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sacajawea:
Who was she... Give us gist

Crazyy things are happening

Mrs Kemi comes to mind

Genea:
If you want to dictate for her, then marry her na. Mtvheeeew

So you mean your father did not protect you like that?

Go .. and let us know

lalabrother:
Hello,

A friend is in love with this lady who apparently has a low libido and mostly refuses sex or conditions him to a once-a-week sex routine.

He loves her so much and wants to know from people with similar experiences.

Can this be managed and if it can, how?

Thank you

It can be managed by cheating on her

This is too bad, the poor herdsman was only a messager no be him get cow, you go surprise say na igbo man get the cows

addmole:
I and My wife have been married for 5 years. We are based here in Lagos. She's 35 years old. We are doing very okay and living comfortably. Since we got married, my wife hated sex so much. I am not even trying to sugarcoat this. She doesn't want to hear you talk about it or she does it. There's no one in the family that haven't tried to settle our differences since we got married. She was never like this when we were dating. It's been 1 issue to the other. She doesn't initiate sex, and when she does accept you to have sex, it's missionary style and it's just 1 round. Ah, me wey dey like knack wella. This woman begin change am for me. Lol. She doesn't want to hear you discuss sex.

Anyway sha, lets move on...

5 YEARS ago, her mum came to my house to kneel down and tell me I am stressing her daughter that I should not kill her with sex. Her then-unmarried sister then asked if I ama dog? Ah, insult. Anyway, I don forgive her. I spoke to my wife and told her what is the meaning of this? What kind of lies are you feeding your family with? This is the same person who happens to make just 1 round of sex. Just 1 round. She lies flat on her back. Once you are done, she quickly pushes you away if you stay on top of her for more than 10 to 15 minutes. There were times she would hit me if I try to initiate sex. I reported to her elder brother. He elder brother warned her. She stopped. She moved to kicking me anytime we initiate sex on bed, i reported to my pastor, he spoke to her and then, she stopped. My pastor told me i have to be patient with her. I said OK.

Omo...
The only time we make love is just 1 round, missionary style and that's it. She says she has pain on her stomach. I have been patient for 5 years with her. I told her anytime she's strong enough, we can make out. That there's no problem.

I have been pressured to cheat on her many times. i HAVE BEEN REALLY PRESSURED. Its just not easy. Her family have insulted me for demanding sex from her. Lol. The thing tire me. I see no where i am demanding. We don't do any other position apart from the missionary style. We do not even kiss. This is a woman that doesn't want you to kiss in in anyway. Even sometimes, she shouts at you when you try to be romantic to kiss her unexpectedly just to spies up our love life. She doesn't even want you to cuddle her on bed. She wants to be alone. Make money, attend to her business, vibes, laugh with friends and family and that's it. When it comes to sex, don't go there discussing that with her about making out.

I even had to retort to preparing her mind for sex by sending her a position we would try on WhatsApp, she would leave the message on read and not respond. When you talk to her about what you sent to her, she would just tell you, she's not strong to make love.

ANOTHER PART OF HER:
My wife is a very bitter person full of anger. If you try to tickle her when she's cooking in the kitchen to play with her, she gets angry and warns you not to try such. My wife doesn't want you to play with her. I am not writing all these to make it look I am a victim here. But all these are my experiences. I have to pour it out. I NEED SOME ADVICE.

There were many times, we agreed on separating. But we have already children and we used to think about these because the quarrels and the disrespect, sex and everything is causing a whole lot on us.

We do not have any form of healthy discussion very well. Before you know it, we are quarrelling over the place, she's shouting. There was a time we quarrelled that after throwing a Gotv remote at her, she fainted. She woke up before we got to the hospital. She almost died. I told her, she needs to stop her anger and control herself and enjoy her marriage. She just won't listen. She's an Edo woman.

I have tried many times to leave the marriage because it's affecting my mental health. Sometimes I regret about getting married to her. Sometimes, I just feel, maybe I CAN TRY MORE and give her a chance. When you call her to discuss our sex life, about her anger and bitterness, she doesn't apologise. She hardly apologise. Even when I get to explain her part on why she was wrong, she claims she's right until maybe someone hears us arguing before she would reluctantly apologise.

I have been battling a really starved sex life, full of a woman with bitterness, anger and pride who never apologise. She's quick to advice other women on Facebook, She would video call friends, give them advice and her family how they need to maintain peace with their relationship. But she never seem to give me respect in anyway in her own own. Hmmmm.

Recently, my wife brought out another timetable that she cannot cope making out with me the way she does. Which is 3 times a week. That she can only be available to make love 2 times a week. This 2 times is just 1 round each. This is how she wants it. I immediately responded to her that I feel her pain. I understand. She cannot be pressured just to make it look like she wants to please me that I would rather get a side chic. Yes, i know this was wrong to tell her, but i am frustrated. She disrespects me and starve me of sex and she's even bending the rules again. She responded that 'ok that I am free to do what i LIKE'.

i decided to bring this here to know the comments from people. I would like to get advice from persons who are going through similar things like this and advice me on what to do.

Some of you might say, call her and talk to her. I have done that several times since in the last 5years. I did it last night and twice today. I have spoken to her. She promised she would change, she would not only repeat the same thing but make things worst the next time.

She disrespects me a lot. I have sometimes left the house but come back after families get to call me. She would change for a week and return to her old self.

What do I DO? Please make your responses constructive enough.

You wan kill my Edo sister with Pinis abi?
Anyway there may be so many reasons to this attitude
1. She might not be sexually compatible with you(did you marry her a virgin?)
2.she might have some dark side growing up in the past,maybe rape
3.She might really not like sex
4. You are disgusting in bed
5.you smell badly(mouth or body)
6.mental case
7.since she agree that you get a side chick do so and let peace rein but don’t rub it on her face because it might be a trap

Must the buildings always look like sh!t?

Putins assassin’s on this

You ended up not explaining anything and if i can grab anything here i can tell you that you are the bad person who felt you don’t need his friendship anymore afterall you are his boss and have a better pay.By the way if he was competing with you why will he refer you for the Job in the first place? I think you psyching us on NL to know what we feel about your bad character BS

Karemarealty288:
Umahi just boostfully scored himself low......6years Road is substandard....all the newly sworn in ministers just dey release orgasms 💦 of promises...

And he was even assuring Nigerians

Useless country

Don’t blame the dead

LP all the way…
Obaseki go explain tire,no evidence

They voted him

I hate this i swear

aswani:
I am telling you that a conquered tribe has conquered your tribe, shouldn't you yourself be hiding in shame as there is nothing to be proud of about that?

Open another thread to discuss a failed Nigeria and you will get my opinion on that.

You have said nothing,i don’t celebrate mediocrity

MasterShifu010:
True ……. But why does it seem like APC has the highest concentration of bad leaders ?..

Cos they welcome all kinds of vagabonds into their party

aswani:
Thanks for letting us know the conquered status of the Yorùbá's.

However the facts are, they are set to rule for 4 years as President after 8 years of being vice President and a previously unbroken 8 years of being president in this current civilian dispensation.

Even adding military rule, they have had stints as head of state or deputy.

You that your tribe haven't been conquered but are being consistently ruled by a conquered people, what can we call you now?

In otherwords you are proudly telling me that your tribe has been at the helms of a failed Nigeria. I expected you to hide in shame cos there’s nothing to be proud of in your leadership #spit

They have been conquered PERIOD!!!

MasterShifu010:
PDP may be corrupt , but they were more democratic , compared to APC

Was the former governor of Abia APC? look Party isn’t the problem, the individual is

The Fulani guy Mele Kolo Kyari must be smiling now

The adolescent kangaroo is only testing his physical ability to becoming a man

seguno2:
Sane country of sane people

Abi ..cos
Nigerians no well oo

It’s called Damage Control

If na sane country government go dey cashout from this place

Stawner16:
Take down your profile picture

She fine oo

I can’t believe I’m here

Obyangel:
Beautiful, it's time to promote our culture and tradition. Enough of this Western/Asains culture. Truly, Yoruba Amaka

Why haven’t they used these old juju or whatsoever to build a better life .. like the westerners
Even tookpick are imported

Witches no get level abeg,they are even the least in the hierarchy

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