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folake4u:
I know right.

My friend is in talking stage with a man and he told her straight up that if they get married, she'd resign from her job to be a full time house wife. This is someone who's a lawyer, has an MBA from Lagos Business School, and currently doing her Online Masters from a foreign University. All these achievements and she's not even 25 yet.

She was shocked, I told her she never see anything yet.

I am curious, what happens when she begins childbearing?

You see, this discussion is part of the reasons there is a low birthrate across the developed world with many modern day women declining to be in a relationship till their 30s, by then their chances of having children dwindle and marital options dry up. As we once discussed, the Motherhood Tax/Penalty is the major cause for differences in salaries between both genders in the same industry.

My point is: modern day women have to make a clear choice between being married and having children versus being career-focused. Unfortunately, both cannot work at the same time in MOST cases and across different parts of the world. What policymakers can do is promote policies that will enable working mothers to return seamlessly to the workforce, as this will endear higher fertility rates. The other option is for these women to reduce their hypergamy and marry men who they out-earn (and the men agree to such an arrangement too).

"Why Women Still Can’t Have It All" - Anne-Marie Slaughter: https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2012/07/why-women-still-cant-have-it-all/309020/

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This your friend with an MBA from LBS, I am curious, which places has she worked 'cos 25 is pretty young to obtain a quality MBA. Correct me if I am wrong, but she graduated from CU or Babcock or maybe ABUAD?

Today, those cars will look elegant.

Ikoyi Democrats will be annoyed. I wish their children become trans in the future.

cococandy:
There are gender neutral bathrooms everywhere in public spaces.

People just want to talk so they can feel as if there’s something special going on.

I don’t even remember these our LGBTQ obsessed Nigerians having gender differentiated public bathrooms everywhere to start with.

Except in under-developed places, there exist gender-differentiated public bathrooms in Nigeria. Male and Female. Anything else other than for disabled persons is madness!

abbey621:
Human beings always compariing nonsense......Some even dey use USD calculate, job wey you started for 70k 3 years ago and they now increased your salary to 150k, some mumu go convert am to dollars and expect the companies to increase salary to something suitable in USD. ......No be juju be that? Is the company making twice as before in profits or you just expect it to perform magic? Let's all go back to common sense reasoning, high paying job is subjective, for someone earning 60k, 150k na very high paying job. For someone earning 150k, 500k na very high paying job and for someone earning 500k and above, 2 to 3 milla per month can be considered high paying, while someone in my condition won't even consider 15 milla as high paying.
All in all, even if na 100k you dey earn, what matters are your expenses, more than 50% of all workers in Nigeria earn less than 150k per month, how dem dey do am? Figure it out and you'll discover the difference between knowledge and wisdom!

The mistakes OP made are: not mentioning the grade of employment - experienced hire or entry-level; industry/field and state of residence. Even in the US and UK, salaries across fields and regions differ. The major difference between Nigeria and the US especially is the latter churns out jobs pretty regularly. Although some industries have had a lull in employment and inflation has devalued salaries.

Everywhere toff!

AgentGoat:
Remove the mindset of man no man shiit. It's exist for sure but there are private establishments that recruit on merit. Very many as fuvk.

Get the right skills in your field and be proactive. Don't stay idle and give up. Change field if necessary.

A very important aspect many young Nigerians should do away with. Apply early, perfect the CV/cover letter and most importantly, practice aptitude tests. That is where most job applicants fail. Be very good at Dragnet and whatever tests are used for assessments these days. Applicants who can ace 5 out of 10 of such tests would get a good job within a year (centris paribus).

dreamxhaser:
Sorry! I am not trying to sound insensitive. But i dont think 150k to 300k is high paying. 300k should be classified as avrage at best.

I just changed $200 x #1575 (geegpay rates) this morning and more than half of that money is gone as i type. Now that amount of money can never be classified as highpaying. This is coming from someone that still lives under his parents roof ooooo. Before some say things like you are living above your means. If no be say una want person to dey chop low budget food once a day. There is no way to go about it.

You are spending in naira. OP could be living in Ado-Ekiti or Benue. How does 150K sound small in those places? It is like you people don't know the Nigeria you live in.

FriendsAndFans:
Hello I am curious. What is your idea of high paying jobs? High paying jobs are Job offer that pays above 150,000 naira.
Do people still get those kind of jobs nowadays

Sure. Just that competition has ballooned as it is survival of the fittest. Also, certain metrics such as young age to beat age discrimination, being so good at passing aptitude tests and the name of the university have been made everything tougher. I no lie give you, I am not sure I would be able to compete in the job market in present-day Nigeria. The population choke plus anaemic growth. If Indians and Chinese youths could leave their countries and go to other places to get jobs, Nigeria shouldn't be different.

greenermodels:
Igbo names on the list, probably from the Igbo speaking part of Benue and Igbo residents

Not only that, but most Igbos are Catholics and the event is held in Enugu. Also, many Igbos are studying at Unijos.

djon78:
This was the same strategy Lee Quan yew of Singapore used in transforming her country today into a prosperous and advanced country
By making it easy for foreign multinational corporations to invest in Singapore. Today Singapore is a global financial center. According to reports from financial Times. Over 4 trillion dollars passed through Singapores financial system as a reputable financial services hub second to New York with over 8 trillion dollars passing through it. This is what a little Nation could do as a result of visionary leadership

That is very impressive considering London is still ranked as the 2nd financial global city. Considering Asia is becoming the economic hub in this century, it is overdue for Singapore to leapfrog London to second place.

P.S. Kuan, not Quan*

haybhi1:
Hmmm those Eastern haters will be sad. They be like it's us developing Lagos with our 2 by 2 shops and gala business in hold-up, Elon Musk couldn't come take that from us. And why would he extend that to Ogun when there's Anambra? Does he think Ipob boys will kidnap him? lol... e pain am. No be una sabi tok pass, but una no go let us hear word. Needless dragging steady, now I do small for you, you dey palpitate... oya sorry... and sin no more.

I am curious, is this how you behave in real life? Do you really live such a life as a supposedly medical student?

Mayflowa:
I don’t understand you. How many acres do we have in Nigeria? We have millions of 20,000 acre in Nigeria. You can farm with others. We cannot use all our land for farms. We we use some for roads, real estate and some as soccer fields. There must be space and place for everything. Besides internet is the best thing to happen to the world.

After electricity.

ActiveFarms:
Why are we so greedy that we sell our posterity into slavery. The moneys gotten from 20,000 acres from mechanized farming over 100 years is at least going to be 5,000 times the amount that would be paid for them. Why does Africa continually produce inept leaders without any futuristic ideologies or vision at all. Once they see a little piece, they loose control. This is an absolute wrong decision and a cover by Elon for a much bigger agenda

Businesses, almost these days, that rely on the Internet will generate far greater than whatever comes out from a 20000 acre plantation. How many agro-billionaires do you know compared to those in the tech industry?

nedekid:
Bros, anyone that drives a car with 3d camera in this naija is likely to be financially comfortable. To ride a 2020 and above car in naija these days no be beans, cassava, garri, ewa or dodo..

Good to know then. But his constant conjuring of funny looking stories when his income isn't dependent on social media marketing sounds odd to me.

luminouz:
Lmaooo...I smell envy and jealousy reeking off your post. Level up, will you?

FYI, I DON'T envy anyone based on anything in life. I know what it is to make money and have seen how people progress in life. So, why should I envy someone I don't know?

I don't know what you think of me, neither do I care, but I don't envy people. I just find it odd that a man keeps conjuring funny looking stories when his income isn't dependent (presumably) on social media marketing. Solomon Buchi does the same - cho cho cho - every now and then, but at least Buchi earns money via such.

Me envy people? God forbid bad thing! Anything people have, I had such and will have them.

Terrible! Nigerian elites, public and private, have failed the country and their people. Yet you see them parading themselves as intelligent people.

Disgusting people!

Abagworo:
He made his billions in Owerri during the time of Rochas Okorocha that the State was booming but he was among those that wrote falsehood and fought against the man who made him and now that they have taken power in the State they've run it down and run to Lagos with the money they made courtesy the good policies of the former Governor. I remember when they were looking for any investment linked to Okorocha or his friends and shutting them down and even went as far as revoking C of Os for properties given to investors by Okorocha. May God forgive all those who aided and abated the running down of Imo State from the most secure and fastest developing economy in Nigeria to one of the most insecure and business unfriendly State. Let Presidents of other countries visit again let me see. Nonzense!

Well, you were one of those who supported the APC then. So, why complain? You saw the way Jonathan was maltreated yet you as an Igbo man supported the party. You One Nigeria Igbos still haven't understood Nigeria for what it is.

How about Rochas? It's been a while.

Angelfrost:
Nope... Don't try to be clever. An average lady today is not asking or demanding for the basics... They are demanding for luxuries and wealth beyond what their own parents could ever provide them. They don't even size potential suitors based on what you are saying up there... They size them up based on a materialistic society's standard for wealth and comfort. The level of materialism in Nigeria today has made relationships monetised even from mere acquaintance. That's why most men are learning to be comfortable single or unmarried.

I am curious, what sort of "luxuries" do Nigerian girls demand these days? I think Madridguy was right in that aspect of the basics. Or are you judging Nigerian women strictly from a Lagos or Abuja POV? Remember, Nigeria exists beyond those places. Is that the same for Nigerian women in Ebonyi, Gombe and Ekiti?

DuBLINGreenb:
It’s true all over the world the value/qualities that make women fit for marriage are
The only place from my experience where you can find wife material over 10% now is some rural Parts of Africa and Asia but as for cities and developed regions e hard well well. To even see a girl over 21 who is NOT a single mother and is physically fit (not morbidly obese and overweight) and good or average looks and good or average in behavior and character and general outward appearance guy e hard well well in the past few weeks since I broke up every single girl I’ve met is a single mother one 24 year old is a single mother of 3 omo and I am also around the same age range how I wan take care of 3 kids that aren’t even mine at my young age? Then if we born 1 or

I take that to be a representation of your environment. None of my female classmates, both secondary school and university, is a single mother. All are married and live with their husbands and children. Your representation is not applicable nationwide.

PureFace1:
In the future marriage will become rare there will only be majority babymamas, most men will become less interested in marriage because the investment is too great and the reward does not worth all the effort at all.
The arrangement in the future will be men and women interested in having children coming together to achieve the same goal and after the goal has been achieved, they may go their separate way, the only business they have together after that is only taking care of the child and how to take care of the child nothing more nothing less. Sex will become very transactional because there will be no need to waste each other time, men will majorly patronize hook up because it is much cheaper than girlfriends and wives without the deceit and pretenses.

Currently, this has commenced in the West where marriage rates have nosedived while co-habiting has increased. So, the next stage is transactional dealings in we take care of the child while having other interests to focus on as individuals. Marriage rates have also dwindled in parts of East Asia. However, unlike the West, East Asians, especially the women, don't like co-habiting or having children outside the confines of marriage.

In summary, marriage will be redefined in the future, and it is about time it gets redefined.

madridguy:
In Nigeria, we still have more than enough wife material that can serve every single men in Nigeria. Our greatest problem is poverty and this is seriously affecting everyone and any lady that ask for basic things will be tagged a gold digger. A single lady asking her suitor that she prefers a man with an apartment with a running water will be considered a high taste lady simply because she said she cannot be waking up everyday to be fetching water up and down.

Which was inflicted by Buhari who you voted for in 2015 and exacerbated by Tinubu who you voted for in 2023.

But hey, you are correct. It was not like this during 2010 - 2014.

izzou:
This guy is always wailing about one bad experience or the other.

If it is not his vulcaniser, it is his barber.

Now, na hawkers.

Abeg abeg

This means his experiences are fake and I bet he is not as financially comfortable as he claims. Anyone who does business with him is in for big trouble.

bdon123:
D poor will always tink d rich is responsible for their poverty. Mind u,dino has a lot of estates in Abuja....d guy has heavy investment in real estate..bt d poor wont understand the this.Infact ,some of his estates he refused selling d houses bt rented it out only n people are even begging him to sell.
I hope this educates u abt how money is really made.

Total nonsense! You were asked how did Dino make his money, you began listing estates here and there. Did he steal those estates? So na Dino person go envy because he has some coins?

You see, this happens when most citizens have never made legitimate wealth and have rogue politicians to look up to. Dino just like most politicians or politically exposed people are not who a sane person should envy their wealth.

MakindeHassan:
We truly deserve our leaders. See how some of you are defending them.

They earn around 21m monthly in addition to 200m annually for constituency project that they don’t carry out. That is 800m in 4 years. This does not include bribes from agencies they supervise whenever they visit or when they need to pad budget and also money from selling job slots. There is also money they make from government programs because they have a lot of first hand information at their disposal

It is the reason you should never believe the notion that Nigeria's leaders are the problem. The citizenry will do worse than them. See the way they defend Dino with no hard and reputable evidence.

MacDonalds ko, KFC ni!

imagrg:
If this one see real preek she go run!

I can bet with my life that she has seen more preek than the number one female urologist in Nigeria!

I just wonder how she and her Amara friend intend to compete with much younger chicks in this Tinubulation. They should diversify and set up hook-up academies and become pimps. Money dey that business.

Leemzyy:
Shameless animal,so now na person future wife be this?

Did she tell you she wants to marry?

Tightpussy2024:
I can swear I didn't.
Have too many mentions. You should know that I have never backed out of a conversation with you.
There is TERF that opposes it. Many women object it . When did men start caring of women? We will not buy the "common enemy" thing,men suddenly caring about women welfare in sports.lol. they just hate LGBTQ. If normal men were to infiltrate women sports, men will say "shey you want equality? This is what equality means!"

So, do you now understand when I say women in the West are a lost cause?

It does not sit right with most men because they have sisters and daughters, and it is their instinct to protect them from other men who want to take undue advantage of them. In no way does it make sense that biological men should participate in women's sports. Even sane misogynists will oppose it.

naptu2:
Silverbird has run a lot of competitions in Nigeria. They originally wanted to create a Miss Universe Nigeria, but they changed the name to Most Beautiful Girl in Nigeria before the pageant started. The first Most Beautiful Girl in Nigeria took place in 1986 and Lynda Chuba Ikpeazu was the winner.

Last year Silverbird brought back the Miss Universe Nigeria as a separate pageant.

Good day Naptu2,

I got banned by the anti-spam bot in the Education section for a thread I started. Yes, it had lots of links, but they were necessary. The main mod in that section hasn't logged into Nairaland for almost a week. Two others haven't logged into Nairaland for almost six months. Is there a way the ban is lifted and the post reinstated? Moreover, Mukina2 has been not on Nairaland for five months.

Thanks!

haybhi1:
Baba, I remember mid last year you were mocking people with high grades, arguing its not a pointer for career success—like it doesn't usually translate for most of them, and all that.
We had the discourse during the jamb announcement and brouhaha. Remember?

This thread: https://www.nairaland.com/7763389/top-jamb-scorers-where-today

I did not mock people with high grades, rather I praised them. See why I said you should have read it twice before replying me? My aim with that thread was to assess whether high JAMB scores translate to a high CGPA and a thriving career. As we saw, it does to an extent. In fact, I have conducted a newer search with WAEC scores and the findings are even more revealing. They have flourishing careers as of today. If not Nairaland anti-spam bot, I should have uploaded the information. I aim to check the trajectory so that we can authoritatively state that good grades lead to a comfortable life later on.

Officially known as WASSCE, but popularly known as WAEC, the organising body. It is the exam Nigerian students write to at the end of their secondary school education. It is also written by students in the West African sub-region. One of the major prerequisites for entry into tertiary institutions across the world. For easy understanding, both WAEC and WASSCE will be used interchangeably. For some people, I could not find anything, so it is stated as “nothing was found”. If you know such persons, kindly comment.

This year’s results were released: https://www.nairaland.com/8183859/503275-students-fail-english-maths
My previous study on top UTME aka JAMB scorers between 2013 and 2022. Some of the scholars who were students then have graduated with a First Class: https://www.nairaland.com/7763389/top-jamb-scorers-where-today

1.

Oniyangi Sephiat Tolulope (F): Loyola Jesuit College: 8As, 1B
Bachelor degree: BSc Economics, Amherst University (Cum laude)
MBA: University of Pennsylvania (Wharton School).
Work Experience: Jumia Express (Business Intelligence Analyst) > McKinsey Nigeria (Business Analyst) > McKinsey Nigeria (Engagement Manager) Current.
https://www.linkedin.com/in/sephiat-oniyangi-b6058640/?originalSubdomain=ng
A newsletter about the 2010 Loyola Jesuit’s Exploits: https://www.yumpu.com/en/document/view/36439289/newsletter-13-june-2010-loyola-jesuit-college

2. Nwankwo Miriam (now Gift) Onyinye (F): Federal Government Girls’ College, Onitsha: 7As, 2Bs
Bachelor degree: BSc Physics and Industrial Physics with a major in Astrophysics, Nnamdi Azikiwe University (First Class)
MSc: Space Geophysics, National Institute for Space Research (INPE), Brazil
MSc: Climate and Space Sciences and Engineering, University of Michigan
PhD: Climate and Spaces Engineering, University of Michigan Current
Work Experience: A member of the Space and Satellite Professionals International (SSPI). She has interned and worked at several space/satellite/data related positions both in Nigeria and elsewhere. A one-time visiting scholar at the Space-Earth Institute, Nagoya University, Japan.
https://www.linkedin.com/in/onyinye-gift-nwankwo-716962168/
https://clasp.engin.umich.edu/people/nwankwo-onyinye/
https://www.sspi.org/cpages/onyinye-nwankwo

3. Ezegbu Lisa Chinwe (F): Holy Child College, Ikoyi: 7As, 2Bs
Bachelor: MBBS, Nnamdi Azikiwe University
Work Experience: Internal Medicine Resident, AtlantiCare, USA Current
https://www.linkedin.com/in/lisa-ezegbu-67b5bb10b/
https://health.usnews.com/doctors/lisa-ezegbu-1860834

4. Aiyegoro Demilade (F): Redeemers International Secondary School, Maryland: 6As, 3Bs
Bachelor: LLM London School of Economics, UK (First Class); Nigerian Law School: Second Class Upper (Top 10%); Legal Practice Course, BPP University (Distinction)
Work Experience: British Petroleum (Trainee Solicitor) > Herbert Smith Freehills, UK (Associate) > Trinity International, UK (Associate) Current
Her story behind joining HSF: https://www.brightnetwork.co.uk/employer-advice/herbert-smith-freehills/demilade-aiyegoro-securing-training-contract-herbert-smith-freehills/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/demilade-banjoko-5b186a12b/?originalSubdomain=uk

haybhi1:
That said. Libido in a woman is a function of her hormones and psychological state. While hormonal changes after childbirth can affect libido, it's a misconception that women lose interest in sex entirely or gradually as you implored. After removal of placenta, oestrogen reduces and libido follows suit. But they soon get their libido back during ovulation, esp after breastfeeding. However, physiology of every woman is different from the other. Women experience changes, like fluctuations, in their sex drive postpartum (due to stuffs like fatigue, breastfeeding, and emotional adjustments). So sexual desire in each woman is different, as it depends on individual's hormone status and his/her psychological state.

Thanks for the lesson and correction.

haybhi1:
That... first, I'm not sir in anyway; doesn't pander to me, plus you may even be older than I am or

Never listen to 'school na scam' crooner or people like Gerrard5.9 who scoff at good grades as a pedestrian for life successes. Walai na lie! Most recent and unlikeliest of cases I know of: a guy studied Anatomy—the course I rate so low for its stifled economic opportunities—and scooped first class, took some administrative/politics/sporting roles in his department and he barely finished his service before he got overseas calling, to the Wests. Second class uppers are winning too; just add up lots of vital extracurricular activities, especially ones that weave in leadership. I bet it'll be smooth after school for you.

I am curious, do you know the meaning of scoff at or it was a funky phrase you learnt recently and decided to try it? Maybe you should explain how I scoff at good grades as a pedestrian for life successes

Sepukku:
You are really an olodo and it is showing the more and more your IQ level is revealed.

Its clear that my responses are at a tertiary level and you will need to seek further understanding.

Kpele!. Keep shouting APC for as long as you can and take your medication o!

Why did you insert a post by someone else with my moniker? See the post I made:

Gerrard59:
So, how come this is not replicated in China, Southeast Asia and other economic positive zones in Asia? Is capitalism meant for the white man alone?

There is a reason I don't like conversing with so-called socialists and communists. I can get easily annoyed. You are an African but parrot poverty policies and ideologies. Jesus!

Where did you see APC there? You come across as a very demonic and dangerous person. Trust me, nothing will make you again on this forum!