braine:
I support it. Divorces usually takes a toll on the kids, especially the girls. They most often take from their irresponsible mothers who couldn't keep her marriage.

So are you saying that the woman is always responsible for divorce??

Financial aid to go study abroad?? Hian!!!! I haff hear o...

[size=5pt]Its a pity say na one bush university i go o. nairaland never mature that time maybe me sef for go amelica o...

@OP- You can try Cyprus o. Abroad na abroad[/size]

what happened to the UI admission processing??

You need an orphan or you are an orphan
which is which?

Stillfire:
I'm not 40 but I'm 35 and single, do I count?

NO. Come back in 2019

cococandy:
yes

salute to the elders o. I shake yansh for you

Godmystrength:


When i just got married, my hubby was always complaining that i don't know more than sex (after resisting all temptation and waiting till marriage, what do you expect). He was practically running away from me and telling me that sex can kill somebody. I said ''oh really?'' No problem. So me sef lock up and told him that i don't want to die. When the thing got to him and some of his friends told him that if he allows me go out to get it, na him sabi, he is the one pursuing me up and down now. midnight o, early morning o, night o, weekend o, anywhere o, anyhow o all goes. Now i am the one running away.

This should even be enough to answer one of your questions

tpia6:

allows you to go out and get it?
where?
are you the type that has a bible on standby while you are getting it on with your lover? Se before marriage or something.
just looking at your moniker and cant seem to match it with your post.

tpia6:
Should we discuss this further?


actually, are you religious?

Are you asking because of my moniker...I am a christian....

as per the qoute, I never gave any options.
I said my hubby's friends told him to better be careful and do his job before he allows me go get it outside.. I never said that was an option for me...

tpia6:
If you have nothing to post, would you consider going to threads relevant to you?

was that why you were asking me those questions earlier because they were so relevant to you?

snazzylove:
@Godmystrength, where at thou??
Hope you are okay?

I am fine o my sister... things are happening jare...

cococandy:
Present. Let's begin

mummy cococandy??

tpia6:


allows you to go out and get it?

where?

are you the type that has a bible on standby while you are getting it on with your lover? Se before marriage or something.

just looking at your moniker and cant seem to match it with your post.

what kind of questions are these now this early morning? I believe you read all the post and not just the part you quoted.. So what's your question again?

allows you to go out and get it? YES.. he said his friends said so

where? I DON'T KNOW but i will tell him to ask his friends

are you the type that has a bible on standby while you are getting it on with your lover? Se before marriage or something. NO I AM NOT..

just looking at your moniker and cant seem to match it with your post. ME TOO. I can't seem to match your moniker with your posts all the time..

Phema:
Oh yes! The fourth and the youngest wife though, to one very rich Alhaji. You know, that trophy wife he goes to occasions with and likes to display for the whole world to see. Add that to being spoilt silly.

*wakes up from the horrible dream and hisses loudly* mstcheeewww!!!

"Guys aren't forthcoming. . ." indeed!

I do not even own my little son not to talk of a grown up man. Not even his father ''owns'' him... He is not a phone or laptop etc.....

Cutepessy:
vote for another contestant cutesy. ...


www.nairaland.com/cutepessy

This your SHOE ??

I have watched this movie before in Yoruba and English sef

I will just wake up from my dream o....

I thought the thread was about mentoring/advices from happily married men/husbands. Sorry if my question derailed the thread. Wasn't my intention. Mayb i was misled .. I have carried my wahala away o. henceforth, will just listen to them talk... Cheers

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aisha2:
Oh yes na there i dey pray speak in tongues join self" oh God oh God, chai God wayo Allah"

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kilokeys:

i got carried away.. that's a tough one o.

i wouldnt advise her to. i would rather hope they have their issues resolved by communication.
ill advise intending couples to have a mutual person they respect. that could help out on issues like this when they can't come to an agreement on thier own.

And while they are at it, wife not on any birth control method, hubby not wanting to use condom, wife can't deny hubby of sex and then viola!!!! she gets pregnant.... so what next??

EnlightenedSoul:


I'd say it def helps to discuss wants/needs/hopes prior to engagement and marriage.

Some things just don't go as planned.. e.g 1.couple have decided and agreed before marriage to have 2 children regardless of their sex, after marriage, they have 2 girls and now hubby wants a boy, or they have 2 boys and wife wants a girl?
2. They decided to have 2 children with 3 years spacing, after first child is 3, hubby wants to try for another and wifey seeing that they have hardly been able to feed the one they already have and afraid of adding more problems wants them to wait a little more? there are so many examples like that.....

kilokeys:
Godmystrength .. i get ur point of view..
thats nt the issue.

its the man we r advising at this time.
helping him realise communication is d key to any smooth marriage.

he should sort things out with his wife.. reason with her, share her fears and see the issue of having more kids from her own standpoint.


its nt a case of blaming anyone here.. its better to proffer solutions

I was asking a serious question and not sharing any point of view o. Just decided to ask it here because of the discussions going on here. My question has nothing to do with the OP @ all

i asked this question on a thread and i was directed here.... hopefully, i will get answers.... from the happily married men..

moca:
Yes o!
Im a man and can testify that marriage has been good to me.
Any question,feel free to ask and i try my best to answer honestly.
Thank u.
(Have been happily married 10yrs now)

pickabeau1:
No offense,.. madam


I think it will be better on this thread

https://www.nairaland.com/1984187/happily-married-man-family-section

okay sir

aisha2:


Well depends on why she doesnt want another child.
If it is financial concerns I am very realistic If we cant afford another child then we shouldnt bring it into the world under the guise of " God will provide" I no gree. Till things are sorted out I dont advice more kids. What i wont advice is sneaking, the wife lets the husband know with good reason that more kids are not the ideal at that point and inform him of any treatment she intends to take.

Sometimes its unrealistic to insist on having kids when so many issues are not sorted out properly. Adukts shouldn't bring kids into a mess and feel that kids will sort out their mess for them

so after informing and hubby still gives no consent, then what next?? This is my own main question

aisha2:


We love you loads sweetheart never forget that