theinfong: "I dated her for 8 yrs, never had sex with her, took care of her, after her MSc, she dumped me" - Man shares story
Heard this and almost cried my eyes off. Each time I get to hear some ladies say, "men are scum", I seldom keep quiet because I have loads of stories and experiences which when shared will not only silence them but may change their mentality about the "men are scum phrase." So, a friend visited my house days back, whilst gisting, he shared a story about a bosom friend of his, who almost committed suicide over the girl he dated. We will use Mr. I as the boyfriend and Ms. I as the girlfriend. I will try as much as possible to cut the long story short.
According to him, Mr. I had been dating Ms. I since 2008, he was in the university then, 200 level to be precise, whilst she was about finishing secondary school. And like many young lovers, everything was good and going fine except the usual "childish mentality" from both parties of course.
Things kept blossoming, everything soft and nice. She got into the university, a private Nigerian university, fortunately for Mr. I, it wasn't one of those universities where phones weren't allowed, so they kept communicating and in fact, since the relationship gradually started maturing, their love kept shinning bright like a diamond.. So bright that other male chyker's couldn't approach Ms. I because almost everyone in campus knew she was "bae-gaged." Yes, she was that proud of her bae then.
Mr. I never missed the opportunity of leaving his university to visit her every weekend, notwithstanding the distance.. Oh, I forgot to tell you, he schooled in far away East, whilst she schooled in the West. And the journey from his university to hers took him 7-8 hours by road and of course, he always used road except extreme cases where he decided to use flight.
Not only did he risk his life plying bad roads every weekend just to see bae, he also made sure he got stuffs for her, food stuffs and sometimes money (He took it upon himself to bring provisions and money two weekends out of four, monthly). Indeed, bae was balling, no wonder she was so bae-gaged!
And whenever they were on break, back to their respective homes (fortunately they both lived in Lagos), he was with her almost every other day. In fact, both parents knew they were dating. Yes, and they both approved of it. Indeed, Mr. I was happy, he had the acceptance of bae's family members and of course, the heart of bae (So he thought).
A couple of times, when bae resumed a new semester and Mr. I was still home, boss-man will take it upon himself to fuel his car and drive his woman to her uni, not only that, sometimes took provisions to bae's siblings' schools too. Mr. I was in love, so he just wanted to make her family members love him more.. Every guy who has truly loved, will know this feeling..
"Mans" was usually broke in school because of bae, you know, bae schooled in a private university and lifestyle was more expensive there. Of course, to please bae and make her family know he was man enough, Mr. I usually soaked garri in his hostel whilst he sent the food stuffs given to him by his parents to his girl.. Love nwantiti right?
Fast forward to his graduation, he got a job which wasn't well-paying like that, but always made sure 50% of his salary went to bae's account. Yes a whole 50%.. (It was at this point I literally started tearing up. A tear dropped from my eye and I am certain my friend saw this. If only he knew that I was tearing up because I couldn't really fathom how mans was so in love that he forgot there is a difference between a girlfriend and a wife). Worst still is, he hadn't even engaged her yet! Oh my gosh!!!!
Well, love was still there (so he thought). All through the years of dating, spending, killing himself to please she and her family, he never for once had any sexual relation with her. Never for once, because she claimed to be a virgin. The best he ever got was a kiss.. A kiss bruh!
Have always sound it as a warming to Young guys of such "never live any girl you are dating unfucked, cus they will use it against you in due time" and if you can't meet up wid the expectations that are involved in relationship ESP. dating, just cut your coat...you know the rest......
oh yes! she will definitely discuss you wid her girlfriends, that you can't even act as a man for once & with that they will turn you to a subject of mockery.
You mean Virgins? wow! he could have just hit the hole. (seeing is believing)
What was he thinking? After the latter might have seen or mingled wid high class men, and he thinks she will still wait for him after her academics? (dreams).
She would love to mingle wid people of her class. Unless the bond is still strong between the both parties.
And for those guys who train girls in school hoping to marry them someday, hope you learn form this.
Annie939...sweerie, you had just revealed the truth here. Heart ya for that piece of word.
Annie939: u refuse to do your work as a man .she had no choice than to follow the main man who has been banging her all this years
That's amazing...isn't it. Thought the both are married long ago and had even raised children in their various families. Wishing them a Happy married life.
Since 9/11, we have observed that certain groups have tried to capitalize on that tragedy by attacking Islam from all sides. Unfortunately, even some Christian TV channels have joined in this Islam-bashing and are trying to tarnish the image of Islam and the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him and his progeny). One of the most common themes in their attack against Islam is on the Prophet Muhammad’s many wives. We wish first to discuss the concept of polygamy in Islam followed by the marriages of the Prophet. Marriage Marriage in Islam is a sign of God’s power and glory. The Qur’ãn says: “From His signs is that He has created for you spouses from yourselves so that you may get peace [and tranquility] through them; and He placed between you love and mercy. In these are signs for the people who reflect.” (Surah ar-Room, 30:21) Monogamy & Polygyny Generally speaking, there are two types of marriages in Islam: • Monogamy: one man married to one woman; • Limited polygyny (a kind of polygamy): one man married to two, three or at the most four wives. In Islam, the ideal marriage is the monogamous form of marriage. Limited polygyny is a provision approved by Islam for exceptional circumstances only; and that also with many stringent conditions. Vast majority of Muslim men are monogamous in their marriage relationships; those who have more than one wife are very few, probably less than zero point one percent of the Muslim world. Polygamy in History Islam did not invent the system of polygamy. It existed long before Islam came into the scene of world events. The Bible says that Lamech, the grandson of Adam, “took unto him two wives: the name of the one was Adah, and the name of the other Zillah.” So polygamy has existed from the earliest days of human history. Many holy personalities of the Bible had many wives or concubines at the same time. Abraham had Sarah and Hajar. Abraham was first blessed with a son through Hajar whom he named Ishmael, and then he was blessed with another son through Sarah whom he named Isaac. Look at the example of Jacob ; he had four wives and concubines: Leah and Rachel (both were Jacob’s cousins), and he also had Bilhah and Zilpah (both were slave-girls gifted to Jacob by his wives). It is from these four ladies that Jacob had twelve sons who became ancestors of the Twelve Tribes of Israel. David , known in Arabic as Prophet Dawūd, had at least eight wives whose names are known, he had many others whose names have not been recorded. The Second Book of Samuel (in the Bible) talks about “the wives” of David in Hebron and also in Jerusalem. Lamech, the grandson of Adam, had two wives. Abraham had two wives: Sarah & Hajar. Jacob had two wives & two concubines: The Twelve of Tribes of Israel are from these four ladies. David had many wives.
Thegeneralqueen: I'm the queen it doesn't matter where and how like I said..... "general" if I post something or say something here you don't have the right to speak otherwise.....
Young lady, Who do you think you are? Well, We can't induce laquaciousity within the morphological element of some people . . . .just for the mere onus propandi of their existence. Queen or general, save your breath. Don't quote me again.
Igboblog: This young and beautiful lady visited her village and was able to caught a confirmed bush meat. Below is what she shared on her Facebook account..
Caught this bush meat (Ewi) this morning. � I cannot come and be forming "slay queen " in my own village☺☺ Make i use am arrange sweet pepper soup abeg,I cannot come and kill myself ��
#Villagefunandadventures #That igbo girl #Ada-isuochi
What do you think fans? Can you eat such meat? Drop your comments and share widely
They are very talented when it comes to acting. Since they started acting from childhood wonder what will happen when they might have grown. Have been following them up in all their series and it's true that they are yet to mix up wid other actors and actresses in industry. But it doesn't matter for now cause Rome wasn't built in a day. There are sisters from same parents. They have featured in "my kids & I" "Home alone" "This life" (very interesting) "Home teacher" (of which one of them featured) and many more.
I haven't watched Nollywood films for about 3 years now. That's why I don't know most of these new upcoming actresses. I only hear about some of them here on Nairaland.
Few weeks back, I saw this movie, "My Kids And I" featuring Bolanle Ninalowo (My 1st time of watching his movie) and these 3 child actors, Chisom Oguike, Chidinma Oguike & Chinenye Oguike. I guess they are sisters since they bear same surname.
A successfull marriage is based on give and take where husband gives money and gifts & wife takes it and wife gives tensions and lectures and husband takes it
Her quote: "welcome to the world my prince charming"
Mr poster, seems you don't like been a human but prefer been meat (animal)....not just ordinary meat but Bush meat. The high time you change your nick...the better for you here on nairaland. Everyone's attention had been captured by your so called name.
People can be funny sometimes...... Wow
Anuofia (Bush meat) - for the non - Igbos.
Those guys up there gat no joy at all. ...... giggles
Am Still Wondering why Nigerian celebrities are adamant when it comes to some issues facing the country. In the Western world their celebrities can protest against some of their government without fear or favor ESP. when it comes to issues or matters that affect the masses. Tuface or 2baba, you disappointed some of us in the previous scheduled protest....we can't allow you to mislead us this time. How much did they pay you and what's the gravity of threats you gat that made you to call off the previous protest. Even when other celebrities and supporters said that they are solidly behind you. what did you do after all? you decided to cancel the protest. If you know what is good for you, save your breath and entertain us.
Menh....money is good to spend it. While some people are saying there is no money, some are busy looking for what to spend it on. Make money today and feel the the sweetness of life.