A typical Nigerian girl wants guys to woo her, she craves for attention like every normal girl. As a guy u should know exactly what you want from a girl, if it is a serious relationship, if you just want sex, if it's just normal platonic friendship.
Girls likes guyd that knows exactly what they want, especially from the beginning. i once had a girl as a friend that I liked and i was not sure from the start what i wanted from the relationship, I grew to like her and after some years I professed love and she said no, i tried to convince her to love me but she didn't want to be my lover, she said she likes me as a friend and nothing more can happen. I was sad, i knew that the feeling i had for her wasn't same as before (as friends) so i deleted her number and anything that reminds me of her "out of sight out of mind". i learnt a great lesson, know what you want from a relationship from the start. It took me sometime to get over her, I didn't want such situation to repeat itself so I worked on my self, my appearance, my speech, my confidence and everything that matters to me.
Now i woo girls easily, when I see a girl i like, i get to know her a little (if necessary) I don't believe a guy and a girl can be just friends so my main aim is to fvck her and still keep in touch with her not as a boyfriend but a friend, I'm a friends with benefit kinda guy. I practice safe sex most times, i don't spend much because i am not a boyfriend and I'm not obligated to call everyday. whenever I'm with a friend with benefit i treat her well and she likes it.
NB; when you see a girl you like let her know, flirt with her, don't be a dull guy.
you can as well leave comments, agree or disagree with my piece
I dedicate this piece to any nairalander having troubles handling a girl friend. peace
All you need to do as a guy is to tell that girl you like her not only as a friend and make your move. don't even act like she has a boyfriend, if you are a smooth talker and not a nice guy she's gonna let you eat her pvssy.
I just got another call from my female friend and she's bored and needs company, thinking of nailing her again be4 d medical test. maybe we will both go after another round of hot sex
I will be concise, few days back i had multiple. sex with a friend, first I used condom then later that day without condom, her kpekus was really tight so the urge to go raw was high. the sex was incredible. fast forward to today, I have little headache, cough & catarrh and I'm thinking of going for a medical test to check for STI just Incase. I just want to be sure that I'm really alright. I would like y'all to share your experiences. thanks
NB, I am not married and I don't have a girlfriend.
missjo: Being a tomboy or tomgirl has no correlation with being transgender. Tomness is exhibited in purely physical ways like in subtle dressing, sports, talking style. Trans is psychological and involves a total transformation across genders. What i mean is, a tomboy is still a girl and can choose to act girly when they have to,they just prefer behaving as a boy. A trans will stick to their new gender and does not make switches.
I take this personally cos i am a tommy myself,so take it from me and be careful about mistaking toms for trans people
I know what you are thinking, how can somebody big be doing something right. Big is a strong word and when it comes to sizes everybody wants it big. big lands, big houses, big cars, big dogs, big shoes, big food etc now as an individual, if you are big I mean physically you get noticed by people and they admire you and most times show you respect for the fact that you are big. Big is mostly everybody's first preferred choice.
Ejadike: To think I even placed a bet o the Falcons to win the match. Well, thank God that was the only game left and I was paid by naijabet. God bless them for blessing hustlers like me. Visit naijabet for more info
how many games you go play, wey if one game cut dem go pay you? and from how much? make me too try my luck
if I were you, I will withdraw from her slowly, i will not eat her food regularly, i will not ask for sex, I will come back late most times, sometimes I will not come back home for days, i will make lots of calls when I am at home and laugh hard knowing she's around, i will play more Fifa soccer. if she's still indifferent and doesn't get the message, I will drop a divorce paper on a Monday morning and tell her to please sign it that I am no longer interested.
Not inspiration quotes ;
* your problem is still your problem, na gist people wan hear
* bad choices will get you in trouble
* bros before hoes
* Success in Nigeria depends on who you know
* life is like a game of chess
PS Revenge is revenge, success is success.
hilario12: Good Afternoon! My friend gave me this girl's number which have not met before, I called her and told her I got her number try someone that knows her but I lied to the person that I attended the same sec school with her and its been long I see her last. My friend told me she likes material things and he is sure she will agree to date me.
So I called her and met her the following day. She saw my corolla 2012 and after our discussion she agreed to date me same night we met inside my car. Though she told me she has engage which I told her doesn't matter.
The following day she told me she was gonna sell her phone which is just a small phone that it's giving her fault issues. I told her not to sell it yet, she ask me to buy her another phone if I insist she shouldn't sell. As a big guy now, I told her no problems. After like 2days At first I lied to her that I have the phone @home to give her so she should come to my house to collect it. To my suprise she came with her friend in the evening to collect the phone @my house. I told her I thought I came with the phone but I actually left it at another state since I traveled for biz alot. She said no problems.
She kept asking and told me to try get her the phone by Monday. That's like 5days ahead. There was this night I went to there house because she insisted she won't be able to come to my house that she promised her father not to go to any man's house. Inside my car I tried playing with her buh she was forming somehow though she didn't step down from the car nor get angry but she is pushing my attempt away.
On that same night she told me she will visit me for fun whenever I get her the phone. The next day I went and buy her phone of #30,500 since she want a brand new phone.
I called her and told her, she was happy and told me she will pay me a visit to come collect the phone.
She came and when I showed her the phone, she frowned her face saying it's not big enough. I told her am gonna buy her a bigger phone once I travel to Abj for biz. She said ok that she will be using it then. Have done my part and its now SEX now. She was reluctant, I tried so hard but she didn't allow me. To me in my stage in life, begging to hard for sex or trying to force a lady is rubbish.
Now she wanted to go after I spent a lot of time trying to sex her but she refused. I told her to go and I gave her transport fare.
Then she ask me to give her the phone. I told her NO. I told her she didn't love me and she didn't keep her promise. Then she said she will come on Sunday and I told her I will give her the phone on Sunday. Inshort she was so pained and vex commot.
Pls have I done bad?
if this Is true, you are a good model for other guys to emulate. thumbs up.
next time you see her, just kiss her, don't tell her anything like I love you or I have feelings for you. I repeat don't tell her I love you or I have feelings for you.
personally I can't be friends with a girl, if we ain't 4kin we ain't talking.
Nacoss25: i have tried moving on several times it have been difficult because i love her so much not to be my girl friend but a wife. i stoped calling her between 2nd to 22 of this month i even deleted her phone no , the day i accidentally ran into her in the market, if you see the expression in her eyes reads many things: i have missed you, is unfair not calling. many meanings that made me regret not calling. do u know i started apologizing for not calling since they was no other means to get her contact from a 3rd party, i even confessed that i deleting her contact that she should forgive me and send me her contact again of which she did. and now am fedup again and this will for real.
muumuu leave the girl alone and face your business
Don't waste your time and data people, they mostly trash... I'll rather carry Burna boy last year songs to this year and also listen to some foreign songs for now. No impressive Nigerian song yet.
listen to IMAM by 2min ft Bmanchi then thank me later, make sure you check it out
DoggoneDogg: I need him dead & I need it done before the year runs out.
I don't want him to eat my money into the new year.
How do I send his details to you? I don't want a physical meeting mind you.
And I pay cash, no papertrail.
Thanks.
we have to negotiate. follow @okporo_extreme on IG & send a dm
DoggoneDogg: I usually don't do regrets but this one pained me. I regret going into business with a so-called friend. I lost all my investment in one foolish move based on trust. The wicked guy ran off with all my money & lied about it. Still hurt till now. Never ever again will I partner with anyone for business till the day I die. I will start afresh and try to recover. I've always been a positive person. By now I know where I should have been. Shit happens I guess but if I see an assassin I won't mind. Assassins in the house please reach out to me. Thanks.
MrNollyzone: Meet My Son Jayce And Yes, Sholaye Jeremi Is His Dad! - Linda Ikeji Opens Up On Her Relationship
Finally Linda Ikeji Opens Up on her relationship, she shared this on her blog...
Read below....
Two days before my 38th birthday on September 17th, I welcomed my first child, my son, Jayce. I look at him and I wonder why I waited so long to have a child. I’ve never known love like this. I literally have tears in my eyes every time I look at him. I can’t believe he came out of me. He is by far my greatest blessing and I’m looking forward to navigating him through life!
Now to the reason why you are reading this. I argued with myself for a long time whether to put this out or not…and finally decided it was a story I wanted to share. I've always been open about my life but I'm sharing details about my personal life mostly because of the girls who look up to me. The girls I have mentored, mentoring right now and plan to mentor in the future. I’m very particular about our young girls and I have personally tried over the years to be an example in some way; tried to teach these girls how to fight for their dreams, how to live right and do right and then I go and have a child out of wedlock and that must be a little confusing to some of them and especially with so many untruthful stuff out there about me. The most hilarious is that I had a child for a married man. Lol. Here’s my answer to that! The married man that I will sleep with has not yet been born. If he’s been born, he will die, be buried, rise and die again before he will lay with me. I don’t do married men. The father of my child is a single man and his name is Sholaye Jeremi. To be honest, at some point I thought he was my final bus stop but you know how life happens...lol. Unfortunately he and I are a completely closed chapter. Sadly for our son Jayce, it’s the kind of chapter that can’t ever be opened again.
One of the things many people have asked me is how I met this man because we don’t run in the same circle. Well, I met him 3 years ago at Wheatbaker Restaurant in Ikoyi in December 2015 shortly after I moved to my home in Banana Island, Ikoyi. It was a day after Christmas and I was having dinner with friends when he walked in. He saw me and the rest is history. He claimed at the time that he had never heard of me which was seriously a turn-on for me because up until then I’d only been meeting men who behaved like fans. At the time we met, I was 35 and he was 37 and I’d been single for nearly 4 years. I was definitely searching and I fell in love almost immediately and so we became an item.
At the time I met him he lived in a 3-bedroom flat at what used to be 5th roundabout in Lekki after Mobil. I used to drive for almost two hours in traffic from my house to go see him. Most of the time, I carried my laptop to his home to enable me to work and at the same time spend the whole day with him.
It was a whirlwind romance. He was the funniest and most romantic guy I’d met up until that point, so it was easy to fall in love and I truly believed the feeling was mutual. A few weeks after we met, it seemed like we were planning a future together. This man was already calling me Linda Ikeji Jeremi and making all these plans but then just like that, it was over between us. I went from waking up every morning to love text messages from him to no more calls. I was just thanking God for finally sending me my own man when all of a sudden we were no longer talking to each other. Later he would tell me what scared him off. My public life. He claims he’s a private business man and didn’t want the attention being with me would bring to him and I told him I understood and we went our separate ways. We tried to get back together in 2016 but it didn't work out so much so we separated again but stayed in touch (mostly him to be honest), stayed friends and that was how our back and forth started.
By mid-2017, we were both still single and we started seeing each other again quietly. There were times it was very intense and we talked about a future together, and there were times that I couldn’t figure out what exactly I was doing with this guy. We were not suited for each other. Totally different lifestyles. And there was the problem of my fame. I walked away from this man a million times and he came after me a million and one times. No matter how much I pushed him away, he kept coming back and me, because I couldn’t find anyone else, I kept going back. Lol. So I was basically going back to my ex because I couldn’t find anyone else. *sigh*.
Then I fell pregnant. It wasn’t planned, it just happened; though we talked about having a child together just two months before I fell pregnant. He said something about putting a billionaire baby inside me and I remember jokingly telling him that I’m also a billionaire so our child was going to be a billionaire on both side...and we laughed. But after I fell pregnant, things became extremely weird between us. If I tried to explain what happened, I wouldn’t be able to because it was confusing to me. We went from talking about the pregnancy and being okay with it; he even suggested I go to Dubai for my pre-natals as he didn’t trust doctors in Nigeria, to literally not talking to each other anymore. Around when I was about three months pregnant, he did come to see my parents and actually became very cool with my dad. They were literally exchanging Whatsapp messages every day. He later agreed to a traditional wedding which he didn’t follow through and then he switched. He began to treat me with so much hate and aggression that I and my family had to cut him off completely.
To be honest if anybody had told me when we met three years ago, considering how deeply we cared for each other that I would fall pregnant two years later and he would completely turn his back on me for most part of my pregnancy, I never would have believed it but that’s what happened. I had to draw strength from myself, my family and close friends.
And Jayce...oh my son Jayce, he was my biggest strength. It was almost as if he knew his dad was acting up so he came through for his mum. He was gentle with me when I was carrying him. I had an extremely easy pregnancy. I pushed him out under 3 mins and was in the labour room for less than 30 minutes. And then my snapback was amazing. Three weeks later, it was almost as if I’d never been pregnant. Jayce was my soldier when his dad turned his back.
But still, I have absolutely no iota of regret meeting Sholaye. Gosh, have you seen Jayce? How can I regret that? God doesn’t make mistakes. If you believe that you’re always led by God like I believe then I have to believe that God led me to this man for whatever reasons best known to Him. I thought God sent him as my life partner but I guess He just used him as a vessel for my greatest blessing. Now his part in my story is over. I know when to put my hands up and surrender. That God brought someone significant into your life doesn’t mean they are supposed to follow you throughout your life’s journey. We should learn to know when people’s part in our story is over. Don’t fight for closure, don’t ask for explanations, don’t chase answers, just let them go and know that if God meant for you to have them in your life, He would have given them to you. Sometimes people just come to serve a purpose in your life and are not meant to stay and there’s no point holding on to them. This one is done and dusted. It’s just Jayce and I now moving forward and I know life will be beautiful for us.
Being a single mum wasn’t the dream I had for myself; I’d prayed for the kind of happy home my parents built for us (they’ve been together for 40 years). Nothing is more important to me than family. For years I’d hammered on how much I was looking forward to getting married, having children and building my own family and I believed God was going to come through for me on that one, but I have come to understand that we have no control over what life throws at us no matter how much we plan, pray, or work. And we also have no control over the actions of other people towards us. One of the things I have learnt in my life’s journey is that your idea of how life should go might be different from the way life actually goes. It’s called Life Happening. Sometimes it unfolds into something we never dreamed of but because we don’t recognize the route we find ourselves on our journey through life, doesn’t mean God won’t get us to our destination. Remember, an uncertain chapter doesn’t ruin the whole book. Life will happen whether we are ready or not. All we can do is keep our heads up and keep moving.
Family and close friends told me I owed no one any explanation about the circumstances that led to the birth of my son, but I knew without writing this, I could never stand in front of the young girls who look up to me and talk to them again. I could never go on my secondary school tour and speak with these girls again about living right and doing right. I would always feel like I have no moral right to do so. I went to 15 secondary schools in 2017 and talking to those young impressionable girls has been one of the highlights of my life. I cancelled this year’s tour because I was pregnant and I haven’t made any preparations for next year’s tour because I wanted to set things right first.
I have so many plans for young girls next year and in the coming years with the Selfmade finance and mentorship projects with international collaborations, so this was important for me to do, to explain myself to the young girls who look up to me and feel disappointed that I got pregnant and had a baby out of wedlock. For years, I have preached decency, morality and uprightness and despite what happened to me, I mean it from the bottom of my heart. That should be the only way to live. That’s the only way I live. Don’t ever compromise your values. With this, I was led by my heart and my clock ticking and even though I have no regrets, I’m sorry if I let any of you ladies down by the decision I made, and I hope you learn from my experience. I hope you do better than I did. The ideal thing would be to find a man you love, who loves you back and gives you stability, get married, have kids and raise a family, not being a single mum or a baby mama. I was 37 years old at the time I conceived and if I want to be honest, my age played a role in me allowing myself to be pregnant out of wedlock. I don’t want to be having kids in my 40s or struggling with fertility later in life. This wasn’t the plan but like I said before, life happens. You just have to find a way to make the best of what life throws at you. And so for any young girl this means anything to, I am truly sorry. I am not sorry I had Jayce, I’m just sorry I didn’t go about it the right way.
But you know, despite this crazy love experience, I still believe in love and I believe in happy endings and I can’t wait to one day, God willing, have my fairy tale ending. The father of my child is the only man I’ve given a chance to in 6 years. Lol. I swear. I’m not really a relationship kind of girl. I’m more a career girl. I can go for years without a man. I’m one of those women who don’t need a man to validate their existence but biko, I’ve done the single life enough in the past…lol… going forward I’m looking forward to giving someone else a chance and try this love thing again. I was raised in a happy 2-parents’ home and that’s what I want for Jayce. So I hope I meet a great guy soon until then I’m enjoying motherhood. It rocks! Life has never been more beautiful!
I’d also like to address a few other issues. Number one is this celibacy issue. So many people have trolled me over it and I’d like to correct the misunderstanding. I have never ever in my life said people shouldn’t have sex before marriage. NEVER EVER have I said that. I have even argued with quite a few people that it is not feasible in this day and age. What I have always said and I maintain till today is; Do not ever sleep with men for money because any woman with a brain and determination can get her own money herself. And there’s nothing sweeter than your own money. I am 38 years old and I recently bought a N100million+ car; what the heck do you need to be sleeping with a man for? For designer bags, first class tickets and luxury holidays? GTFOH with sleeping with a man for rent money! You can give yourself all that and more if you apply yourself, fight for your dream and work your butt off. Men don’t have the exclusive right to create wealth; women can also create wealth. Money is not male. Wealth is not male. Success is not male. We women just need to believe in ourselves more and get off our butts and stop relying on our looks and charm instead of our brain, mind, will, and our God given talent/gift. We can be rich, we can be successful, we can break barriers, do what was formerly termed impossible, do what men can do, be CEOs of conglomerates and billionaires without ever having to lie on our backs. Please ladies, we are powerful beyond measure and can do anything and be anything we want to be.
The other thing I’ve always said is; do not sleep around with multiple men who just use your body for their pleasure; that is; too many one night stands, casual sex, many sex partners in a short period of time all in the name of relationships. Your body deserves better. I feel sex should only happen when you’re in a loving, committed relationship with someone you love. I was celibate for many years until I met my son’s father and fell in love. And instead of increasing my body count, I just went back to the same eggplant…lol. My mistake was I should have walked away when the relationship became a waste...lol... but then again, Jayce wouldn’t be here today if I had. So really, there’s nothing that I have preached that I didn’t practice. So you guys stop trolling me over this abeg! Lol.
Thank you for reading and thank you for your understanding.
cdizz: hi nairalanders, i seriously crave for d assistance of anyone who will accomodate me in lagos for a while, i am coming in from akure in search of greener pastures. there are fewer opportunities here hence d need to extend my tentacles. i promise not to bore u wt my responsibilities cos i am hardworking and independent, i just need a place to rest my head after d day's hustle. you will nt regret taking me in. God bless u
GodisGood4321: For a start, I’m not a gold digger nor am mine looking for someone to take care of my bills.
A little bit about myself. I’m 32 and I’m from a humble background and by the grace of God, my hustle don begins to pay. I'm a graduate and works in a popular oil and gas firm with a monthly take-home of seven-digit. But base on the fact that I'm from a humble background and God don give me breakthrough, I'm supporting my families (siblings) and sometimes friends who are still hustling to establish themselves.
So I am a bit careful to date a lady who is the supporting member of her family as well, otherwise, support responsibilities may fall back on me as the man if one marries such lady. And no matter how much one think he earns, too many dependents can weary one progress and a tree can't make a forest. This engineer my desire to marry a girl from a well-to-do family, even if she doesn't earn much, but her family shouldn't be a liability. I have a reservation of being the ‘look-up-to’ person in my family and as well the ‘look-up-to’ person in a wife family as well. While one may be grateful to God for being able to be looked up to, the pressure of demand/expectation may be overwhelming and could slow one’s progress and one runs the risk of not having who to run to when his own need arises because everyone around has always looked up to you.
But the challenge is to see and get a girl from a well-to-do family is hard. Is either I can't find any or the few I meet always an attitude issue and are hardly submissive. Meanwhile, I have seen decent ladies from a humble background who are equally making some progress in their own right, but i lost interest when I get to know of their family background because of my biased to marry from a well-to-do family. Besides the benefit of not having many dependents by marrying from a well-to-do family, I covert the benefit of been related to in-laws who may have some sort of relevance and influence.
I have this feeling I am settling for less than I originally desired when I see decent ladies but they are from a humble background that I do not advance things with them.
Please, I want to know if this my obsession of marrying from a well-to-do family is reasonable or I am taking it overboard. I just want to hear people opinions about my line of thought and be sure I am still in touch with reality and not just be idealism.
You know what is best for you and i understand your reasons too. As a fact rich people have attitude, girl or boy, man or woman. if you desire a comfortable, non liability, rich lady, the right place to find her is in any private university. you can survey a private university close to you, you have a very good chance of meeting the right one there, trust me.
I don't normally ask for help i hate it but I am having real financial issues and i don't have friends or relatives to aid me. I am a student (Law) and I'm so broke & jobless at the moment. please I want you to help a brother in any possible way. I will be greatful & I'll reciprocate sometime in the future. thanks
kidman96: I go die, PDP spent 16 years in power, looting and embezzling everything in sight. You were amongst those enjoying the I'll gotten money. You were getting constant shows and making millions but now those money are no longer flowing around so you decided to be an ambassador to your village people...
APC will rule Nigeria for another 16 years before we can judge them... So go back to your village.
Romance › Re: How To Treat A Nigerian Girl ( Must Read ) by Gettreadyy(op): 4:33am On Nov 07, 2019
