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@yommyuk

I am a serial entrepreneur and the CEO of a corporation in the USA, I guess that throws your arguement out of the water, I employ both native americans as well an naturalized. It may also amuse you to know that as a result of my foray here, I am about to introduce a new infrastructure into Lagos state (working with LSG)which will become clear very shortly. You are in the UK and I know how you must feel, I understand your plight, because until I left the UK, I also felt the same way, unfortunately your arguement regards justice - Nija/Western world- would never hold water anywhere because you are not comparing apples for apples, and to me it is quite laughable that any one would even attempt to do that, you know deep down what i am talking about, you only have to set your mind free to receive the truth.  
I leave you to wallow in thought and hopefully you will get the eureka moment you so deserve.

I lost a friend to armed robbers in Nija about five years ago and I can tell you that the police superintendent who handled the case blatantly requested for money from me before they would even attempt to investigate the matter, that is the justice you want to compare, -you are a trip.

@frgy

Lol, you too funny.

@posakosa1
You hit the nail on the head, give anybody the premonition that they will make a lot more money even in Antarctica, my people will harry and hussle until they get there. Abeg leave story.

@yommyuk,

You picked an isolated situation, wake up, there are thousands of steven lawrence happening in Nija daily, it is diabolical and a travesty to even think of comparing. Bottom line is that with Nija, there is a lot to be desired.

What if you fall into the hand of someone who has done surgery, I guess you can spot a con.

http://richarddawkins.net/article,1040,French-Muslim-women-opt-for-hymen-surgical-cons,The-Muslim-Weekly

This guy dey look for who im go take do juju, virgin ko, na okada you go find.

@2legit

The issue is that the probability of it happening to you in Nija is unbelievably much higher, and on top of that, what are your chances of getting justice in Nija.

Irrespective of what party system we practice, all Nigeria needs are leaders who love their people and have the fear of God. That is the key to our existence as a nation otherwise it is only a matter of time, Yugoslavia and Russia eventually split.

Guys,

Breaking news.

It has just been reported that the cup has been kidnapped.

The kidnappers have demanded a close door meeting with all the tournament referees

Ransome has also been demanded from fifa

Amnesty demanded from President Yar ar dull
God help this country.

Lets not deceive ourselves, for those calling this slavery, I guess the many families that rely on the handouts from here are glorifying God everyday for the opportunity. The problem with Nigeria is that you are not treated on equal footing, you are not appreciated, you are frowned upon and your ideas die, the fuel of innovation is encouragement, how i wish all nigerians just have a little whiff of the opportunity here, where you can fulfil your God given potential.

Here is to encourage those who have won and will soon escape the stifling but wonderfully entertaining Nigeria.


I arrived in the US about four years ago and remarkably noticed that this country in many respects was a level playing field, there could be no more capitalist society than the US.

I am naturally a confident person and chased my dream like i had been here all my life. While doing my 9-5 IT job, I soon started a business supplying the Airline industry, I have since grown that business from $2000 debt on a credit card to a $240,000 yearly revenue stream and I just signed another deal which will enable my product to be available in all US airports, starting from 4 and growing. It is unbelievable how easy it has been to achieve this. Dont get me wrong, I had dabbled in other ventures such as marketing health and life insurance which were comfortable but involved a lot of travel. Basically I kept hussling until I found what works for me. I now work from home, whenever, however, chasing suppliers and making sure things are functioning as they should.

I have also just formed another company hashing and developing ideas for television. My first concept/product is currently been reveiwed by executives at CBS, Walt disney and Wolper Organization. Once I get the green light, I have an entertainment attorney who I am working with who will do all the dollar negotiation.

The key here is that I came here as a nobody and do not know anybody, but I am able to chase my dream and I am making a success at it, where I to still be in Nigeria, I doubt I would have gained any inroad, not except i marry a chairmans daughter or slaving for a politician, besides , my mindset would have been completely different, because opportunities would just not be there and ideas and concepts are never nurtured.

Sorry its long, but I hope I have inspired someone. Dreams are achievable, moreso in America----LAND OF THE FREE.

@muneer2 et all

You are missing the point, fashion shows are about edginess, uniqueness, pushing the boundaries of what is norm, its that creativity that people are applauded for. Typically what is then available on the high streets are very toned down or slightly similar versions of these creations.
Lets learn to appreciate what these guys do, they effectively determine whats hot and whats not.

Nothing new here, they were already above the law, the problem was that they were having to line other peoples pocket for their freedom.

So what would the clever animals do? They had a light bulb moment and voila;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;;

Promulgate a law to legitimize our freedom, that way we dont  have to line pockets again.

@sayso,

You are not the norm, how many people with chemical engineering degree can boast of such after 7 years. The truth is that vast majority of Nigerians live in poverty and graduates aplenty who are dissatisfied with their status.

The fundamental difference between Nija and the US is that you are more likely to make a success of your life in the US than in Nigeria, both given to the same application of hardwork. The typical you have to know someone or you need connection bullshit that exist in Nija is not paramount here.

If you are one of the few lucky Nigerians who can afford a security guard, generator, domestic, a car and have change in your pocket, then the US may not necessarily be for you.  

As other posters have rightly said, your attitude will determine your success here, if you want to be a bum, then you might as well not bother. The critical and most difficult year/s are the initial 1 or 2, where you are settling and finding your feet, and also of fundamental importance (often of underated significance) is the person  who initially puts you up, their (good) influence or lack of it will either expedite or derail the speed at which you settle.

@all

It is foolhardy and immature to think that beauty is strictly about physical appearance.
Appearance can infact be deceptive. I have refused to hop along the train of media deceit as it applies to our world, our children should be thought that beauty comes in different forms, shapes and sizes, and that true beauty lies within. My most memorable and incredible relationships have been with people who 'by media standard' would be considered otherwise.  

Wakey Wakey.

@Poster

I am saddened by your predicament, but I will try to give you markers that hopefully will guide you in your next decision.

First and foremost, he had no right to cheat on you and you seem to have come back together agreeing that he was wrong and that he would not do that again, (although you should have used a counsellor and stood your ground.)

You come across as someone who is really in love (to a fault and as a result weak) and your husband knows this and he is taking full adavantage. You probably need a boost of self esteem, i would recommend you go out often to visit your female friends. The key to boosting your esteem is to make your husband want you, so take your time to dress up, make up and look your best everytime you step out. This will put your man on his toes (if he is still into you that is).

By the way you were dead wrong and you know it for talking to that man. The bottomline is that whatever the problem is, you need to communicate it with your husband. Sometimes, it is the way we communicate that is the flaw.

My wife once told me, I want to take time out to go stay with my sister for a couple of months. It made me wake up and ask all the right questions, Of course this got me cause I am in love with her, i  listened to what her issues were and we resolved it, that drastic communication worked.        

Now, if your husband is truly in love with you, he would only be telling you lies that he has told all these people what you did, including his family, however if he is not, then he would really not care who he tells, because deep down he would not like his woman to be looked at like that.

Nigerian men can brag and by the way (a lot of them) see cheating as nothing more than a contact sport, they do it for the fun of it, it does not equate to ; I want to leave my partner or I dont love my wife, it takes the grace of God to change that orientation. Basically he is only bragging that he is now allowed to see other girls and that you can do likewise. He wants to be appeased with apology, so please acknowledge your wrong doing and give him his ego back, make him think no one else can hit that cookie like he can and you would not trade him for anything in the world.

If however you find that he is dead serious and telling anybody that cares to listen about your little indiscretion, then sweety, its time to take the hint.

Above all, I wish you all the best and it is a must that you both do see a counsellor to resolve your issues, if you are staying that is.

Listen to the clown talk about not having another country to call our own, fool, I have, thanks to you. It was during your regime that I knew I had no hope but to jettison all plans to stay in Nija, I absconded your hardship and by the grace of God, I was welcome with open arms in the US where i now own and run a company that employs over 200 US citizens. God knows, I would have preferred to use my talent back in Nigeria, but for idiots like IBB, if only you know how many 'me' you created that could have contributed to the development of Nija. The only words you are entitled to is ' to plead for Nigerians forgiveness and ask them to pray on your behalf. Shame on you IBB

Adressed to the Minister;

The fact that you gained so much from Nigeria as a student, a fete which is no longer avalable to youths of today, is the more reason you should not have attempted to gain residency in another country, I would have expected you as at 1996 to have the "I will die for Nigeria" attitude, instead you engaged in the visa lottery process. It's much easier to spew those words now, after the plum positions and status you have achieved.

As per rebranding Nigeria, I think with respect, the minister is missing the point, how can ordinary folks continue to see the ostentatious display of oppulence and abundance by our corrupt policians and Government officials, then expect the youth who are really the ones this message should reasonate with, to buy into the goals of the program.  Simply put it will fail. The saying is that children copy from adults, period.

The initial image of Nigeria as perceived by most foreigners most times comes from two sources;

1) What the media reports about our Government and its officials.

2) What our Officials themselves actually do when they visit abroad.


Rebranding is not going to mean a thing to them, when they know that Nigerian government is continually shortchanging  its people, elections are not even conducted free and fair, and when these officials visit, they come with wealth they have stolen from their people to buy themselves and their families a lavish lifestyle while still in office. Image branding must start from the top, let all officials do the right thing, let us see that you are doing the right thing, then surely rebranding will filter down. Independence of  Efcc, Icpc, judiciary, police and other security agencies will go a long way in helping the Minister achieve her objectives.

Until the right things are done, this too shall pass.

The Ghananians do have scammers and fraudsters in their midst, but it is what their government is doing that has rebranded Ghana as a destination of choice in Africa. The fact that Obama went there this year only reenforces that, and by the way, a lot of African americans are moving to Ghana and settling there.

@sparkle

For one second there I thought you were advertising the missing plane for sale.

I for say HABA NAIJA!


My heart goes out to the souls in this craft and May God grant their families and loved ones courage to forstall this terrible news

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Judging by the utterances here, it is safe to conclude that as a nation we are millions of miles away from attaining the level of human development we ought to be at.

Some of the minds here show me the reason why our nation is entangled, bound, corrupt and underdeveloped, is it not a fact that we can all find reasons for doing wrong? injustice? we can all find reasons for doing the wrong thing at every opportunity? do our reasons make those events right? does the fact that our systems aren't there yet make such events acceptable?

If thats how we feel, then we are missing the point of development, we need to challenge ourselves at all times, lets look around the world, whenever people challenge wrong doing, they mature and develop together as a nation, take a case in point, we are all joyous at Obama's emergence as the president of the "MOST POWERFUL NATION IN THE WORLD'. It's funny how easily it can be forgotten that this journey started by people challenging wrong doing, Martin Lurther King, Rosa parks, lets look at South Africa today.

There is a certain level of thinking we fervently desire in our country, we cannot continue to do wrong and call on God, then expect magic.  There is the principle of cause and effect at play people.

Life is sacrosanct, nobody can create it and no one should take it, irrespective of whether our system is a failure or not

Lets give ourselves to deep thinking.

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@poster

Aside from money, the next thing a woman wants is a good listener. If you are a good listener then you would be in tune with your woman, the day she needs a protector, you will hear that in her assertion, then you can be that, the next day she may need a comforter, again you will hear in her tone, then you can be that, it goes on and on, that is the secret to a successful relationship.

@poster

I agree with you whole heartedly, this should not be who we are, these acts were practiced and should have passed with miedevel  times. To suggest that this is ok if one has been a victim of crime makes me sick to the gut, being a victim of crime does not mean we should throw away our decorum, and let go off our principles and the strands that bind our sanity. We are no different from these folks if all we do is walk by and shake our heads or not voice our disapproval if we are witness to such lynching.

What happened to giving people a second chance, some of the prominent people in the world were once crooks (and yes some did commit murder, rape etc) and if each one of us was cut down the first time we ever did wrong, then maybe we would not be here to voice our opinion, I would love to see the ones amongst us who have no sin- sometimes circumstances make people do stupid things. One famous Nigerian Preacher always confessed he was once an armed robber, now see him winning souls for Christ, what if he had been caught and jungle justiced, we all need to see a bigger picture here, as humans we have the tendency to do evil or good, it is our frame of mind guided by our circumstance that ultimately makes that decision for us.

I pray none of us find ourselves in the wrong place at the wrong time, because again what is the guarantee that the person been pulmeted is not a case of mistaken identity, would you still then cry for 'jungle justice'

I believe enlightenment and education from our Government will also go a long way in stemming this tide.

Please let the law take its course,

The Federal Government needs to do a lot of work in the area of police investigative and prosecutorial service, the public as I gathered have lost confidence in some of their work.

@poster,

one of two choices, either make you go owode onirin or Alaba, just take the picture of what you want, Nigerians are versatile with a can do attitude,  'YES WE CAN'

@poster

I hate to burst your bubble, but from what I know of Nigerians, if embassies stop giving politicians visa, all the politicians will say "after a big bowl of 'swallow' and stockfish" is that if Mohammed cannot go to the mountain, the Mountain must surely come to Mohammed.

That will simply mean more stolen billions of dollars to pay for the medically equipped private jet that will fly the German doctors to 9ja.

I can hear many politicians chanting ' Lord will make a way where there seems to be no way, he walks in ways we cannot see, , "


Remember if God is for them who can be against them

Or do you think the politicians dont call on God too.

@poster

Since you are not married, you have no children, you claim you've never maltreated her (even when you cheated, you confessed) and that you both had serious intentions of marraige, in that case the best advise is to end the relationship, leave, though painful, it will be better in the long run.

But knowing that your heart is weak (cause you are ruled by your emotion), cause you love her so much you cannot imagine your life without her, you will not leave but forgive her. Unfortunately it will take a long time and plenty of effort on her part before you can trust and move on, then again you will always have at the back of your mind a certain insecurity, your mind occasionally  wandering what again would trigger such an action.

Personally I would leave, not because i cannot forgive, but  (1),  because I would unwittingly use it against her, and ( 2)I cannot live life pondering and debating my wife's every move.

Sorry dude, you are at a crossroad, governed by your emotions and as a result the weakness of your heart will not let you do the right thing. You know the direction you want to take, your crying out here is just empathy seeking, which you will get loads.

@poster

How is this going to work, because the first 419'ers are the Government officials of both present and past - who have shortchanged the general populace, promising one thing but giving another, these people have bankrupted the mindset of Nigerians, dented our mentality whereby when there is a hint that they are doing their job, we think it is something novel, we start singing their praises, we stand in awe. The fish they say rots from the head, find me a senator, legislator or Governor in Nigeria who has not 419'ed his/her people, then and only then a campaign of such nature might gain ground, otherwise this too shall pass.

@Poster

Reading between the lines, you have a control freak as a husband and you are having insecurities about your future together, which is quite understandable since he is also a wife beater. The issue is not really about whether it is ok or not for a wife to build her own house, there is a fundamental problem in your marriage and I advise you to seek counselling ASAP. A marriage is a coexistence and cohabitting of equals who love and respect one another. You should have equal vote in decisions, it appears not to be the case in your situation, your relationship comes across as a MASTER\SLAVE model, i.e he makes decisions and you just have to follow. I would be delighted , infact, over the moon if my wife came up saying she'd want to build a house rather than the typical purchase of jewelry, clothes, shoes et al. I am rather the one pushing her for it, my success is a reflection of my wife's success, whatever makes her happy. Its time men stop being control freaks, it is old and outdated, marriage more commonly is now about supporting each other and pushing each other to be the best we can be.

Nothing you will hear here will fix your marital issue, get to work with a counselor or i'm afraid for your relationship.