carter009:
Yes bro, I don't want to hurt her, but I know with time, she will understand and move on.

That's true though you know most ladies don't know how to handle rejection.

carter009:
It always happens, is something we can't change, even if we try to, there's this lady that's loves me so much but I don't love her, have told her how I feel, but she said we should give it a try, shes working, she's just okay, but I don't have any feelings for her.

What world we leave in! She's even suggesting a trial, she's mature and bold.

LillyVal:
FOR THE LADIES

During your 20's, men are trooping and everyone wants to marry you. They are all over you. Your WhatsApp doesn’t rest. Your messenger is filled up. If you breath on Facebook, you will get 400 likes and 350 comments.

You can’t walk on the street without ssshhh ssshhh. Your breasts are very comely at this time. Your lips are succulent and your legs are smooth. Even if you are ugly, it doesn’t show much at this level of your life because everything is still standing tall. The backside is still very nicely shaped and bouncing properly.

Now, the mistake most of the ladies make is this:

1. At this level, you easily dump guys in relationship. Any little thing, you break up. In your mind, there are many fishes in the ocean. Over 20 other guys are bothering you for relationship, so you can easily hook up with another guy. After six months, you break up again and start another one. You are like hot akara. You cannot bend down and build a solid relationship nor learn how to tolerate a man and work on your own self. At this age, feminism dey shack you well. You no send anybody. You no wan hear advice at all. For your mind, this kind post na rubbish.

2. At this level, some ladies want to show everything: the boobs are still standing, so she can snap to show it. The buttocks are nice, so she can display it anyhow. You sell the romantic skin like akara. Every guy in the neighborhood is coming to take his own share. Even married men are collecting their own. Everyone is collecting and walking away. For your mind, marriage no go hard.

3. At this point, you don’t lack anything. Men are giving you all you need. You’re not working but your airtime is never below 10k on the phone. Shoes and classic clothes are unaccountable in your wardrobe, yet you are not doing any job. Life is beautiful and that’s exactly how your life is depreciating with speed.

A time will finally come when your age has really increased very well. The boobs are needing pillar support and the buttocks are no longer comely anymore but rather ‘loosing’, the face has a lot of pimples and holes. Many things have gone wrong. The tummy is out by the day, your local government is beginning to have some kind of mature odour and the armpits are darker. The waist tires are forming with speed.

At this point, days turn to months and month turn to years. It will always look nearly, but something will just happen, the guy will disappear. You will start following another guy with hope for marriage, like play like play, that one go just chop you run away.

The fear and worry of menopause will even make you age faster. By this time, all the multiple guys you slept with both the ones from a cursed family and the ones from ancestral curses, when you were lifting your legs to the ceiling and twisting your body like snake in bed. All those things that make guys rush after you are gone like a movie. At this time, you become emergency Christian. All your posts are about Jesus and church things. Any comment you make, Jesus must enter. Even when football is being discussed you must find a way to add Jesus to it. For your mind, you dey deceive guys abi? You want them to see wife material in you. Suddenly you learn manners, all the multiple people you had relations with, the battle is now more spiritual than physical. All the curses married women were laying on you for sleeping with their husbands are now controlling your life. Not even Mary Kay can remove all that mess!

At 40, a guy is still young but a lady of 35 is more like a “Christian mother.”

What is my point? Make haste while the sun shines to avoid had I known. Don’t while away your time playing games with men. I am not saying a lady cannot marry at 35 neither am I saying one should rush into marriage neither am I mocking those who are above 30 and still single, I still am not saying only those who marry at 25 have the best marriages. I am only saying, don’t waste your time sleeping around when you should accept a man and settle down.

Imagine you are around 30-35 years, at this point, only men of older age like 40-45 will come to marry you because young guys of 30-35 won’t like to marry a lady of 30-35 but unfortunately, those guys of 40-45, most of them are married. They even married girls of 22-27. They will still look so young at 40 but a lady of 35 will look like their senior sister. Ladies age faster. That’s why a girl of 16 can be looking so mature, guys would be wooing her but a guy of 18 would still be looking like 13 years old boy. It also applies to old age.

This might not actually be applicable in all cases, not all single ladies at 30's were slay queens, but the message remains, “make hay while the sun shines".

Keep the good works up. Life is not a bed of roses neither is it a ground full of thorns. May God always open our eyes to see the right marital opportunities when they come around.

clive2u:
If u check my last thread you'll see I talked about this girl bringing love that I wasn't ready, I haven't asked her out but I thought I could grow some feelings after she came all on me so I decided to oblige and have sex with her, note I didn't force or asked for it but she initiated it.

The issue now is I'm regretting it and I don't have a single feeling for her, my problem now is I don't know what to do and I don't wanna hurt her.
Pls I need good advice her.



PS: she works close to my office so avoiding her won't be plausible


Thanks landers

But why do people that someone that loves them for granted and go for someone that doesn't love them as such?

Uchenduin:


Oga stop all these pretence .

Are you a saint?

Please we are all sinners.

You are not having sex don't make you righteous and don't guarantee you heaven.

Admit it.

Well then, should we keep on sinning so that God can show us more and more of his wonderful grace? Romans 6:1

What happens to keeping your bodies away from immortalities? The moral decadence of this our generation is so sardonic and heartbreaking. May God have mercy on us all

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Well that might be coming as a result of your experience with all the guys you ve met on here

Pegi23:
I have. Nairaland guys are so cheap.


Follow up on instagram @iam_pegi.

Cheap in what sense pls?

havilla:
yes she would respect you if she also loves you, but unfortunately most men don’t love the woman who loves them.

Probably the women are loving the wrong men?

Its a total lie that men don't love the women that loves them becos love should be mutual and not one sided. If you both love yourself equally, there will enough respest, communication and trust.

emkz:


I feel your submission bros. A person who would cheat would cheat even under the same roof. It takes a lot of discipline, self-will and commitment to be loyal. One of the persons I used in my example is a close friend and we have known each other for 18 years now. I no go lie, I envied her husband and if I was ready when she wanted to be married, I'd have fought to have her as a wife. I observed how men drooled over her because she was fine as hell, with a shape that would make women envious. Her intelligence was inspiring and she was (and still is) very hardworking. Her voice is sonorous. 6 years and three children after, she gets better by the day. I used to call her for advise and she always spoke with feminine intelligence.

Even though her man was in the US studying while she was in the UK before they got married, she said no to all the men that asked her. She didn't tell them she had a man. She felt her being unfaithful is not betraying her man but betraying herself.

If everyone can be thinking like this, relationships either close or long distance would always come out good

emkz:
A man worked offshore and stayed long periods of time without his wife. She stayed loyal.

I once had a girlfriend whose sister's husband had been away for four years. She was loyal.

A woman went to study for three years and stayed loyal to her man across the Atlantic.

Another woman came from Panama to do an internship in the UK, and she stayed loyal. How do I know?

A story was shared on instagram about a man who left his wife for 8 years to hustle abroad. She remained loyal. The man is now doing everything to compensate her for his long absence.

My point is that when people end up with the worng people, the relationship is bound to fail, distance or no distance.

In addition, circumstances can keep a couple apart, and if one or both of them decide to play away games, I think it should be peculiarized to them and not generalized to every instance of long-distance relationship. Like I said in another post, someone who has a tendency not to be loyal does not need the gulf of distance to manifest the traits embedded in his/her DNA. A person who has been disloyal before and got away with it would be disloyal again and assume he'd get away with it. Let us not use the foolishness of the senseless few to discourage people who are working hard to make their relationships succeed.

I believe you totally cos i have seen and heard about same scenario. A cheat will still cheat even if you stay under the same roof

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Not stretching the matter, just inferring from what you said. No bad intentions at all

Pattypatt:
People cheat because they can't afford to put all their eggs in one basket.

And at the end what happens, after all the eggs breaks off?

emelda86:
I don't know what people gain in cheating

If u have someone that's happy been around you why would u cheat anyway different strokes for different folks.

With this your reaponse, it means you can cheat if you have someone that is not happy being around you

Fineboybigboy:

Local man is confused

Kill the lecturer ASAP!

dairykidd:


Why look for trouble

Ain't looking for no trouble, i care to know that's i asked. Or is there crime in asking?

ABCthings:
it is find one or be removed from the human species


you don't have weak point are you God?

Choosing moniker is ya wp

Am not God, that's why i asked what can do about the situation

RiyaGoddess:
The Virtuous Woman (The book of proverb has said it all) Go for the virtuous woman guys.

As Iron Sharpens Iron, So one person sharpens another Proverbs 27:17.
Good afternoon FAM and Happy Sunday to you all.

Are you that virteous woman?

tidalstorm:
So you borrowed 5k from your girlfriend who has been supporting you to go and cheat on her with another mumu..........
Thunder that will fire you is still charging

I believe the story might not be true but if he actually collected that 5k from his girlfriend to go bleep another lady, then local man has finally destroyed himself with pu**y

My weak point is that i don't have a weak point. Hope, its not an issue? if it is,pls, what can i do?

PUSSYHOE:
Lol

Abi now, as you have the opportunity of meeting with them and you don't seem to appreciate them

PUSSYHOE:
Every good girl i know are just there, nothing wow about them, someone should explain.

Endowment like boobs and bulbs,right? I need a good girl with just little everything cos too much of everything is problem on it own and that have something she is currently doing, pls direct one to me

funlad:
NO!!
Why give up?
You should have continued! The source that told him that 1 and 2 were the ones will eventually narrow down the options but with you out of the game,the source has limited options! Go back,maybe the source will choose you!
You never thought it this way? Don't worry,thank me later!

yes, i've actually asked myself that question, if he wasnt giving her all the attentions ect ect, but what if i decided to continue tthne after sometime he now come back to me and tell me he doesnt want me again, then i would have wasted my time hoping he would chage, and before i ended it , i sat him down to ask him his feelings for the #3 lady, and begged him to be honest with me, guess what he told me, ? that he truly love the girl, just like he claimed to love me too

Na wa o, seems the guy knows how to play his card right, tweaking 3 ladies head. I think the guy got the D's . 3 gbosa for the guy!!!

Sunnyshinylight:
HOW A WOMAN EXPIRES

Age 15: Girl, who do you like to marry?
Ans: President, Pilot, Minister

Age 20: Girl, who do you like to marry?
Ans: Bank Manager, Lawyer, Doctor

Age 30: Girl, who do you like to marry?
Ans: Business man

Age 35: Girl, who do you like to marry?
Ans: Man that will take care of me.

Age 40: Girl, who do you like to marry?
Ans: Any man that come even if he don't have anything.

At this point, she has expired. All her dreams has failed.

Ladies! please, good marriage comes once. When you have the opportunity, act fast. Stop this idea of checking what a man has in his account or how many houses he has & riches before you marry.

Assess a man by what he can do & then you can see his future bright. Some men maybe poor now but in 5 years time they are millionaires. Pls, share, let the ladies hear and see it.

In as much as marriage is not the ultimate achievement in a woman's life but in this part of the world its one of the greatest achievement to the women. But i wouldn't agree to a lady just accepting any Dick and Harry into her life just in the name of i must get married at so so age which might not be viable due to some circumstances. You must know to some extent the in and out of the person you are planning to spend the rest of your life with just to avoid future heart breaks.




Thanks!

missimelda01:
Finally this world is funny sha.. if you're short, it's a problem.. if you're too tall na wahala

I heard very tall people don't have sense
I don't know how true that is

Lol at tall people don't have sense, those that do make such assumptions, from where do they draw their conclusion from.



And to the if you are short na wahala or tall na problem, that's just life for you but there are people out there that will always cherish who you are and the way you look physically. So, people should just stop all of those body shading they passed onto others cos you weren't their creator in the first place. Tall, short, fat, thing, dark, fair, all are beautifully and wonderfully made by God

Fountainofyouth:
There is nothing like any misconception about it, sticking to someone should be sticking with someone regardless of when the outcome changes, for a lady to stick to a guy when he had nothing doesn't mean she didn't have other options, she chose to stay because she believed in both of them not just the man same with a man sticking with his woman,

We have cases of people who have been together from a very tender age till adulthood, and at the end, they got married regardless of how rich or poor or stagnant things turned out to be, deep real LOVE supercedes money, appreciate a loved one who stayed despite all else, if you both didn't end up together, compensate him/her to show the person how important he/she was to you.

If truly this is coming from your innermost heart, the flesh is not the one telling you but the spirit. I don't know why people always find some other things to replace or find excuse for love

1. Dating requires time, money and a lot

2. I have a lot of things to put inplace before going into dating

3. I haven't find someone that gel with me

But believe will start dating soon when things are a little inplace by God's grace

aanuoluwami14:
I haven't found a serious man to date

A serious man or a ready made man? And BTW are you serious yourself ?

chenzen:
99.9% of female Nairalanders are in their late 20's, 30's and probably 40's

66% are single (looking for a rich, handsome guy that will save their lineage from poverty and bad looks)

10% have been engaged for 9 years (the fvckboy keeps posting them)

10% are hoeing around (as baby mamas)

3% are married (out of desperation & fear of reaching menopause)

10% are about to be used and dumped

.9% are my friends

You are not far from the truth though,may God save us all

It depends on the lady though and also depends on the kind of relationship you are in with the lady. Some would start acting funny while some would just discard you ASAP while some other ones would stand by you.