₦airaland Forum

Farmerforlife:
If this story is true, the child must be an orphan. This cannot possibly happen to a child with true biological parents.

The last time a "teacher " flogged my house help, he didn't find it easy.

tearoses:
That's great news im sure that you will give the couple room to sort themselves out

Give room? I was not occupying any room in the first instance.

tearoses:
That's great news im sure that you will give the couple room to sort themselves out

Give room? I was not occupying any room in the first instance.

We await her Waec and Jamb score. Abi na private university she go go?

tearoses:
Because he knows that he can manipulate the story to pull on the Ops emotions and she will by sympathetic towards him.
A fellow man who knows what men can do will ask him what he did to warrant this.

And you think I did not ask those questions?
Well, the good news here is that they are mending fences, at least she has apologized for calling the cops for her hubby and so there is much room for sanity to come into that relationship.

For those who felt the man wants to cross my legs, maybe they are speaking from personal experiences. I've seen it all to be bamboozled just like that by a man just to hit a relationship with me, na today nyash dey back?

Just for the records, I did not in any place state that the man paid his niece's fees with ease. The niece is the house help as in typical Nigerian set up and she stayed at home for a term because he could not afford her fees in full. And that was after paying his children' fees.

While no one has a perfect marriage, being in a frustrating relationship no be here. No one prays for that but when it comes, one can only pray for God's grace and the strength to pull through.

As for indicting myself, I still wonder how and why? Sharing a story? Well, that's by the way! At least her eyes don come down small and I believe they will eventually pull through their challenges.

tkondscreen:
I THOUGHT THEY SAID THIS WOMAN CAN NOT GO TO THE US.

CHAI, WAILERS. WHERE HATH THOU?

She no go anywhere! Wait for the full gist.

DonBenny77:
Nigerian first lady went to USA didn't meet wit Obama or her counterpart didn't visit the white house hmmmmn something is fishy here



i smell scam

No mind them and one zombie dey here dey claim say Obama dey vacation. So nobody dey White House again abi? She don pay the e-rats like Auntie Linda to cover the fake trip. Make she dey there dey form gand wey VOA no carry the news of her visit, even NTA ma self because by the time Fayose go open this can of rotten fish the smell no be here.

Chiscomax:
Then why use the IT student to do the job of employer?

It is now clear where the issues are coming from.

Lord have mercy. RIP to the dead

aww! I love the 2nd picture. She's so full of live. Congrats!

What? Tied an 85years old woman unclad in the forest? What did they expect apart from death?

Hang them by their balls jare.

ChangeIsCostant:
if to say she fall ur hand nko.. congrats anyways

ko le possible. in fact impossicant! When girls flenty, like full containers for Wharf.

I vote falconey
cc: nljega

Timbuktou:
Nna, I am saw it too. The chief witch is working tirelessly to spread discord and discontent into as many homes as possible. Tufiakwa.

Fkforyou:
^^^^^^...LMAO.

Advice: Don't take every comment personal. Just read, smile and move on.

An enviable and worthy advice. Now I understand better.

...still sticking to this because it paid off.

Dandeson1:
i must say they are lucky to have you. I know how much i spent to learn the keyboard, nd i havnt learnt it to the way i want.

oh oh. I had to buy them keyboard and violin to start with

They are still learning though but mehn, I am so proud of them. I usually grin from ear to ear each time they play in a gathering.

Dandeson1:
wow, that is very commendable... But you would agree with me that its not in our nature to let our kids work before they are 2ru with schl. All i was saying to the guy is b4 he charges at our leaders he should check himself. Did you teach your daughter how to make dresses or it was inbuilt?

They each have to learn dress making during the long vacation after junior waec. I also bought a sewing machine for them. The ten years old is learning bead making now, she plays the keyboard and the violins too.

opeaceo:
haaa, Nigerians, we keep fighting the wrong battles. Her hair is covered and that's the most important thing!

Nope! Her shape will give them arousal abi erection

Dandeson1:
we won't even see your own child doing this not to talk bout our leaders..

See better oil wey dey the girl body

Not very true.
My 14 years old daughter make dresses and she is to make dresses for a group of 9 kids for a show. By next week I am going to buy materials for their uniforms for her and her younger sister to make their uniforms in preparation for 1st term.

5minsmadness:
glossy6, dont let anyone bamboozle u into agreeing with thier twisted idea of relationships. Good morning.

My dear I tire oh! How people twist things baffles me!
Good morning jare.

EfemenaXY:
Really?

A grown arsèd man cries "day in and day out" not to his / his wife's family members but to you, a female probably many years younger than him and his wife for?? And it wasn't a one-off thing but he does it daily. i.e comes to the office everyday to cry on your shoulders? When, if at all, does he ever get ANY work done?

And how do you know his wife doesn't lend a helping hand financially? Afterall according to you, this man initially lived at Lagos alone while his wife and kids were living in the east before he sent for them all to join him. So I suppose this very wicked woman didn't spend a kobo on her kids, wasn't a fit mother, and the kids either fended for themselves or survived off fresh air, abi?

You're so into this man you can't even see what's right in front of you. It's not about who shouts the loudest that suffers the most. A man with a hidden agenda will say anything and wave the pity card in your face to get his leg over you. So yes, to gain your sympathy and "understanding", his wife must be the devil's incarnate killing him slowly. If not, how else can he pull your strings? And to make matters worse, you swallow everything he tells you hook, line, and sinker without verifying the facts. Everything he says must be true because he's quiet and soft spoken like your husband.

Odiegwu.




Oniòvò mė nunu ra! Kiyèmè??

Wer aye niè? Wer guolo rè òzà na? Rè obaro rà!



Well then, maybe you should go meet her to hear her side of the story before acting judge and jury solely on the man's say-so version of events. Seriously, how do you know for certain his wife of 16 years with 6 kids has never done anything? Do you live with them?

You even commented this man paid his niece's fees but cries about paying his own kids' fees. Makes you wonder where his priorities lay.




No, you wouldn't get it, seeing as you're too far gone into this man to think objectively.

Let's turn the tables around. The woman is forced to shoulder the entire financial responsibility of the home, including paying her nephew's school fees. She then decides to "cry out" to her male colleague everyday bad mouthing her husband for being a selfish, inconsiderate gít and even goes further to share pics of her husband with this male colleague of hers, who now thinks the man is a wicked soul. This male colleague is so heart broken about the "plight" of this woman, he can't sleep at night.

Now tell me, honestly, what:

~ your opinion of this woman will be?

~ what advice will you give her? (apart from the usual dim-witted "fast and pray, wear red bra and knickers, seduce and séx him till he can't walk straight"...)



Well you made the comparisms, not me.

Fkforyou:
^^^^^^...LMAO.

Advice: Don't take every comment personal. Just read, smile and move on.

...sticking to this

TheArchangel:
You, having a crush on this man ni?

As for craving his attention or having a crush on him, no way! But the truth is that we were working together in the Island, before I was posted out and then we were posted to the same location sometime February this year. This I believe makes me confide easily on me as his other male colleague is too vocal and may leak his secret.

I have made up my long ago not to be involved in extra marital relationship and this is not in any way a bait. I understand your fears and will guard myself accordingly.

We all live in different directions and have very limited interactions in the office, although those are not excuses for a woman who is not used to men ways and attention.

TheArchangel:
You, having a crush on this man ni?

KanwuliaMama:
I agree. So, you need to just keep being supportive without taking sides. There's always 3 sides to EVERY STORY. The man's, the woman's and THE GODS'!

I will try to be neutral as much as possible, only it hurts me to see him in pains.

amtalkin:
Shekau, ISIS, Al-Barnawi etc. is just an example of how every true Muslim should be.

Even if the truth should taste bitter to you.... pls don't hide my post or ban me...


Thanks for understanding

fpeter:
You're still a baby in the eyes of the Almighty God. If you're in Nigeria please tune in right now to DSTV 349. If you are reading this.

Thanks for the encouragement. God is indeed faithful

EfemenaXY:
When they say we women are the architects of our own problems, this is exactly what is meant.

You don't know the dynamics of this 16 year old marriage with 6 kids, you've never spoken to the wife nor heard her version of events, yet you feel comfortable giving destructive advice based on one party's version of events??

Seriously!




Why the comparism? Is this some sort of competition?

How has what she want for her kids got to do with you, your qualifications, or the school(s) your own kids attend? Is she asking you to pay for the education of her kids?

Even if the mother wants her kids to be schooled on the moon or at planet Neptune, what's that got to do with you? You're fanning the embers in someone else's marriage with your interference while adopting the my marriage better pass your own mentality with your criticisms and you don't even see it.

Your opinion but I know my intent & they are not destructive. For crying out loud, the man at the centre cries day in, day out that he can't afford those fees and that's where she should render a helping hand. I don't understand the angle you are coming from, maybe you are translating your name literally "my wealth is mine or here". But in all sincerity, a woman should be helpful, though I've not heard from her. I shared this story so as to get opinions and you are here sounding as if home building is solely for men and how a man should die pleasing a woman in the capacity he cannot obviously function. Am still at a loss at what you are driving at but your message is clear that she should ride on. My marriage can not be said to be better than hers because we all have our challenges, what I imply there is that I earn above her and tend to prioritize my spending & you are here interpreting my write up to portray what is not.

I Am not against her choice of school either as I've often told him to do what suits them in terms of meeting the educational needs of their family because they cannot be me and I cannot be them. I am sharing a story, which opinions coming in may differ but attacking me is not a way forward here.

oniovu me gwuru fiki ekwo evu aso rocku! Doo oniovu! RIP Olorogun, osi uvie eya na.

adioolayi:
"It is heart warming, not just because of the increment at a time that all the tiers of government are cash-strapped due to the crash in oil revenue. Rather the good news lies in the reversal of the age-long predominance of oil revenue in the fiscal profile of government without the fanfare. In June, non-oil revenue was 70% against 30% for oil. Silent revolution!"


You can continue to hate Jagaban...we love him and his political products..Baba T Fowler well done Sir!

Cover up!

EfemenaXY:
Why are you so heavily involved in someone else's marriage? What's in it for you?

Re: bodily harm, so the man does have violent tendencies and you wonder why she got the police involved?

I am not involved in their marriage, I only shared what I heard because I feel hurt for both parties. Why should I be heavily involved Or should I push him out when next he comes complaining? I have nothing to gain there (to answer your question) because I have my own home. I told him NOT TO FORCE her to stay if she wants a break instead of them becoming a victim because of what he said has been going on. I am a woman but not a feminist, yes the man is the head and the woman as the neck has to help the head to turn comfortably.

I don't know why she got the police involved as I can't claim what I don't know. I asked him if he beats his wife or threatens her and he said no that the wife is the one that gets violent when angry and somehow I believe him because he acts and speaks gently like my husband.

EfemenaXY:
Oh pls spare us the theatrics!

For once we get to read a story (assuming it's true) of a working, married woman refusing to be pushed around, or forced to live the pretentious suffering and smiling Mrs at all costs life.

Here is an independent working woman who knows her rights and has refused to be pushed around by her husband or "societal expectations". Hence her involving the police at the onset to curb any domestic violence thoughts the man might be harbouring from listening to poke-nosing advisors.

She's on ground with how it works in a patriarchal society like Nigeria where the man can do no wrong and will forever get a pat on the back no matter what. This woman has been honest from the onset about her views on home finance. She's not prepared to start something she can't finish as per "helping" him foot the bills. Too many stories abound about women helping out with good intentions only for the man to take advantage and eventually extract themselves totally from any financial commitment towards the upkeep of the home. No be Naija man again? In a setting that hugely favours the man and his antics?

We always advice spouses on here to start as they mean to go. Shebi he's the head of the home? Let him face his duties and stop bad mouthing his wife and mother of his 6 kids to all and sundry.

A woman refusing to trek under rain and sun to work but has rather chosen to save up for a family jeep (which incidentally would be used to make life easier not just for her but the entire family) is being berated? What's wrong with wanting to own a car which she would be paying for herself? Or must she age before her time to satisfy the opinion of outsiders who can't mind their own business? I'm sure the man's probably got one for himself.

I bet this woman's also built her own house hence the man knows he can't push her around. Let him keep badmouthing her to family and "friends". In the meantime, he knows where the door is if he can't stand the heat.

While I agree with some of your opinions here, I disagree with some.

If she's not to assist in paying fees, then she shouldn't dictate the schools to be attended, after all "he who pays the piper dictates the tune"

Secondly, she uses one of her husband's cars and so a jeep may not be a necessity now. IMO sha

KanwuliaMama:
Ok!
We have heard one side.
Call the woman to give her own version.

Thanks!

As a MARRIED woman, I have learned NEVER to play judge on THIRD PARTY REPORTERS!

Will sure love to read from the "woman"!

My dear, I feel like speaking with the wife but then I don't know her and I am not a family member, just a colleague and it looks somehow calling her on phone over such a sensitive matter.

Even at that I can't be An arbitrator here. It looks so complicated!

lhawarl1:
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Maybe she escort the dead

shut your trap! anu mpam!!
@op, may help come her way soon. God will bring her back safely. It hurts but you won't wait for too long. IJN

foxvilles:
Do you think network providers do assist individuals in doing such? Thanks though, note taken!

They do but with a police report.