₦airaland Forum

FarFromAverage:
Brother you can't test somebody completely until you guys stay under the same roof for a long time.

You begin to accumulate more experience about life as you age, and gosh! . .
She knows how to play the game perfectly.

darediamond:
Yeah, TRUTH IS ALWAYS BITTER!!

grandstar:
NL is full of people who just want to condemn. (Read Matthew 7:1-4). Even the best of girls fall into the hands of abusive men.

Bluntemperor:
There is no wrong to love,but something is wrong if you are not a professional and you are going to Europe-Germany and Sweden for a love affairs!.
•you are not a serious being because of language barriers(you should understand their language first).
•you should have their education at back of your mind(stop being fooled that one oyinbo-man or woman in love-it's deceitful) for any Nigerian or African to think they can gate-crash into a structured economy of the West, America inclusive)
Stop deceiving yourself for any Western person spending money on you -i have seen a Labourer from the West that stayed in Abuja Hotel for over 2years-just to change dollars into Naira(you know the Currency denominations is high),yet at home he is nobody.Our girls are too loosed!!. Shameful!!!.

darediamond:
[s]He promised because HE already knows most Naija girls are Mentally LAZY.
And Mental Laziness is the Root of becoming a self-made Liability over men.

A French guy who won big lottery once said that Nigerian Ladies are the easiest to trick of all African ladies.
Does that not speak volumes about you ladies here?
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MiztaFabuloz:
[s]If not that you are dull, what's the difference. So because a man promises you a job abroad you will just carry yourself and jump for it without any plans if things don't go so smooth. If its a 10 year old girl that was deceived, we will understand, not a full grown adult ready marriage jumping into such a thing and now crying out. Now I am not saying its not unfortunate she found herself in such a situation, the truth is always bitter because she is just one out of millions that are overseas and many are doing well irrespective of how they left the country.
If you are telling me that as you are now, a man will promise job and heaven on earth to follow him oversea and you just jump at the opportunity, then you should know what am talking about in my first comment[/s].

Kiddllc:
He is not far from the truth.. Living on promises is foolish. You want a good life earn it. There are Nigerian ladies making legitimate money in foreign countries. You don't need the promises of a white man u just met without ur own realistic plan towards ur happiness.

MiztaFabuloz:
These things mostly happen to gold diggers and ladies that really have nothing to offer. How many hard working ladies can you see telling same story. There are millions of African ladies overseas doing very fine so the fact few have bitter stories don't mean its a bitter story for everyone.
You follow a man overseas just to go and eat, sleep, have sex, enjoy life without any plan for yourself and you expect to live a beautiful life. Your name is sorry.

DKM123:
I don't blame this girls. We see our men even following old grandmas and marrying them just to go to the abroad. They thought they were in love and were going to have a better life abroad and there is nothing wrong with that. It is the devilish men who maltreated them that should rot in hell.

Mayhem999:
It is 4001 as we speak..
My neighbor filed his own application yesterday.
That his wife is too beautiful and won't stop attracting men like flies.

pocohantas:
Lol. You are a woman, you are only going to get blamed or advised to tolerate. I hope you are not planning to divorce him?


I would never divorce a Nigerian horseband, not when[b] so many men die of heart attack and brief illnesses[/b].

Offpoint:
Your husband is a public díck, he's got passion for boobs and big nyanshes, you've approached him to addressed the issue but his dîck is "bizy body"....

My piece of advice, don't wait until he comes home and give you free STD...
And don't think of leaving him for now, look for your ex or find a new man who can chat dirty and send you his dîck pictures (Don't send yours, you can sort)

Intentionally leave your phone for your husband go through, if he saw it... His reaction should let you know your next steps.
Let him feel what you've been feeling too. If he wants divorce, divorce him... Bible support divorce if adultery is involved.

If he lays hands on you, drug him and chop his dîck off....


Thank you...

By the way, who says Messi is not a Goat?

emeijeh:
Wait, your brothers warned you about him?
Did u guys grow up in the same neighborhood or what ?

womanscorned:
Before I got married to my husband we had a kind of perfect relationship. I just thought he was the perfect guy. He always checked on me. I did feel like he was marrying me for ulterior motives and everyone else just thought so too. My brothers warned me that he is not going to treat me right but I just feel drawn to him. I thought he just really cared about me. He seemed different.

I introduced him to my dad and my dad asked if I was sure and yes at that moment I was. Then shortly before the wedding his true colors started to come out. I never checked his phone but then a friend caught her boyfriend cheating so I decided to just check it. Guys I understand people say that if you go looking you will find something but I actually don't really believe that why is there always something that is the main point. I checked his phone and found one boob pic and pics of his old exes. I was SO shocked. Honestly, I never thought I would find anything. He told me that he recently got his phone updated and the pic was a pic of a celebrity. But I was smarter than that I saw that it was actually an "Auntie" that sent the pic so basically one of his contacts. I was so shocked, didn't know what to do. I told my brother he told me to just pray and I did and I felt like he was still the one he apologized and assured me that he was going to change.

Fast forward to a few months later I see a girl's pic in his phone his good friend's girlfriend and he was commenting on her looks very gross-like. I lost it and we fought but he assured me it was just guy talk.

Then again I recently found him talking to his good friend about another girl's boobs and he never tells me he loves me any longer. Never really truly cares. He even brought up divorce if I wanted to do it. So I am just kind of stuck. I do want to get a divorce honestly if my parents and his would not get involved. But we have a child together. I am not sure what to do right now. Why would he do this to me? Why get married if you don't love the person. I understand that people say guys will be guys and locker room talk but if you don't love that person deeply and truly then why marry them and make a vow before God.

Now I don't know what to do. He is always so rude in the way he talks. I can't remember the last time he took me out and even if he did I am sure it would be a dry conversation. I think he really is just worried about what people say and not really losing me any longer. He has this thing where he wants to always look like a nice guy. So my question is if you were in this position how would you leave? Oh he also looks at my friends and claims he never was when it is pretty obvious. He drank a little and then started winking at my friend.

Girlwhocares:
Yes,have been dating my bf for (15yrs)he was my first nd the only one have ever loved,our problem started when my dad said he witnessed where exhibited an unruly characters to some elders and also cos of the friends he moves with recently as at then and that he wasnt comfortable with our relationship (which i pleaded and made him understand everyone deserves another chance but cos how principled my dad was he insisted he won't consent to our union)
To be candid,this is the guy have share all my life with,he's all i wanted in a man but my dad opinion ruined our relationship.

I think seperation from my husband is all i need just for clarity sake but honestly,the more I try to make the marriage work the more I drift away from him and I don't know how to go about it.

I have visited two marriage counselors without informing my husband all in my effort to work things but not yielding results as expected

Girlwhocares:
Please help me,I'm loosing my sanity everyday!
I'm scared to open up to friends and families because of what they will think or how disappointed or bad i will make them feel,also I'm afraid people will be judgemental about my actions.

I'm not physically and emotional connected with my husband which is affecting our marriage and my well-being, we live as co-tenant,we hardly have any conversation,we do things differently,we share different rooms,no sex for the past 3years!even during courtship and the fist two years of marriage i can account for days we were intimate.

Things are fallen out of place everyday,we have a child together who will be 4yrs and the thought of having another child has not crossed my mind.

I get irritated at everything, i hardly show appreciation towards him even if it means he has done his best,which later i will find myself guilty and try to make up but the spark and connection isn't just there.

Most times,I have a non-challant attitude towards him and everything he does to make me happy.

I feel lonely,bored and incomplete even when I'm 90% sure my husband loves me and always ready to make me happy.

I feel awkward communicating my feelings and thoughts to him because i know i might flare up with anger even when he hasn't done or said anything to warrant it.


Please I have come to this faceless forum to pour out my mind,my heart is heavy,I need someone to talk to,I'm afraid my personal intention of walking out this marriage even when my husband hasn't done anything to deserve this might backfire and has its negative effect on our child.

I honestly dont need anyone to insult me please as I'm going through alots all i need is mature married wo(men) opinions

Thank you for your time.

healthserve:
Elder remove the apology you were accurate. Don't dilute the truth i beg you. This is a wicked heartlesss soul here

daddytime:
Yet, another.

Madam, there is nothing anyone on here (a faceless forum) can advise you that'd matter any, or have any meaningful impact on your sham marriage because, from the get-go, you knew love was non-existent amongst anything else that must have attracted him to you.

You knew how you felt about him during courtship, into marriage, and up until now. I'm very certain that the only thing that had changed has been a progression in how much he disgusts you.

I feel so sorry for the poor naive man. He is indeed naive and a mugu. If he wasn't the previous and the latter, trust me when I say, even someone who was blind, deaf and mute, would be just too sensitive to the much hate you have and exhibit for this poor man.

On a side note, does anyone notice how relationships are gradually losing everything relationship about them?

The good old heart2heart or tete a tete between lovers and couples is being daily trashed on the alter of social media, where people now come to bare their minds on issues bordering on their lives and well beings, while hoping to get advised or validation from complete strangers who have zero to no idea how it truly seats with them on the whole.

Everything for the life just dey get k-leg dey go anyhow...

Na wa

peacettw:
Thinking about it, that might be the smart thing to do. No need alienating your fans/sponsors who may not be comfortable with the comcept

peacettw:
Maybe it is just me but Ronaldo strikes me as someone that is at least bisexual although my gut instinct just screams gay. This girl may have gone into this relationship with this understanding and is willing to be with him to maintain the ruse that he is into women as long as her needs are met.

The tell tale signs of his "bisexuality" are there to see. He is very much into aesthetics and frankly, I don't think his "wife" matches his "standard" which points to the fact that maybe his spec is men who are just like him. I wish him well though. Just wish he would have been himself.

Conner44:
Hmm careful with the way you throw words here. Indomie kids abound and they think the name ‘night crawler’ is one for a member of the Marvels film X-MEN lol
[s]
If your hubby takes so much time to get home then it means he’s running away from something(s) in his house eg. you, the kid(s), bills, visitor e.t.c

Find out which and you’d know how to start solving your problems ... a nagging/bad wife is the number one cause of men staying out late, sidechicks take second place.[/s]

Diligentnigga:
Good morning Nairalanders, I will make this as short as possible and please don't mind my punctuation as I am typing this in a rush

I am a graduate, though unemployed but doing one or two menial jobs to keep mind and soul together

I have this girlfriend I have been dating for almost two years now. We both love each other but the issue at hand is she's a stubborn, anger driven person that insults my parents. In fact hit me sometimes and says all manner of words at me.

Of recent, I found out she's pregnant this February. Now the issue is she's a finalist in the University as she will be serving this year October, but we had plans of not doing abortion but she's so ashamed of everything and just irrational and saying all manners like what people will say this and that, and I have told her I will stay by her through everything. I informed my mum and my immediate siblings about the pregnancy, they were angry but they were like it's fine sha since she's loved in the family

Now the issue is
1 She's very stubborn
2 she insults my parents at every small argument
3 she's anger driven, yes am anger driven to an extent also but I have never used my anger to do stupid things like hitting her before compare to many times she has Slapped, locked my shirt and punched me.
4 we had an issue last night and it was in public and she was just shouting at me, passers by and onlookers were just amused that why would a lady be like this that she now had to take a big stone and throw at me, though I dodged the stone all because i was gearing her to let's leave the public scene and go home
5 A baby is on the line cos she's pregnant and even if you will advise me to leave the relationship as it's toxic, what about the unborn child.
6 I am currently unemployed and in fact am still at home not yet balanced up well enough, but she has used nags to kill me, saying all manners at me

All insults are welcomed. Please I am in die need of advise thank you.

DrChukzy:
If you are mentioning the people, be specific dumbo. Davido isn't poor and yes he has investments in oil and gas.


Their brokenness is still bigger and better than your best life bro.


You don't need to be bitter over their fake lives.

oloriooko:
This girl is just artificially built, see nails blue, see toe nails white, almost all colours dey her body, she come look like rainbow threw up on her

comshots:
If you have been fvcking another woman's husband,a beautiful and hot chick will fvck your husband.And when he get home he will put his unwashed diick inside your mouth for you to svck.But if you don't fvck another woman's husband no lady will go near your husband.He will be faithful to only you.

jess2019:
I went through his phone last night and noticed he fixed a date with a lady but the lady didn't turn up. He chatted that most people dont like dating black men that he is black. He was actually truthful in telling her everything about him, how long he is here, his occupation. But they didn't talk about whether he has children. Do I still have to chat him up with a fake account when I already have this evidence? I also have a copy of bank statements to tinder. I don't know if I could go through this tonight again as I couldn't sleep last night and I have a baby that depends on me.

jess2019:
I was going through something and noticed that my husband has paid for 6months gold subscription to tinder last month. We have a little baby. I have been thinking on how to confront him about this. I cant believe he would do something like this when I am struggling with sleepless night with a baby. I will confront him once I get enough evidence even though I won't be able to trust him ever again.
NB. We live outside Nigeria

CanadaOrBust:
[s]Fact - Ned Nwoko is no fool or he wouldn’t be a billionaire[/s]

Amakavula:
I noticed this a lot, like Nigerian men are petrified of pretty women.

Been on dates were the guy stammers for hours.... another one where the guy's hands keep shaking like wtf..

I noticed guys are afraid to approach me; like you see them gathering and planning who would come talk to me, but none ever grew enough courage.

Took my friend's sister to an audition once ( cos I drive) and all the dudes where just saying hi like over 10× and smiling sheepishly without one with enough courage to talk. Even the one that tried struggled.

Is this a self-esteem issue?