course
g I fit bet my last card say na through connection u get that law

So, with relevance to the topic, your point is?

As far as Nigeria is concerned, Biochemistry will not fetch you any good job. Even with a first class or Masters or PhD, your best bet is a lecturing job. I advise you go for Medicine or Law, or any other professional course since you're willing to continue studying.

Talking from experience, I studied Microbiology and was jobless for 3yrs even with a good 2.1 grade. I had a lot of friends in similar situation. I then switched all the way to study Law, it's paying off and I'm very glad I did. You can never go wrong with a professional course.

musicwriter:
Most of the people mentioned in the bible didn't exist, they were metaphors used to explain complicated stories. Example; Job is simply to teach you long suffering. There was no anthropomorphic Job who talked to God and Satan.

Abraham means ABRA (father) plus HAM (black), which literally means black father. But the real meaning is BEGINNING because black people were the first people to inhabit planet earth. There was no such person as Abraham. Abraham simply means beginning.

Solomon have a chance of being a real person because the defunct Ethiopian monarchy was traceable to him.

David very sketchy.

The bible is mostly a story, its not a history book. So, don't take it literally.

Even stories have important moral lessons to learn from them.

Jaynom:
SMH. These are the things a SCAMMER would tell you.
For MIND CONTROL/MANIPULATION to be Perfect your OPPRESSOR (in this case pastors) must
1. Gain your TRUST
2. HUMBLE you using selected scriptures like "TOUCH NOT GOD'S ANNOINTED". That way you can't even question Him/Her.
3. Make sure you depend on him/her for SPIRITUAL REVELATION/KNOWLEDGE
If a "man of god" is able to plant the seeds of TRUST,
HUMILITY, LOYALTY & SPIRITUAL DEPENDENCE then he will .....
4. Get your SACRIFICE, your MONEY, YOUR SEEDS
5. Before you know it you're in TOO DEEP. You've become a slave. You're giving everything to your PAPA & not the poor/your neighbor/Family & Friends You can't leave because they've become your family. You can't leave because you'll be STIGMATIZED and LABELLED . So you Stay. And LOVE YOUR CHAINS & LOVE YOUR ABUSERS & DEFEND THEM . Congratulations! You been successfully BRAIN WASHED!!!

You seem to get it all wrong here, friend. I never mentioned "man of God or pastor" in my writeup. The virtues I mentioned here are inner spiritual habits that you should imbibe personally.
1. Trusting in God
2. Having a humble heart
3. Sacrificing by helping your fellow human

Please get it right, brother. Happy Sunday.

Heywhizzy:
All these without work is dead

The wealthiest in our society today, all made it through hardwork and diligence

Yes, of course. Hardwork comes first. But I'm talking more of inner spiritual virtues. Moreover, the list of good virtues that characterized the great men in the Bible is inexhaustible, hence the reason I used "among other things".

Jaynom:
And hard work

Yes, of course. That's why I said "among other things"

There were so many rich men in the Bible, but the following four(4) men I wrote about here tapped massively into the secrets of wealth and got the Almighty God himself personally visiting them and blessing them immensely.
Their simple secrets were, among other things, the virtues of Trust, Humility and Sacrifice. Read on, imbibe these virtues and see God lifting you among the greatest.

1.Abraham - Abraham trusted in God and he understood the power of sacrifice. He knew it was the secret to God's heart.
In Gen 12:1, he trusted God when he left his father's house to a place he didn't know.
In Gen 15:10, Abraham brought animals for sacrifice to God, and in verse 18 God promised him wealth.
In Gen 22:1-18, he trusted God's command to sacrifice his only son, Isaac and God renewed His vow to bless Abraham richly.

2.Solomon - Solomon recognized God when he became king and also understood the importance of sacrifices. So in 2 Chronicles 1:6, Solomon he went to God's place of worship and offered sacrifices of a thousand animals and that night God blessed him with wisdom and riches beyond any other king.

3.David - David was chosen by God not because of his outward appearance as seen in 1 Samuel 16:7, but because of his humility and good heart. David trusted God greatly and he portrayed that in his Psalms. Thus, God always protected him from his enemies and blessed him.

4.Job - Job was rich and he also feared God so greatly that in Job 1:1-5, he'd get up early in the morning to offer sacrifices for each of his children to purify them because he thought they may have sinned by insulting God unintentionally. Even when he lost everything and faced serious tribulations, he still trusted and refused to curse God. In Job 42:12, God not only blessed him more than before but he also lived to a very ripe old age to see his great grandchildren.

TRUST - Psalm 46:1-3 (NIV)
“God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. Therefore we will not fear, though the earth give way and the mountains fall into the heart of the sea, though its waters roar and foam and the mountains quake with their surging.”

HUMILITY - Proverbs 22:4
"The reward for humility and fear of the Lord is riches and honor and life."

SACRIFICE - Hebrews 13:16
"Do not forget to do good and to help one another, because these are the sacrifices that please God."

On my way to Abuja two days ago, I saw this advert written on the gutters. It was quite odd.

It read: "Are you HIV+, need a partner (Husband or wife)? Contact 0816...."

Buhari may not be responsible, but he is accountable to Nigerians for the continued killings.

Wait a minute! She was taken to the hospital after SOME WEEKS following a snake bite? How callous and negligent some parents can be!

OP, which location did this happen by the way?

autologic:
If you in Lagos ,free diagnosis for you in autologic garage ,call the number @ my signature.
Deadline 17/11/2017 5 pm..

Is there anyone in Anambra or Enugu? Cos that's where I reside.

OPUSDEI1:
@ OP, When did this problem start, was any work done on the vehicle just before that?
Take the vehicle to a technician who understands the use of a professional scanner for appropriate Diagnosis.

Actually, the timing belt had problems and was replaced. That was 2 weeks ago...and after that this one started.

I guess I'll go for diagnosis. Thanks.

mogreen22:
have them clean the throttle body. That should solve it

Hmmm...I should try this.