₦airaland Forum

Hanseel1:
I can't agree or disagree with this post.

The sad truth is many Nigerian men marry just to have kids and not really love, the cooking part -by now you'd have known that it was how they were brought up to believe Men aren't meant to cook. My Uncle has 3 children, two are girls, The boy and the first girl are grown up but all house chores are placed on the girl alone, she's the one who washes a 19 year old boy's clothes because the family believes a boy shouldn't do those.

Nigerian women know the real intentions of most men but because of pressures to get married, running out of time to find someone to heep financial problems on they still rush into marriage.

Both genders are at fault here because both men and women are self centered and are fighting for their own survival or interests.

thanks.

when you say ' most men' are you reffering to guys below 30 who are comfortable and want to settle down ?

are you single or married ?

if you are single have you come to the point where pressure is being mounted on you to marry ? are you with the love of your life or contemplating just settling down with the next homely girl who is also interested in marriage ?


if you are married, was it to the love of your life?
or to a lady who was available at the time ?( even if you both have learnt to love each other or not)

queenfav:
Please don't let instagram and Twitter standards give u cause to worry.Marriage isn't something you tick off, like an item on your grocery shopping list. I have always known that whoever i will marry has to be a man whose presence is way better than my solitude (which i love by the way). Having that knowledge, i was never under any pressure, even when family and friends wanted me to. It's ideal to marry because you both want to be with each other for the long haul and can't imagine life apart from your partner.

For marriage, there is no surefire way to it . Just pray for a man that genuinely loves you, has the fear of God (that's the only way he can be the husband you desire) and is happy to see you happy. Shikena!

Marriage isn't a play play something. What would keep the couple going is that love, mutual respect and friendship they share. If that's absent, it's hell on earth o. That's why choosing your heart's desire is better than just settling for anyone because time is ticking fast.

true , sadly its not always like that for everyone and they just have to make do with who's available and ready .

I pray I never fall into that category in Jesus name

thanks once more and have a good night.

queenfav:
I doubt that's the case. A man can enjoy all that without getting married.. Before I met hubby, he dated a babe that was cooking correct edikainkong with all the necessary obstructions, she washes even curtain and cleans his house life a paid help. Did he marry her? No!
I believe a man decides to marry when he meets an unforgettable woman, one he can't imagine walking away from.
Besides, babymama drama is better than some wives drama o,that's a 24/7 subscription.So i really doubt that's the case. In my experience, my hubby married me for majorly companionship. Having kids is secondary.. I am so sure of that, because if he needed an in-house chef and Cleaner, he wouldn't have married me,he had an overdose with his ex.

thank you very much

when I saw that post on instagram it was as if some sort of reality just hit me but I didn't want to conclude that was why I brought it here onto nairaland. it was a bit scary for me because if that was the case I can just imagine being in a mechanical marriage simply because 'we have to' not 'we want to'

I saw your wedding pics on Instagram and your hubby looks mature ,its a breath of fresh air that a mature man like that (I presume in his early 30's ) wasn't forced into marriage based on the expectations of society but chose his heart's desire.

drayboi:
pls, what's the code to the glory yakata bundle?

I don't know how to port just call their customer care

Even if I haven't watched the show yet I presume you are a fela durotoye supporter or Mr fela himself

Fela wasn't the first presidential aspirant to be interviewed . The first guy flopped totally by giving stupid answers to simple questions.


Donald duke has also been interviewed and not only did he project a calm and confident demeanour he answered all his questions well

Right now ,I'm using the glo yakata bundle and I don't experience poor network where I stay. in addition, they give you bonus airtime and mb for every recharge and subscription you make


The network ish however isn't the same for everyone as good signal depends on your location

I'll advice you to give it a try with 100 naira subscription and see how it works before you take the plunge.

These ladies aren't sexy they are just n@ked

Hello familylanders,


So I stumbled upon this while browsing through Instagram and I wanted to know your opinion on how true it is


I would have taken it to the romance section but I want to hear the opinion of mature nairalanders who are either married or mature enough to get hitched.

Please I would appreciate you not only give one word answers but tell us about your personal experience or that of someone you know.

In addition to what the guy said I would like to add having kids

So in essence does it mean Nigerian men only get married because they want someone to cook, clean and have kids for them without dealing with babymama drama?


Toks2008
Stagger
Ishilove
Chiefswetus
Cruchenutti
queenfav
Explorers


Mynd44, lalasticlala , seun

pics pls

merely looking at the pictures I'm already developing a headache
I hate monotonous boring jobs like crazy eg picking / washing beans

lies

its impossible

thats probably an acid peel .
when an acid peel is used on skin it reveals a more healthier skin.

Simple acid peels are for acne and blackheads while the stronger ones are used to get rid of tatoos.

Cosplay:
Let's have the VIN please, Thank you.

hehehehe
vin police

the both look beautiful


its very easy to start a lip line

just order for 100- 1000 lip gloss or lipsticks on Ali baba ,print your brand name on it and boom you are in business.

Princedapace:
My training is 8k bro and comes with all the software you need to get going.

what's the niche?

noobody:
Hot deals

do you only sell your phones on nairaland?

FunnyDude:
generationz you're now monitoring my post on this forum. Lols.

Never mind, it's a joke.

Can you please tell me more about the causes and implications of such fishy smell among the female gender. I just encountered such recently, sincerely it's not funny.

no I'm not monitoring you, I'm following you because you are a freelance writer and I'm also one ( check my signature)

about the fishy smell, I believe google will explain it better than I can . but from what I heard it can be caused by untreated toilet infection.


I assume its the Lady you are trying to run from that has the fish like smell , no wonder you are very desperate to let go.

FunnyDude:
So you brought my issue here right? I'm the dude the op was talking about. With your fish smelling cunt.

You now said men are scum, right?


Tell them what happen between we both..



Na joke I dey ooo

telling her her something smells like fish was also a joke abi?

donk552:
Contact us for your bale of shoe

how much would those shoes be?

GAZZUZZ:
Thread is dedicated to solving car issues Remotely.

oluwaseunla is an experienced automobile technician and will gladly answer your car related issues.

Let the posts begin.

hello gazzuzz
oluwaseunla

I have been wondering, why is it that Nigerians don't buy Chevrolet cars despite the fact that the ones sold on auction export and other sites are very cheap?

cruchenutii:
Hmmm this is a trick question, i won't answer it

lol

appsdope:
I need Instagram accounts to buy. 50-100k organic followers and must be active.

hello

where you able to get an Instagram account with organic followers to buy ?

appsdope:
Create another. Don't just jump into articles. Go to e-book writing or even white paper writing.

hello please what's white paper writing about

HelpMySoul:
he will just deactivate and resurface with another moniker. Kapish?

his fullnname will be helpful then

cruchenutii:
It's like you are already fallen for a guy on NL hence this statement, so you won't be victim.

I honestly believe this story is Fake. I can't even tell my Male friends about my sex life with side chics in the past or present. Not to talk of a girl I'm seriously dating. None of my exes even know who my friends are, so there is no weak link.

hehehe

bia cruchenutii are you trying to assure me of something or what ?

*side eyes*

somebody will still capture that turtle and eat it.

Loveisascam:
My experience dating a 28 years old stupid boy - Age and place of employment does not necessarily mean maturity.

I and my bf have been friends online before we finally decided to meet. After meeting, we mutually decided to start dating.

Unknown to me my bf had shared me with two of his friends to tempt me. Friend 1 chatted me up but I didn't give him any attention so he stopped all conversations with me. Friend two chatted me up too but somehow he was able to get my attention. I however clearly told him I had a boyfriend and was not interested in any romantic relationship with him. He told me he didn't have any issues with it but that we could still be friends.

I am a very sincere and open person and so I told my bf about my friendship with Friend two. I usually share screenshots of my conversations with Friend two with my bf. I did not hide any thing from him because I had no intentions to cheat. I was very transparent.

Little did I know that my bf on the other hand was also busy sharing everything that has transpired between us including very sensitive information like our sexual styles, the state of my vagina and even my financial status with his friend.

My bf told friend two to stop the game and leave me alone. Friend two refused. According to him, he realised I was not the slut my boyfriend painted me to be and thought I will be a great catch for a girlfriend.

To discourage him, my bf started slandering me to him.He even went to the extent of telling his friend that
the last time I visited, he didn't enjoy the sex because my vagina was wide and that I had probably slept with some people before meeting him.

I had told friend two that the next time I visit my bf, I will endeavour to make arrangement so we can see too since him and bf stay in the same location. However on visiting my bf, I changed my mind and rather told him to visit my base if he really wants us to meet. He agreed to come around. I told my bf about my plan to meet friend two but didn't tell him that friend two had agreed to come to my base.

Friend two told my bf of his plan to come and visit me in my base and that finally he is going to have his way with me. My bf tried to discourage him from coming but he refused.

My bf was then forced to confess what he had done but told me not to let his friend know he has told me.

I kept chatting and receiving calls from friend two without revealing to him that I knew what he was up to.

After 3 days, I decided to let friend two know that my bf told me about their game. He was shocked and started opening up all my bf told him about me.

He told me my bf never really loved me and that he was with me because he didn't have to spend. I didn't ask him for money and even when I come to visit, I don't ask for tp.

Friend two also told me that my bf said I will be useful in his plans to relocate to Canada as he will convince me he wants us to marry, and that I should support him relocate first and then later when he is stable he will come back to Nigeria so we can wed and then he can bring me over. Meanwhile his actual plan is to relocate to Canada and marry a white girl for citizenship. I would never have suspected this could be my bf plans because he works in an averagely good place where he earns averagely well.

Friend two then advised me never to reveal my financial status to any man and to be selfish when I love. He said he still genuinely wants to date me and that he is sorry.

I am not stupid though. Friend 2 and my bf are idiots. I cannot date any one of them. I have blocked both of them.

This experience has shattered me though. I will never ever trust any man again even the man I marry. I used to believe in the idea of shared finances in marriage but not anymore. No managing with any man.

Men are scum. Love is a scam. The so called bf is a nairalander and I know he makes sensible comments here to deceive innocent girls who don't actually know he is a fool and a scammer.

abeg share the names of your ex's monicker so innocent girls don't enter his trap

Eponyeeboz:
Davido must marry this girl o.
If he doesn't, her case would be worse than that of an overused naija-used car.

it can't be as bad as your girlfriends own

there are three things involved its either
she's fat she stinks to the high heavens
or you guys are having a party with her spirit husband.

hehehe

hehehe
I saw this woman at Shiloh last year

aunty abeg no one cares.

if you like go and collect award from chimaamanda


las las na you dey feed the horseband

InvertedHammer:
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You ain't Zuckerberg/Gates.

They are not living simple lives by the way--bulletproof cars, body guards, private jet, are not simple way of living.

They are not loud because they have nothing to prove to anyone just as Dangote is not flaunting.
People that flaunt are looking for validation.

/

huuuh

that's what I'm saying bruh

I'm not them now doesn't mean I can't be richer tommorow and when I'm rich I'll live a luxurious simple life like them.