Sherryad:
Good day nairalanders please i need your advice of relocating but confused.
Am 25 old lady in a relationship of four years with my boyfriend we both stayed in Lagos, he proposed to me and Willing to marry me but I just ask him to post it till December, before he relocated to Abuja. And since when he relocated to Abuja he has been asking me to come over and start a new life there which am not ok with. Am scared of relocating leaving my job to go and be with him and at the end of it he will claim am a burden to his life. Am confused.

budaatum:

Op should be commended for the inspiration.
I would not have thought of them otherwise.

budaatum:
Would you be faithful if your partner were imprisoned for life?

Would you ask your partner to be faithful if you were imprisoned for life?

skukimania:


If he possesses all those attributes, I doubt his baby mum will leave him in the first place.

frozen70:


You hardly see a single dad so loving and caring and also wealthy

LilMissFavvy:
Well.....I would only chose him as the very last option after I have searched everywhere, then I can manage him.

MariaLavina:
I answered all.

MariaLavina:
Single dad or baby daddies are No no for me, Most of these single dads are irresponsible and unrepentant women haters except for those who lost their partners to death.

LilMissFavvy:
Who wants problems? I can't date or marry a single father. I would rather marry a not-so-rich- man, than marry a single dad.

Sugar97:
7 years
That's more like a divorce

dingbang:
What kind of weakness is this...

blujoi:
You also need to learn how to ignore and not dignify everyone with a response. It’s a necessary skill on this forum

Amatarasha:
Go back to school boy ,ur English sucks ....
Mr losing credence @ jati jati forum

MariaLavina:
Okay, let me be serious for once and comment on this.

You see Nairaland has a way of turning the most reasonable to the most stupid.A sensible one with no control over his or her mind will end up losing all sensibility and toll the foolish path and likes , shares and cheers are the guardian lights to this path. I laugh when guys and ladies lash at each other here sometimes I wonder to what end?. So after insulting yourselves what happens next? People are getting married every weekend, Families are formed, couples are going on vacation, someone is falling in love, yes some people are even writing their wills as this moments. So what's the point? Why wait emotions on arguments that don't matter?. The funniest part, when you refuse to follow the bandwagon you are called names, from dumb to shallow to childish to manipulator ( lol)

Honestly guys on this section need a lot of growing up to do.

luvyaself95:
as for me i think some things some people can't do in real life they do it on social media...
shikena...

cassbeat:
Ordinary question that needs simple answer akwaetitibabe and ubunja have started dragging land matter on top... Excuse moi François

ubunja:
there I go again?

Are you tracking my messages getting all triggered?

Amatarasha:
Just shut up,

Team #NairalandHasLostItsCredence ...
Y not move for a revolution to bring back those credence of 2005 to 2007 by creating that juicy threads ,No u are handicapped intellectually and dine with irresponsiblility____ A man complaining like my pregnant aunty ,that one na man
Create the thread first lets see whether devil from pit of hell will pull it down omo agbaya...
The problem is not the credence is losing ,but ur types in millions here who lack ideas to make innocent nigerians smile ,
Create a thread Mr credence lets see ,u think is like removing a 17yr old street hoe's panties!






O Damn !!! u are so fvcking jobless ...

ubunja:
Women are angry at truth.

blujoi:
From my observation, two factors. The popularity of Nairaland has attracted all sorts and then data has become cheaper. A lot of the guys are in real life,poor, timid, low esteem adolescents who have no exposure and find nairaland as the best outlet to live out their alter egos due to its anonymous nature.

TimiRume:
NL men have ruined this section. We use to have a lot of pretty fun, reasonable women here. I don't blame them, no one can function properly in a platform filled with toxic males. Let the gays have fun, the land is bare

donbachi:
Children everywhere...what do u expect..i think its high time they ask everyone to come with their birth certificates for verifications or for biometrics...inshot,make dem go court go bring age declaration...certificate fit be scam..lol

kestine:


Back den I was asking her out on the side and me self get babe... My babe cone catch me dey toast her come para sha... Nai this babe bring squad come my babe house ooo come tell her face to face say na she and my babe go dey Bleep me say if my babe wan die make she go die... Na so my babe take japa ooo... Me and she come start relationship fully... For more than 5 years before she see Muslim guy marry... But till now so we still dey Bleep wella... She like her husband ooo... But I dey give her trips way her husband no fit give her

MrBrownJay1:

I think that nobody goes into marriage with a negative mindset, unless they marry for the wrong reasons...money/pressure etc



Sadly, marriage goes hand in hand with divorce... and as much as nobody wishes/hopes for failure, it's counter productive and especially HIGHLY irresponsible to believe that there is no way out of marriage.



As much as some people are willing to change or overlook certain traits... others are not willing to compromise or change and there is nothing wrong with that (IMHO).many people pretend to be who they are not, in order to con people into marriage, and staying with such awful person...is a fallacy.



Do you really believe that a woman is automatically happier in a miserable union than divorced woman?! No wonder so many women are miserable and wrongly staying married to monsters.

You have such a failed outlook on divorced and single mother...it's sickening but also very very sad!!!! The only reason that these women are looked down upon is because of the deluded African society and the ego of African men.... that want tear rubber wifey while being highly used tokunbo themselves. And sadly, women like you believe in this ego driven failure.

Biglittlelois:




You don't go into marriage with the mindset that there is an option of divorce, that is expecting negativity instead of having a positive mindset all the way, marriage and divorce does not go hand in hand, that is a wrong thought to have, people should strive to make it work, no one is perfect,

To answer your questions;
- wrong reasons can be in different forms, it is only when you're married that you'll see some traits in your partner that will make you think you married the wrong person, talk it out for him/her to change or overlook it, this is where compromise comes in, some people aren't patient that's why they divorce....

- they aren't happier than when they were married, they try to show the world they are but in their closet they cry their heart out, and they don't get over it for a long time, imagine introducing yourself to a love interest that you're divorced or a single mother, there automatically will be a dark cloud of sadness cos the memory comes back with a rush, then you have explain the situation, there is no happiness in that whatsoever.

Fountainofyouth:



Yes no one has control over their body type but preference is allowed, any lady that tells you size does not matter, have not seen or tasted a sizeable one before.

sinaj:
Ive seen lots of women in the market with bigger ass.
There is nothing special about yours

Swerve please!

Argh! Im not jealous jarey

Women are endowed with ass where I come from. This endowment turn to deformity as they get older and find it difficult to walk or start having one issue or the other when they get older.

Nothing beats been moderate or even slim.

Btw I dont envy them, I only pity them coz my eyes have seen enough.