₦airaland Forum

Passionate1:
Unbelievable! You're even more stupid than I thought you were. U lack d ability to comprehend. .do u even have a dictionary?
U don't deserve my attention . .I refuse to enter a battle of wits with an unarmed opponent. I hope ur day is filled with people like u. .Mr suffering and smiling

You are foolish and a vegetable.

Tell us how people "campaign" for salary increase in private sector.

Which stupid schools did you go to that taught you such nonsense and made you so daft?

pcguru1:
There is no doctrine to it all, it's either you have integrity or you don't don't. There's no 2-ways about it.

My integrity is to live a happy life while I am on Earth.

If yours is not, and you want to be miserable because you feel it would give you "integrity" in the eyes of others, good luck to you.

Passionate1:
Laughable! I see who go school. .

For you school, dem teach you that campaigning for salary increase is how salaries are increased in private sector?

And even if your school teaches you such senseless nonsense, then why dem no teach you to "campaign" for N45m per month as salary, why N500K?

Campaign!

This is the rent-a-crowd-of-protesters of the Police and SARS criminals.

My policeman friend told me this.

nwaezeemmanuel:
At the end, i have a choice to agree with you or discard your beliefs

Here, i will happily discard them because they sound very subjective!

What makes them subjective?

nwaezeemmanuel:
Withdraw yourself from the mindset that every man cheats.

If you do, not every man does! Sorry, there are still faithful men out there.

I never said every man cheats or there are no faithful men.

I said tell me about these "successful monogamous homes" you claim to know of.

nwaezeemmanuel:
My God! Make sure you don't marry just one woman.

This post screams infidelity and lack of self control.

Having sexual affairs outside marriage is unhealthy - increases the chances of getting and transmitting STIs.

I have self control. That is evident from the fact that I don't let others, with their "rules", control what I do.

That is fucking self control!

Sticking to one woman from your 20s or 30s till you die does not increase your chances of being depressed or unhappy. It fucking guarantees it!

I will use protection and take my chances with STIs and not waste my life.

I don't know about you, bruv. But I can bet all these nonsense of monogamy you are chatting will leave your body one day when your mind is free of the indoctrination of monogamy you have been fed.

nwaezeemmanuel:
You're mixing things up.

I have nothing against polygamy! It is just not my preference.

All of my arguments are centred around two grow up adults who agree to be together and swear an oath!

The fact that there are faithful partners makes this nature jargons silly!

Well the modern world and majority of people arguing against this (especially women) are against polygamy.

Too many people brainwashed to think monogamy is realistic and viable.

Bleep social pressure "oaths". The man will sow his oats.

Marriage is just a social ritual, nothing else!

nwaezeemmanuel:
Everywhere

I have a very close uncle in that category, knew him before and when he married.

There are many bad ones, but because 1 egg in a crate is bad doesn't mean the rest are bad

Oga, you are not with your uncle 24 hours.

nwaezeemmanuel:
What point are you trying to make


Mine is that cheating is wrong, and men can't excuse themselves with testosterone, nature blah blah blah

What is yours?

Mine is that an overwhelming majority of men cannot stick to one woman from one point till the end of their lives except they want to be miserable till they die. So shagging once in a while outside is healthy for them, they are entitled to it and their urge is an excuse.

If the women don't like it "tough", let her build her own happiness. They are free to focus on the negligible that will not cheat.

My only objection is men who flaunt it or do there deed disrespectfully like this bring the other girl to the house).

nwaezeemmanuel:
This is obvious, still doesn't cover up cheating!

Calling it "cheating" or whatever you like, the man has urges and not getting his urges satisfied is a miserable life.

If the woman does not like it and cannot handle it, she is free and should be free to leave and find someone that will give her what she wants.

nwaezeemmanuel:
What of the laws that are not stupid

Especially the kind that punishes crime, see why you have to stay open minded

If i get you, not cheating is a way of suppressing natural urges - going by what i am reading here.

I never said all laws are stupid. I said laws can be stupid.

What I meant (for your last sentence) is that making laws or social constructs to "suppress natural urges" is stupid and bound to fail.

For example, making laws that homosexuals must ignore their natural urge and mate with opposite sex is stupid and will fail.

Making laws or social constructs that men (or indeed women) should be monogamous is stupid and will fail.

ePoster:
Nope. When you get married, do you have that in your mind?
When I use the word, I mean cheating isn't a principle or foundation of and on which a marriage is built.

Says who?

nwaezeemmanuel:
Yes! There are successful monogamous homes.

Where?

nwaezeemmanuel:
Well, they have not attained relationship maturity.

Simple!

If a married man or woman cheats, it means they just could not be committed enough!

No mincing of words, it's just hard truth.

That is nonsense, mate.

Trying to be in relationship in a manner that suppresses you naturality and will highly never make you happy in your lifetime does not make you "mature", it makes you "delusional" (if a kind word is to be used) or "stupid" (if one is to be blunt and truthful).

All these "maturity" are just nonsense church pastor words.

A mature person takes care of himself and his interests.

nwaezeemmanuel:
By the way, adrenaline does more for 'fight or flight' responses not testosterone!

What I know and I am highlighting is that testosterone makes men very different from women.

nwaezeemmanuel:
We are not like the animals, we have laws and social constructs.

This is why we cannot shift cheating to testosterone because cheating itself is a human concept and binds our relationships.

Other male mammals can have several mates, because they are not governed by so much.

Well laws and social constructs made by humans can be stupid.

Especially when they are aimed at suppressing natural urges.

So deferring to "our laws and social construct" is not a strong enough argument.

baralatie:
there is no relationship between testosterone levels and promiscuity in the animal kingdom.the testosterone levels in the blood stream is to fight or flight.that is why the big cats can fight but yet the females with less testosterone are the more successful hunters because of the instinct to keep the pride alive.

Nonsense!

Testosterone is responsible for many things beyond "fight or flight".

ePoster:
Same as corruption, ritual killings, kidnapping...doesn't make them right though.
Cheating might be common, but it's not an aspect of marriage. Your 'if you can't handle the heat, leave the kitchen' ideology is quack.
Few men would tolerate a cheating woman.

How is it not an aspect of marriage?

nwaezeemmanuel:
Cheating is never justifiable.

Mature couples should resolve things or even file for divorce - instead of sleeping with another person out of the blues.

So all the billions of people, men and women, in history who cheated are not mature?

Stop chatting nonsense, mate.

nwaezeemmanuel:
There are successful monogamous homes.

Cheating is not in any man's gene, it is borne from a lack of self control and is just infidelity at its finest.

Where?

In heaven?

Stop chatting nonsense, mate.

Jemiwizzy:
I don't know why men have this habit of cheating. Why must you cheat when you have a wife?

My big sis left her husband's house today because she caught her husband with another woman in her matrimonial bed.

Sometimes I think being single is the best way. All this cheating here and there is too much, can't believe my sister has to go through all this pain now.

Why must a sane man be with and have sex with only one woman?

As for "being single", if you women have that option, why do you all largely refuse to take that option?

slyfoxxjoe:
Wetin consine una with how much I pay my staff?

E begin dey consine me when come and have yeye mouth online.

Oya, tell us how many people you pay N200K plus per month to.

Emmypure:
dear I don't earn salary, rather I pay people

In your dreams?

Come and tell us what you do and the people you employ that a real.

lexy2014:
How many of yr staff are u paying 200k a month?

slyfoxxjoe, oya come and answer.

Passionate1:
Una supposed campaign for a decent minimum wage of 500k per month for a start. . .

Campaign?

You go school so?

kelvindj98:
Are you minding that mumuni? Shockingly, I doubt if he is among the mates even earning the 5 mil legitly. Could be one of those broke ass niggaz with long throat.

He is definitely one of the dumb, broke ass niggaz.

Investnow2017:
Oh God how did we get here? About USD450 per month of 30days job, and some one calls this a well-paying job

My brother, it is not. It only helps you as a bachelor to put food on table. For a family man, it is dancing around the same circle. If you want to know if your job whose salary is pegged against the Naira is well paying, first peg it against the USD.

What foolishness.

Because the country is America?

blingxx:
"your mate".. This word have misled so many youths to their demise.. "your mate" who are they?... Pls change that mentality of yours

You might not know who the mates are.

But one thing you can be guaranteed of is that they are not him and he probably does not make up N200K a month himself.

adioolayi:
How many gainfully employed Nigerians are legitimately earning more than 200K per month as salary

Even if you are a civil servant, devoid of kickbacks, do you know the grade level and years of experience that will receive 200k a month

Please, if you are not working abroad where you convert your earnings to Naira... don't ever say #200,000 monthly is a small income in Nigeria. That earning is far above what average, hardworking, gainfully employed Nigerian can earn as salary per month

Don't mind the ignorance.

Outside Lagos, even many Directors in state civil service don't make that as legitimate salary.

Emmypure:
you have to spread ur tentacles wide to earn such amount, beside you can't earn that amount through salary.

Where are you own tentacles?

Wetin your tentacles dey bring you per annum?