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When good people stand up AGAINST injustice, criminal minded ones are quick to judge.

The most difficult thing about trust is that it has to be constantly earned; any momently slack breeds doubt. Inspired_m has made a GOOD name for himself and should guide it with his life. If you what people to believe that your business ethics is not the usual Nigeria ‘’dog-eat-dog’’ type, you must practice what you preach forever and always. Just know that anytime you fail to meet that standard, there is a price to pay for it and that’s what is happening now.

If you had carried the guy along since he relayed his complain to you, this thread would not be here. You ignored a guy who invested so much trust in you by 1st making higher deposit and then agreeing to pay 150K higher than agreed.

Some guys are here talking rubbish to IfyAlways and others for showing their disapproval. If our legal system is in order most things we call businesses will not be in existence in Nigeria. Am not sure IfyAlway is in Auto bizz, so why will she seek for his downfall. When good people stand up for injustice, criminal minded ones are quick to judge. Is it not the contributions from people on this thread that will probably bring about the resolution of this case?

@Bunchy

Have you got any property (between one and one and half plot) at Odili road. Let me know what you have got and the going price. Cheers

There are always two sides to a story. You come here complaining that your wife has refused to assist financially for the upkeep of your home. If your wife comes she may complain of other things about you that are not money related. Attitude is a commitment killer and I don’t think you know exactly your role as the head of the home. You must have through other means poisoned your wife’s mind, either by exhibiting hating attitude cum lack of acceptance of who she is. The only thing you need to make any woman give more than 100% of her capacity is shower her with love and respect.

Apparently, your post revealed that you don’t accept/cherish her enough by revealing her tribe; tagging her as among a tribe that sees a man as ultimate provider. What has her tribe got to do with the issue at hand? Argument can never get you anywhere; it will only make your wife more resentful of you. Change your attitude and stop seeing her as someone from another tribe. Treat her with love as your one and only, you will be amazed how far a woman can go to care for her family. Any women no matter her tribe can go all out to satisfy the man they love especially the one that really loves them in return.

So the problem isn’t lack of support but her feeling of rejection which is very obvious to those that have ‘ears to the ground’.

Repentance is a decision
Your husband got it all wrong. Firstly, by cheating and secondly, by telling you. What does he try to achieve by letting you know his past escapades? Repentance is a decision and voicing it out doesn’t guaranty ‘infallibility’, rather it impacts on the trust that he needs to mend his ways. Now he has created more problems for himself and his family. Broken trust is difficult to mend.

You have always known he had a trick up his sleeve
Am not sure what he did was really a shock to you. The signs were there all along. He has been keeping you in the dark and you know it. If you cannot freely access your husband’s phone, laptop, files, drawers or room at will, just know you are not the most important person in his life; it’s as simple as that.

Deal with it yourself, tell no one
Telling your parents will make the guy withdraw the little regard he has for you. He might do the worst and cover his ass or even dare you to do your worst. Can you swear that your Dad never cheated on your Mum? Never say never! And sure, your Dad has no power over him on how to run his home or his life. At worst, he can only advise you to quit.

Cosmetic surgery to keep your husband? That’s low life
Cosmetic surgery can only make you feel good about yourself; it doesn’t stop a man from cheating. Men don’t cheat because their wives are ugly. Men are like cats that ‘can’ eat all rats and they are created that way. Being faithful is a decision and it’s only your husband who can take that decision for himself. He has to earn the trust and respect again; that’s the only way your broken heart can heal. I don’t know how

Any church in Nigeria that the ownership can be traced to one man or a family is simply a business venture masquerading as a church. Their only aim is acquisition of power and wealth made possible by miracle seeking and gullible Nigerians. With an ear to the ground you shall hear the footsteps on an ant.

Spyder880

I will really appreciate to have your comments on this. What is really the major difference between foreign and locally made building iron rods in respect of quality and how do you physically differentiate them? Again, how do you identify the best quality among the different varieties of the locally made iron rod? Please do justice to this question with your usual professional touch.

It’s a nightmare buying building iron rods in the market. Different dealers showing different marks such as X, V etc, as the mark of quality. Others depend on bending the end of a rod to confirm its ductility or using the price difference to segregate qualities. But how many rods can you be allowed to bend? I think there must be a better way to identify quality rods. Can someone help and provide solution to this concern. Builders, Engineers and contractors in the house over to you.


And again, how much in quality do the foreign rods have over the local rods and how do you identify these foreign rods. My engineer tried but could not provide answers to all the questions.

How many Nigerian owned businesses are surviving like MTN. Will you rather they go out of business? You talk about GLO, can u imagine a country like Nigeria with only GLO? It will be like Dangote and his group of companies ripping people like mad, needing graduates for driving jobs. . .lol

It is hell doing business in Nigeria. These guys are not father xmas and are not that typical greedy Nigerian company; they are only managing to survive. Go ask Richard Bradson of Virgin Nigeria what it is like doing business in Nigeria.

Thank God you have got alternatives; move on if you're pissed with MTN. Don't come here weeping and wailing

the educational requirements to run for a gubernatorial election in Nigeria is secondary school certificate. Does Dangote think that driving a truck calls for higher education than running a state in Nigeria?

people don't get it. Dangote has succeeded in ridiculing every Nigerian grown graduate by thinking that the 4 or 5yrs of under graduate work amounts to just enough education to drive a truck.

The truth is that what we lack in Nigeria is not skill or education, but right attitude. unfortunatly, even higher education cannot offer that. let him try, it will dawn on him that formal education isnt required to be a successful truck driver.

for those that are at a loss on why this advert is condemned, his raising the educational qualifications cannot garantee him succeed; getting drivers with the right attitude will. moreover, if a secondary school graduate can run a state, no education is required to be a successful truck driver.

but let me ask us, can we truly say for sure that we can defend which ever certificate we have anytime, any day.

Permit me to derail this thread…

The truth is that men are like dogs that eat all rats. Too bad, but they can’t help it; that’s the way they are made. The game is, don’t tempt a man with sex, cos there is 99% chance he will fall. Too bad; again that’s how he is made. Most guys think they have self control but the truth is that the best control is to stay away from the temptation and not that you won’t fall if the “opportunity” presents itself. Especially, when he can chop and clean mouth.
Women think that men cheat when they are out of love or pissed with their girls. It a NO. Sex for most men has nothing to do with love but that overwhelming desire to Bleep. Sometimes you want to run away but your legs will fail you until you ‘’chop’’ that, then you come to your senses and start to cry. No wonder he forgot to use condom. For a woman, it’s difficult to understand.

The man may have tried to keep himself but failed. As we speak, he may not be proud of what he did but the power of sex usually impairs a man’s judgment. It is easier for the man to control himself when hez getting a good dose of sex from his wife or girlfriend; talking from experience. Don’t think your man can cope just because he said, sure he believed he could. Help him by saturating him with sex, otherwise he will fall even when he tried not to. Off course women do not know that many great men fell to that little hole between a woman’s legs. Great men conquered nations and lead countries, only to fall so cheaply to a woman’s pussy. Sampson where are thou!

So lady banker, count you losses and take your decision. If he shows remorse, then it’s genuine. Help each other to get over it. And put measures in place to avoid reoccurrence. I am enjoying my marriage and sometimes feel I am the only one who got it right.

OP

When you see happy couples enjoying their marriages do you think it just happened? No, each of them made sacrifices to get to where they are. The truth is that marriage is very interesting and can be real fun and fulfilling. But the truth is that you have to build it first to enjoy it. But I think you are not ready to make /build yours; you want a readymade marriage without sacrifices.

Hey, this is Naija, a married woman must make/see herself as a member of her in-law’s family to really fit in; you still see your in-laws as outsiders and it wldnt work. You can only reap what you sow; sow love, accommodation to your in-laws and you will reap same. YES, some of them may be difficult but time/patience takes care of a lot of thing. WHY insist in calling your parents into this issue? SO they can come and deal with your hus abi? NOW they are aware what good has it done? Will your hus now take permission from them to run his home. If your hus shld see this THREAD believe me, you are …. I guess you are happy to see ppl call your hus names. you still expect him to love you shey.

WHO is gonna be the loser in this whole issue and what is gonna be the state of your home after now? Believe me the loser will be you and it will come with a long time effect. Learn to accommodate and see your sis in-laws as your siblings. Good home/Marriage is about the best thing that in life; it’s the bases for almost every other good thing in life. Take time and build a good home.

Keep away from ppl wanting to rock your home, cos you alone will bear the consequences

What are the features, VIN and mileage?

Pentecostal in Nigeria = fame and financial aggrandizement on the side of the pastors.

By hook or crook, the bulk of these pastors are after wealth and fame. Fame and wealth acquisition are at the forefront; just look at your pastor and his style of administration. I must appreciate their ingenuity in making a whole lot of us happily comply with their biding.

• Tithing
• Offering
• More prayers/blessing/miracles for higher donors
• Miracle miracle miracle
• Miracles are advertised why? Because it is a business venture.

It amazes me how some of them built massive churches by making us pay for them. And yet these churches are personal/family businesses whether we believe it or not.

The unfortunate aspect of religion in Nigeria is that some of us think we know what we are doing, but are actually in the dark and blindfolded by fortune hunters masquerading as a pastor. Why are “men of God” so concerned about sowing of seed? Can we buy God’s favour/blessing?

When the preaching centers on, your enemy shall die, money will come your way next month, you shall be the next Jonathan, without telling you to work hard and always be on the side of truth, then watch out because you would be required to sow seed.

@poster
Let the church message/teaching be your guide and not human fallibility.

its beats me when people think the only essence of having good education is to get a job. but the truth is that it take an educated people to raise a good home. of what use is your money and job without quality time with your spouse and adequate children upbringing.

insecurity often time is behind a woman's quest for financial independence. mind you this a whole lots of things a woman can do to better the lot of her family; there is really nothing like full house wife because she will always have one responsibility or another to add to the family's growth. off course when the man is not financial strong, the woman has to help.

@oluwabamis,

How far? some of us have glued our eyes to the screen expecting the estimate. However, more comments on the subject matter would be highly appreciated for anyone.

Hey guys,

There is this impression by my friends that already-made interlocking pavers don’t last. Most get broken overtime due to inferior mixing ratio of materials. Hence it’s better to contract it out and insist on good materials ratio. But I am skeptical about it, looking at the inconveniences

Please experts in the house, does it really worth taking the pain to get people mould it for you instead of buying? Am humbly waiting for your comments.

Hi Biabeke its nwankwoan@yahoo.com
Many thanks

Hi Biabeke I would also love a copy of the maggie ebook. Could you kindly send to nwnakwoan@yahoo.com as well
Many thanks in advance

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It's common these days to see builders substituting clay for plastering sand. Of course it looks very smooth and beautiful but I'll like to know the Merits and Demerits of using clay to plaster buildings and/or using clay as additive to plastering sand.

Facts not assumptions would be highly appreciated

@ NikkyKay

I can see you desperately defending your past in disguise. People show their true colours through their contribution especially in an online forum like this. You definitely have some skeleton in ya cupboard; just wish your 'honey' doesn't get to read ur post.

@OP

Handle this case the way you would like your pal to handle it, if reverse were to be the case.

It beats me when the people that are against a mother-in-law coming into the son's house especially when she is ill and needed medical attention are potential mother-in-laws. If I understand Outstrip & Co, you would not have any problem if in future your daughter-in-law refuse you staying with them (in your son's house) for the period you may need medical care.

@Mutter, women like you are uncommon. As u already know, I would not be the first to appreciate your wisdom. Often times, our opinion on issues are based on our experiences; in this case, our family background.

Neva say Neva in Naija !!!

What will you call a situation where some single pregnant ladies register with some illegal orphanages for the soul aim of selling their offspring after delivery? After bearing the pains of 9months pregnancy, they sell their babies for as low as N50,000 and sign off. Some orphanages even provide the men that impregnate the ladies so their evil acts would not leak out.

To me, that’s Naija version of marriage contract. Keep a date with Sun Newspaper for updates on this kinda Naija Marriage contract

@Calabaman

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I am an advocate of gender equality and always believe women should be allowed to choose their career as well as be encouraged to get as high as they want in their career. However, statistics are showing that a woman that earns equal or more money than the husband in “unmarriable”.

A lot of such women defend themselves by claiming that the men folks feel insecure and inferior. But it’s also true that most rich wives are not humble, caring, submissive and do not see their husbands as the heads of the home. It beats me on what our priorities in live are; chase after all the money and have no love cum peace at home or to hell with money and have all the peace and love

Hey guys, would you marry a woman richer than you?

Ladies in da house, money or family which comes first?

@poster

JennyKadry meant no harm. she just wanted you to utilize this rear opportunity of meeting someone who really wants you for a wife

The reasons why men shy away from the so called career women are

1) to have a soulmate and a companion that will often be physically present , not one that will hardly have time due to career.

2) secondly, a man wants to make a home and have kids with a woman not with one who employs someone to fill role.

3) Intimacy, if a woman is not there when a man needs it, ofcourse he has to satisfy himself somehow. Too bad for marriage

etc

Men's preference for non career women has little to do with insecurity. Jenny was right when she wrote about age; the truth is that the older you are the thinner your chances. Its a stale news that men want them younger

Why do we thing it has to be democracy or nothing. What drives the success of any nation is not really the kind of the government but the intention and ideology of the people at the top of affairs, be it military or democracy. In our case, we call it democracy but our leaders are there for their own personal aggrandizement. That is why our so called democracy is failing.

Guys, what kind of government do U.A.E (Dubai), Qatar, Saudi and a lot of other highly developed nations that are the envy of the world practice? We should be more concerned with the leaders not the Kind of government.

Nzeribe has only proffered his own solution to our present situation; instead of condemning him offer your own opinion. Average minds can only talk about people nothing more.

EZIACHI, you are a man of great wisdom and intellect; Keep it up

What Nigerians need is sustainable good governance; democratically or not. Nzeribe really backed up his call for military rule with reasons; go back to his speech. I prefer democracy anyway but unfortunately there is no light in the pipe line.

When last did you visit public hospital?
How do you feel seeing police confidently extorting money from motorists not minding the resulting hold-up?
Are we still one Nigeria; North has become a slaughtering dungeon for other Nigerians
Kai, Kidnappers are by the corner looking for whom to carry-go even for any amount
Do you ever imagine the number of graduates coming to join the unemployed; no thanks to banking sector?

Where is our President, has anyone seen him. Are we sure this is democracy in progress?
Have they achieved any of the 7points agenda.

Now tell me where the light is. If not that military will eventually be power drunk and even turn there horsewhip on us, I would have joined Nzeribe in his call. But then, I doubt if we are ripe for this democracy