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olapluto:
MOST ladies who carried the issue on their head like Jumoke bread are singles, divorced or soon to be divorced. They are the ones who do not fully understand the meaning of MARRIAGE. Most of them I see on my fb wall, I know their history. Some from broken homes, some got married only after they got pregnant for the guy and had to force his hands into marriage.

For all 45 minutes of Tiwa video, all I see is typical family issues. Issues that are normal in marriage. Most happily married couples deal with such issues weekly. It starts to die down after few years of living together. Reporting the issues to outsiders is always one sided. E.g Tiwa said she 'never cheated on her husband'. She did not say she never slept with Don Jazzy or Sid. Perhaps it all happened before marriage and Tunji gets flash backs.
As for spending on the man, it is a shame that she can say that out. If the man were to list his spendings on her or her issues, I am sure he will have plenty to say too. In my home, my wife can buy me a trouser of 200USD and broadcast to the world, while no one is there when I pay average of 800USD everytime she fills her online shopping baskets. If Tiwa asks for money for diapers from her husband, shes only doing it to spite him. Every family has their modus operandi. My wife will NEVER ask me for such because we have both made provisions and I deal with other things. When we go food shopping, we both understand she will pay fully while I handle school fees.

In my opinion, the marriage is too fresh to crash like that. Impatience, and social media killed the marriage. Every married man has had a day when he wished he never touched his wife with a long stick. On other days, you just sit and marvel at the gift God has given you. However, when family and Instagram start to get recognition in the marriage, then things get out of hand. I had to stop my wife from uploading family pictures on facebook. Family matters stay indoors.

Tiwa's shoddy attempt to tell her side of the story is poor. Married couples can easily relate to where their problem is coming from. Singles and single mothers can also quickly pounce on Tiwa's story to convince themselves on why marriage is not important. The only victim in all these is the child. Imagine one day when he's 10 years old and he sees this video on Youtube. He is going to be deprived of a decent upbringing due to parents who were keen to satisfy social media before satisfying poor Jamal.
For all the 'edible catering' and cheating stories, one thing was for sure, it would wane. Our mothers went through worse things and ended up being boss ladies in their homes. Men are strong headed but weak minded. We know our wives and know who we are playing with.

Overall, I pray that both of them can come together, leave family issues out of public eye. God be with them. Amin

Lastly, if you are one of those who is encouraging them to wash more dirty linen outside, stay away from them. God doesnt like those who break homes.

Orikinla:
How can a wife that the husband and his friends prostrated for at the traditional marriage and she swore to Almighty God before witnesses at the church wedding to love him in health or in sickness; for better for worse now betray him calling him a cocaine addict and a shameless thief wanted by the EFCC?
She has already condemned and sentenced him before prosecution.
Then shedding tears later not for him, but to save her fame and fortune of multimillion naira endorsements as a brand ambassador.
God have mercy!

Vinshu:
I understand that ladies you have encountered have treated you in an unfair manner in regard to your finances

Sorry.

Medley:
why are you generalizing? Are you trying to tell me that you've not met a Nigerian lady that will tell you what she wants and how she want whatever in a relationship?

Vinshu:
Very true.

Guys think all the time a lady wànts to have sex.

Medley:
It has been the season of signs - various green lights that indicate that one is craving to have carnal knowledge of one another. I would have let the thread go without this counter-thread, but i think the importance of this thread at this time can't be underlooked or superfluous.

It will be egregious if we want to always depend on demeanours and gesture of a partner and not his/her consent before wanting to sleep with him/her.
These are why i posit so:

1. A sweater may be just the right answer.

This reason might sound funny, but give me the chance to corroborate my point. Most ladies whether they tell you or not,want guys to always treat them with tender care and not some point and sex creatures or sex symbol. Yes she came to your house, it was raining and she set-off by calling you that she is coming under the cold weather and all over your heart you think she want sex and that's why she called and she is now with you all alone. She may just want to wait somewhere until the rain stop or she just might have not had some talk time with you and that time just seem perfect. When she is in your house and she said she is cold, may be you giving her a sweater or blanket might be all she wanted.

2. She came and demanded alcohol.

She has never demanded for alcohol and this time she came and she is on her third bottle and you have concluded she want to sleep with you, this can be misconstruable! Have you asked her how she spent her day? What events have transpired in recent times? You may be preying on her vulnerability at that moment all in the name of thinking she wants to have carnal knowledge with you.
If you have sex with her and she leaves for her home you haven't solved her problems and she will know what is more important to you in the relationship.

3. He/she apriori asked his/her freind to leave the room.

And so what? Most of the time i live the room of my friends if their lady friend come visiting except what am doing there can't be done else where. next time if his/her friends live the room, it might be because they think you need your space and the guy/lady may even want sometime with you unencumbered so you could have a stronger relationship. sex can and will never make two partners be more bonded than time spent together.

4. He/she demanded you don't bring your friend(s)

In every relationship trust must be built, he/she might want to know if at the relationship life-cycle you currently are if you now truly trust each other, if you misconstrue it for sex appeal only for him/her to feel disrespected when you try to push, you may have succeeded in killing that relationship.

5. She came in with short and revealing wear and she lay her hands on you.

Yes! As indicating as it seems, the sign alone may not be what you should rely on. First, what stage of the relationship are you on. She may seem to look sensual in her outlook but have you asked what she want in her heart. Have you known her so well to know how she dresses in the day and night? What if she went somewhere and was locked out? What if she was feeling so hot inside that day she visited and decideded to dress that way.

If you don't seek the consent of anyone before trying to sleep with him/her you may find yourself battling a case of sexual assault when this was done uncosciously - one of you was not consenting. Or you may even be embarrassed if he/she is still weighing options or path to be taking in the relationship.
Relying on signs has been major reason why rape cases are growing by the day.

If you have more reasons why one should not rely upon signs please let's know

marvelck:
When a girl keep givin a guy sex all the time, and also render som services to him, when she is not yet his wife, he wil either be reluctant to marry her or keep delaying it. Since he is already enjoying the benefits of a wife frm her...especially the regular sex. Girls shd wise up.

edo3:
Initially,,I never supported this man called saraki becos he was over- ambitious,,but as things are going now,,am begining to feel that d yorubas should rally round him..wether they like it or not saraki remain a yoruba man..that slot should not slip off our hands. Am proudly yoruba..

danjumakolo:
These optionsl could help...

Buy her another phone in form of a gift.But before giving her install a phonespy software in the phone.She will never see the software in the apps section.Register at phonespy website...all sms,bbchat,wattsapp,calls etc will be uploaded live on the website....go to the site n have fun by downloading all recorded calls and. Chats.

Or put sleeping tab in her drink ....den do the needful

lebroske:
Great nairalanders, i know you people are exceptional in giving good advice to people because i have been following this tread for some time. Though i am new.
i am suspecting that my lovely wife is cheating on me. The reason is that, each time i want to go through her phone, she picks up a fight. Whenever i want to use it for something else, that would be the time she will want to use it. I feel she is hiding something from me but i really want to get an evidence so that i could confront her. Most of the time when she is chatting with someone on phone, she hides the conversation. i wonder why?
Pls great nairalanders, what do i do in this situation? I don't want to confront her yet because i don't hv a proof.
Please no insult. Thank you

Realman87:
Kneeling down, crying and begging Abacha is the height of cowardice. Diya wrote his name in the World's Everlasting Book of Cowards. He didn't know he was on camera. Even a civilian man will hardly kneel down, cry and beg his fellow man, let alone a Soldier. Major Okar and many junior officers plotted a coup, they ware caught and executed. They never begged. Generals Vatsa, Bisalla... were executed; they never begged. General Ironsi was captured and killed; he never begged. Plsss. Nobody should defend Diya by calling Ojukwu. Diya ruined his family name, forever.

HopeAtHand:
I take it from you that the reason be begged for his life is to tell his part of the story. Well, better to hear from the horses mouth direct. But the story in effect is one of shame, a story of subjection to indignity. I can count a million persons who will rather die than be subjected to kneeling and crying to a junior officer to live.

What the heck is life for goodness sakes. Abacha is dead, Al-mustapha will someday. Death comes sooner or later, but that indignity is engraved in history.

Cholls:
my brother just trying to know what you mean with this statement " if i try copy and paste dis ur argument for my facebook, i swear my babe go organise assasins come my house."

Cholls:
my brother what do you mean.

Cholls:
my brother man who never cheats is a man who subdued his natural instinct and natural desire.It is not healthy and not normal.Most people sooner or later cheat because monogamy is not normal.If somebody claims he is happy fvcking same person for 10,20,30 .. years lifetime he/she is talking Disney fairytales to appear 'moral'.


To desire multiple people is perfectly normal.You have been brainwashed by religion,media and society to believe if you stick to one vagina at a time you have superior morality.

I would feel more guilty about not throwing away trash from home than about cheating.You just relaxed yourself outside boredom and thats it, not a big deal.

Sirmuel1:
Dangote is my Dad, Buhari is my in-law, Obasanjo is my uncle

pretydiva:
Have never been to a cinema. So I ve no idea wat d op is saying