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Nothing new here. I got my first awakening during my second year. The girl I was interested in had her classmate also interested in her. I even planned to buy a laptop for her as a present. That was my second time of "falling in love". Her classmate was pushing further than me to the extent I almost dropped out of the race. Until she revealed she is dating someone outside the school who works for a prominent government company. During that same period, I was reading all sorts of research articles and publications by The Economist about marriage and dating. It was then I realised terms like: hypergamy, assortative marriages, date up etc. With my background in biology and basic economics, I finally understood why humans behave the way they do.

The girl in question is married to the man she dated, with three children, while her classmate and I are still unmarried. So, there you have it.

What amuses me is how men realise this early enough and accept it, but women are surprised when these men aren't interested in them any longer, but in younger girls. Or are they angry that financially comfortable men cHeAt

Rictech:
judeca.res1, i am in Fukuoka City

I see and do sympathise with you.

Your school should have assigned a Japanese to you so you go through the system. Except things have changed, that was the flow of events and I had a Japanese labmate walk me through.

No sane person should take a Ford Foundation cashtivist to be a serious person.

The same Sowore vigorously campaigned and voted for Buhari in 2015. In my books, anyone who did so is very unintelligent!

G0odharddick:
She's obviously pained by his response!

Bro, if a girl gives you her number and you chat her up, from the chats, you noticed she's not interested, delete her number ASAP and move on! Women are not stvpid, they know who they want and desire to fvk. Don't bother trying to impress or force her because she'll notice your desperation and that'll make you look stvpid and you'll lose her completely. Just delete her number & move on! There are over 4.9billion girls in the world!

Here's the rules!

1. Never double text a girl
2. Never beg a girl for sex
3. Never act desperate (match energy for energy) if she takes 2 hours in responding to your message, take 6hrs to reply hers.
4. Don't always be available
5. Normalize ghosting and ignoring women (mostly on WhatsApp) read the messages, and leave it unanswered (this triggers her emotions and scatters her ego)
6. Never ask for her validation (a king doesn't need a woman's validation)
7. Keep things casual, don't take her too seriously.
8. Don't make her your top priority
9. Stand against disrespect

Relationship don wear koi koi shoe. The era of egusi for egusi.

benardtotti:
But if the same government comes around tomorrow to enforce laws and permits ,same you will turn around and play victimisation card , do you know some people actually went to court ,dragged lagos state to court over environmental sanitation, same people will still come out and shout flood and lagos is dirty . Like I said a society that doesn't like to take responsibility for anything but turn and blame government can never go far.

There's no global city that has a specific day in the month to clean up its streets.

Cleanliness is a habit, not an event. Restricting vehicular and human traffic in a mega-metropolis just to clean the streets does not exist elsewhere. That's not how Hong Kong, Dubai and London operate.

benardtotti:
Festac was sold off ,yet you want government to come and take care of it for you ? It's like asking government to come take care of 1004 even after selling it to private owners ,the reason nigeria hasn't gone far is because citizens refuse to take responsibility for things they should and would rather point fingers at the govt.

Nigerians have a poor maintenance culture. It's why these big big mansions they erect around baffles me. People who cannot maintain a 1km road want to maintain vast swathes of real estate holdings.

illuminutty:
Abokis okada riders, keke and street trading have destroyed Festac town.

I don't even want to talk about the total infrastructural neglect that place has suffered.

No single road in Festac Tow presently.

It has the highest number of bad roads and potholes more than Ogun State.

Real estate in Nigeria is just vibes else areas with deteriorating infrastructure shouldn't have high prices. Well, war/insecurity too reduces the value of real estate. See those who owned big mansions across Northern Nigeria pre-Boko Haram. A friend's family relocated to Abuja from a bustling northern city (big mansion there) due to the insecurity.

Buying a property in Cape Town makes greater sense.

The article is a bait as no reputable media house has reported such. Badagry Today isn't a reputable source of information as the owner/publisher (Dansu Peter) is linked to the APC.

Though the mission - elicit hatred towards Igbos in Lagos - has been accomplished. APC and its cohorts have to do better. This is not how you play politics. The onus lies on Lagos based Igbos on how to navigate this media propaganda.

It is not any different from Warri, Benin City and Lekki. The road infrastructure is really poor throughout the country. I wonder what our ex rulers abi leaders used the oil windfall for. Poor maintenance culture follow dey inside.

Look at those roads. Let's assume no floods, there are not even motorable.

ukaegbuikedia:
This is one thing the Tinubu administration achieved, THE STOCK MARKET.

But it is volatile. It may crash like during the Buhari's administration.

I see a crash or dip if Tinubu loses. But should he win (he would anyway), the stock market will soar higher.

P.S. Tinubu would rather commit suicide than lose come 2027.

Chellarams

This company keep bursting my brain. It is literally a minting company. Any amount generates profits. The stock no dey drop o

Exousiang01:
You assume they are police officers and based on that assumption you are making this kind of statement.
Until some of you start rottening in jail you won't know what libel and defamation is. ere they on police uniforms?
Were there in police van? You just saw some people chase a car shoot it and booooom.
This GenZ una go learn the hard way when the time is right. I could say the teenager in the GLK is an internet fraudster and a member of a cult group which I might be 90% right about but the law doesn't permit me to say so.

While there are many fraudsters in the state, an open-air harassment of young men is a very ugly policy to implement. Also, they don't wear their vests, and there are many tales and evidence to prove that actual policemen don't want to be identified as one. Is that how to secure a society?

There are long term effects of such a policy. One of which is that successful young men will leave the state for elsewhere, and there would be resulting unemployment and lack of investments. A society that hunts its native young men should not expect successful outsiders to invest and reside there.

This same Delta was the origin of #ENDSARS with the same police shooting as the cause.

Besides, I have read and watched so many tales and videos of young men who drive nice cars being pursued by the policemen there. The entire state, especially the Benin-Asaba-Warri axis, must be something else.

Any successful young man who lives there is a walking corpse.

Nfest:
On my way back from ward office. Too much walking in Japan. So so trekking.

Together with the healthy food (but very little quantity to my preference), get ready to shed weight or not add weight at all.

uchman:
Taxi no dey, abi na metro you dey find?

Taxis are so expensive here. The service is impeccable; thus, the price is very high. Many roads have tolls so the price is included. Moreover, as there are abundant public buses and there is a functioning train system (cheaper than taxis), it makes sense that taxi prices are high.

Meedon:
As a man if you marry from my village there are things you need to be wary of and your wife committing adultery is one (the most important). If your wife commit adultery and you heard about it but did not care to do anything about it. My brother, your stomach would swell up and you would die. Sicknesses would attack your body, you wither and die abruptly without wasts of time. My ancestors (Ibegwu are very active here) kill anyone that is a victim of wife cheating. Another one is if you lick your wife or girlfriend private part, you are also in trouble unless you perform some sacrifices to appease the ancestors (Ibegwu). I have seen many women run to the village to perform this sacrifice to the ancestors. One girl did for 2 times. The third time, the Ibegwu asked her to bring goat instead of the normal cock that is required. This is just a warning to men who want to marry from my village. If you want to live long run to the village and perform the required sacrifices when noticed that your wife is playing away march if not otilor is your case. We have so many rules which if you go against you would see shege from the Ibegwu's but this one is the most common amongst the folks in the village. If you as a wife no fit deh faithful to your husband, the result must show.

See, you can make a whole lot of money if the juju actually works. Develop and package it and sell to the world.

There is always this excruciating poverty that is usually associated with areas where such practices are rife. See Haiti vs Barbados. How come such practices are loved and cherished in areas suffering from multidimensional poverty? Can't they use their so-called juju to become prosperous? Use it to win Olympic gold medal? Use it to participate in Who Wants To Be A Millionaire? Use it obtain American visa? Use it to ensure everyone has pipe water to their houses? Use the juju to fight so-called bandits? In fact, use it to detect where these so-called bandits hide.

Use your so-called juju to add positive value to your community. Doing CCTV for woman vagina would not add anything worthwhile to your community. If I am not wrong sef, areas where they spend more time CCTV-ing women's vaginas don't progress in the long run. It smacks of laziness on the side of the men.

fadre5:
This your village no get name??
I want check something cos e dey similar to the Alekwu deity in Otukpo, Benue state.

I've seen people, so full of life gone just because of one silly deity which is only concerned about sexuality. Why not deploy this same prowess to make better the lives of those people within its environs. Besides, the part you mentioned 247 power is indeed a fat light for the whole of your village

This has been my bane with the worthless cultural practices we have across the continent. If the practice were so potent, why not deploy it in developing the immediate environment? The education attainment stats in such areas are low, human development indices are abysmal and the people are so primitive.

@OP: If your village juju is so powerful, use it to develop drugs to treat tough diseases, use it to develop your village to an enviable status, use it to make your people prosperous.

bamosagie:
I think you need to read the story again... the situation is skewed against men. The woman commits adultery but the innocent husband pays the price with his life...

Recently, I read a Facebook comment where someone stated that in the Urhobo ethnic group, the rule has been changed from affecting the man to affecting the woman, as some wives used it against their husbands. So, this time, the wife has to confess to the husband, else she kpeme.

Rituals cannot make you rich or be financially comfortable. How many times do we need to preach this?

cyberbro:
I don't understand the shortage issue when people are literally waiting for months to see a GP.

If you're in the UK, you'll understand better. This is never a time for doctors to strike, in fact, more doctors are needed in the UK, so maybe the NHS needs to expand its capacity to recruit more doctors.

With this development now, I wonder if the doctors that were doing PLAB to get job positions here are still gonna see the UK as a viable work abroad destination.

Many Nigerian doctors were complaining on Twitter about the scarcity of positions even after passing PLAB 2.
So, there's no space available; not for native Brits or immigrants.

franchasng:
Honestly some Igbos have refused to have sense.

Yorubas have already draw the line and have singled you out, why not respect yourself and leave anything Yoruba alone. Why do you want to help them to promote Yoruba culture when you know that they do not like you and whatever you represent?
Igbos make una try get sense.
Respect yourselves, keep off anything Yoruba and stay on your lane. Focus on your business, trade and career. If they invite you to their ceremony don't go before they complain that you wore Igbo clothe to Yoruba occasion to dominate, please respect yourselves and stay in your lane, you guys are really disgracing we Igbos and making us look classless

The onus is on Lagos based Igbos, especially the women. Our women in Lagos are the weak points. We seem to be too liberal especially in cosmopolitan areas. However, I don't see this liberalism in Kano and environs. Lagos based Igbos need to learn from Kano based Igbos in relating with the natives.

SmartPolician:
If someone leaves hiis own culture and starts promoting another man's culture, doesn't that make the person foolish?

Some people don't read the room. As an Igbo man, stay off Yoruba culture. The only business you have with them is to do business with them.

We keep saying this thing, but Lagos based Igbos wouldn't listen.

sammiewrite:
Only people who want to be pressured will be pressured. I used to care, but not anymore. Most of these parents, uncles, aunties, sisters that are now burdening their sons, daughters, siblings etc. are the architect of their own misfortune when they stupidly believe that they were carrying out God's instructions of "be fruitful and multiply".

In today’s economy, it takes an average of 20 million Naira to raise a child from infancy to 25 years. Yet you will see most poor families giving birth to three, four, five or more. Tell them about family planning, they will say their culture or religious belief forbids it. Talk to them about adoption, they will start looking at you like you are Adolf Hitler or Mussolini. We can pretend or try to shift blame all we want but this is the foundation of generational poverty in Africa.

You are the first Nigerian netizen commentator I have read analysed this childbearing from this angle. I have written here that childbearing is one thing, but training the child up to 18 and in most cases 25 takes an average 18 years to 25 years of the parent (usually the man) earnings. Now multiply by 4 or 5 children. This is why most families burden their working class children (who have low starting salaries) with financial requests here and there. Earnings these working class children should be saving gradually, investing small small and enjoying life jeje would be distributed across the family line simply because "i aM yOuR pArEnT".

Imagine having just two kids instead of four or five. The 20 million Naira average cost of raising one child, imagine just 5 million of that saved somewhere, or even investing it on behalf of your two kids. Like I always maintain, most Africans have no business with poverty only if they jettison their inclination to stupid traditional and religious idealogies and choose to be more rational and intentional about their lives.

At first, they blame the government and, rightfully so. But as the government is bad, why worsen things? For the past ten years, I have been preaching this. Posterity has always vindicated me. To them, rational thinking is bad so we live on hopes, vibes and God's will.

In fact, in Nigeria's current economic climate, new couples should have one child while saving their money, developing other hobbies, travelling, eating well and planning for retirement. As things improve on a personal level, they can add just one more child. I really don't see why the average Nigerian family should have more than two children.

emmaodet:
This is daylight scam and robbery.
How many of the workers would be alive to eat the savings they have been making in the pension right from the day they started working if age is raised to 73. Over 60% of the workers would have died by then and the remaining 40% may likely just live 10 years more just to take 10 years savings from a possible 40/45 years work and savings. So invariably, they have worked, laboured for years for free for politicians/thieves to eat their labor. Over the years of working, you eat their tax and now stylishly eating their pensions join.
Armed Robbers

This is why countries with a high elderly population, low fertility rates and a high tax rate are red flags to me to settle in for the long term. It means there will be increased taxes on the working population and an increase in the retirement age one can access his/her pensions. Many smart working-class individuals will eventually leave such countries.

Bostin:
Never been married 44years have a daughter, . 07037147782 Whatsapp to know more

Oh! You are a single dad with a daughter?

Well, your choices are fewer. Your best bet is with a single mom who has a son. A young unmarried woman would quickly oppose marrying a single dad in his forties who has a daughter. Target women in their mid-30s. Then again, as long as she is unmarried, she will view you differently than if you had a boy.

Good luck!

emmaodet:
Honestork till 73 years before I access my pension, then it is as good as just giving me that money each month I work make I dey chop am make I know say na me dey chop am, I no save.
Another implication is that unemployment already at all time high will increase because people who needs to leave the job for younger ones would be forced to sit and work for more 10 years. Extra 10 years of no space to takeover and work.
Also, the whole pension of a thing is best when you retire at 50 or 55 most so that you will still be in good health to enjoy the benefit f your labor.
You can travel occasionally to meet family and friends etc
What is there to do again in 70plus? When you are washed up

The fertility rate is low, so the bold wouldn't happen. In a country with 60 years as the age of retirement and there are fewer people being born, there is room for new graduates to get jobs. But in a society with a declining fertility rate and opposed to immigration, it means there will be fewer people to take up new roles. The reason the retirement age has to be increased. So, it is in order.

However, the issue with the pension scheme, as you have rightfully stated, is that it is a Ponzi Scheme as it needs new entrants to pay into the scheme. As there are fewer new births, governments are increasing the retirement age. For that reason, the best is to allow people to keep their pension payments to themselves since they either have to work into old age to access it or have no hopes of getting a pension at all since there are fewer new entrants.

Examples: Nigeria needs a low retirement age, Germany needs a higher one. Since Germans are opposed to immigration, then they should keep their pension as there are few people to contribute to it. Nigerians should have pensions. The other issue Germany has is its long life expectancy. Retiring early means the government has to keep paying pensions to people who retired early, even when there are few new entrants.

In the end, the pension schemes in most countries have to be redesigned.

AreaFada2:
Very good job. Immunology is not easy. Very tricky, compared to physiology, anatomy, and microbiology.

Understanding it, alongside molecular genetics, pharmacology and biochemistry are vital to human health.

Yes. It is very hard to grasp compared to others you outlined. Pharmacology is another difficult field. My problem with the general field is that money no too dey am esp in the nascent stages of one's career. Also, they are a dime and a dozen - so too many professionals pursuing fewer jobs.

Datedoboy:
I understand your point and i am not pushing all the blame to the Government but the bulk is on their table. Going by what you said, if you earn 70k and you marry a hardworking woman who earn 100k. It is not so good for your wife to earn more than you but they won't teach you in school. . Let's assume you both have 170k. Do you think 170k will take care of you and your wife with one child in this present economy? Lol. The reason I will always add African governments is that the wages they set are poverty cycle wages and their policies are poverty escalation policies You can't grow plants no matter how much of a skillful farmer you are when the field is not fertile. If aged people have homes like in Europe and Government feeds them, will they depend much on you? Have you seen any home for elderly people in Africa? The Government knows that some pple are exceptional and will earn more money regardless, so they want the old parents to feed from the income of such ones so they can't be too rich. [b]Like I said, if everyone don't assist their parents, will we be happy seeing them starve to death? What is the way out of poverty when a person can't even save 1 mil in 20years from 70k salary

The reason wages are low in most African countries is because we are not productive enough, we don't trade more finished goods with wealtheir countries and we are too populated. Wages are also low in Vietnam, Indonesia and India. Three countries characterised with high populations. The difference is that those countries especially Vietnam strive to attract foreign investmenet to produce finished goods. They too, the Vietnamese, produce finished goods and export to wealthier nations. Vietnam did $1.1BN in cassava exports to China. Nigeria no reach half, but we are the world's biggest grower of the crop.

You don't have to save 1m from a 70K salary. You increase your skills so you earn more, then save your higher earnings and set aside higher sums into pension, stocks and insurance.

So now that we know that the government has its fault in not promoting trade, why have too many children? Did Tinubu say people should have 500 children? Tinubu himself does not have 500 children.

emmaodet:
@ the bolded .....while it is good, it is not sustainable nor good enough in today's economic climate.
The question is, how much will family and friends be able to give you if you are out of job to sustain and float you back? most times not enough. Person wey give you 50k today, you don't expect to come back in 2/3 months time.
If family gather money and send to your wife as medical bill to support maybe 200k when hospital says you should deposit 500k, don't expect any from them again because they all have bills to pay.
You are old? how long do you expect them to keep feeding you?
The best system still remains to have as low kids as you can, both husband and wife working, enrole in insurance and pension as a better safety net option.
For example, i have a life insurance of 20k per month i am running. If something happens to me, they give my wife 12m. That is far far better than what family will give her as contribution, maybe 300k. You don't need to do that much. For a low income earner, a 5k life insurance will go alongway for them too, that should be about 3m.
Education insurance? for your kids incase the principal dies. It own't keep them out of school nor put the burden on extended family who may not continue the education or put them in local govt. schools.
A 5k eduinsurance will give your wife 250k yearly support for a kid and a lumpsum of 2.5m after 10 years to help run the child in govt uni in absence of principal.
Health insurance ? 60k per year for a family of 5 is okay for NHIS but you have to use it in govt hospitals and health centers for the low income earners instead of burdening struggling extended family.
Middle income earners can go for 230k for private HMOs like axa mansard and others that you can use for private hospitals.
It is all about awareness, careful planning and dedication.
Pension? a 20k per month pension between both partners over a 30 years period will give 70m naira if you start working in 30 and retires 60 years.
For a low income earner, that is a huge money. Withdraw that 70m pension and lock in a bond at 20% per annum, that person will be getting 1.2m every blessed month.
It is all about awareness bro.
This system is far better than relying on family safety net that is not sustainable

Thank you very much for the thorough breakdown.

Na why oyibo no dey get plenty savings because insurance covers everything.

Giftedhand47:
So no other African fit win this award
Nawa ooooo

Aside from the Economics category, no Black person has won a Nobel prize in the science category. Na so so peace and literature we sabi win.

khayce:
You people are wicked o.. imagine you had such conference in lagos. No body in Abuja heard. Single and eligible men are plenty here biko. Even me dey find wife seriously

There are many single women in Abuja. I have read comments about the high number of single ladies in their 30s who reside in that city. Why do you want to move to Lagos to find a wife when there are many of them in your city?

ednut1:
study the nursing in Nigeria. Stop chasing shadows . You want to study nursing that is very expensive and bring your family over while still a student. Currently no such country exists right now

It is greed and ignorance. Aka "I want it sharp sharp and now now now".

@OP: If you are not from a wealthy family, forget anything undergraduate outside Nigeria, even if it is Ghana or South Africa.