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mrsb:
WTF Mental Issues??!?!? Please, tell me where on Earth you dug that up from,

enjoy nigerian sunshine madam.  go ask social workers about mental health issues they will tell you.

michelin89:
People are asking if he didn't love her before he impregnated her. *laughs* Love and sex don't always go together. Besides all this force force thing must have affected him so much that in my opinion he feels resentments against her even though he won't admit it.

His sudden rejection is the reflection of a subconscious grudge he has with her. He hasn't said it but deep inside him he must think she got pregnant to ruin hie life despite he has accepted his responsibilities.

i hope you all learn from this

absolutely fabulous did this some years ago.  yes it your life. go ahead and create your own oyinbo.  did they tell you they are more likely to have mental health issues too?

i think genny has turned this to a nollywood movie now. nice one

Nezan:
This is scary. Unfortunately, many people going through this are afraid to speak out. No wonder divorce is legalised by white folks.

you prefer the get em pregnant and not marry em many of our people do? dont you know illegimate children are a curse? you wont know cos you are looking for white people to show how better your people are when you know well fully they dont marry in the first place.

if you know the number of white people happily married to one person for years. some under difficult circumstances of poverty, hardship and sickness.

temmytanny:
my bro,
from ur story,i believe the girl isnt up to ur taste but my advice is for you to bring her up to ur taste.[/b]whats the assurance that the divorce would mean well for you or the woman u want to marry next would give all wat you need.

God knows why the two of you are joined together.all you need now is prayers and i bet you the marriage would last longer than tot.

please dont divorce her for the sake of the child.broken homes affects children

the church of God isnt up to His taste yet He keeps loving and protecting her.
majority of the church does not behave well yet Christ keeps covering her up. as a christian that is what he should copy not coming to NL to get sympathy.  if he knew what other men goes through from women who dont know the colour of love he would be thanking God for her daily.

[b]i believe the girl isnt up to ur taste but my advice is for you to bring her up to ur taste.
what if he is not up to the woman taste?  who told you bro is the best thing since slice bread?

it is fast becoming sharialand or islamland

tkb417:
why the fck do we have to move a thread cos it has somethin to do with Islam?

what about the numerous threads about xtians and Pastors

dont we live with it?

Poo is the middle name of whoever moved this thread
yes!! thts ur middle name

you dont do sharia and fattuahs do you?

Redfox:
@MRbrownJAY
You are beginning to make sense.

Just like biola44 pointed out,am beginning to find it difficult to make a clear distinction between hookers and normal galz.but a street hooker doesn't choose who bangs her,after all money is the end target but a normal bad gal(who shags her boss or lecturer, ) will definitely apply the principle of choice.in life even in the face of evil and wrongdoing we still have a choice.

I guess a greater proportion of them gals have almost seen the end of their days,but let's give a chance for the few good gals who have played their card right amid the temptation to deviate.

seconded.

richard10:
i used to think that love didnt matter so much in marriage but i have been proven wrong,u see i married my wife out of unpleasant conditions,she got pregrant for me and everybody was on my neck to marry her that i couldnt leave her in that state,my pastor too was on my neck to marry her,so under the pressure i got married to her and we had a blessing of marriage in the church,that day was so super a lot of peolple were so happy for us but deep down in me i knew i didnt love this woman but then could i leave her in that condition?what if another man does the same thing to my sister how would i feel?and besides i discoverd the woman loved me and i was told that with time i would come to love to her,and so i made the biggest mistake of my life and married her.
Ever since we have been married i have been a good husband to her but our marriage has been a show ,cos at home we sleep in different rooms,for about 6 mths now i have not made love with her cos i cant just dont have any desire for her anymore.i thought with time i would come to love her but the reverse has been the case,in fairness to her she has been a good wife to me but i cant do romantic things with her cos i dont love her at all and i sometimes i see her crying bitterly 4 me to love her and tried as much as i can i still dont feel anything for her i only feel a sense of responsiblty 4 her so i dont joke with her wellfare,many couples outside look up to us,some even come to us for advise (if only they knew)i am dying inside slowly,i am trapped in a loveless marriage,pls someone out there what do i do and as christains divorce is out of the issue i am so confused

sorry to hear this. one of the main duties you owe God as a christian man is to love your wife.  it is a duty that will determine your place and how far you get in life. i am sure you didnt cover her head with pillow when getting her pregnant.  i am sure too the church didnt force you to sleep with her initially.  they were trying to do right by both of you and the kid.

you should count yourself lucky you have a wife that loves you.   it is a luxury most men dont have in life.  if you know what most men go through you will give your life for this woman. matters of marriage are big in Gods sight and kingdom that is why the enemy troubles it like nothing else.

your problem may come from resentment as in her trapping you which may not be true cos you know you were not trying to trap her when you slept with her.  give her the benefit of doubt it was a geniune mistake though i dont like the idea of your pre marital nookie.  the grass always look greener on the other side.  you may be about to make the greatest mistake of your life.  you will know you were not the coolest or richest dude in town when she slept with you so what was she trapping you for?  this life of rejection?  i beg think again bros.

things maybe tough now but it is not always like this.  you go through troubles and trials but you keep working at it as a team.  every succesful marriage is a team work.[/color].  your saying here she loves you alone shoi=uld make you wantto slap yourself cos i cant work out why you want a woman that may not love you

i can imagine  you praying for blessing and seriously expecting to be blessed when the first thing you will do when blessed is to deal badly with this woman.  how foolish do you think God is my brother? you think He supports wickedness.  think again.  God only blesses people who finds a wife not those who lose them.  you may see few evil men prosper but it is never from God.  you cannot expect to live a blessed life and be cruel to your wife. she is part and parcel of you and the way you treath her determines how far you get in life unless you dont believe God created her like He did you.

i know coming from the "heaven on earth" we come from  we almost think we can do and get away with anything you have to be carefull.  most men you see turn beggars and shadow of thier former self in that our lovely country have ugly record of cruelty to women at the early stage of thier lives.  some just made children they never cared how they were clothed becos they can never be "trapped" and thought they got away with it.  life teaches a great lesson  that God judges wickedness you dont want to be judged do you?

you have opportunity today to come to yourself and see where you need to forgive and restart your life and ask for God to heal and place His favour and blessing on your life.

you may want to go for counselling too because what you think is unique to you and your wife now is not unique.  most people pass through it only they wont tell you.  that is  life.  what ever will last long go through some form of turbulence at the beginning but it is what you do now and how you handle it that determines how you land.

a happy home is your portion so learn to create it along with the wife God may have given you.  you may sincerely believe this is a mistake unless you tell me you have prayed and God God told you so i wont believe you.

the bible you carry says    in malachi 2:15 and i will give you as many translation as possible

New International Version (©1984)
Has not [the LORD] made them one? In flesh and spirit they are his. And why one? Because he was seeking godly offspring. [color=#990000]So guard yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith with the wife of your youth.[/b]
GOD'S WORD® Translation (©1995)
So be careful not to be unfaithful to the wife of your youth.[b]
King James Bible
Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth.

Bible in Basic English
, So give thought to your spirit, and let no one be false to the wife of his early years.

Douay-Rheims Bible
Keep then your spirit, and despise not the wife of thy youth.

Darby Bible Translation
. Take heed then to your spirit, and let none deal unfaithfully against the wife of his youth,

English Revised Version
Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth.

there is something you may have to think about.  there are angels assigned to her and the child she carries for you that will never allow them be hurt.  you may be thinking they are bad or "witches" as most nigerians are quick to label people.  God and her angels will make sure you dont hurt her becos she meant you no harm other than being foolish as you were when you both had sex.  

i hope and pray God give you grace to do right and if you have promised someone else you were leaving her i hope for your sake and child sake you think again.  the grass is not always greener on the other side and it is never worth it.

Sam Milla:
I am sorry for your condition, its is bad for you and hers too
but we must sometimes take control of our own problems.

The idea of whether you love her or not comes from your mind.
You can always change it if you want.
All you need to do is to be sensitive when dealing with things that concerns her.
You are lucky that she loves you but since people dont value what they have until they loose it,
I will advice that you find a way to love her.

She is a woman which means she needs a lot of care from you.
Dont allow her to continue torturing herself with crying.
Look deep into your sub-conscious mind and find a way to love her.

Its your game, so play it well bro,

may God remember you for this.  soome people operate like they are cursed.  may that curse be broken from your life bros.  God only bless homes that are united. he didnt hate her when she was single.

hubreality:
My aboki here in Ikeja will buy dollar from you at the rate of 152/$ and sell to you at the rate 154/$.

I tried finding out from other sources here and they're currently transacting at the same rates.

what is £ selling for oga?

Sagamite:
It is engrained in a vast majority of women's heads in the West nowadays that they can ruin a man.

Some even frequently use it as a threat in marriage nowadays in marital arguments to the point it is destroying the fabric of the institution.

sadly you are right. remember eneke the bird in things fall apart.

Secretz:
If you both marry when you both have nothing, then die-vorce some 15 years later, with a few kids in tow:

During the 15 years, you and your wife agree she will stay at home and look after the children (she is highly educated and could have pretty much any decent job she wants), but she sacrificed her potential high income to raise YOUR children. I believe she is entitled to 50% .
[b]However, If she met you stinking rich, and she is truly marrying you for love, then she should sign that pre-nup. Especially if you die-vorce after a mere few years of marriage. I don't however, believe she should leave completely empty handed, maybe atleast 10% or even a small appartment as good will gesture- lmao![/b]

In respect to paying child support, I'm sorry but they are your kids as well as hers, if the father can live a luxury life then so can his kids. You do not have to give the mom money every month to support the kids, because you may not know what she is truly spending it on, but what stops you the father paying the school fees directly to the school?, or when you see the kids, taking them shopping to buy their clothes and other relevant things that they need?

na only small apartment? you know how much some 2/3 bedrooms flats cost?

what if she didnt scarifice any high income? do u still believe she gets 50%?

apology for nairaland. o happy day.

Seun:
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xanders:
read this please:
quote from 'allMichealjackson.com'
and be shocked at how low some people could stoop for some change,

'This is an old page I had set up educating vistors to the site as to why Michael was innocent of all accusations against him. Michael was later found innoncent of all charges.

I, like many totally beilieve Michael Jackson is innocent of all charges. I will use this page to illustrate examples of why myself and so many others beilieve him to be innocent.
What you need to know about the accusers The family have a history of extortion. In 1998 gavin and Star were caught shoplifting some clothes. Caught red handed the mother insisited the boys were planning to model the clothes for the store, even though there was no contract or evidence to support this.

Outside the store Janet Arvizo the boys mother became involved in a scuffle with 3 of the stores security officers. Rather than spend the money on prosecuting the store dropped the charges.

Soon after Janet filed a lawsuit against the department store for the equivilent of £1.6 million. She claimed she and the boys had been viciously beaten by the 3 store detectives one of whom was a woman.

During the litigation a psychiatrist was hired and found Janet to be "schizophrenic" an delusional.

2 years later Janet added a new sensational charge claiming the 2 male security guards had "sexually fondled her breasts and pelvic area for up to 7 minutes.

In subsequent depositions Janet, Gavin and Star also claimed they suffered broken bones in addition to there mothers sexual assualt. Although they were never treated at a hospital.

Ulimately rather than face the damaging publicity from a lawsuit the store reached a settlement for the equivilent of £73,000 days before the scheduled trial in 2001.

The abuse they claim committed by Michael Jackson did not start until after the airing of the documentry "Living with Michael Jackson" in which Michael Jackson innocently admitted he did sometimes allow children to sleep in his room. Around this time its possible that the mother Janet saw the opportunity and download files readily available on the internet from the Smoking Gun website detailing the abuse alleged by Jordy Chandler. She then read these statement allowed to her 2 sons thereby prpgramming them and soon they came up with there own stories. Janet then went to fond a lawyer, not any lawyer but Larry Feldman the same attorny who represented Jordy Chandler and who recieved £500,000 for the settlement of that case. Feldman arranged for the boy to be interviwed by Dr Stan Katz who treated also treated Jordy Chandler in 1993.

Now for those of you who dont know anything about the first case, that to had a huge argument in the favour of Michael Jackson in from which I highlight this comments from the author of the article It is, of course, impossible to prove a negative -- that is, prove that something didn't happen. But it is possible to take an in-depth look at the people who made the allegations against Jackson and thus gain insight into their character and motives. What emerges from such an examination, based on court documents, business records and scores of interviews, is a persuasive argument that Jackson molested no one and that he himself may have been the victim of a well-conceived plan to extract money from him.
In summary on page 8 she states:And what became of the massive investigation of Jackson? After millions of dollars were spent by prosecutors and police departments in two jurisdictions, and after two grand juries questioned close to 200 witnesses, including 30 children who knew Jackson, not a single corroborating witness could be found. (In June 1994, still determined to find even one corroborating witness, three prosecutors and two police detectives flew to Australia to again question Wade Robson, the boy who had acknowledged that he'd slept in the same bed with Jackson. Once again, the boy said that nothing bad had happened.) The sole allegations leveled against Jackson, then, remain those made by one youth, and only after the boy had been give a potent hypnotic drug, leaving him susceptible to the power of suggestion.
To read the full article :Was Michael Jackson Framed?



For those of you who cant blieve people, including the use of children, go to EXTREME lengths to make false allegations heard and beilieved, you must watch this. A documented real example of a man using a boy to great effect falsely accusing Michael Jackson. I think this is from 1995.
Download confession -

expect evil any where there is money

[quote author=Tudór link=topic=292832.msg4147280#msg4147280 date=1246958921]Listen to yourself. . . .are you dumb?
The bible says be ye not equally yoked with unbelievers and you're busy comparing yourself with muslims. . .wait till noetic or davidylan catches you.

The thread was about atheists spending the dollar inscribed with "in god we trust"- I exposed your LYING HYPOCRISY and all you do is jump into bed with the islamists. Jesus will be ASHAMED of you![/quote]how would you know who Jesus is ashamed of?

do you know Jesus for yourself?