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healthserve:
Let's do it this way Adam a. Since you love him and money isn't the problem. Shower him with occasional gifts like cooking meals once in a while. Weekend spoiling. Buying him gifts in arrears you see him deficient. Make him feel its free meanwhile you're over billing him and using the extra for all these perks. Chai I'm evil

LINTUNE:
best advice so far

FROGMAN101:
He is talking so much thrash.

Most Nigerians keep shouting handwork and still a poverty capital country.

The guy you quoted thinks everything just falls in place according to his theory of life.

“Imagine you are 25 and a house maid?”

Mate doesn’t even know older people do such jobs to survive abroad. I don’t blame him. He is all in his head and thinks he is educated about life.

niaralandtopuser:
[s]you blew up your chances so stop wailing on nairaland. your wailing cannot stop nature[/s]

niaralandtopuser:
[s]and the mature women or single moms didn't sell their body or commit multiple abortion when young?[/s]

nachinaGod:
Guys pls i need ur good advise or insult is also permited...
I am about to fall in love..with a lady with 1 child and she is a divorcee ....my fear is dat the first husband might still have access to her in terms of naking apako [][sex]...anytime since she already had a child 4 him b4 which I don't won't any thing like dat to happen......now i am in love with d babe....despite the fact that she had a child already......ur advise is needed

chigoizie7:
It is hard, yes. I also know that life is not easy. But can you imagine yourself being a housemaid at 25?

Come on I am not saying that everyone has the same opportunities ooh, no, but I have seen people less than her age and even less educated as she is, straight from the village to the cities to hustle, they started very small just so they can atleast Feed. Life is not easy, but we have to start somewhere, soon she will be 30 and might no longer be reachable.

I have seen women with kids that started from selling satchet waters to selling cold drinks.


Unless the maid has resolved to just migrate from housemaid to housewife.

She might be there waiting for a help to come from somewhere, that help might never come.

All I am saying is that it is still too early for now to reposition her life.

chigoizie7:
Why do people keep misusing “ I am” as “ am” ?


At 29, you cannot ask your sister to tell you why you cannot date her.


Keep asking Nairaland, later you will call yourself a mature man.

And why are people seeing a 25 year old lady as just a housemaid?

That maid sef de dull ooh, at 25 she is still doing housemaid job. Her only hope in this life is to migrate from housemaid to a housewife.

Girls her age are learning skills to better their lives .

Omotayor123:
Met this guy late September, he was in for loving doving and all. Told me I was the perfect definition of what he was looking for in a bride.

This is a well to do single man with chains of businesses, cars, a good house & also working for mining company. He is Responsible disciplined and religious.
Bottom line is He's what any lady would be glad to have.

The thing is, He had problems with his bae & wanted to find solace and comfort with me, forget his Fiancee and moved on.

I could have taken Advantage of their situation, played the Angelic Good wife, hold him tight, pretend to tolerate all his mess & made him forget totally about his bae.
But I see it as a challenge I have to overcome.
Why

I had issues with my fiance, he left to find comfort in the hands of another girl. The girl jumped on the opportunity without hesitation, played the perfect babe and the rest is history...

I couldn't do the same to another girl, i know how heartbreak & betrayal feels.
so I decided to help them for I know their issue isn't beyond repair.

I took my time to let the guy know I am not perfect and equally have my flaws.
I made him see reason why he shouldn't give up and run to a comfort zone each time his relationship has issues.
Their issue was just communication breakdown & lack of understanding. They could fix it if they really want to and ready to shift grounds...

And now, I'm grateful my efforts played off, with my coaching, he realized he was making a mistake taking the risk of throwing a 3 years relationship away for another one which the outcome is yet unknown.

Now they are back Together, settled all differences and their wedding date is set.
I just received an IV to attend their wedding holding on 18th of January 2020.

If i had entered their Picture, it may be impossible or almost imposssible for this great feat to happen.

I couldn't be more proud of myself.

Ladies This Year Let's help ourselves out!
Don't take Advantage of other people's situations
Don't be the reason why a relationship or marriage breaks totally.
Don't let Despiration push you into hurting others.
May God help us, Give us the best of partners and not make us a stumbling block to the happiness of others.

I did well right


Sorry for the Long Epistle
Cc. Lalasticlala help push to Front Page, Let others Learn.
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udder:
This is the kind of news that moves Davido.

If you want to get Davido's attention, just accuse him of being cheap.

He is still financially insecure. His kind are very easy for ladies to dupe.

juiicii:
re:generationz well,they said it is my duty as a man to ensure peace in my home by practicing the virtue of tolerance,empathy,forgiveness,endurance, etc. they said that marriage is not bread and butter.well sha i suppose they must have advised my wife later behind me but i was the one being rebuked openly.lol.then on fighting,no we have never but we have heated arguments,d point be say d girl no get single fear for me,she ready for fight sef,lol,lwkm, but I have a reputation to protect, I don't want to be among 'wife beaters', lol

Tedpgrass:
From your submission above, she's a door-closer!!!!!!!!

She's someone you wouldn't want to be ahead of you on the blessing line/ goodies gravy... After her, the warehouse will suddenly be empty.. Can't see her having or keeping friends!!!


Just an observation.



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juiicii:
the threat of divorce was just a facade,i didn't mean it,its not an option for us,this is why i desired to hear from old experienced couples.some told me that its normal and after a while,we will adjust to each other,etc.the point is that since i locked up a room for myself,there had been less quarrels because it cut down on those discussions that normally lead to arguement but friends that isolation is not what i want from my marriage,how long will i continue like this,this is not what i want at all,i want a good and happy home full of love and joy and not full of 'being sensitive so as not to offend her',infact ...

cococandy:
So you’re threatening divorce thinking she will beg you?
It’s obvious you’re problematic because you would have rushed to divorce her if she was the one threatening divorce.

Your choleric aka prideful personality can’t take it that she doesn’t want to be a doormat to you.
I’m happy she can afford her personal stuff And doesn’t have to come to you for that otherwise you would have turned her into a doormat.

If you’re interested in sharing bills with her, I hope you’re equally as interested in doing the other parts of the marriage work with her.

Cossybob:
This is so true... They try to seek public comfort by speaking ill about the opposing force.... They never admit the fact that they themselves were at fault... Always domineering and its very much annoying if you are in a relationship with them.

Lari03r:

At this stage why will you be threatening divorce over mere verbal insubordination?

It shows that you need to work on your self, your expectations in your marriage, and communicate expectations of your spouse to her.

AdioGunner:
Hello Nairalanders,
I have this issue with my Girlfriend which I'm Worried About , Every time we go out or Meet up at some place, I'm always shy to Walk with her Or hold her hands in Public Anytime I try to do so it won't last up to 5 secs ,it'll be as if I'm suffocating till the point that she noticed about it and complained Even When Walking Together we don't get so close together .
It's not as if I don't Love her ,I Love her a lot , but this issue bothers me a lot, she has no deformity ,And she's very Beautiful if it's that, But I don't know what's wrong with me,on her own end she likes To hold me Hug me even Cuddle in public and when she tries it with me ,I get Scared and Kind of Embarrassed. I know I'm a Shy guy tho, but I can't take this anymore .
Please Any advice on what I can do before I lose her on lack of affection?
Insults Are Allowed Cause I know You guys would do so .
Thanks .

ProudlyAfarmer:
Igbo guys fighting hausa and Yoruba people for free...







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Come and see another so called Afonja making waves here again...


We fight for money, we don't fight for politicians...

Your own business na cream

Goalnaldo:
My shout out goes to the most beautiful girl I have seen on this platform and creator of this thread @obembet. generationz (I won't forget your advice when I was down) ifyalways ( great philanthropist) pansophist ( knowledgeable man), dizzyrascal (my first follower and a fellow Ronaldo fan) uyaincomparabl ( beautiful trouble maker) nwaamaikpe ( most witty intelligent and knowledgeable person in NL)

itsme01:





i still wonder why any sensible person would want to do their grocery shoping on christmas day



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milemimi93:
[s]I am confused weda to fall for u or cococandy. D two of u are just cute in there[/s]

healthserve:
You're still combative. In the thread sequel to this you hurriedly typed to show to the world how insensitive your husband was that you sent your picture to a male... On social media... A married woman o... Sharing his emotional space... You moved on to create another thread and now this.


You are full of yourself and I will speak it to your face if you only have cheerleaders around you who fear to speak the truth to your face. You're unrepentant. Selfish. Myopic and very very u thoughtful.


I am coming God HP you my battery permits me I have some hard points to drill in



My comment on that thread of yours was to appease his emotions and his sense of security by appealing to him which till now you've remained on the pedestal of doing no wrong and won't make amends just to preserve your home from altercations. Proud woman. You're egoistic eccentric egoistic and unyielding. And to think that you have to nerve to make this thread


My dear the world doesn't revolve around your waist. And I'll say what your husband is yet to say to you. You are wicked. If roles were reversed and your husband was the one doing all this by now even Facebook and Instagram would be on fire with how men are misogynist



I dare you to screenshot the messages you exchanged with that male on hmthis thread letswethe sane people make the conclusion by ourselves about what you were gusting about that preempted all this and not your sob tale trying to brainwash us to giving you approval to make the house restless for him.


Marriage is not for babies but for adults who are matured and reasonable. Other women through acts of discretion get liberty, jeeps, peace of mind and all sorts by being submissive accommodative tolerant loving and you're here forming maacho


See there are plenty single ladies if you won't give that man peace there are any out there who are willing to give it. Yeye. People who don't know what they have until they lose it. Spits.