₦airaland Forum

delkuf:
Please I need your advice. Is so happened that I know this lady for years now. we are good friends. But the problem is, I know that as a Christian we can't really get married because she is a Muslim. So I have been trying to keep the relationship on just us being friends, even though I love her and I know She has this little feelings for me. If I had been serious, I know we would have gotten married or close to that, but I keep avoiding her and sometimes I do it on purpose.

Now, where I get really confused is that, any time i pray for God's will in marriage, she keeps coming to my mind. This is not infatuation or something. It has been happening over and over again. I know God also talk to us through giving us this deep impression in our heart.

It was so deep on day that I told the Holy Spirit that I can't marry her. I spoke with my pastor this week concerning this issue, and he said it is not possible for God to tell us to marry a Muslim and this thing keeps coming. am really confuse. because of this, have not been praying concerning marriage.

PLEASEEEEEE, I need Christians to comment on this.

hmm
I almost said a Big no until I read your full story.

I read the story of a lady who was also in your shoes.

she was a virgin Sunday school teacher and very prayerful. After many failed relationships due to her virginity ,she went to God in prayer.

God directed her to the Facebook account of her old secondary school friend . But the problem was HE WAS A MUSLIM.

she was shocked god what are you saying ,she asked.


that very week the guy contacted her . They began to chat.

God told her not to say anything . she was confusedbbut still held on in faith and kept praying for him.


they were just casual friends for about two years, then he stopped chating with her.
Few months later he contacted her again


He said he lost his mom and in the process of dealing with the pain he gave his life to Christ


He later asked her out and in a few months they both got happily married with her virginity still intact . she told the story two years after looking so happy and blesses with the hubby




do you understand the story?

I know someone whom God showed her something s about her hubby but told her to wait for five good years . she did and is happily married now.


Yea she might be your wife as revealed by the holyspirit .


your pastor isn't helping issues . He or some respected elder in the church that you trust should take up the matter in church. Better still if you want to tell someone to help you pray about it, don't tell the person the name of the girl. just tell them you need finding a wife through prayer.


or why don't you go on a fast so you could receive more revelations from the holy spirit


or tell the holyspirit to pleasssse confirm thorough five men of God. don't divulge anything to them

or tell your born again family members to pray on your behalf.


she might be the one but you might have to wait. before waiting make sure you your revelation is very clear so that you don't waist your time on the wrong person


if she's the one


you will start skabashing on babes head.


wake up every night .for at least one hour pray in tongues concerning her . pray for her to be born again ,for her to be mature in Christ ,and for her to be submissive and anything you want from god to be in her. ( if you like don't do this part it will be your choice if you want to marry an unprocessed material that you may end up having issues with )

I know a lady who a pastor said sis Ruth this is your husband but wait first he needs some work to be done (he wasn't very born again then) . Sis Ruth said, no pastor this one will run away again like the others.


pastor said OK go ahead and Marry him.

she went ahead, from miscarriage,to serious beating, to embarrassment up and down to the lady going insane. She is now a shadow of herself.

Moicearmany:
anything you feel you want to drop. btw, study well and hard and dont be carried away by bad reviews you read online. stay focused and go for your dream. send me your email

it's on my signature

Moicearmany:
Have got an 18 hour video mainly on Amazon and SEO. you might need it too but for a token

how much is it

cruchenutii:
You really made sense with this Post, I felt someone while reading that Tweet because most ladies who play hard to get were not actually promiuscious during their youthful days. They were just too picky, not that they lived a Woeful life. There is nothing wrong in being picky, It's just that Life does not leave too many choices for Women for a long period.

Often times when I talk to some ladies in Church, they paint me a picture of the kind of Guy they want to date. Issue is the few guys who fit the criteria are either Married or dating someone else. Also Society already makes it demeaning for a lady to chase a guy, people will see her as a desperado, so often times when Women see a Guy that perfectly fits their [ Dream man ], they just sit down & give him green light hoping he would respond & then keep Crying & dying inside. Or then later go & cry in their rooms.

Women always forget that they CANNOT get to choose when to settle down, they usually just persuade their spouse to hasten the process. It really feels sad when you know your life depends on another person who can just decide to break up with you at the verge of your relationship.

Oh yes, Life is not fair, It has never been.
It is not about being a Slay Queen, it's about taking right decision.

It is also Important to Note that Most Slay Queens usually take better decisions that the Good Girls in Church who is waiting for a Saint on a Horse.
When I hear I'm keeping my Virginity for the Man that deserves it, I often wonder if the Guy is also keeping his Virginity for you as well. Crap.

wow this is soo true and wise . I kinda relate with this.

used to be so picky till my first relationship went sour (I left him) then my entire orientation changed.


I soo agree with how its unfortunate that we can't propose and can't marry ourselves.



it's nice to hear from you my nairaland friend

rev2214:
ANDRIOD PHONES SAMPLES SECTION B (ORIGINAL)

ALCATEL 5.1" IDOL 4 (6055b)
Model No: 6055U
IMEI 014658001911196
Version 6.0.1
Storage 16.00GB
RAM 2GB
Single Sim 4G LTE
Memory Slot
Camera
Battery In - Built
N30,500

SAMSUNG GALAXY 5"
Model No: SM-G903F
IMEI : 355001070157820
Version 5.1.1
Storage 16.00GB
RAM 2GB
Single Sim 4G LTE
Memory Slot
Camera
Battery: Original
N35,500

LENOVO 5.8"
Model No: A7000-a
IMEI: 869045025265930
IMEI: 869045025265948
Version 6.0.1
Storage 8.00GB
RAM 2GB
Dual Sim 4G LTE
Memory Slot
Camera
Battery: 2900mAH
N27,500

WIKO 5" Android
Model No: U Feel
IMEI 014658001911196
Version 6.0.1
Storage 16.00GB
RAM 3GB
Finger Print
Dual Sim 4G LTE
Memory Slot
Camera
Battery In - Built
N32,500

5.8" HTC DESIRE - D826T
Model No: OPHC1
IMEI : 35619706008004
Version: Protected
Storage 16.00GB
RAM 2GB
Dual Sim 4G LTE
Memory Slot
Camera
Battery In - Built
N33,500

Those samples and prices are for unit. Bulk purchase please chat with me.


ANDROID PHONES
SECTION B (COPY)

LENOVO 5.5"
Model s898t+
Version 4.4.4
Dual sim
RAM 2GB
Storage 5.00GB+
Camera (front & Back)
Battery 2000mAh
N15,500

Alcatel 5"
Model 5044g
Version 7.0
Dual sim
1GB
8:00GB
Camera (front & Back)
Battery 2000mAh
N15,500

ZTE 5" Q518T
Version 5.1.0
Storage 8.00
RAM 1GB
Camera (front & back)
2000mAH
N16,500

Huawei 5.5"
Model Mate 9 pro
Android version 6.1
Dual sim
Camera
4G LTE
1GB Ram
64.00GB
1800mAh
N18,500

Samsung Galaxy s6
Sm-G920F
Version 5.0.2
Storage 32.00GB
RAM 3GB
Camera (front & Back)
N15,500

SM-A9200
Version 5.0.2
Storage 32.00GB
3GB Ram
Camera ( front & Back)
Unit price N15,500

Brand New
Samsung Galaxy Core Prime
Model No: G360F
Dual sim, 4G-lite
Screen size:4.5"
Memory: 8GB ROM, 1GB RAM
Camera: Back and front 5-2MP
Battery: 2,000mAh
Unit price 25,500 negotiable
All Accessories inbox

are those Samsung phones original or clone

pansophist:
Your argument is premised on the notion that consensual sex should only happen when the man has accepted to marry the woman. I do not subscribe to that line of thoughts.

If marriage was her ultimate goal, she should have made i clear before they bleeped. Just like conductor tells you the price of fare before boarding.

People have relationship with partners they are certain they won’t marry (because he/she is poor, short, ugly etc), and there is nothing wrong with that. It is not the mans fault that she expected marriage because she loved him and had sex with him.

Having sex with a man does not make him indebted to her and the payment should be marriage.

They bleeped each other you know?

you have gotten my whole point wrong . I was never talking of marriage. Even if the lady wasn't ugly the relationship might not have led to marriage for other reasons eg family problems

my point is I'm sure the guy knew that the lady wanted a real relationship when he met her but konji made him overlook her ugliness just to have a bite of the apple. after browsing her website he is feeling like a cat to break up with her.

should he breakup with her ? definitely . its the best for both of them. she shouldn't stay in such a relationship and he shouldn't marry out of pity.


But he should tell her like a man . shebi he has been macho on bed, let him be macho I'm speech too

if she breaks down or hates him he should be ready to deal with the consequences
I'm sure one of this is going to happen.


Don't lead someone on when their comma is so obvious.

CHoccolaTE:
I didn't read this bullshit past the first few lines, you just wasted your time.
Nobody cares if you were a former Slayqueen or olosho before.

Its topics like this that demean women and make it look like they are living their lives for men instead of building their future and happiness.

OK

if you are guilty of what the writer was talking about you better give yourself sense

CHoccolaTE:
If you are actually a woman then your foolishness is off the charts.

You and the twitter user that made this topic.

Overuse of bodyparts ke?

yes for a retired slay queen.

a girl who has all the attention and has slept with everyman who says she is beautiful and has the cash to follow up.

I know what the writer is saying because I was almost in this position though I'm young and I never was a slay queen though

sometimes being beautiful or sexy can get into a ladys head. if you've always heard it from when you were young it can affect you in a negative way . you get used to all the attention from both males and females


you feel as regards the person dating you ,you are the one doing them a favour.

you feel you deserve the best and fairytale lifestyle and anyman who falls short a little bit is the off, after all there are like 20 guy s ready to worship you if you leave this one.

so you don't learn how to manage a relationship ,but leave at the slightest provocation




its the same for men and women . But for men the only thing they might suffer is that while their mates have kids in their teenage years that's when the guy is just starting .
also he might end up with a gold digger when he a old and wants a younger wife.



however women suffer this too and its worse for an woman than for a man

as a woman gets older her options reduce that's life for you. Men want younger sexier ladies.
God help her if she was loose in her 20's and has slept with every guy around .

The point the lady is trying to make is that if as a young lady you find a good man try to build with him There is no perfect man and we shouldn't be deceived by those worshipping us now.

donstan18:
What a bitter truth that will leave ladies in their 30s angry and upset.100% of Nigerian unmarried ladies in their 30s are guilty of this and can relate to it.

It's a mistake they can never correct.

It's a pity we still have most ladies in their 20s following the footsteps of these bitter unmarried ladies in their 30s, what they fail to to understand is that no married lady in her 30s will come to social media to frustrate and sound bitter like these unmarried aged ladies.

Any reasonable lady should question herself, read meaning into what the lady said, she made a lot of sense, desist from these unmarried ladies in their 30s, they are not happy, no matter how they pretend to be happy on social media, they are not.


If you are in your 20s, be careful and beware of these ladies in their 30s, else REALITY will hit you like it did to them.


Nice thread OP

not all ladies in their 30s misuesd their years.

and not all ladies who married in their 20s were holy or are happy I'm their marriages

you are intelligent please use it always

kinibigdil:
Unfortunately they see this message and scroll because they can't grow with a man, yea it is difficult, even the man that is still hustling doesn't like himself if he doesn't have money, they want to enjoy their youth na, na pastor go suffer am later while ripping them off for money for deliverance etc.

I know one now you know what she post on her what sup story now? My mistake, my problem, non of your business! Because I was trying to advice her

I agree 100% percent with the lady

but must you guys on naira land always attribute everything to money.

growing with someone has more to do with a lot of things than money

haven't you heard of girls that breakup with guys who have spent so Much on them

the lady is talking about character.

A girl/ man who is used to getting lots of attention wouldn't value any relationship even if she/ he is dating an angel


its the same with a guy who is a player.

The only reason why a lady has to be careful as she gets older the attention from the opposite sex wanes.

Biglittlelois:
but guys do exactly the same thing so what exactly is she saying

because even if a man is 45 he can still marry a 20 year old girl

but it's not the same for a 45 year old unmarried woman who uses to slay in her days.

apart from the fact that she's old all the overuse of her body parts will be obvious

pansophist:
And since when does sleeping with a girl means the man owes her marriage?

he dosent owe her marriage.


But he shouldnt have led her on in the first place


its not like he didn't see her face the first day they met or when she was pulling her clothes.


He shouldn't come here behaving like this or isn't he a man ?


He should boldly tell her "babe I like you but you are worwor .I don't see you as the mother the mother of my kids.

he should dance to the tune he started playing


when he wanted to sleep with her he was bold as a lion but now that he wants to break up with her he is acting like a cat.

Breaking up with her is the best decision for her own good.

but op should be ready to face whatever consequences that come up .



bbyby01

swizzdre:
hmm, that's a lot of work. I'll see if I can do that sha

time them

buy a new simcard and send him the text message .
tell him if he wants to find out he should come at soso time

or
when they are at it send him a message to come home now without calling his wife.

or

record the moaning sound and send it to his WhatsApp lol

bbyby01:
I met this girl through some mutual friends online, we kinda knew ourselves but have never met. I started some mild flirting with her online and then she fell for it totally. And gradually, we fell in love. She is an intense lover I must say. She told her friends and sisters about me and I have even spoken to some of them on phone. The girl is so submissive, she will do anything I tell her to do. She tells me of how she had been heartbroken and how she was never going to love anyone until we met, how she is grateful to God for sending me her way and all. She made me promise not to break her heart and all and one time we had a quarrel, she cried for 2 days for fear that I was gonna break up with her.
Finally she came to visit me. She cooks so well and she took care of me very well too. I also loved the fact that she was so real, like immediately we entered my house, she started taking off her clothes, and asked me to help her take off her trousers (that's the first time we were seeing each other) and then asked me for the bathroom. And when we made out, I also realised she hadn't had sex for a very long time, she was very good in bed too. Me sef I gave her the best nacking she had ever received.
Problem now is that what I saw is different from the picture online. I actually don't like her facial features. That means I am gonna end the relationship at some point. It scares me because she might kill herself if I do. But I can't settle down with a girl whose face I don't like. I don't know how I'm gonna end it.
I could use the excuse of her education. She just has o level. Or the excuse of her not being my tribe, or the excuse that my mother will not like her (true but not an issue) I just don't know.
I don't want to end it leaving her with the notion that there is something wrong with her because that will hurt her more. Or should I get another girl pregnant and use that as an excuse?
Please advice me

how old are you

pansophist:
Ogbeni shut up jare. Will you also marry an ugly or/and broke man?

The poor man will most likely take up responsibilities after marriage, at least make the woman fine and give am fine pikin

Attraction is important in marriage. It is the reason why you can easily forgive your partner after some intense knacking due to how attractive she is. Marriage should be enjoyed not endured. Whether you like it or not, men are attracted to fertility, looks, and youthfulness, and preaching won't change it.

The attraction for humans is not an intellectual thing, but natural forces in men that can't be tamed or control.

so why sleep with her first?

I am sure you would say the same thing if it was your daughter.

FunnyDude:
I gave the person money to teach me privately, so as to boost his attention.. This is my own psychological marketing strategy to get what I want.

that's good and you tried considering the fact that you were didnt have much then
.



I don't know how to go about this VPN ish



I really need to register on contently and the other site you told us of, considering fiverr is over saturated.

Moji12:
jokes apart our dreams could actually come true n our filled if he emerges, hu knows??

Yeah

but he has said he can never run.

I agree with him. It would corrupt or destroy him

what Nigeria needs is a strong military take over by men if integrity.

spongeisback:
Rich church, Poor members, I agree with you money just flew into Oledepo's account. Isn't god great?!

more like a church who knows how to manage her resources well


tell your president and leaders to come to winners chapel for private tutorials from Bishop oyedepo




oyedepo for president

that tatoo on her arm is disgusting mehn

CrescentMoon:
I'm trying to see how op sounds like me, but I can't.

loooool
I know you are in your thirties and earlier this year you seemed to be having a mental breakdown about getting married this year.

kikikiki

Tehila07:
I had thought that love has bigger roles to play in marriage. I was wrong. I got married at 36 when I thought I had seen someone who loved me.

While dating, I was not spending money on her because she has a job and was not complaining. I ride okada for a living, hoping to go into a business soon. Before marriage, I used to have spare cash of about 10k always. Even if that 10k is spent on something, I would recover it within a week. She told me that if money she spends on feeding and what I spend on feeding are added together, we will feed ourselves, and save more. But since we got married, I labour hard to ensure she has whatever she needs. Now I'm stretched to the limit and can't cope anymore. She has money in her bank account, but said she's saving for raining days. Anytime she wants to perform online banking, I do it for her. Two days ago, I wanted to buy data, I transferred money from her account to the seller, brought out the money and told her seller accepts bank transfer and I don't want to go and queue in the bank for lodgement. I would have informed her first, but she was busy attending to visitors and her phone was with me. She was angry and said "I will change my password." I replied that the only favor she did me was saving my journey to the bank. She said if she has cash in hand, she would be tempted to spend it. So, it's me that should not have savings?

I don't feel like having sex again, because of the depression and she is now angry that I'm turning her down. Now I'm planning to leave home and return whenever my situation improves. She can cope because she has enough money.

Why the financial pressure on me is too much is that we are both 36 years old and friends keep trouping to our house to wish her well. As a man that manages resources, I entertained guests from my family once for the past two months we got married because it's not my town but hers. She keeps asking me for money to entertain guests. Some friends made it a habit of visiting twice weekly, while she keeps showing me off. When she asked for money for food yesterday and I told her I had no money, she has been moody since then, thinking that I'm hiding money from her.

This was a woman, that, last week, when I said I couldn't afford a particular asoebi that only concerns me because it's costly, went to the market, bought it, and took it to my tailor. Judging from her recent actions, I won't wear that cloth except I'm able to refund the money.

P.S: Love is just a rhetoric - humanity died long ago.

is this crescentmoon

iLegendd:
So, if you have a question about Coursera, let me know or Google it.

is learning there free?

FunnyDude:
Sure I do. But time is my limiting factor;I can't leave my deadlines and start tutoring.
By the way, free things is not even valued by people. I tip someone and also rough it out on my own.

My motivating factor : Hunger

you tip for what?

resurgent2019:
I saw the video and I was a bit indifferent. Seed sowing is for those who have the money and have faith that it will multiply. You cannot force your way into people’s pocket to extract a million naira if they don’t have it. The woman is blameless in this regard.

As for the U.K.,that place has fallen for islam. Anybody that thinks the U.K. will reclaim her place on the world stage after brexit is joking. No wonder Donald Trump and the EU keep hitting them where it hurts. The U.K. is a bygone world power. Their best days are behind them.

The petition to ban the preacher woman might stand.

sowing should be done in love for god nor because we see god as a money doubler.
the christian church today is too preoccupied with money.
read the book of acts nobody was giving with the sole aim of becoming rich. Love was the main purpose then the blessings come later. if the blessings don't come we still give because we love


tell me the truth
as bad as Nigeria is how many people do you think can comfortably sow 1million from legit businesses. these pastors encourage people to steal just to be able to give mummy or daddy and sow to the lord.

this selling of anointing for money is what Peter rebuked simon the sorcerer for .


Look around you the end is at hand and judgement must start from the church

the time has come for the chaff to be shaken off and the wheat be kept in the barn.
the fakes must be separated from the genuine

HigherEd:
Everyone has a right to preach whatever they want to as long as it doesn't promote hatred, physical or psychological harm or lawlessness.

Every adult also has the right to listen to whatever they desire and make their informed choices.

Human beings are eternally diverse in thought, ideology and value therefore it is tyranny for any individual or government to Insist that things must be done according to their own ways or dictates. This is why whoever created that petition must be some joyless, hopeless and sad individuals who simply may die of heart attack over other peoples choices and way of life. People should learn to mind their business. ..If I do seed sowing it is not your father's business because no be your papa or mama give me money...

I'm glad the Nigerian clergy is standing by her...
Lalasticlala

do you know that what she and every pastor that does what she does is guilty of SIMONY


selling the anointing for money

it was the same nonsense that simon the sorcerer wanted to try when peter rebuked him harshly .

the reason why Christianity is the way it is in Nigeria is because there is no direct check on what people say on the alter by the Elders. can and pfn have failed us .


The anointing was freely received and should be freely given to the PoOR
DIDN'T JESUS COME TO PREACH TO THE POOR
how many poor people can afford 1000$ or 1million naira.

I surprised that you are in support of this nonsense.

FunnyDude:
Yes Nairalander.

Now if I'm looking at my laptop, psychologically I'm seeing virtual Atm there.. Life

lol


are you open to assisting people who might need your help

Malevonent:
ok, he told me between 3hrs and 24hrs, which is about elapsing, and i used the word, MAYBE SCAM, with a promise to update the house when/if he pulls tru. just throwing it out there so people would be careful..money is hard to come by

this is what i said, since he hasnt pulled tru, am yet to update the house.
if its so easy, mek he send the data first..and payment made after buyer receives data

did you receive your data

iLegendd:
I hope you had a good night rest, Honey?

yep.

morning

BiafranBushBoy:
Can he succeed on Fiverr?

Yes, No.

He has no interest becoming a freelancer, so I skipped that part on purpose.

He doesn't wana make money, he needs a conventional job. So, I just told him the first step that would enable him get hired.

Morning!

hmm
that's true though

Many people still see conventional jobs as the way forward in this 21st century.


Good morning

iLegendd:
Do you know how to kiss? I feel like kissing. My lips are virgin lips and they are shy.

you want to try one of your tricks on me abi

gerrarahia mehn.


thank God for your recovery from that sickness though


Goodnight.

iLegendd:
What are you insinuating? Please, stop — I'm a virgin.

is that what you tell your mummy?

do your parents even kniw that you have spoil finish on nairaland

answer my question .

iLegendd:
Clear throat. Goat and yam can't sleep in one room.

OMG
*sighs* was she a v