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AbuMikey:
Hey, You, Please, I beg You in the name of Meddusa, do not Tag Me, when its not necessary.

Thanks.!

and you had to quote the whole post and now got me mentioned a second time for nothing.

mygeeZ:
Are u sure u are not contraditing yourself. "When we discuss, we shud have consented"

what if after discussion you refuse to givr your consent, what should she now do? Just take it like that and risk getting pregnant?

[quote
author=mygeeZ post=27654372]Thanks.. Remember we are over 5yrs in our
marriage.. We shud have understood our body very well. I know a woman
can get pregnant aside the ovulation period.[/quote]that is not enough o. i have known myself for a couple of decades and i can tell you that i can never rely on thqt method only.

what should a woman now do if she doesn't want another child just yet and hubby is insistent on it even after so many discussions....don't you think she will need to do what she needs to do?

talking about compromises, i don't think cheating should even be part of it. talk about protecting myself, do tell me how.. sometimes, we get to some point in life where we don't even care whether things gets messed up or not.... hmmm....

^^^^plus he is very clumpsy with the condom (except he has been pretending) so i can bet that IF he is cheating, he is not using protection.... So what does that also tell you?

@donxavier...you are preaching patience and overlooking and prayers. Fine. But how easy do you think it is to keep on having unprotected sex with someone like that or you think that is also not important?

Donxavier:
well you have seen it. besides prayers are never wasted.

so i should be doing my prayers on my own without his knowledge or what?

Donxavier:
Join him in the prayers for God to take fornication and temptations from
his life. It seems he's aware he's doing wrong and wants to stop,
either his flirtatious ways or his cheating ways. A little spiritual
help from you would go a long way

join him in prayers and offer
spiritual help for what he says he isn't guilty of?? If i hadnt seen his
note.....

Donxavier:
Is it possible you overlook and don't confront him about it. Can you take it without some kind of confrontation?

overlook As in act like nothing happened and move on? So after that, what next?

aisha2:
My dear sister, God is indeed your strenght. it could be the temptation
which I think may come from being idle. I think you need time to rest
because so many things are going on and I feel so sad for you.

Can you take time off from work? Maybe go see your mom for some
TLC?

no time to take time off o. we have strict deadlines to
meet. i wasn't even allowed time off when i was sick. i dey manage my
situation like that jare.

Donxavier:
What do you intend to do if or when you eventually find out he cheated on you?

i don't know yet. Any suggestions?

hello all....so many things have happened in-between my short silence however there is something really bothering me so much since i found it this morning while preparing for work..... meanwhile hubby is still trying hard to convince me that he isn't cheating on me and that all scenarios have just been attempts and not the actual act (not limited to that maid and her sister- that i have confirmed)... I happen to see his note where he wrote out some things which includes list of things he is praying for God to take away from him, these includes among others; fornication, temptations...... Now doesn't the bolded mean that he is already doing it I intend to confront him with this tonight but still .......

Kimikazi2:
Could have been? You are not sure you did not have sex during courtship? Hmmm! Cut the crap

excuse me

Please be very careful o

HisSexcellency:
Compactibility in marriage is not only in character but also in sex. When u guys were dating the thing wasn't big then? Or she was enduring the pain so that marriage could happen between you two.

could have been a no sex before marriage relationship...

who
says the good cook is not beautiful? because she is tying a scarf and
with no make up? wash off the beautiful wife's make up and dress her up
like the cook and see what she will look like... do likewise for the
cook and see....

If the man is a chronic and baptized cheater, how many mistress do you want to confront??

benedictac:
I don't think u understood me

sorry i shouldn't have quoted you. I was just lost in my thoughts.

isorite

benedictac:
that does not make them Christians. Christian means Christ-like. and only the Christ-likes can see and enter heaven. so don't be confused or discouraged or even conclude because of the bag eggs in the christian-dom

Even christians fall into temptation and commit sin. if there won't be anyone commiting sin, there won't be any need for forgiveness except you are saying that forgiveness is only for the sinners that are just giving their lifes to christ....or that a repentant backslider has no place in christ anymore? As far as i am concern, sin is sin,,,,, lieing, stealing, corruption, backbiting, envy, fornication, adultery, evil thoughts etc are all the same in God's sight....

If only cheating were to be between the cheater and God alone and the cheater bearing the consequences all alone, it would have been better. but it is not always like that....

It is not easy for me to still be able to TRUST a man that is cheating/has cheated on me.. ...
It is only the cheated that knows how it feels. If only the cheaters know what they make their spouses/partners pass through emotionally among other things, maybe it will be easy for them to have a rethink but it is a pity that it doesn't even work that way....

benedictac:
and I also said it takes the grace of God for any man not to cheat, and
no it is not enough to stop him from cheating but will make the man
respect and know he has a wife. The only one that can make any man not
to cheat is genuinely having Jesus in his life.

of what use is the respect i get from a man cheating on me? it's a pity

benedictac:
Read and understand dear. I said PROBABLY. I also said "it takes the grace of God for any man not to cheat" but with all these there is the probability of the potential cheat to respect his wife and hide it from her

you are just saying this now. it wasn't in your initial post...

benedictac:
Read and understand dear. I said PROBABLY

Yes you said probably but what about this??

benedictac:
this is the secret of the other girl that makes the man go wild.

..
Besides, you should also read and understand too dear... I asked if all you mentioned is enough to stop a cheat from cheating... simple

benedictac:
you are wrong. I was only trying to let her know the divorce is never an option. she should work harder for her marriage to work. there is one thing u have to know about men, they love to be cared for and pampered they are like children. a little of this will sweep the man off his feet. it takes only the grace of God for men not to cheat.

as u can see, this man cheats and doesn't even respect his wife, he flaunts his cheating why is that so, becoz the other girl probably does what the wife doesn't. instead of complaining and nagging see how u can be more sweet to ur husband. when last did u send sweet text messages to him I.e "Honey are u coming home soon, I'm missing u" " I love u, can't live without u" and stuffs like that. How do u show ur appreciations. this is the secret of the other girl that makes the man go wild. You need more?

is that it?? You think all these can stop a cheat from cheating??

How can there be a perfect husband when we hear that there is no perfect human being?

I don't like sitting in front especially when i have my baby with me. I sit with him at the back. MIL can sit wherever she likes. She can sit in front with her son or join her grandchild at the back. I don't even drag front seat with ordinary passenger talk more of MIL

beeevan:
Are his balls off yet? Update please...

hmmm......

......

I haven't posted in a while because so many things were unfolded and i am yet to come to terms with that . The only update i can give for now is that the lady is leaving by month end. In fact, right now she is not in my house. She is with her sister and i am only waiting for month end so i can just pay her october salary and (depending on how i feel at that time),the money hubby is owing her...

To all those who asked after me, i am fine . Thanks for the love.... In due time, i might let you all in the full details

tolu4you:
is this the solution?

that is what you want to hear and you have heard it now. Hope you are now good? Enjoy yourself..