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BuddhaPalm:
Women don't compete with men in sport for a reason...

And that reason is that they are not given a chance to. Everyone already assumes the men will beat the women.

BuddhaPalm:
My brother, if it were to be earlier, I would have been on your part of the fence.

Men and women are not equal, we are DIFFERENT.

Very different.

Apples are not equal to oranges, even though they are both fruits.

We possess strengths they don't, and they others we don't.

In certain abilities, they leave us in the dust, but in others, we eclipse them.

Seriously, it's like I am arguing with a wall on NL.

Feminism doesn't saw women are stronger than men, it says women can be as strong as men.

Feminism doesn't say women are smarter than men, it says women can be as smart as men.

All they want is a chance to prove themselves. That is the feminism movement.

snakebeat:
@the emboldened, it's not true & u know it.

It's a well know fact that men are stronger than women, it doesn't apply to humans alone, always try to watch natgeo adv, u'll understand what I mean. U can't compare the strength of a lion to that of a lioness, or a cock to hen, it's natural, i think u should rather blame God for making women the weaker sex, not man.

People refer to men as strong because they are truly strong & brave. Take samson as a case study, that's is if u're a christian, he killed a lion, all the battles that were fought in the bible & olden days, nigeria civil war, world war, libya fight, etc were led by men, even till date.

they didn't fight because they were told not to. Not because they couldn't. Tune in to discovery and watch a bunch of WW episodes. Women were told to stay at home while the men went for war.

I can categorically tell u only men constitutes the soldiers that are fighting in the northern part of nigerian. Despite the spate of wars in africa, have u ever seen women fighting? Only male soldiers are deployed to battle fields, because by nature, women aren't tough, if u're a wrestling fan, how will john cena vs any lady sound to u? Saying men are stronger & more brave than women isn't demeaning at all, it's the truth, & no one can dispute that.

Most of the things we are using today were invented by men, technology, architecture, medicine, engineering, law, politics etc, men were at the fore front in ensuring these things came into reality. Even women acknowledge the fact that they are the weaker sex, but taking advantage of their weakness is what they should be agitating against, not debating which sex is stronger......

It's not about who is stronger physically, it's about giving them an equal platform to prove themselves. A platform which is just starting to exist with the feminism movement.

But are u sure u're a man? Honestly u sound like a woman with so much hatred for men.

What has hatred got to do with anything? I am saying you should give women a chance to prove their capabilities, how does hatred for men fit? It's not a competition.

snakebeat:
@ the emboldened, it's not true.
Employers accept applicants based on what they can offer, not on the premise of gender. haba! where do u get your facts from?

Like I said, it's getting less now.

And like I also said, men are most likely to be chosen

And also, I wasn't talking about large scale companies that are public figures. I am talking about the not-too-large ones that no one really notices.

Timbuktou:
Please could you shed more light on this? What exactly do women find difficult in today's society?

They arent given the same opportunities as men

ofcourse, its getting less now because of the feminism movement but its still there.

If a man and a woman apply for a job, the man is most likely to get picked without even giving the woman a chance to prove she is capable.

ofcourse you might say women dont really try but i will tell you that its what happens when you nurture someone to grow up and be submissive. Its the way society has formed them like they dont stand a chance competing against men.

Just look around you, the signs are everywhere.

Timbuktou:
1. And this is because he doesn't see any point in sending her to school, not because he wants his daughter oppressed. Or maybe, he couldn't afford it.

2. Where is a woman's place if not in the kitchen(home)? Yes, women work today but who does house-keeping if not women?

3. And men doing women-like jobs aren't laughed at?

4. And men who take up knitting as a profession aren't laughed at?

5. All these are social dynamics.

6. Women are oppressed today? Examples, please.

7. And women will say "are you not a man?" It is manipulative. But you don't hear men bitcching about it.

You have yet to present convincing arguments.

1. Yeah right. Thats why he sent his other 5 sons to school and not one of his 6 daughters.

2. feminism says women that want to step up should not be beaten down. They should be alowed to.

3. Thats not the point. This is not about men, its about women

4. Thats not the point. This is not about men, its about women

5. women are being taught to be submissive to men. "Its a man's world" means nothing to you?

6. Are you telling me that men dont havve it easier than women?

7. blacks call whites racist words all the time but once a white man does it, everyone goes mad.

I was once like you. always saying "what about men" "what about men". Until i read a post on reddit.com. a black girl posted about how she loved her skin color and everything about being black then some white guys posted that the post was gonna sound racist if it were posted by a white person. Someone replied...Its not about you, its about them. A group of people that have grown oppressed and made to think less of themselves. They were taught to be submissive. They are trying to fight that mentality and also show that they are capable. Let them have it.. unless you think they should still be submissive, oppressed and looked doewn on.

snakebeat:
@ the emboldened, it's quite funny...
Man & woman have distinct personalities, physique, character, voice etc... Often times I hear people telling women, stop acting, dressing, talking & behaving like a man, how does that sound oppressive? Because by nature male & female are two distinct genders. So it's normal for anyone to talk when one gender act like the other...

Oh really?

Just so you know, i said it was belittling not oppressive

In today's society, "man" is synonymous to "strong, in control, brave"... "woman" is synonymous "weak, scared , whinny".

You dont see anything wrong with that? or are you saying i am lying?

when a man acts scared, you call him a woman. when a woman acts brave, you call her a man. you dont see anything wrong with this?

man is seen as a positive word while woman is as a negative word.


Let me bring it down to something you can relate to... racism

have you ever wondered why no one cares if a black man is racist to a white man but once the white man says the N word, everyone goes gaga?

Freemanan:
Objection Mate...
Lots of Women have helped mankind in the course of history and they have been listened to. A lot. Though not like Men.

You need names?

Honestly, i dont know what to say again. Ofcourse there will be a few.

Tune in to discovery once in a while and watch world war stories. You will hear that women were not allowed to fight in the war because they are women.

Women dont have it easy in today's society. They have never had it easy. If you dont see that, then i fear i am wasting my time.

Tallesty1:
You should have been wise enough to use "some women" instead of your generalization and unfounded accusation that men have been oppressing women since the creation of the world.

Well, I assumed you are educated and know that hyperbole is a figure of speech.

You should be wise enough to know that When I say women, I don't mean every single woman on the planet.

The heart of human are desperately wicked, women oppress their men too.

It is more like the survival of the fittest, men oppress weak women and women oppress weak men.

Men die everyday because of the type women they found themselves with.

But the crazy movement called feminism ain't saying nothing about it.

I am for equal opportunity for every man or woman but presenting women as angels and men as demons is what I can't stand.

Stop preaching falsehood, say the truth and shame the devil.

This has nothing to do with feminism. WTF r you talking about? Are you not listening?

Don't say/ do stuff Just because they are women, simple.

Oppression is not just in physical abuse.

Men have the upper hand already based on how our ancestors formed the society. We should join hands and raise females by treating them the way we would treat our fellow man.

Timbuktou:
Could you kindly list some of these "oppressions"?

In what ways have they been enslaved to do men's every bidding?

Honest answers please. Thanks.

Take a look at history. Women had no choice in matters at all.

You hear of a woman wanting to become a doctor and her dad tells her "there's no point sending her to school"

Statements like "a woman's place is in the kitchen"

Girls doing men's job are actually laughed at and called men-like names

Girls doing weight lifting or in the Olympics get laughed at.

All these are social oppression.

And they still happen today, they are not just history.

A man will say stuff like "stop acting like a woman". This statement is sexist and it is belittling. It implies that women are lesser than men.

Tallesty1:
Really? @emboldened.........


How did Adam oppress Eve?


My dad doesn't my mom.

My uncles treat their women as better halves.

My aunts are happily married.


So I don't understand the kinda oppression you are talking about.


BTW why hasn't any feminist complained of being left out in the fight again bokoharam?


Why hasn't any nairaland Feminist complained that our women soldiers are not fighting in maidugri?

Is it only when it comes to marriage that remember to talk? And yet they claim that feminism isn't anti-family??

Oh yes, you are right. Because your family love each other, it means the remaining over 7 billion people in the world love each other too.

Man gtfo.

If you are too blind to acknowledge fact then move on.

Like I said, everyone knows their place.

Feminism is not about loving your spouse or family members, it's about not looking down on them in certain aspects in life.


There are more men in the army than females. There are more men in every fvcking tough job in Nigeria than females. This is because we still have that mentality that men are superior to women. That men should take the harder jobs and women should "stay at home and cook". Women do have a lot to offer but keep getting pushed aside by men. It's not about loving your spouse or your family member, it's about not looking down at them in certain aspects of life.

Did they deploy any female to the north and she said she wouldn't go because she is a woman?

You are staring at death and blaming the hearse.

terrymason:
Help me! I just need a cheat on any network to update all my files 4 my console.. the tin don finish my money...

I don't think there's any cheat that works on console. But if you can download the files in yo pc and transfer, Google "Mtn simple server". I dunno if it's still working tho.

Freemanan:
I used this picture as my Display picture earlier today and all of a sudden I started receiving messages from my BBM contacts (both male and female).

Most of them see Feminism as a waste of time and that Africa has no place for it in order for a marriage to last.

So Nairalanders what do you think? Let's hear your opinions on this issue.

HAPPY SUNDAY...



Cc lalasticlala Ishilove

Saying feminism is a waste of time is like saying anti racism is a waste of time.

Women have been oppresses for generations since the beginning of creation.

They are not slaves to do our (men's) every bidding.

All they ask is that you treat them as equals not as the lesser sex.

Racists judgement on race, sexists Base judgement on sex

In both cases, it's the "lesser" race/sex that suffers.

Tolexander:
no, they aren't!

They do buy handkie, socks, boxers and singlet for guys.

Lmao. I swear. Next girl that buys me singlet again, thunder!!!

This post deserves front page throughout this week. Top quality. I will like to download the images but am too lazy and on mobile.

JoeCutie:
It's funny how someone who has been driving for close to 50 years would still not have been involved in any form of road accident, yet someone who took up driving today, gets messed up in a road accident and breaks legs, breaks hands, breaks waist, breaks head, breaks private parts, breaks his/her future, and in fact, dies. Whew!

That's the same way all these sex things go. I'm not an expert, but I'm not the most clueless either. And lest I forget, I was not born yesterday.

Reading all these things is like reading all of Ben Carson's motivational books. E no dey workii! Ben Carson was able to become successful, and then wrote those books because he walked those difficult paths. He made mistakes. If you had told him all of those things earlier, he wouldn't have listened. Just know that no matter how many of his books you read, it would still not work for you the way it worked for him. Your both destinies are not the same. After all said and done, wetin wan happen go still happen.

Someone, even without reading all these so called sex educational stuffs, has been banging, kpanshing, kpanching, kwanshing, casting and binding, yet, nothing dey happen. And someone, after reading 100 volumes of sex educational articles, tries it once. Just once! (even if they are standing, kneeling or even in some cases, hanging) and it enters. Ife bara aba, abago. No time.

What am I saying? You can have sex fifty times and still come out clean. And you can do it just once, and you know..."Mama/Papa bomboi" things. Sharp sharp!

What works for me, might not work for you. Do your own!

Nice points, Op. Very nice and educative points. But you see... you are probably writing from experience, but then, I've got my own experiences too. Let me act on my own experiences. Dankis.

Hey you, there is no place for smart ppl on nairaland

Am sorry to say but any girl that is willing to risk her future or her child's by lying about popping pills is an 1diot.

That being said, stay away from premarital coitus, it's a sin and unhealthy.

Morality and ethics involved when talking about abortion is too complex.

Is it okay to have a child you cannot raise instead of killing the child before he is born?

Is it okay to kill a child before he is born instead of bringing him into the world to suffer?


Guys and girls, wise up. Use condoms and contraceptives in other to avoid answering the above questions.

Be wise.

sinaj:
dnt knw bout u but in my skul, itz known as MACHINERY!

Mercenary is the real word

Is that a virus or something? Lol. I am not clicking that.

happyness200:
Thank you for the enlightenment. I'm a native Hausa living in the North. Though having marriage with non Muslim woman is not consideded as offence herein; is even welcome by most Muslims, i tend to conceal my apostasy for fear of being rejected by the people in my community. Apostasy being regarded as capital offence here, to publicly declare my apostasy is like putting my life in danger.

I don't know how culture is in that side of Nigeria so, I don't really know what to say about this. Just follow your heart and do what's best for you. That's all I can say.

CUMPOLICE01:
I want to commit suicide..... Dont know whats wrong. I hate this world. Dont wanna live again. Everybody in it are doomed.... How can i commit and go to heaven, even hell any1 am ready?.... Everyone just frustrating me and i dont have feelings neither do i have the urge to get close to som1.....

Calm down op. There is more to life than all that. Take it a day at a time, death is not the solution to your problems. All these hurdles will pass you by, wish you the best.

lagmostkuit:
Pls die nah...


I'm begging u
Pls die

You are an idiot. You and every other person who made this type of comment. Smh.

Some girls dull sha. Someone is crying for help and that's what some of you have to say? If we say Nigerian girls have fish brain now, una go dey vex. Mstchw

Man, you are bothering yourself too much. You are an adult and let your family know that you are not a Muslim anymore. It's not compulsory you Marry a Muslim girl. When you are ready to meet women, you will. Don't settle for just any woman, you will only end up living an unhappy life. You can meet people through friends and on social media and also ask your friwnds to hook you up. There is a woman out there that doesn't mind the way you live your life.

Being a total introvert like you, I learned when I was in the university to accept myself for who I am. The girls will come. Surely.

Don't bother yourself too much, accept yourself.

Troll detected. Op, who let you out of your cage?

Dating someone from your tribe, there are chances that you are related. Especially if you are from the same village or something.


Imagine dating someone for 5yrs then you go home for introduction and they tell you that both of you are like 2nd cousins. Lol

Nice try. We won't fall for that. Right guys? Guys?

It was obviously all about sex for you but not for her. Anyway, what was her response and how did she handle it? Give us the full gist bro.