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FG borrowed 500bn for palliatives and gave 5bn to each state plus the FCT. Now, 5 x 36(+1) = 185. Therefore, 500 - 185 = 315.

In other words where is the remaining 315bn from the loan, was it used to purchase the bags of rice distributed to the 36 states to cushion the effect of fuel subsidy removal?

Now, my other questions are how is the distribution of 5 trucks of rice (rice oo) to states, mind you some states have tens of millions of residents, help in remedying the high price of PMS, (2) if they really mean well, why can’t they use this monies to build refineries and industries to create employment and end the importation of PMS (3) why didn’t they use the CBN to disburse the monies to every Nigerian using BVN? And who is deceiving who?

DaveHarry:
And there is a landlord whose tenants can owe 1year rent, yet he won't do anything to hurt them. God bless the landlord I'm talking about.

Thank you

NgeneUkwenu:
Everybody down there has Ipob mentality....Kill, maim, roast and cannibalize...What a region! smh

You sound degenerative, unrefined, graceless and uncivilised to say the least. The odds of you being worse than the woman is pretty low.

YoungLionken:
The Igbos are unarguably the worse when it comes to human relationships. They usually go extreme (always top) in everything that they're involved in; drugs, ritual, madam/housemaid, love/romantic union, cheating in business (a typical Igbo person would double cross you, no matter what. They don't even trust themselves) and the one I hate the most is thinking they're wiser/smarter (with their know-it-all attitude) than everyone else..

You will hardly see such a witchcraft attitude with a typical Yoruba, Hausa, Edo, Fulani, Ikwerre, etc landlords/landladies, no matter how mean they may be..
Igbos that complain against the Yorubas would have done worse, if they were in charge/owners of Lagos..

MODIFIED
For the nincompoops quoting me negatively. Stating the obvious doesn't mean I'm tribalistic. Same way you know about the good and dirty characters of other tribes in Nigeria, is the same way we know about yours. Your victim mentality/blame game is no longer working..

I didn't even mention how you guys are quick to undermine/disrespect people, painting Nigeria black all over the world because of biafra, yet tarnishing the same image of Nigeria with your criminal acts (they don't categorize their criminals through region or tribe but nationality). Truth be told, your brothers and sisters are the major reason why some countries see Nigerians as terrible people, thereby making international access into their countries difficult (I know you would disagree and throw tantrums, because that's your signature but who cares )..

Lastly, I'm not even Yoruba and don't support BAT (My previous posts are there)...

I don’t know son but you sound mentally retarded my dear. You can drop me your number lemmi call you and give you my reasons.

Ruke1989:
You are feeding him. The first step is to stop. Before you talk about divorce. He is damaged but like you said you have your bad side too which is your running mouth. Any man any day will be irked by the running mouth. But this bad guy of yours has self restraint knowing that he will be jailed if he beats you. Definitely he will beat you when he starts making good money.
An impatient you will divorce him. The impatient you will adopt other strategies first such as packing out. You are not even married so you commit no offense. Tell him to go get job or forget marriage for ever. That will make him caution the demon spirit that possessed him. He will call the demon to order once he realizes that the demon cannot help him secure you. He will realize no free food once you are gone and he will start working on a career path. Also, stop being sympathetic to him or his family. You are down today because you were sympathetic to a demon possessed person yesterday. You will still be laid back in life tomorrow if you decide to be sympathetic to him today. Why? because he is irrational, proud, confused and chained by his family demons. He inherited the spirit of wretchedness from his idolatrous background. His confusion, directionlessness, ego and fear of taking first step are reminiscent of a spell

Easy oo

patorial:
Divorce from which marriage, biko?

Her partner’s marriage with a contracted white woman (a citizen)

Babe1994:
we didn’t do an arangee marriage.

Ok dear, I didn’t get that part, you can better elucidate yourself, maybe you meant that he had an arranged marriage with a third party ok!
What is the gender of your up-spring?

Emmacy001:
Sorry
What attracted you to him initially?
Sit him down talk to him. To know his reaction

There was no tangible attraction, it was probably about the money, she mentioned that it was an arranged marriage, probably the guy used her for citizenship by marriage since she claimed to have been birthed there, so a citizen by birth (though she didn’t mention the country but I presume somewhere in Europe from her statement about divorce protocols).

They used her so how will they value her, well, there is always a way in every situation. This is a small case, I’ve met worse

Babe1994:
Hi

I’m a girl in her late 20s, I live abroad was born here but spent most of my schooling years in Nigeria. I came back to do university. I’ve been with a guy now for 7 years who hasn’t paid my bride price properly due to the fact he did an arangee marriage and the divorce process is taking too long. I got with him in my early 20s.. and have a child with him. I believed in him but now I’m at the point where I’m honestly frustrated and tired. I really don’t know who to run to to express myself. We are living together but I really want to run away and start my life afresh but I want to be told the truth. I really want to be married and content, It feels like this guy has reduced me to nothing. Im so ashamed of my situation with him, it’s like I’ve disgraced myself and my family. I’m going to try and list out all the issues we’ve been facing.

1. He’s very confused about his career path. One minute he’s a musician.. then he wants to be a painter.. then he wants to be chef. This is a man in his late 30s

2. He has anger issues. We have tussled on some occasions and he threatens to beat me when he’s angry but so far he hasn’t

3. He has addictions. Betting drinking smoking. To the point where he drank so much that he almost killed himself . I was honestly fooled by the fact that he was a worker in the church and I “believed” I could change him. Young and dumb I guess.

4. Cannot communicate properly. To the point we have not had a proper conversation in almost 2 months but we are living together. I feel so lonely and stuck.

5. He insults me so bad to the point where I question myself.

6. He is not very hardworking and I don’t gel well with his family and friends.

7. None of his family ever talk about marriage or paying my bride price. All they ever ask is when I’m having another child for him. They have reduced me to nothing and I can’t blame them.

I will say that when I’m angry I can be verbally abusive also. He also claims that I’m too reserved and isolated. I feel like I’ve been pushed to the wall and I can’t recognise myself.

I really want to run away.. and start afresh. Where will I start from? I have a son how easy will it be to find love again? All the love I have for this man has gone..I don’t know if it can be rectified. He has really seen me finish.



Thank you .

Nlfpmod front page please

Thanks

Wow wow wow

Well, I wish I could meet you in person, it’s good you brought this in public but it’s also not good. Like in most of my posts on NL I try to be brief so find the pony.

First, in all your talks, I noticed you didn’t mention your own family and parents, where are they, why are they not fully involved in your matter, for you to come here, you must have exhausted all options.

Secondly, my dear I read a few comments and those advising you to pack up and leave etc, you’re 29 right? And you’re a mother, you’ve so much autonomy and can decide for yourself.

Lastly, they say first things first reduces…what to what again? You should know what I’m saying you claimed you schooled overseas. Well, I suggest you leave everything you’re doing right now and go to your Maker in prayer and ask for guidance, ask God what his purpose and will is for your life don’t get up from your knees until you get directions and answers, people who are even in worst situations than you will come on here to advise you but pls be careful.

If you care pls send me a dm, maybe I or since you’re a woman, probably my team will help with counselling.

Nice2023:
U are indeed intimidated and weak.


Highly unmotivated and that is why u have nothing to contribute but quarrel which is also a product of where u reside.

Poor soul,everything shouldn't be fight.

Sorry,if I have just intimidated u.

I don’t understand bro, what is he intimidated about?

Unfortunately I got to this thread late but you can still find the pony in my contribution. Most writers here have said well, so @40 besides peace of mind and a sustainable means of livelihood, the only thing missing is your relationship with God, how have you lived your life.

Let me just be brief, you see you can even acquire the whole world (which is of course what I assume you and some others feel that those are what life is about), and forget that you came without a pin and so shall you return unto dust. Many don’t believe in after life so they live anyhow, well even if you don’t believe in life after death atleast live a life worthy of emulation, make resounding impacts, touch humanity and live a life that something remarkable will be read about you in your eulogy and lastly fulfil your destiny.

If at 40 you haven’t asked God or your creator to reveal your purpose in life then you haven’t lived, don’t get it wrong, I’ve an abundance of worldly possession (not to brag but of course this is a faceless forum, those that know u know) so the point is, life isn’t about material gains or achievements but your topic of discuss here is much more complex and deeper than most think, thanks.

Cheers to being 40!

Jman06:
Why did God create us with the desire for secx yet wants to punish us for doing that the desire for which he created us with So many questions to ask that our God!

It’s not a question for God but a simple matter of FREE WILL, you know what that means?

It means God has given humanity and even angels the choice to choose btw good and evil and at the end to see the end therein, if you choose evil opposing his Holiness and manual for your life, you’ll eventually see the end of it, be it good or bad. But He said the thoughts he has for us are of good and not of evil to give us and expected end, thus he instructs us to pick good over evil.

Lastly, angels have only one chance and after which there’s no redemption for them ever, but humanity has grace (grace in the person of Jesus Christ), that’s why some fallen angels (demons) fight tooth and nail to make sure you have the same end with them. Only with the power of God can you overcome because they are millions of yrs older, wiser, more powerful than you and their war with humans are mostly in yhe mind (eg. the chemical reaction in your brain when ur mind imagines or u see a fat-soft bumbum dangling before you)

MuMuOnBail:
Na wa ooo


The day you preachers here on NL can convince me that sex and sexual lust is the world major problem then I will become a converted Jesusian.

Does people like Tunibu, Putin, Buhari, Biden etc look like people that care or have sexual lust or desires?. I can bet that this men can't sustain an erection outside when urinating, But look at how wicked they are.

You guys should preach LOVE not all this shit.
Sexual lust and fornication is not the one causing civil war, building nuclear weapons, economic meltdown, world war, inflation, Electoral fraud etc.

If they is more sex, I bet the world will have more peace, because after sex you will end up sleeping instead of planning how to do evil.


HEADLINE: Naira Land turn to sex blog on Sunday's

But no one is hounding you to become a jesusian, it’s your choice and yours alone.

If you’re a victim of sexual immorality and decide to remain so, nobody is fighting you and yes it isn’t the world’s biggest problem, I don’t even care if world leaders lust after their kind or opposite sex; but hey sexual sin is the only sin you commit against your own soul and body, let it sink in for a minute! My piece

Bluezy13:
Lust is not a perversion but a strong desire for something. Use your dictionary.
Having a strong desire for something is not immoral. Sexual lust is not immoral.
Fornication is immoral.
There's a difference between having hunger for food and actually eating the food.
You can have hunger for food but the manner in which you satisfy the hunger may be unacceptable and that's where immorality comes in.
Sexual lust is not immoral but satisfying the lust in an unacceptable manner is immoral.

At the bolded, a man cannot intentionally have sex without the desire for sex but a man can eat food without necessarily being hungry.
Food cannot be used as a similitude with sex in all aspects.
And there is no way a man can get a woman pregnant and multiply as demanded by the his creator in Genesis without having a desire...maybe strong desire for sex.

Like I mentioned, Use your dictionary for meanings of words before assuming blindly just to drive home your religious view.

You sound uneducated, I despise your type, you’re hounding him to use the dictionary when you don’t understand the dictionary yourself, don’t you know that words have different meanings and can be used to imply diverse things given the context.

The op is still correct, don’t make your ignorance a cause for contention here, the guy is even responding to you calmly and you’re being all frustrated and nagging.

Jennyclay:
Too bad

She should have stabbed the man who advised her husband to marry second wife and not the innocent child .

Thank God the child is alive, I wish her quick recovery

I hate to have prejudice but sorry you sound sicker than the suspect. You should be watched for potential homicide

This is a chat between a man and a scammer impersonating the lady on the picture, if anyone knows her pls alert her asap! Before she becomes an accomplice by ignorance.

Interesting

Fut9ure:
Live and lets live

Na so ur village ppl dey take talk dia own?

Sebastine1994:
Is that her real face without make up

I wondered too, atleast I’m not alone on this. C’mon I mean you can argue that this is a different person

illicit:
Always bragging

U could have covered your pool with less amount fool

Savage

Ouch!!! Pain me

chatinent:
To we who knew him before his pastoral YouTube channel, I'll keep shut.😌

My brother!! I guess you’re an Umuahian or went to Ibuku high school. It’s been over 20yrs, let’s just keep mute and watch the show

Sonnobax15:

Na parkinson's sickness be that...my dad is currently suffering from it..He don drink all kind of herbs tire,but all to no avail.....But I think it was one doctor who prescribed a drug for him that really helped to subdue it..

What drugs?
Just dm you

mystry:
I think you are more of a writer than an alcoholic. So I doubt your story

Yes, I’ve authored several books and published scholarly articles in reputable journals, but my story is true. How do you even I write?

Nkemsplendid:
Alcoholism will always be a problem. Unfortunately people like you who took to alcohol in the 2nd half of their lives tend towards abuse. I'm not sure why, maybe they try to play catch up.

It's been just a few shitty day so don't be too hard on yourself. We are 40+ so by now we know the full meaning of actions and consequences. Do you want to keep drinking or do you want to analyse what is really wrong and sort it out? I know what a midlife crisis can feel like. My husband almost totally broke down last year.

Why are you losing a zest for life? What are you feeling and why are you feeling it? You may need to ask yourself these tough questions and seek therapy if you need some. Do not alienate your wife, she's by your side for a reason. Do not turn your back on church. The bottle can only give you a momentary high. Only the most high can truly elevate from this emotional pit.

We shall overcome. God's grace.

God bless you dear.

CaseSensitive:
Alcohol is enjoyable if you don't use it as a form of escapism because if so, it can change you and your ability to face life realities which will inadvertently take over your life. If you're threading that path, reassess your life before it turns into an addiction. Enjoy alcohol, don't abuse it.

I've been through it before and now I have control over how often I drink and quantity. These ones in my little bar could last me six months before I need to refill unless friends visit.

Thanks bro.
Nice bar

Djoel:
I sent you a personal message. Your message struck a cord, but there are things I can never share on a public forum. Never mind responding if you have doubts.

I’ve responded. I welcome any illuminating discussion.

meobizy:
I grew older.

I benefitted more from policies set during Jonathan’s time than under the present administration. Should I mention months of a forced lockdown as something I enjoyed under the APC administration?

Na my governor I suppose face not the president. If I start with that man story, I fit hold cup no drink water.

U grew older and left ur brain behind. The worse is that u spend ur life here on NL, so how can u achieve anything meaningful in life? 9mnths on NL is ur greatest achievement o ya clap for urself, dunce.

meobizy:
What is one vote compared to thousands? If the majority chose Tinubu not even God could change the situation.

It’s only an uneducated ignorant fool like yourself will believe that Tinubu won and may God show u why He is God, I don’t pray for His wrath on u bt I pray that soonest u be in a situation where u’ll call upon Him to change the situation because it is impossible for man to do it. U’ll see.

meobizy:
Mid-life crisis without a mention of age or children, is that one a mid-life crisis? Welcome to Nairaland where people born in 2011 can claim 50 years of age.

Do u know how stupid u sound? From your narrow thinking, my son will probably be your age mate, at least do a simple google search on the subject and understand the concept, whoever said you must have kids or be married to have midlife crisis. Must age be mentioned b4 u use your brain if u’ve one to know that it happens to most middle age adults.

From ur profile, u’ve spent 9months of ur life on NL, true indication that u’r either a child with a phone or a jobless youth with no real life responsibilities and making no effort to be profitably engaged, keep wasting ur life here typing and straining ur eyes day and night, by the time u clock 50 and above body go tell u.

Send me a dm or even drop your WhatsApp number so you can see who you’re engaging on video call. I don’t blame your father.

I never realised that alcohol can be this enjoyable, all my life I’ve always detested ppl that drink, whenever the topic comes up I always remember a certain wealthy man when I was younger, even with all his wealth he would drink himself to stupor every night and vomit, his driver would have to carry him, it was a very bad experience as neighbours to witness those nights especially as a young boy. So I concluded that drinking is unacceptable and I grew up with that ideology, not until recently I’ve started having a rethink.

For sometime now, especially couple of weeks ago leading to last Saturday’s election, I’ve been having a difficult time, I feel like I’m drowning sometimes, maybe it’s midlife’s crisis I don’t know, I don’t know how that feels but what I know is that I was gifted a bottle of expensive vodka last week and I accepted knowing fully well what I was getting into, I knew I was going to step into another phase in my life, I could have sold the drink but no, I kept it.

Like I said already, it’s been rough with me lately, the current cash crunch in the country isn’t helping, the last strew came when last Saturday’s election was announced by 4am, I was awake watching, it struck me like a bolt of lighting, I felt speechless physically but this deep hurt like my soul was groaning. Fast forward to date, I’ve consumed a couple of bottles like bloody mary, VSOP and other spirits which I mix in chilled soft drinks. I so much enjoy this new habit, I can never drink to stupor, I just lock up myself in my lounge, play some music and sip away or lock myself in my car at night and sip with music, I stop when I start feeling a bit sleepy, I just sleep quietly and peacefully. My wife just smells the stuff on me but hasn’t said anything, as I still talk reasonably and even engage her with more humor in those hours, I’ve also noticed that the house is stress-free, no arguments or hard conversations when I consume too.

Here’s my problem guys, deep inside me I know I’m doing something wrong, which is why I’m posting this anyway, even though I feel peaceful when I consume. I wasn’t raised this way, my father was never an alcohol person. I feel something is wrong and somehow I feel like I’m drowning and need help (laughs). I don’t know if this will get worse overtime or if I might be tempted to do more than this in future. I know I can never do drugs, smoke etc but this highness things is eating me, I just finished the last bottle of Strumbras spirit now which I shared with a visitor, I now think it’s even more pleasurable sharing a drink with someone. I’ve ran out of bottles now and I’m considering restocking but I’m led by the spirit to post this, I don’t want preaching, I just want to read other ppl’s comment and experience and how they navigated this phase of life (midlife crisis), preferably elders in the house if any, if you’re 40 and below and have no useful contribution pls don’t comment. I need this to get to FP. Thanks.

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Flashywalls1:
The info has been reversed back

I have re-edited