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parrotibaba:
I totally understand u but we don't do juju ...besides we just want to talk things over dats all

Since you keep insisting that there is no wrong done to either parties, what things do you guys have to talk over??

but lemme ask o. is it that she has never been there at all or she has been there before but refuse to go there anymore??
per the bolded, you can only speak for yourself. i.e. 'i don't do juju''. Not saying anyone of your family member is juju inclined o

crackhaus:
Love that gets thrown out on the incident of one partner misbehaving was never true in the first place.

In this story, she probably had never had cause to doubt his fidelity and I don't think they were sworn enemies.

This is the man she married, father to her children for God sake...there's no way she won't feel a tad bit of pain, sadness, and loneliness.
That she didn't cry or hasn't cried doesn't mean she now automatically loves him less or that she's not sad and in pain...shock, disbelief and bewilderment can do that to a person.

Like I said before, somewhere down the line she's bound to come to terms with the fact that she is now a widow and a single mother, the loneliness will set in and it won't matter how her late husband died.

darisgod:
She said dey have had countless issues concerning dir particular girl

Dir was a time she travelled her kids told her d girl came to slip in d house,that dadi told them she was their aunty

She said she have caught him severe times wit d girl n her husband kip apologizing

i am not saying they are sworn enemies. i was just trying to make a point generally. and i didn't say she will love him less or not love him anymore. My comment was in response to your comment and not to this woman in particular.

yuzjet:
1. Give him space.

2. Be loyal.

3. Be patient.

4. Don't ask for something ur father can't afford.

5. Don't Nag.

6. Give him good sex. I repeat
, good sex.

7. As far as he doesn't cheat to your face or take her calls in ur presence, don't complain, manage it, ur next might be worse.

8. Be proud of him.

9. Be faithful.

10. Pray for him.

11. {# add urs}

Guys, do you agree?


Ladies, which of these do u disagree with?

and i hope he reciprocate with same

crackhaus:
I might, but it will not be the same for a while.

sounds better than an outright NO

crackhaus:
You are assuming she married the man for his money and not because she truly loved him with every inch of her heart, wanted to start a family with him, bear kids who will look like him and inherit some of the traits that got her attracted to him in the first place?

Delve deeper Sambarry, not everyone is that vain.

most people start on the ''i married you because i truly love you'' but this changes along the line and the love seems to get thrown outa the window when any of the partner starts misbehaving....
Some have married for love but become sworn enemies afterward

@AmandaLuv- so what's the situation now?

Richy4:
I hated mosquito bite those days my friend. I guess that was the only thing that has bitten me.
I do not know how dog bite or anyother bite feel. Or maybe you can explain better.

explain what better?? mosquito bite, dog bite or any other bite??

Richy4:
Bad mother in law.
A bad mother in law is worst than mosquito bite

what a comparison

dytbabe:
So ur queen yachikka allowed u mate with another woman which led to a child?
And now u want to cheat on her again?
Ur queen yactchikka must be mild

wicked

It shouldn't matter who is richer. it is ONE FAMILY

*SO if a woman gets a better job that will make her richer than the husband, what is the husband suppose to? Tell her not to take up the job? I don't think so
*If a man loses his job and now have the wife richer than him, what is he suppose to do? Tell her to resign so they can be on same level? I don't think so


At the end of the day, it is still about how much the FAMILY is making


Wealth is not by gender. Anyone can be wealthy... man or woman... there are so many woman out there wealthier than men. The wife is a woman first before being a wife.....

Someone once said on a thread that Men in this part of the world are not used to women having financial power

crackhaus:
I won't need to do anything, I'll just sit in complete silence and watch her stammer, murmur, explain, and hopelessly try to wriggle herself out of that situation.

When she's done, I'll then ask her 'woman, where are my kids and who did you leave them with?'

After she answers, I take a walk and go catch my flight back to Lagos.

RebelLeader15:
Orita Ayelala (Ayelala junction) community School Orita Ayelala Ilaje L.G Ondo state

Oloshi Nur/Pry school Igbinsi Olooto Okitipupa L.G Ondo state

Samwagba (sam come take) Group of School Ore Ondo state

Ori Oke iwa mimo ( mountain of good character) Second. School Ilaje. Ondo state

Iya bukky elewe omo Nur/Pry School Lobuko ( owner of he-goat) Okitipupa Ondo state

wreckingball:
So I was driving along Ojota sometime ago when I saw a school bus drive by with an inscription that looked like a55...something.

I sat arguing with myself on how good my eyesights were.

"Your mind don spoil finish o. How dem go name school put a55 for inside am. Na Ashford dem write for there." I was saying to myself until I met up with the school bus thanks to a traffic jam at the front.

Lo and behold, my eyes deceived me not! Boldly written on the side of the school bus was ASSFOOD International Schools!!!

I was like WTF!!! Assfood!!! Who gives a school such a gay and dirty sounding name!?!


Kindly share any weird or funny school names you've come across.

PS: you can google the name of the school to confirm

I actually saw their white school bus this very morning at mile12 on my way to work and i remembered your post. ASSFOOD blablabla (Nursery, primary and college)

stages:
Hispin, snazzy, chair cover and others i hail you oh.
Godmystrength i know where u are coming from, i have been there before, even though hubby was working but earning little as compared to mine. I tell u all u have to be strong and brave if in a relationship where u the lady earns more. Your every action is read differently by your hubby and others. I thank God i handled mine wisely and today hubby earns far more than me and pays for most of needs
But it was not easy oh..... I cried buckets of water and almost left.

My dear, i am jejely carrying my cross o with big ''osuka'' underneath for extra cushion ... so help me God...Amen

alutacontinua:
If I were you, I'll go ahead and apologize
Men are big babies

Really? I thought they are the HEAD of the family. So if they are big babies, what does that make the other members of the family--small babies?? Anyway, i am yet to get the analogy of men are big babies. I need help on this

parrotibaba:
what do u suspect is d problem?

only the wife will know what the problem is. plus whoever has done her strong thing/she has done strong thing to in your family

[quote
author=parrotibaba post=27006299]From my thorough investigation ,I
don't think we (husband's family) has done anything dat she won't
forgive(which means we hv nt done anything bad to her) ...n d most
annoying parties dat u can't be comfortable when u visit her(n my uncle)
at dia place in Lag[/quote]you can't be too sure. meanwhile what makes you uncomfortable when you visit? Your uncle, his wife or just you?

parrotibaba:
dats d problem, what could possibly
cause dis kind of thought about her husband's family? dats why I suspect
brainwash from d other side of d Table

that is what you need to ask her. but na wa for you o. so anything a wife does dt doesn't go well wt hubby's fqmily must be brainwashing from her family. hmmm.

parrotibaba:
my uncle is not d autocratic type(if u understand) he just kept mum about it

oh really?? But if uncle is not showing concerns why are you fighting his battles for him?

[quote
author=parrotibaba post=27005876]her reasons r not good enough in the
sense dat she thinks its a conspiracy amongst us(the husband's family)
to kill her which mks absolutely no sense![/quote]why do you think she thinks that your family wants to kill her? What have you done to her in the past? Makes absolutely no sense to you bt it sure will make absolutely much sense to her

[quote
author=parrotibaba post=27005589]I suspect her side of d family might
hv brainwashed her into thinking dat d husband's family wants to kill
her or something[/quote]suspects, suspicions, accusation here and there. beside, is you family doing anything to make her think so or did she tell you so or you went into her head to fish this out? What is your uncle saying about all these because it concerns him more than you....

why
does she think there is a conspiracy? Besides, you telling us that her
reasons are not good enough is unacceptable unless you tell us what her
reason is exactly. You are uncle's family and will definitely be on his
side whether right or wrong.

samyan12:
I am a female too and I dont see any big
deal in this situ. Take it as an opportunity to get to know your inlaws
too. Dont join the crowd of ladies who want to marry their husbands
alone, and do not want to giv their inlaws the respect they deserve. You
will be suprised u'll end up having a great time there.

i am still trying to figure out what that means in this kind of scenario.

shalomp:
@Godmystrenght, I hear you but,,,, it's
only the op that knows the man she is getting married to and the"tempo"
of their relationship.

you are right but whatever the case,
don't you think it is somehow for you to take a woman to your parent once
last week and now insist that she must go spend the immediate next weekend alone with
them. Guy should have accommodated more visits together before coming up
with such idea.

soonest:
Whatever she does with her food is her
business. When we have meetings in the office and take away food is
shared. I usually take mine home esply if I'm not hungry and we all
share it.

@bolded.......Thank you.

shalomp:
I understand ur point but it's not always about desperation. some men do it to give their parent a sense of belonging, because some parents will feel they are not being carried along in the whole process. I mean it's a way of telling the girl indirectly that the parent means a lot to him. so if your man truly loves and you love him, there is nothing fear. just go there and show them that u have accepted them and their son too.

no big deal in going to visit your would be parent-in-laws. My issue is why ask me to go and be with them all alone. For whatever reason, it doesn't look fair on the concern party. if the guy is there with you, he will keep your company and also introduce you to people that you should know.....to me ''hello xxxxxx, meet my babe/fiancee/woman/love'' sounds better than ''hello xxxxxx, come and meet xyz's wife-to-be''...

besides, until the man puts a ring to it can you say you are married and now a part of the family... Forget about all the lovey lovey thingy.. That a man/woman has introduced you to his/her parents doesn't mean you will both end up getting married...
so as a lady, how many would be parent-in-laws will i have to visit on my own before i finally settle down with the man for me?

EfemenaXY:
What nonsense.

Never heard of such and I think this gimmick would only work for desperate chicks wanting to marry at all costs - chicks that don't mind trading in their self respect and doing all sorts in the vain bid to "get" the man.

What do your parents say about this?

I certainly won't allow any man put my beautiful, precious, princess through such crap.

Abi o. I hope he will also go to spend the next weekend alone with my own parents for whatever reason he is having for his present decision......

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https://www.nairaland.com/1937647/meet-charly-boys-cute-grand-children#26946200

badmarket:
Really, this is just my personal opinion.

Have seen many cases where working class wives collect food served them in offices only to take it home to their families as meal for the day.

Not just once, it has become an habit.

To me, i think its not right.

okay

but how do you know that it's the families' meal for the day? (you really think the portion of food meant for ONE person will be enough to serve as a meal for A WHOLE family of at least 3 people?) Do you live with them or the wives told you with their own mouths?
And i also hope it is the portion due to them that they take home and not that they are depriving other colleagues of their own portion. If theirs, they can do with it as they please- by eating it in the office, taking it home or throwing it away

nwababy:
She's a young girl and my mate. I kept asking her what separated the the divorcee and the wife and she said is personal. (Which means she's interested in the marriage) what I noticed in life (not every one) is that most girls that dated married men end up becoming 2nd wife or divorcee 's wife. Meanwhile, I don't advice in such cos same thing happened to another of my friend when we were 27yrs. This divorcee married for 10yrs (but didn't have an issue with the first wife)asked for her hand in marriage only if she gets pregnant. She told me and I assured her we were still young (they always think am not a correct girl cos I've been dating a particular man for a decade lol) she went to her correct friends for advice and married the man; and started giving me attitude. I started minding my business since then na. She was pregnant when she married the man. So when she delivered, she sent a random sms and I called her to wish her well. I asked her if she's still in the hospital and she said she delivered at home .( That the husband sis is a midwife and he said there's no need to go to hospital) I was cold. I told my mum cos she nos her well and she pitied her. The man in question is rich oh that's the reason she accepted him.

maybe the first wife is not aware and they are trying to keep it a secret..

chaircover:
If only Nwababys friend knows whats in store for her in the next 10 years after she executes her crazy plan.
Maybe she thinks that there is an abundance of young rich good marriagable men in London who will want to clean up her mess when she finally decides to dump the hubby she married for money, when there are thousands of well brought up, well behaved and educated young girls who are available too.

If only she knows

Kunbee:
People like her get married, change and fall in love, most of the time. Only if she has a heart of stone

snazzylove:
Very true.

fall in love ke? only when the money is still flowing..... When the foundation is faulty.........
I doubt the kind of love that will be. they will only get familiar with each other