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4 Him:
A story of shattered dreams, broken promises and ruined hopes.
Nigeria is like a broken clay pot,
every trip to the watering hole of development . . . a futile exercise in self-delusion.
while the people groan, our leaders squander the national commonwealth
Umaru Dikko told us we were not poor since we were'nt eating from the dustbins yet.
Yar A dua claims to be ready to take us to the zenith of world economies in 12 years.

Yet all around us despair and pain . . . torment and sorrow surround us.
Plenty water . . . none to drink
so much money yet so much poverty
plenty of land yet pervasive hunger
so much gas yet no power.

While we cry in anguish our leaders fall over themselves to eulogise political areaboys like Lamidi Adedibu.
While we struggle to recover loot from Europe, men of disrepute gather in Kano to celebrate the 10th yr anniversary of the divinely inspired death of a kleptocrat.
Innocent men languish in jail while election riggers get off with a slap on the wrist.

Indeed one year after our government is of benefit only to German doctors . . .

I like your words.

@poster,
You said "Please I need your advice before I do something crazy" I want you to go ahead and do the crazy thing,come back here and tell us what you have done to make your marriage lively.Marriage is the sweetest experience i have ever had.

michelin89:
Are you sure thosee 10 years weren't spent in toasting? Because I can't believe that after 10 years she opens her mouth to say "I had never really known him"!

True talk.

@poster,
Hope the used undies never touch your head,if it has touched your head well you need baba god to deliver you from that bondage.
The way out of this problem:
1.Seven days dry fasting if you have just seen it only
2.Twenty one days dry fasting with hard prayer if your hand had touched it
3.Fourty days dry fasting,hard prayer and you need prayer warriors to intercede for you.

Oku ori re o.

I do not trust anybody even pastors when it comes to marrital issues.

yemivictor:
Grammatically, your topic is a blunder & it's embarrassing!

I can't laugh o,but the points are well understood.

sheniqua:
na wa o.
How come no Christian bro has asked ?

Regarding your dilemma, the decision is yours but if you're a born again believer,you'll be disobeying the scriptures and you'll regret that union with an unbel.
Remember the man is the head of the home
what will you do when he asks you to stop fellowshipping or throws your Bibles away?
How about when he asks you to get him a bottle of cold gulder or Johnie walker whisky.
What if he decides to take on a second wife or consult babalawos at will?
How would you feel to see your man playing draft and ludo on a Sunday morning while you head to Church?
You'll probably ask Christian friends to pray for you when you should have said obeyed the Bible and not married him in the first instance.
Marriage and career choices are probably the 2 most important decisions in anyone's life.
If your relationship with Christ our Saviour is of any importance to you,you should know to say no to that man until he gives his life to Christ.
I am speaking to you as a married woman.
Love is not the only ingredient to a good marriage.
Compatibility is equally high up there.

You are a good adviser,and you have said it all.

@poster,
Do not be in a hurry to get married so that you will not regret it at the end of the day.Let me tell you something, if you are one of the sisters that do not dress very well and not socially inclined,no brother will call you for anything.Increase your social live,but do not derail along the line.If you trust your God he will never let you down.
You said only unbelievers are calling you,this is serious o.My sister search your life if you have gone wrong somewhere.

Laura B:
As long as a child is above a year old, things the child sees is of great impact to the life of the child. And if a child at that early stage grows with such, it has a deep impact on the child socially and morally.

Don't under estimate these children, because they are sharp and learns quickly at that stage, funny enough learn bad things easier. So Parents be warned and also make sure your house help is not doing same in your absence. Is simply not good, not healthy to bath with a Child

Example, a child that is used to seeing older people's naked body, when do you stop him/her at what age ( the ealier the better)

I agree with you,you have made good points.

jennykadry:
marriage is sweet and requires a lot of patience ,understanding and trust

with all these things u will enjoy and not endure your marriage

goodluck

She has said it all.

When the going was good i loved her,but now i like her.

You are a man,you need to be bold.Boldness,that is the medicine for your sickness.

[quote author=Negro_Ntns link=topic=140663.msg2352068#msg2352068 date=1213020419]This a very important topic you started. Lives have been maimed and lost in a jealous and possesive relationship. You are equating an imbalanced behavior with love and caring. Dear don't make that mistake. The longer you remain the more difficult the separation will become. If he is constantly calling and hanging onto you the he has become dependent on you and your presence. If you decide to leave it will be an ugly departure. Relationships in which a man say to his woman "its either I'm going to have you or no one else will" started like the one you are in. He is conctantly questioning your fidelity and if he had a car he would have been stalking you around town already. Do yourself a favor, stop arousing his jealousy. Get a ride home with a female. If you must have male friends then end this relationship NOW. You are playing with something that could turn deadly in a snap of the finger.[/quote]Good points

@poster,
If you continue to pray from now till the next 1million years God will not hear you on this issue.

@poster,
You have to continue your life,you can't be begging her just because you want to marry her.Do you want her to marry you out of pity? Definitely no.

jennykadry:
@Godalone

my brother it is oooooooo but im controlling it sha ,because i know its not a good thing,its not as if i stab or sthg,i used the word stab to explain properly how hot-tempered i can be sometimes

I am happy that you can control it,i was once like that but i have overcome it now.

jennykadry:
@poster

im sure her temper aint hot like mine,sometimes mine can be so terrible that i feel like stabbing whoever that offended me

This is also terrible.

I was told that if i spit on the ground and another person steps on it i will have sore in my throat.I was equally told that if i stay very close to someone who is in the toilet that my mother's breast and that person's mother's breast will stick together.

Show her the door.

buzyDiva:
who would have tot that frank has got this much sense of reasoning.

Honestly you pick my mind.

[quote author=frank 3.16 link=topic=61255.msg2346139#msg2346139 date=1212839589]the bad news is that after reading all this and say its ok most women will not learn from it. here is the fact on what you should do to have a healthy relationship, yet no body will learn[/quote]Abi o.

I will never drop my surname for anybody.

tegachuks:
Thanks all for your response. Like what i s wrote in my intial post, lets leave a good legacy for our younger ones an the administrative staffs of Nairaland should effect good administration that will build this forum and not allow those who never knew how they start to spoil their good work and name. However the success of this forum is dependent on you and me; post good articles and ingnore junks.

This is the only forum for now that has reputation in terms of jobs and other stuffs like entertament. 'Charity they say begin from home'. To my own understanding any reponsible individual sholud know where to play online and where to crack jokes. The most surprising thing is that when you get to know the people that post junks on this forum you will be amazed because they are made of good stuff; intellencial who can move this nation forward.

So i want to use this medium to appeal to they all, please redirect your vision and mission and make yourself and others happy as there is nothing greater that this.

You are good.

Avoid undue familiarity with your ex.

Aladunni:
Love conquers all things, including multiple slaps infront of your friends _soon

Abi o

replenish:
Which one be that now?

As for me once its over, it is over. No kissing, no caressing, no nada

You are right .

You cheat whe you feel like cheating.

[quote author=sista-jay link=topic=140039.msg2341090#msg2341090 date=1212736848]Does anything ever go according to plan these days? Love. . . . marriage. . . . . baby.[/quote]I agree with you

MallamMusa:
You have the power to make it go according to your personal plan.

I disagree with you,you do not have the power to make things go the way you want.