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[quote author=aribisala0 post=104841756][/quote]go to your profile then check your posts. My post you edited is still credited as Your post.

I thought atheist are intelligent or pretend to be. You just called your own father a born fool It's an owl goal to you dimwitted dweeb.

Frustrated oaf!

aribisala0:
Are you better than atheists?

this one na new recruit for atheism.

Born fool!

aribisala0:
That is Eegboes for you

okotie is urhobo.

Were you born feet first?

Nigerian Christianity is a circus show if Odumeje is the voice of reason defending late T.B Joshua

jesusjnr2020:
Who Is The Head Of A Christian Home? Christ Or The Husband?

There cannot be two heads of a Christian home, for a man cannot serve two masters. Matthew 6:24

Therefore It has to be one or the other, so which is it?

I have heard some say or seen a written message in some homes, "Christ is the head of this house." On the other hand, i have also heard some claim that the husband is the head of the home or marriage, therefore I would like to know which is really true, since both cannot be right at the same time.

If Christ is the head of the home, then both the husband and wife ought to submit themselves to the authority of Christ. But if it's the husband instead, then the woman has to submit herself to the authority of the husband.

My own belief is that Christ ought to be the head of every Christian home, so both the husband and wife ought to submit themselves to His own authority.

Anything contrary to that is not of God, but of men or the devil, hence it would only lead to dangerous repercussions in the home, as it was in the beginning when the husband and wife both rejected the authority of Christ, even the Word of God that was in the beginning, and chose to listen and heed the voice of someone else.

Although the marriage didn't end up in a divorce as a result, and they wear yet able to bear children, it became a total failure as the purpose for which God made the marriage, which was to multiply sinless children (those born in obedience), was not achieved.

It also led to hostility in the marriage, because the same man who loved his wife and called her "the bone of my bones" and "flesh of my flesh", now saw her as an enemy or a stranger called "the woman you gave me". Genesis 2:23; 3:12

So the authority and head of a Christian home, as God made it to be in the beginning, ought to be the Word of God which Christ is, and that's one of things which was in the beginning that Christ came to restore. Therefore taking that authority from Him and giving it to someone else, including the husband, would only prevent the purpose of God concerning the marriage from being fulfilled, and could also lead to hostility among the married couples.

That's what would have happened in the marriage of Smith Wigglesworth, as the husband thought he was the head of their home, and had authority over his wife, hence tried to use it against her and to prevent her from serving God as she ought to, when he derailed from the faith.

But thank God he had a wife who knew that he was just her husband, not her Head or Head of their marriage, but Jesus, as she'd let Him know. So he couldn't make her do things contrary to what Christ demands of her, because she was meant to be under Christ's authority, not his.

This eventually led to her husband's restoration to the faith, and for this reason he loved appreciated his wife much more than he'd ever done beforehand, because what he learnt from the wife in the process was an invaluable lesson, which had not only helped to restore him, but also made him to be a better vessel for God's use, and better husband for his wife and marriage.

That's what many Christian' marriage stands to lose whenever someone else is put in the placed of Christ as the Head of a Christian home. It ends up more or less as the marriage in the beginning, when God's purpose for the marriage was not achieved.

And once that purpose is not achieved, the marriage become a total failure even if it doesn't end in divorce and they're yet having children as Adam and Eve, because God purpose for a Christian marriage that determines the success of a marriage, not that of man.

So it's up to choose who will be the head of your home, but if it's not Christ, do not expect Him to also act as the Head, because He cannot share His position or authority in any marriage or home with anyone. It's either Him in charge or not Him.

God bless.

from your name Jesusjnr,you're no better or worse than an antichrist and a devil made manifest.

Wife submit yourself unto your husband. It is finished. Husband is the head of the home and Christ the head of the church.

So your question should be who's head of the church? Not the home.

You're obviously a pastor looking to keep your ill-gotten stream of wealth from naive disobedient women coming.

But we will expose you.

Lazy thief!

KingOfAllIgbos:
Keep quiet. You're supporting him simply because he's Igbo like you.

Use sense with your tribalism.

The fact he reported first doesn't mean he's not a crook.

Anyone who CAN'T understand my post isn't smart. No offence

Common sense dictates that you hear BOTH sides of a story before judging....

Some have concluded that the first person to accuse is innocent. No wonder Nigeria is in a mess. Lack of critical reasoning.

you have never passed the idiot-proof test your entire life


Shebi na the man go report SCID, still carry soldiers come the man house?

Even your arse will be envious of the dirt your fingers can produce.

Yampotatocarrot:
To me, this is the easiest case ever. I'll advice the govt to go meet the parents in court and even entice the judge to rule speedily in favour of the girl... It's just 15million

Then, every teacher who was flogged by the dad and his colleagues will now sue her father for 10million naira each, plus threat to life, and assault plus any other big grammar. Infact one of the teacher "should lose her pregnancy right after the beating they received"

By the time 15 teachers come to join the suit, I wonder where the man and his family will run to.

looz, I believe the father came there with armed policemen to arrest the teacher for assault.

It's lagal.

[quote author= post=104769764]https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-9886965/amp/Georgia-Grandmother-17-Cheryl-McGregor-61-engaged-toy-boy-boyfriend-Quran-McCain-24.html[/quote]before I clicked, I had a suspicion a black man was involved.

Plausible explanation:

*the woman is looking for her lost youth

* The dude is looking for his mother or he's a lazy scammer or has emotional issues.

Authority1o1:
Okay...


The girl in question is rather unwise to take such a case to court.

Sueing for suspension is dumb. The suspension was clearly incurred by her appearance in the school environment which the school's attorney-at-law wouldn't take much pain in tagging a moral threat and ethically unacceptable.

Caning—which the school can deny it ever happened—hasn't even become outlawed in Nigeria, which makes her a appear like a desperado who wants to put a round peg in a square hole.

lolz @ attorney at law.

How would the school justify suspending a child for the conduct of her parents in this context?

The school can deny canning? Did you read well? The canning was done at the assembly ground. They can't lie away from that.

Also 20 lashes has crossed from school discipline to assault.

Face it, many of our teachers are incompetent.

Any school which canes a child for indecent haircut is morally bankrupt and un-evolved.

Just send the student home with a written note.

No wonder we brew violence and monsters in society.

OJEEMAH:
Hahahahahaha........ Go face Ghost.wisperer wey wan finish your life

The plonker has never passed the idiot-proof test for once on this page.

He's just a C Ronaldo PR princess.

Dannyset:
Positive discipline for better mental and physical health and a happy childhood.

There are no bad children, only bad behaviour.




How to discipline your child the smart and healthy way.

There comes a time when every parent struggles with how best to discipline their child. Whether dealing with a screaming toddler or an angry teen, it can be hard to control your temper. No parent wants to find themselves in such a situation and the bottom line is that shouting and physical violence never help.
Thankfully, there are other, more effective ways and one of them is positive discipline. We consulted Lucie Cluver, Oxford University professor of Child and Family Social Work and mother of two young boys, to explore how the approach can help parents build positive relationships with their children and teach skills like responsibility, cooperation and self-discipline.


Why positive discipline?

“Parents don't want to shout or hit their kids. We do it because we're stressed and don't see another way,” says Professor Cluver.
The evidence is clear: shouting and hitting simply do not work and can do more harm than good in the long run. Repeated shouting and hitting can even adversely impact a child’s entire life. The continued “toxic stress” it creates can lead to a host of negative outcomes like higher chances of school dropout, depression, drug use, suicide and heart disease.
“It’s like saying: here's this medicine, it's not going to help you and it's going to make you sick,” says Professor Cluver. “When we know something doesn't work, that's a pretty good reason to look for a different approach.”

Rather than punishment and what not to do, the positive discipline approach puts an emphasis on developing a healthy relationship with your child and setting expectations around behaviour. The good news for every parent is it works and here’s how you can start putting it into practice:

1. Plan 1-on-1 time

One-on-one time is important for building any good relationship and even more so with your children. “It can be 20 minutes a day. Or even 5 minutes. You can combine it with something like washing dishes together while you sing a song or chatting while you're hanging out the washing,” says Professor Cluver. “What's really important is that you focus on your child. So, you turn your TV off, you turn your phone off, you get to their level and it's you and them.”


2. Praise the positives

As parents we often focus on our children’s bad behaviour and call it out. Children may read this as a way to get your attention, perpetuating poor conduct rather than putting a stop to it.
Children thrive on praise. It makes them feel loved and special. “Watch out for when they're doing something good and praise them, even if that thing is just playing for five minutes with their sibling,” recommends Professor Cluver. “This can encourage good behaviour and reduce the need for discipline.”


3. Set clear expectations

“Telling your child exactly what you want them to do is much more effective than telling them what not to do,” says Professor Cluver. “When you ask a child to not make a mess, or to be good, they don't necessarily understand what they're required to do.” Clear instructions like “Please pick up all of your toys and put them in the box” set a clear expectation and increase the likelihood that they'll do what you’re asking.
“But it's important to set realistic expectations. Asking them to stay quiet for a whole day may not be as manageable as asking for 10 minutes of quiet time while you have a phone call,” says Professor Cluver. “You know what your child is capable of. But if you ask for the impossible, they are going to fail.”

4. Distract creatively

When your child is being difficult, distracting them with a more positive activity can be a useful strategy says Professor Cluver. “When you distract them towards something else – by changing the topic, introducing a game, leading them into another room, or going for a walk, you can successfully divert their energy towards positive behaviour.”

Timing is also crucial. Distraction is also about spotting when things are about to go wrong and taking action. Being mindful of when your child is starting to become fidgety, irritable or annoyed, or when two siblings are eyeing the same toy, can help diffuse a potential situation before it becomes one.


5. Use calm consequences

Part of growing up is learning that if you do something, something can happen as a result. Defining this for your child is a simple process that encourages better behaviour while teaching them about responsibility.

Give your child a chance to do the right thing by explaining the consequences of their bad behaviour. As an example, if you want your child to stop scribbling on the walls, you can tell them to stop or else you will end their play time. This provides them with a warning and an opportunity to change their behaviour.

If they don’t stop, follow through with the consequences calmly and without showing anger, “and give yourself credit for that – it’s not easy!” adds Professor Cluver.
If they do stop, give them lots of praise for it, recommends Professor Cluver. “What you are doing is creating a positive feedback loop for your child. Calm consequences have been shown to be effective for kids to learn about what happens when they behave badly.”

Being consistent is a key factor in positive parenting, which is why following through with the consequences is important. And so is making them realistic. “You can take a teenager's phone away for an hour but taking it away for a week might be difficult to follow through on.”


Engaging with younger children

One-on-one time can be fun – and it’s completely free! “You can copy their expressions, bang spoons against pots, or sing together,” adds Professor Cluver. “There’s amazing research showing that playing with your children boosts their brain development.”


Engaging with older children

Like younger children, teenagers seek praise and want to be thought of as good. One-on-one time is still important to them. “They love it if you dance around the room with them or engage in a conversation about their favourite singer,” says Professor Cluver. “They may not always show it, but they do. And, it's an effective way of building a relationship on their terms.”

While setting expectations, “ask them to help make some of the rules,” suggests Professor Cluver. “Sit them down and try to agree on the household dos and don'ts. They can also help decide what the consequences for unacceptable behaviour will be. Being involved in the process helps them know that you understand they're becoming their own independent beings.”


Advice for parents during the COVID-19 pandemic

The pandemic has brought about sudden and drastic changes in the lives of families with parents directly in the middle of it. Here are some tips that can help parents get through these and any other stressful times:


1. Pause

We all know the stress when we feel our child is being difficult. At moments like these, being present and stepping back is a simple and useful tactic. Hit the “pause button”, as Professor Cluver calls it. “Take five deep breaths, slowly and carefully and you'll notice you are able to respond in a calmer, more considered way. Parents across the world say that just taking that pause is enormously helpful.”


2. Step back

Parents often forget to care for themselves, says Professor Cluver. “Take some time for yourself, such as when the kids are asleep, to do something that makes you feel happy and calm. It's really hard to do all the things right as a parent, when you haven't given yourself a break.”


3. Praise yourself
It’s easy to forget the as tonishing job you do as a parent every day and you should give yourself the credit, advises Professor Cluver. “Each day, maybe while brushing your teeth, take a moment to ask: ‘What was one thing I did really well with my kids today?’ And, just know that you did something great.”

“We might be in and out of isolation, but you are absolutely not alone,” she says. “Millions of parents across the world are all trying and we're all failing sometimes. And then we're trying again. We’ll survive this together.”

https://www.unicef.org/parenting/child-care/how-discipline-your-child-smart-and-healthy-way

we all know the west have failed in child morals.

Coming from a western woman is bound to fail and only devilsh advocation for children's independence. These folks have no social morals.

I read where snw said for parents to build relationships on their teenage children terms.

How devilish, how stupid.

The rod is still the surest way. Use it wisely. But play with the kids also.

KillingIsFun:
Funmi Iyanda, Kemi Olunloyo are Igbos too ABI?

I was talking about their spokesMAN, Angela Nkwo.

Kingcalls:
U are too foolish and dull to understand the financial tricks in football business...I believe u cudnt mk uni and ur number of repeated classes has shown how unrepentant u are in being dull...its actually a medical condition...go sick help

You're talking about University and at the same time writing in juvenile abbreviations.

You're the sperm every mother wished flowed as her late menses.

You're irredeemably dull and hopeless.

The only thing too difficult to understand is your emotional outbursts and girly whining as if they told you your lover, C Ronaldo was castrated.

See how you manage to factory Ronaldo into this issue?

You're standing firmly at the junction of mental paralysis and sexual identity crisis.

C Ronaldo is making you question your sexuality.

Emo-bitch.

KillingIsFun:
Did Feminists Cause Unproductivity Of Your Pastors? — Feminist Group Slams Bishop Oyedepo Over Comments On Marriage



[url]http://saharareporters.com/2021/08/12/did-feminists-cause-unproductivity-your-pastors-%E2%80%94-feminist-group-slams-bishop-oyedepo[/url]

Angela Nkwo, I know the useless feminist must have a. Igbo woman as head.

slawormiir:
Damnnn niggarrrr
Too bad

But wait i don read the body of the write up abi na article

It was not stated that doctor confirmed it was food poisoning.....

You all should go back and read...the cousin just concluded it was food poisoning


your boyfriend must be a real niggarr

who concluded it was food poisoning?

Who stated that doctors said it was food poisoning?

There are better ways to seek that girl's attention than writing as if your brain is enveloped in cannabis.

OJEEMAH:
schooling the dullard is a waste of time. A bloody hypocrite that knows the truth but chose to mislead the gullible.

I don't know who's the bigger dullard, bro. The idiot or the over 700 dimwitted snowflakes who liked his lying post.

Very pathetic.

Kingcalls:
U are the dullard here...50% cut , but with a 5 yr contract...use ur brain

you don't have a brain to begin with .

Now listen even though it's hard for you.: No player can accept more than 50% cut in pay. It's against the law. Messi agreed to 50% cut, that's the maximum by law a player can accept to help his club.

It's the Barcelona president who later rejected that deal of 50% cut and 5 year deal. This deal was agreed to verbally before Messi left for Copa America, thinking when he gets back, he will just append his signature to the deal .

Interestingly, the deal had already been cancelled long before the announcement without Messi even knowing.

Also remember same Barcelona President was caught in a restaurant with real Madrid president having super the very day Messi's departure was announced.

It was a very bad picture in Spain. This was what forced Madrid's president to issue a statement to clear himself from the saga.
Messi is the victim here.

You just dropped an emotional lie like a little C Ronaldo cry-baby with no logic of proof.

You better cover your leaking pussy with a sanitary pad before you lie to more people with your emotional bias.

Ode.

Kingcalls:
Only his blind delusional unreasonable fans will disagree...I hate pretenders , I hate hypocrites....same person that dropped transfer request just last year and was angry that barca prevented him from leaving... he had a whole season to sign a new contract, he didn't...waited to finish copa , rest with family only to show face a week b4 league resumes and throwing crocodile tears like he dint know this will happen... this are the kind of frenemies that will poison u and cry at ur funeral... I will always stand with Ronaldo for his honesty, if he says he is leaving, he will leave , if he says he is staying, he stays , he sorts his contract issues or transfers on time , he doesn't pretend


Modified....for those delusional messi fans quoting me...Messi fans are no different from almajiri ...I always say this cos u guys are not critical thinkers... a club and league that he has played in thru out his career ( 21yrs ) at the same club and u think he and barca officials dint know about the Spanish financial rules...messi just wanted to pay barca back for not letting him go last season , that's y he kept on delaying to sign till last minute and then blame the financial rules...on the other hand , Barca dint wanna take the risk of letting alot of players go and then Messi ends up not signing....but this last minute put Barca in a tight corner , no time to offload and league is about to start ...Best option, let Messi go and manage the ones u have ... messi fans are never smart and toooo blind to see... well, what do u expect from people that say messi is better than Ronaldo and also equate copa to Euros ....now the fraud has stylishly joined an easy league and team to continue whr he stopped at barca... y dint he join Chelsea as Abramovic instructed his club to get messi , but he rejected...y are his fans only clamoring for PSG and Mancity ...thats cos they know he is most likely to flop if he doesn't join those 2 high scoring teams...now he will wanna use those dead teams in France to shine...no single team in France is even 30% of PSG

Read that up.

https://www.bbc.com/sport/football/58157038

Messi even agred to 50% pay cut without arguing.

He believed the deal was on and felt betrayed by the club. Messi left for Copa America thinking when be comes he will just assign his signature to the contract.

Spanish FA rejected the deal and no, Messi can't play for free or accept bellow 50% in Barcelona. It's illegal in Spain.

Barcelona is being controlled now by financial hawks.

You just misled over 700 dullards with your emotional outbursts.

Are you a pussy?

EzeAnambra:
Lols,Political jobbers.They even gave them printed polo to wear.
When ESN deal with dem now,people will start shouting Igbos against Igbos..If your family members is among this ones,better call them back b4 hand touches dem.

Enough is a word for the Wise.

criminal. You're even worse than the Buhari administration.

Who gave illiterate unproductive criminals like you the authority to request people to sit at home?

IPOB are illiterate criminals.
Nnamdi Kanu is a criminal Hustler.

IPOB supporters are brainless bitches.

aminulive:
POLITICSNIGERIA.COM



https://politicsnigeria.com/misadventures-of-those-israeli-filmmakers-in-nigeria/

Nigeria is a disgrace to the entire black race, a disgrace to Africa.

Buhari and APC are an embarrassment to common sense and decency.

We're under curse from God and APC is our punishment.

How does a foreign film or documentary people need to consult the government? For permission?

Idiots.

You have to be a shameless unconscionable dullard to work for APC.

Kingcalls:
Only his blind delusional unreasonable fans will disagree...I hate pretenders , I hate hypocrites....same person that dropped transfer request just last year and was angry that barca prevented him from leaving... he had a whole season to sign a new contract, he didn't...waited to finish copa , rest with family only to show face a week b4 league resumes and throwing crocodile tears like he dint know this will happen... this are the kind of frenemies that will poison u and cry at ur funeral... I will always stand with Ronaldo for his honesty, if he says he is leaving, he will leave , if he says he is staying, he stays , he sorts his contract issues or transfers on time , he doesn't pretend


Modified....for those delusional messi fans quoting me...Messi fans are no different from almajiri ...I always say this cos u guys are not critical thinkers... a club and league that he has played in thru out his career ( 21yrs ) at the same club and u think he and barca officials dint know about the Spanish financial rules...messi just wanted to pay barca back for not letting him go last season , that's y he kept on delaying to sign till last minute and then blame the financial rules...on the other hand , Barca dint wanna take the risk of letting alot of players go and then Messi ends up not signing....but this last minute put Barca in a tight corner , no time to offload and league is about to start ...Best option, let Messi go and manage the ones u have ... messi fans are never smart and toooo blind to see... well, what do u expect from people that say messi is better than Ronaldo and also equate copa to Euros ....now the fraud has stylishly joined an easy league and team to continue whr he stopped at barca... y dint he join Chelsea as Abramovic instructed his club to get messi , but he rejected...y are his fans only clamoring for PSG and Mancity ...thats cos they know he is most likely to flop if he doesn't join those 2 high scoring teams...now he will wanna use those dead teams in France to shine...no single team in France is even 30% of PSG

Messi is better than C Ronaldo by every standard. That has been settled. You don't need to be a Messi fan to know this.

Maybe he acted a little bit too dramatic during the press conference. But what he had in pretence, Ronaldo doubles in insecurity, arrogance, envy and lack of sportsmanship.

Are you too blind to see that or you're just one CR dick hopper?

Okotie is dispossessing his own members of their wives and is a serial divorcée.

Isn't this charlatan the idiot who contested as president.

Greasy haired idiot.

GalaticHorde:
You think I am indulging your stupidity here? seriously? You think I care to scathe you? That ship has sailed and all I care to do is trigger your compulsions as you are so predictable with your run of the mill inane gibberish that I have seen on nairaland in different formats over the years so you know what to do [insert your stupidity here............................................................................................................................................] and see me crying and don't forget to string a few interesting words together, your biggest fan kokowhatever finds them fancy and is highly impressed and it, is the sum of your worth

allow me the pleasure to quote you twice!!!

The same "run of the mill inane gibberish you had seen in Nairaland on different formats"? Really?

This my gibberish caused you to open 4 different emails, and 4 different Nairaland accounts by 2am midnight just to react to this gibberish?

You must have been haemorrhaging that night!
Your heart rate must be doing 450 beat per minute
And your pulse must be fluctuating near lethal levels
Fake ass emo-bitch.

If you be girl na fake boys and yahoo imps go dey f.cuk you like wetin...

Organic idiot!!!

tutudesz:
Crazy dey worry you abi Guy your news is fake

swegbe like you

vannessa7:
Why so much venom, Yoruba culture is very different from yours, believe me it's a compliment for the youth to request he be brought to the village for burial, I'm sure he is very happy where he is at this development if it's possible. I'm sure his family are happy too and will only decline for special reasons. We believe a person is indeed successful if at death there are many people celebrating him

Okay, Vannessa.

iwaeda:
https://dailypost.ng/2021/06/14/surrender-seek-forgiveness-nigerian-army-tells-boko-haram/?

no incident of pad reporting?

The news make the media , not the media making the news. If there's bad news , it goes into reporting and if there's good news , it goes into reporting too.

If the media reports only good news, it's same as falsehood.

Africans and stupidity! Where the jazz when Europeans sacked the ancient Bini empire and stole all their art work and exiled the oba?

The jazz then was more potent, no?

DasaintHope:
http://saharareporters.com/2021/06/13/bring-prophet-t-b-joshuas-body-home-burial-ondo-youths-tell-family-late-cleric

Never seen anyone who can match the stupidity and meddlesomeness of village people. Especially the youth brimming with energetic stupidity and force.

Yeah, tell the family how to bury their son and father .

Ewedu bastards!

BigSarah:
angie was simply living her truth, shame on you David...

But jerry should have highlighted he, I mean she is a transvestite...

you walking about with a dick, freak?

membranus:
For me, it is your moniker "GhostWisperer" that hooks me.

How do one whispers to ghost? Can do you teach me the skills, maybe I can make money through it?

lolz