Marriage is a beautiful thing, and in this clime, it's one of the biggest steps a person must take. It's the norm; get married, have kids and enjoy the fruits of your labour. Great philosophy I must say. I love it too. But what of some "different" folks that have different ideas (like some who don't want to marry at all, or some who want to marry but have no kids at all) as far as marriage et al is concerned. Anyways, I'm no authority in this field, so these wonderful and insightful words you are about to read aren't mine. They are Dr. Akin Akinbajo's : Convener of R n B (not rhythm and blues o) Ruth and Boaz - a singles and married monthly program that gives insight on relationship, love and all concerned with it. The sharp Ijebu boy doesn't like to miss stuffs like this, I've been a fan for many months now. Below are excerpts from the August edition of the Singles and Married meeting:


MYTH #1: MARRIAGE IS THE FINAL SOLUTION TO LONELINESS


Many believe once they get married, they won't ever be lonely again. Not at all. Being single doesn't make you lonely. And being single should actually make you unique, separate and whole. If you are lonely as a single, then you will still remain lonely in marriage. Singles that are lost in God don't have to worry about loneliness.


MYTH #2: SUCCESS IS LIMITED WITHOUT MARRIAGE


He who finds a wife has found a good thing and obtained FAVOUR from the Lord. But the favour in context isn't what people think it is. It just means God approves of your decision to marry. Not that there is a special package for you as a result of your successful finding of a wife. Are there not singles that are and were successful? So, your success isn't dependent on marriage. Even though your partner can add to it eventually, but success isn't limited without marriage.


MYTH #3: MARRIAGE ENDS SEXUAL IMMORALITY


It's wrongly believed too that once one gets married, sexual immorality will automatically end, given that you now have someone. But why do we have wives sleeping with drivers, workers, ogas et al, and husbands sleeping with housemaids? With marriage, your sexual vigour and drive increases, and if you couldn't/can't control it while still single, it wouldn't be easy as a married person.


MYTH #4: MARRIAGE GIVES COMPLETENESS


Erroneously, everybody feels you are incomplete until you marry. Quick to refer to Adam's missing ribs to backup the age-long myth. But a partner only complements you, not completes you. You are complete with or without marriage.


MYTH #5: THINGS AUTOMATICALLY SORT THEMSELVES OUT IN MARRIAGE


During courtship, issues like location after marriage, place of worship, in-laws' visit, number of children et al will always arise for debate. Most times when no compromise is reached, a party is quick to discard further debates in belief that everything will automatically sort itself out after marriage. It's a myth, as this never turns out to be so. All cards on table before marriage must be duly sorted out before you say "I do". Auto-sort isn't in marriage.


MYTH #6: "THERE IS A MR/MISS RIGHT"


This notion of a "Mr./Miss Right" is also dominant amongst many singles. Before you get a Mr right, are you right yourself? Make yourself right first, and you wouldn't have to worry of a Mr Right.


MYTH #7: MARRIAGE CHANGES


We have that lady that keeps saying she knows her fiance will change once marriage sets in. Marriage doesn't change people; who you are before and after marriage remains constant.



Hope you learnt a thing or two or three? Perhaps you are opportuned to be in the city of Ijebu-Ode on the last Thursday of any month, join the R and B train at C.A.C Goodworks Assembly, Obafemi Awolowo Way, Beside black and white gate Ikangba...

source: http://sharpijebuboy.com/7-myths-about-marriage/

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president anti-NYSC campaign
I get it I get it!.. Nice Cons outlined... should I do a rebuttal?
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me wey no go go till next year February nko?
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At such times when jobs aren't easy to come by in this part of the world, people will do all they can to keep their jobs once it has been secured. Do/Can you blame them? Despite the shouts of embracing self-employment and entrepreneurship, a majority are still dead-scared of the uncertainty and risk that lies with such. Get a good grade and degree, go for your Masters, and secure a job in Shell. Stay put for 25 years, retire and start getting your pension. Very easy! Innit? But some people will always break such status quo no matter what. And such is Olamide Adedeji aka baddo. You might not like his music or his personality, but you should not hate his success story because it's far from uninspiring.

Before the young man became a household name, he was once a backup artiste for another rapper, Seriki. He could have just stayed back to become a Yes-man up till date. But he didn't. He went ahead to groom his skills and talents, securing a deal with I.D Cabasa's coded tunes in the process. Not satisfied with that, few years later, he went ahead to set up his record label company. And now he has other acts under him. He is easily the most consistent and hardworking artiste and should also make the list of top 5 most successful artistes in the Nigerian music industry. For real, this crazy guy should be a case study in Nigerian universities. We aren't looking at his music; we are looking at his story. And here are lessons we can all learn:


NEVER SETTLE FOR LESS


A lot of his peers chose to just follow the popular artistes around and do backup forever. At least, you get paid and enjoy some attention too. He didn't. Never ever settle for less. Don't just sit put with your boss and keep waiting till you get promoted all the time. Think and act on being on your own. Take the risk, it wouldn't be an easy walk, but you are most likely to succeed.


DREAM BIG! AS IN, VERY BIG


Coded tunes at that time had 9ice, Lord of Ajasa, Reminisce, Jah Bless and a host of others. Cabasa was one of the biggest and known producers too. Getting signed to such label would have been the biggest dreams ever for the typical upcoming artiste. But that was only a starting point for Ola baby. Dude only dropped an album, hit limelight and then took the decision to set up his own movement. He now wishes the same for his own signees. Who knows what other big dreams that boy have got?


BE THE BEST


Maybe he is not my favorite rapper, but he is easily one of the best around. Put aside his style or lyrics. You can't count 5 others that have such excellence in the music industry. Do you know what it takes to be the best? Dude says he has nothing else but music. His passion and drive ...gosh!!! If only you can discover your talents, harness a skill, learn a trade and then become very passionate about it. If only.


COMBINE SMARTWORK AND HARDWORK


In terms of hip-hop, and being a purist, I can decide to argue that Olamide isn't doing real hip-hop. He sings, he uses autotunes, his concepts are weird... But who cares? Dude is just being smart. Giving the people what they want! Catchy and melodious vibes every time as opposed to the expected punchlines, wordplays and other accepted standards of "hip-hop and rap". It's nothing but being smart. The results are there for other rappers to see. You can always depart from the norm in your field and be smart. It doesn't hurt!



source: http://sharpijebuboy.com/olamide-was-once-serikis-employee-lessons-to-learn/?fb_ref=Default&fb_source=message

felixchip:

You can use your webcam, your phone or you can scan it.

Alright Thanks...
so how do I paint

felixchip:

They are hand drawn. Get 'em on my PC and color 'em.

great designs...
I get the "they are hand drawn" part...
the "get them on my pc..." isn't clear
how do I get them on my pc?
webcam?

I don't think I know how to color them..
but let me get the "get them on my pc" part first
Thanks!!!

THEIR FATHER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

great

Good one for them.


world club cup awaits them!!


the PES 2015 own o! ehen

The 8th season of the biggest reality music show in Africa has started. Auditions all around major Nigerian cities, Ghana, Liberia and Sierra Lone have been done and dusted, 15 great talents have made it to the project fame academy. Hence, we will all be glued to our TV sets every evening for the daily dosage of Mtn Project Fame West Africa in the coming weeks. Are we finally getting a non-Nigerian winner this time? Well. Nigerian or non-Nigerian, where are the then-famous project fame alumni that once sang their ways into our hearts since 2008? What happened to the other 5 that came out top of the class in the other previous seasons?

Here are the past winners in descending order:

Iyanya
Mike
Chidinma
Ayo
Monica
Olawale
Geoffrey

Perhaps, some of these names now only just ring a bell. Only 2 have been able to make a solid standing in the highly-competitive and crowded Nigerian music industry. Others still do music, but they haven't been able to hit a different limelight apart from the project fame's. Why? Praiz, Tolu and Niniola from season 1, 3 and 6 respectively, are also making waves to an extent. 4 or 5 popular names out of over 60 talented Nigerians to have participated thus far isn't really commendable.



Project fame is no doubt the biggest and best musical reality show on this continent. The quality is next to none. Great academy and awesome faculty members that train the contestants, and turn them into sparkling diamonds eventually. Every aspect of music is taught. The voice, the melody, the fitness, the business, the brand, the music making, and the presentation. All are taught in toto. So, just few weeks in the famous project fame academy will refine any talented musician. The contestants from every season have voices to kill for. God! Voices dey o o! But great vocal dexterity isn't enough to conquer the music industry (Ask Darey and Dakolo), although it's definitely a great advantage.


Industry veterans in artistes, managers and promoters also come around to teach these guys 1st class info and tips on what it takes to make it and break into the industry. So it'd be erroneous to say project fame isn't doing enough. They deserve all the kudos. But talent is just never enough to put out great (commercial) music that has a certain level of acceptability in this part of the world. Sadly enough, a majority of hitmakers in the industry doesn't know much of the rudiments of music. I'm talking about pitching, scaling, choreography et al. Yet, they are on top. So is music education not useful if those groomed aren't doing as great as the "ungroomed"?

At the end of the day, it is easy to conclude in the Nigerian cliche "abinibi yato si ability", simply put "natural endowment supersedes learnt efforts". Project fame or no project fame, person wey go blow go blow, and vice versa. I wish the next winner and all other soon-to-be-alumni all the best in the music industry.

PROJECT FAME! WHAT AH FEELING!!!



source: http://sharpijebuboy.com/mtn-project-fame-whither-the-other-5-winners-and-finalists/

I mean, inasmuch as I love the beautiful game to death, I can’t but notice the heavily pretence-laced lying trends of its players. The fact that technology lies while broadcasting live matches to me is rant for another day. But we all know some channels/stations could be few mini-micro seconds behind the Real-Time of a match. So, I get to shout goal at 8:05:63 pm when the fans at Camp Nou had done their own screaming already at 8:05:16pm. Those seconds mean a lot to me please. But back to the Mary (I don’t like Martha (Matter)), below facts prove to you that, asides LIARS (my autocorrect spells LAWYERS like that! Sue me) and POLITICIANS, FOOTBALLERS are next in line for award of worst/best liars on the planet.

DRASTIC AGE REDUCTIONS
Diego Costa is 26, Benteke is 24, and I am going to be 14 by the next elections.Anytime a footballer (especially a black… hmmm) tells you his age. He actually wants you to add 10, divide it by 2, and raise it to the power of 3 factorial. Players ages be falling like stocks

FEIGNING MOMENTARY INJURIES
What kinda miracle happens when a player is rolling on the pitch and gnashing his teeth few seconds ago, and the next minute, he is up and all fit after seeing the referee has blown in his favour. Woah! A defender hits a Sergio Busquets’ leg and dude holds his eyes and screams like he just lost his father, and goes “egba mi o o! O ti pa mi o! Yepa! I don die o o”! The records of footballers’ sins are like the grains of bar beach sand.

THE BALL BELONGS TO US
An Hazard tries to dribble a Blind on the wings, and Blind’s leg touches the ball while it goes out for a throw-in, but Blind will still go ahead to pick the ball to throw, despite knowing that the ball wasn’t his in the first place. Same for cornerkicks, most defenders can’t tell the truth to save their careers. And some of them will even look surprised at the linesman’s decision like “na my ball na”.


DIVERS OF LIFE
Penaldo and Robinhood are the most notorious divers of all times in the game of football. Hold Arjen Robben’s hand and you will see him fly like Jet Li to the ground. Simulations are footballers’ talents. And it should be punishable by death! Court! I riCe


source: http://sharpijebuboy.com/i-swear-footballers-can-lie-o-o-o-ah/

May the good Lord keep you safe brothers!!!


stay gallant and do visit my blog for guaranteed laughter anytime


ATTENTION!!!

greenstar:
has he paid you?have u received alert..

been paid!!! if I haven't, I wouldn't show up here...

greenstar
kilode100
arsetalks
ishilove

lol! already sorted out guys...
my (now moderated) thread was as a result of some misunderstanding

we already resolved it

apologies to all aggrieved parties
I'm almost back writing for him
so that should make you have a re-think

Thanks
God bless Nigeria

Apt

Truth be told, I've nothing against the Whiteman, except that I hate the fact that he steals from we blacks and Africans, then go ahead to patent it and make it all theirs. s m h ! ! ! First off, it was formal education, stolen from Egypt, and then they stole the black identity from Jesus, and made us believe he was a white. The Garden of Eden is in Africa. They came to steal our great-fore-five-six fathers. And the stealing stories continue till the stories get stolen again. Of course by the Whiteman. If they had their way, they would steal the Sun, and make us import it for huge amount. Ahn Ahn. Kai! And if you never knew, Whites stole Yoruba names. I've always known this as a kid. Now I'll unravel the mystery. These names are originally of Yoruba descent, until they got stolen.


Tobi


Remember Spiderman? The movie and not cartoon. The actor's name is Toby. Doesn't Toby mean big in Yoruba? Oluwatobiloba - the lord is a big king. And Oyinbos decided to put it in their names' list. And put Y instead of I. These people sha.


Lola


How can Whites permanently shorten Omolola - the child is an honour? to Lola and make it theirs for life. Whites steal and don't think of the consequences. What does Lola mean in English?


Alan


My name gangan is Alani. Alani - behold the purest. But the whiteman back in the pre-colonial days, came to Africa and stole a slave by that name. The eventual slave owner envied the name and removed the i, just so that it'd sound Oyinboish. It's Alani, not Alan. OYINBO NA THIEF O O


Remy


Oluwaremilekun - the Lord done took away my tears. But the Whites say it's Remy Martin, Loic Remy or Remy Ma. Well-played Mr Whiteman. Your stealing case will be judged separately on judgment day. Thiefu!


Adele

They even now pronounce this one Her-del. Del ko, Toshiba ni. Adele - someone who watches over the home in your absence. Oyinbooo!



As if not enough, they had the nerves to steal these other Yoruba names and assign them to other things.


Akin omo Akin, the brave man. They now say Akin means similar to. What!!! Simi- rest. La- excel. SimiLa - Simi excels.

Ado, the capital of Ekiti. Even Shakespeare made this one popular, saying it means fuss. Hmmm. Much Fayose about nothing! I see

The first-ever Mr Banjo will never forgive the white man for saying his name means a type of guitar.

Bimbo, Abimbola. I won't even say what the Whiteman calls this one.

Akimbo... Hakeem.

Heskey...Esike/Sikiru

Ode... Ode mumu

Ale




Is OK Oyinbo man... keep at it.



source: http://sharpijebuboy.com/oyinbos-are-thieves-they-stole-these-yoruba-names/

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Sir irukandji89
mind checking out my blog?
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loomer:
You for also add historic pictures of the town, e for make am more attractive.

Anyway, weldon

Thanks sir

pics full this thread


https://www.nairaland.com/2077754/ijebu-boy-city-exclusive-city

and the blog too

INTROVERT:
I just remember garri

great!!! I wanna interview you for my blog!
what ya say?

So you just got posted to Ijebu-Ode local government for your NYSC? Or you got transferred at work, and Ijb happened to be the next stop of call? Perhaps, you are coming to town for a party (most likely a wedding, or your grand pa/ma's burial) this weekend or the next. Whatever reason it is that is propelling your coming to my city for the very first time, you are welcome, and I'm sure you won't regret your visit. Having spent over 2 decades in the city, I hold a ph.D in its knowledge and all. Hence, allow my humble self to be your guide. Welcome to Ijebu-Ode. E we so ( just how you'd pronounce "err were so" in Oral English. Simply means, how are you?). Well, except you came to town on a chopper, chances are that you came in through Lagos - which is most-likely, Ibadan, Epe or Ijebu-Ife - least likely. Per adventure you arrived in a transit, the Okada riders are on standby to take you to your destination.

First tip: Never agree with the first fare you are charged. Slash the price into half, and bargain well. Applying this very skill every time you buy everything will save you some dollars my friend. Thanks!!!


LOCATION

Ijebu-Ode is a compact city, sandwiched between the largest city in West Africa, Ibadan, and the largest commercial city in West Africa, Lagos. It's 45 minutes away from the former, and a full football match time away from the latter. For the longitude and latitude degrees, contact your nearest metrological station.


WANT ITS HISTORY?

Ijebu was taken from Ajebu, Ode from Olode. The 2 folks happened to be the first settlers of the city. Obanta happened to be the first king. The Awujale, the title of the Royal father of Ijebu land comes from the name Agbeja ile ( one who settles land disputes). The Mayor of Ijebu-Ode happens to be the Olisa, whose palace sits on Olisa road. (I almost said, "he often gets ignored due to the presence of the all-dominating Awujale". But you never know who's reading a bitter truth at times). The story goes on and on...too bad your guide doesn't know much about the land's past... TO BE CONTINUED


LANGUAGE

Yoruba predominantly, just like any other South Western Nigerian city. But a majority understands the Lingua Franca basics. So you are safe, and communication wont be an issue if you can at least read this.


RELIGION

Christianity
Islam
And others


PEOPLE

Ijebu-Ode has a larger percentage of Yorubas (just like you would have known). Followed by the Ibos - who dominate the commercial activities of the Oyingbo market: where to get anything electronics (close to the New Market).

Second tip: Remember the first tip if you ever go to Oyingbo for shopping. However, slash the original price into four before further bargains.

The Hausas, and a host of other tribes also make up a part of the population. Welcome to Nigeria!


POPULAR SPOTS

So for whichever of the following you will be doing, Ijebu-Ode has just the right venue for you.

Events/Occasions

Sports

Library

Religious activity

Names wouldn't be mentioned here, but you can always ask people around for anything. Trust my Ijb folks to help you out with anything. Or just holla at myself (Facebook/twitter)


MY THOUGHTS ON MY CITY

You know! Just another cool place to live. Stress-free. No traffic. No riots. Fertile for business and farming. Accommodating people. Decent job opportunities. Great scenery. Got everything you'd get in every and any other city in Nigeria.


(An exclusive-pictures post will be coming on soon. Just trying to get me a decent camera.)


I love my city and all that is therein...

Welcome to Ijebu-Ode, the city to live in.


{Not intended to be part of the original post, but perhaps, you need a Master of Ceremony/ Compere for events when you come around... holla at your boy}


source: http://sharpijebuboy.com/welcome-to-ijebu-ode/

*MODERATED*

laudate:


Stop venting! Funmo was only trying to draw parallels between the conditions under which students study in Nigeria
(e.g. Lautech), and the conditions under which they study abroad. Where is the jealousy in his write-up??

I actually found his comparison, quite hilarious!

So why give yourself stress, over a non-issue??

Thanks o o o my brother!!!

boda Seun o o. e jo daddy wa !how can I direct traffic like the one in Lagos to my blog (on my signature) ?

Bootybuttchic:
so kate henshaw released hers.....


nairalanders released hers too.....happy birthda y to me

happy 44th birthday nairalanders!!!

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