All that matters in the end is, how well you finished. If you have a knack for IT, then learn software development or related. POS seems to be lucrative just as the other guy suggested. You can do it alongside your IT skill and fashion learnings.
But my age is scaring me. How can I be thinking about what to do with my future at the age of 26, something i suppose figure out immediately i finished secondary school.
You're in a toxic relationship and the longer you remain, the more harmful it gets. It's gonna hurt for a while and your emotional healing might take long, but leave the relationship ASAP. Find a therapist immediately, not a counselor, and commence therapy! Get involved in church activities by joining a unit or attending a bible college. In the end, you'll be fine. Believe me!
Even if my woman sleep with another man, I will still tolerate it and act as if everything is fine, hoping that someday I can get my shit together and move on but it's seems I'm not getting out of this nightmare anytime soon
Question: does this forgiveness come after an apology from the offending partner or does this happen regardless of whether they apologised or not? Thank you.
bestman09: Marriage is sweet, but not for children. It's not for a showoff too.
If you can't tolerate nonsense or forgive senseless behavior or endure rubbish or overlook foolish things, don't dive into marriage. This is my 23rd years of marriage and its been beautiful though not been rosy always. Don't quote me if you are not married for at least 20 years
Dumb! Cutting her off doesn't change the fact that 'what's done, is done'. You should be grateful you have parents that care about your well-being! The best approach would have been to lay your concerns to them and give them reasons why you'd want to be left alone. Call your mum and apologise ASAP. Nobody went to school to study how to become a good mother, let alone how to be one in a misogynistic culture. It's all trial and error.
Move on!
Now that you're aware of your current situation, what are you doing about it? Therapy is for everyone, irrespective of their ages. Read self-help books and practise them. Join some religious groups and get involved with their activities (that's the easiest way to build new relationships). Create new career goals. Imagine how you'd like your future to look and work towards actualising it.
Ablemed: Can therapy work for me?? isn't it to late at 24years of age?? I just finished calling mum now and accused her of everything that has happened to me, I told her I don't want to hear from her, not anytime soon. I've tried calling my Dad to but his line is switch off, I just wanna cut both of them off, They put me in this mess that I have to fight alone now
Allison012: see op,i swear what happened to you has happened to me.exactly as you talk am. even me i don't wanna date the girl and don't wanna offend her.
the day i killed that thing called introvertness in me,i toast this girl sotay she no understand herself.
another terrible thing is,this girl is living rent-free in my head.but i don't want to date her.
Please, accept this letter as a notice of my resignation. This is to allow me ample time to heal from the trauma I suffered, following the series of events that occurred at the office in the past week. I am grateful for the opportunity to work at your company, during which lifelong skills were acquired. Thank you for the patience and kindness you have shown me. I wish you continued success.
Kind regards,
sammieking2017: Is it a crime to be honest in this country ? Referencing to the post I saw here yesterday.
I had my own share too, though it's long but I need your advice.
The episode started when the Suffocating and comprehensive ASUU strike is becoming more elongated.
My mum discussed with her boss if I can be working with them depending when ASUU will call off their strike.
Fortunately, they affirmed to my mum's request and I was employed to work as a secretary.
Note: They are both husband and wife running the organization.
My role is to write receipt for all payments entering the organization account, write and ensure all the payments of the day are updated before the next day.
As a result of the nature of my work, this give me access to the boss office as I may need some things to take there. Even if other staff want to access the office, they will inform me first, then I will collect the key and give them whatever they need in the office.
Things was going smoothly until a fateful Friday I was accused of stealing.
The scenario happened like this.
As the secretary of the organization, I do resume work by 7:30am and close by 5:pm.
Apart from the cleaners that tidy the compound. In most cases, I'm the last person that leaves the office. And whenever I'm leaving, I collect the key to the office and park the bags of the boss and his wife into their car, check whether they bought something and ensure everything is placed in their car.
That fateful day, as usual, His wife wasn't around, then I look for the husband to collect the office key and he told me that the office is opened. With no further delay, I moved into the office and carried their bags. As I was going, he stopped me and check the bag. He claimed that inside the bag, where he packed money, the money has been rough handled and the nylon bag that housed the money was found tore.
Then pandemonium began. He insisted that a person has accessed the money and I was the only person that has the privilege to enter the office. I was troubled and confused. My perplexity was so high that I don't even know what to say.
I tried to explain to the best of my knowledge. I tried my best to exonerate myself that I knew nothing about the money. I told everyone that I met the office opened and I ain't aware that the office was opened. Most times, if I see the office ain't closed. I will close it because it's close to my office. But on this day no one to bear me withness. Every odds look against me. We left there around to 5:30pm that day.
I even told my boss that he should count the money that I don't perceive anyone entering the office. But he kept saying that he didn't know the amount he put there and he can't give the precise amount that has been stolen.
Beforehand, I noticed that the environment is full of jealousy. The staff jealous themselves. They envy each other and there are lots of faction within the organization. To be on a safer side. I didn't join any caucus or faction. I play my role diligently and discharge my duty responsibly. I don't do favouritism as I make myself to be honest in all things. There are many evil things that I'm aware of that goes underground but I don't interfer in it or report it except the bosses know by themselves. With my altitude, well with this I thought, I was loved by the boss and his wife.
When I got home, I wept profusely because no one to bear me withness, everyone seems I'm the thief.
I explained to my mum what happened because she has left earlier. She pacified me and said. If I'm not guilty of the stealing, nothing will happen to me and they should use whatever they want to use to look for their money.
On Monday we resume back to work. What happened on Friday kept pondering my heart, the wound hasn't been healed yet another mysterious thing happened again.
My own office is at the front of the boss office. My table and chair are placed there but it doesn't look privately. It looks like a reception before entering the main office. I got to my office next day to find that #3,600 has been smuggled into my drawer.
Chaiii! No one to bear me withness again about the money I saw. All things look like I was the one that stole the money, and just hiding under the guise of innocency.
I was extremely perplexed, different thought were ruminating my mind. One thought said if you give them the money they will say you are lying that you just kept it there. Another thought said, who knows, perhaps they are putting you under integrity test. Well! I carried the money, luckily the wife was around and I explained how I saw the money and handed it over to her.
When the husband came, she told him exactly what I reported to her and the husband responded, he might be the money they stole on Friday. He continues, definitely the thieves has returned the money as a result of their actions on Friday.
The matter dies there and no one ever made reference to it again until today when the boss (he) asked me to prepare a bill for a customer. I've done that already and also listening to him and the customer while they were conversing. In a nut shell. I heard the customer telling him that he wants another bills too. Therefore I was preparing that too, unknowingly as I was preparing it, I have covered the first bills with lot of books on my table. As the boss arrived, he requested for the first bill he asked me to prepare. Unfortunately, it's no where to be found again, �♂️. I tried to explain to him that I was also preparing other bills the woman mentioned. I think that was the only mistake I made thinking that would make the work faster for the woman to collect the bills.
All of a sudden, I noticed that he has been seethe with anger. He shouted at me that I don't have regards for him, he said, he asked me to do something but I'm doing otherwise. Before I could utter any statement to clear myself out. Everything has already scatter, he remained deaf to whatever I wanted to say. He insisted that I'm not working with them again, he chased me out like a dog that I have to go back to take my phone.
Amongst all the turbulence, I kept begging him. I prostrated on the floor to show that I'm sorry. But he didn't even looked at me.
For the sake of my mother. I don't want to do anything that would affect her relationship with her bosses, I would have said. I'm not working again and not even bother to beg.
To cut it short. His wife signaled to me to meet an erderly man close to the place, possibly he might listen to his pleas. I did as instructed by his wife, "God bless that woman" The erderly man followed me but another thing bursted. He said apart from this, that he can't employ somebody that he doesn't trust. He made it known to the erderly man that I'm not trustworthy using the past money that was stolen as a case of study.
That moment, tears began to roll down from my face. I didn't know what to say in the midst of everyone. Everyone was just saying, please forgive him, he will change, he won't do that again. I looked at myself and said this is humiliation of the highest order. If I take any step, it might affect my mum too and lead to the termination of her appointment. I don't want her to be traumatized.
I remained calm and crying bitterly. Well! he accepted the elderly man plea for me and they concluded that this is yellow card, that if I do anything bad again, they will resort by giving me red card. Since ASUU is still on strike now and there's no way I can say I'm leaving there without having implication on my mum employment. Who knows, what will happen next that might get me roped and I will be given red card couple with humiliation. I want men with wisdom to advice me on how I can justify my resignation peacefully. I don't want anything to backfire on my mum. I don't want her to be traumatized and I don't want them to transfer their aggression on her.
I just want to leave there peacefully because I can't see myself working there again. Even all these things was written with my unbalanced emotions. I know I have been traumatized and accused falsely but I believe I will bounce back strongly and soon or sooner God will revealed the perpetrator in Jesus name.���.
I will be glad if this can be moved to front page.
The man should give you a token for the car. Then, tell your girlfriend that you sold the car because you needed the money.
Scamfinders: My girlfriend is insisting i give it to her while my family friend has been calling me all week for it.
The issue is that i told them i was no longer going to use it, now am regretting it cos i can just sell it off and get the money.
The family friend is a married man and he has been giving me reasons to dash him the car, my girlfriend told me she won't forgive me if I give it out because I already promised her before the new one came.
I can't even say NO to the man, I find it hard to disappoint person wey me know. I'm just confused and my mind is foggy, what will you advise me to do.
Whatever that goes up and does not come down is no longer a stock. Maybe it has become a landed property. Patience is key. Give it time. It will always come down.
How ambitious are you? Is relocation an option? If you pursue the Island job, do you envision continuing and consolidating in that career field long-term? Do you have plans to progress within that bank should there be an opportunity? Which of them provides job security should economic crisis become imminent. I'd advise you to weigh all your pros and cons.
So I currently work with one of the top commercial banks and I was posted to one of their branches on the mainland very close to my place of residence. So I incur close to zero cost of transportation, no traffic issue, no stress. And the salary is 100k, no promotion in sight, career growth is uncertain and the role isn't really great for my CV. I'm a teller.
Last week I did an interview via zoom because of the nature of my work and I got another job, but on the island. It's a private equity firm and the pay is 150k. The cost of transportation for the month is about 20k. There's great career growth and opportunities for self development. However, I fear the stress of going to the island and back daily. Waking up as early as 4am sometimes and coming back home late.
Please advise me on which to choose. I have till Monday to decide.
Those working on the island and staying on the mainland, how do you cope?
You're quite oblivious of what goes on within the Fintech industry. You should read the post again without bias…they pleaded guilty. I also indulge you to read up on Flutterwave's current scandal. Cheers.
Neither of these two guys were accused of stealing or fraud, but rather not stopping fraudsters? But why has the same system not sent the CEO of Western Union and Moneygram to jail?
Why jail them? Why not fines? Do bank owners or managers get jailed because fraudsters keep money in their banks?.why havnt the managers of Western Union and Moneygram being jailed since all these years?
The story is 100% wrong. Neither of these two men stole any money. I know many grateful Nigerians who used Ping Express to support their loved ones in Nigeria to the anger of the Big 2 ( Western Union and Moneygram). How can you jail a bank MD because fraudsters have accounts with the bank? Something is seriously wrong here. Why have the MDs of Western Union and Moneygram not been jailed for all the billions fraudsters have sent through their companies? Oh I forgot those are not immigrant owned businesses. Worst case they will be given a fine. Or maybe it's because they are "small boys"
All the people who used Ping Express never gave a dime in cash to the company, they sent the money using their bank debit cards. So why have the managers of the banks from where the money came from not being charged?
People will think this is $167 million cash somewhere. No $167 million anywhere. That's the total of funds they legitimately sent on behalf of people.
$50, $100, $200 here and there from 30,000 customers over 5 years. I myself sometimes sent $15 and sometimes $300 or more.
The allegations is on the $1 million + sent by a Fraudster, Collins over a 3 year period. If Ping Express had not verified their customers properly; how would they have been able to track the Collins guy? But Ping did proper verification for all customers.
But the banks where the monies came from to Ping Express are not being questioned. This is a company I used for years and people came to know.
They followed every rule.
I know the stress I went through to get verified before using their services; license, phone call etc, things I never had to do with Western Union.
They are not accused of fraud, but rather not stopping fraudsters. Then why jail time? To kill their business finally?
When will the CEO of Moneygram and Western Union that Yahoo Boys have been using for over 20 years to send money, be arrested and jailed? NEVER.
Western Union and Moneygram have lost probably billions in the last few Years with the arrival of companies like Ping Express that made sending money to Africa not only faster, but cheaper, direct to bank accounts and 24/7.
Western Union that used to be only available during banking hours. They changed quickly when Ping Express and the new guys positively disrupted the system.
The conclusion of all your statements is that men are transactional with their relationships. There's no difference between your write-up and the lady's!
A man who loves you because of your intelligence, resourcefulness and loyalty Wil not leave u even if u get terribly fat. I'm sure the only thing you have to offer is ur physical appearance that's why they left u. Someone like Teni the musician, do u think anybody dating her before Wil ever consider leaving her because she looks fat ? Men have sense. We look beyond physical appearance most times. If a woman gives u idea that always put a lot of money in ur account, even if she gets very huge like trailer, most men will not leave her. They can cheat, but won't leave.
I had two dates actually, the first was 1st June, but the link was 23rd May at 10:15 am, I joined the meeting but there was no one, waited till about 12 pm
No. She was single when I asked her out. She was against the open relationship idea at first... I had to convince her because I love her but don't want to commit to a relationship at the moment.
Romance / Re: Help My Uncle Decide by ggoldmine: 1:00pm On Dec 21, 2022 
