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I can’t marry a feminist. However, I’ve noticed that some women turn feminist after some years into the marriage.

lilwetdick:
let also not forget that countries with good economy do have higher divorce rate than countries with developing economies.

Because in those societies, divorce is an option and they are mostly not ashamed to pursue it. Longevity of a marriage is not a measure of how happy the marriage is. We already know in our culture people are willing to endure bad marriages.

I also want to add in Western societies, by 18 males have already left their parents’ house and started their own independent lives.

Godtschild:
If you’re matured enough to hold a steady job for 5+ years (in that time you would’ve been promoted once or twice to leadership roles), handle more responsibilities, manage your finances enough to buy a house, manage your debts (loans) maintain a steady relationship (probably live in) then you’re emotionally matured for a marriage, all that’s left is a signed document. Sweet spot, 29 years.

yazga:
Mortgage!!!!!!!!

Also, it takes financial maturity to save up for a 20% down payment, maintain a good credit history to qualify for a mortgage, maintain a job to afford your mortgage payments. Especially since after the bubble, you think it’s easy to get a mortgage?

midnighter:
33-37 is perfect marriageable age for a man

For a Nigerian man.

Economy and culture is a factor. Countries with good economy is 25-29. Once a man is through with school and gets a job immediately and has worked 2-5 years, what is he waiting for? In the US a 29 y/o man has already worked for 5-8 years, he has already bought his first house.

When the economy was better (60s and 70s) Nigerian men were getting married much more earlier. Also, in the US the age has increased as their economy worsened. It used to be 24.5.

If you’re matured enough to hold a steady job for 5+ years (in that time you would’ve been promoted once or twice to leadership roles), handle more responsibilities, manage your finances enough to buy a house, manage your debts (loans), maintain a steady relationship (probably live in) then you’re emotionally matured for a marriage, all that’s left is a signed document. Sweet spot, 29 years.

Wrong audience.

LewsTherin:
Respect to those this affects directly. But like I said in some other thread, there really is no reason to abandon such love. As long as we can get it into our heads that an adopted child is as much our child as one we concieve and give birth to, there really is no reason to abandon worthy love.

Have you thought about adoption? Have you both discussed it?

Thank you. We decided to wait for a year and we went off birth control on our first year anniversary. The kids came in quick succession lol now our lives are not the same again. We always reminiscence our first year.

mzhorlah:
It depends on the individuals involved. As for me, I will enjoy my husband well before inviting any third party(babies)

jenifer007:
My brother taking in should not be delayed all because you want to enjoy yourselves as couple..The joy of marriage especially in Africa is having children.It is better you start trying immediately after marriage because you will be surprised by the time you are ready,conception might also tell you they are not ready too.

Body differs

Delay is dangerous

How is the bolded possible?

This is false. I am going to assume this is just your opinion though, so it’s not based on facts.

pansophist:
Firstly, mate guarding is not a gendered phenomenon. It is practiced by both males and females equally. Secondly, a woman may be non-monogamous, or polyamorous as you called it, but this is practiced usually before securing the best male she can attract, as she can only get resources from a single male. For men, it is quantity, for women, it is quality.

As an analogy, men are like Bluetooth, he is connected to you while you're nearby, but searches for other devices when you're away (quantity), meanwhile, women are like wifi, she sees all the available devices but connects to the strongest one.

Mtchew I even thought I was commenting on the thread of a mentally stable person. If I knew you were a far right conspiracy theorist bot, I would have jumped and passed. When you refute what I wrote in my first comment with facts we can debate, until then carry your yeye alt right nonsense away from me. You don’t have shame regurgitating the talking points of alt-tight Internet incels. So you can’t think for yourself?! Fake Christian.

Where are the lies? Is Trump not a twice divorced, 3x married man that cheated on all his wives?

Did he or did he not say “two Corinthians”

Did he not on tape say he likes grabbing women by their p.ussies? Is that one a Christian?

Was Lincoln’s Republican Party not the party of the north?

Where are the lies? State them and back it up with proof not all these gimmicks you posted here.

OLAADEGBU:
Lies to keep you in captivity. You better set yourself free from mental slavery as Kanye West has done. If you want to runaway from the plantation watch the videoclip below and be informed.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g_a7dQXilCo

Trump exposed the hypocrisy of Christians. A twice divorced man, a man married 3x and has cheated (documented) on all his wives. A man that was never a practicing Christian, has never even read the Bible- proof- he quoted 2nd corinthians as “two Corinthians”. He has changed positions on abortion etc at this point, Christians that support Trump just proved to the world they are a joke.

A little history lesson, the Republican Party was the progressive party of the north and the Democratic Party at time was the southern Christian party. They switched platforms.

https://www.livescience.com/34241-democratic-republican-parties-switch-platforms.html

https://www.history.com/news/how-the-party-of-lincoln-won-over-the-once-democratic-south

The white Christians in the South didn’t want to end slavery, in fact they justified slavery using quotes from the Bible.

Yup! Greedy American Capitalists! They also own Arsenal, don’t care about trophies. Profits over trophies.

Op, there is nothing wrong in masturbating or watching porn. It depends on how you use the above. I am married, and in marriage it’s not all the time couples are in sync to have sex. I would never force or make my partner feel bad she is not ready to have sex when I am, that’s selfishness. When only one one of us is in the mood, the other helps by MouthAction or aid in masturbation. Sometimes we watch soft porn together to get both of us in the mood. If you have much higher libido than she does, then you don’t have to masturbate alone, she can help you jerk off.

Why do Nigerians always expect the wife to give it to the husband anytime he wants it!!! What about her? Does he give the wife anytime she wants it? Anytime my partner is not in the mood, I get MouthAction. Nobody should be forced to have sex if they are not feeling it. Marriage should be sweet not endured.

Austineperez:
If your wife is giving you sex anytime you want it you won’t masturbate except you are not mentally okay

lol why can’t she if she isn’t in the mood? Couples aren’t in sync all the time. Are you married?

LOMBARDY:
The question should be..Why did your wife refuse you sex??

Divorced

mechanics:
Was her husband late?

OP, what is the halfway point and how do you know? Or are you referring to the seven year itch? Honeymoon phase lasts 1-3 years.

My dear you have to move on o, your ex is no longer interested in the relationship.
Proof:
1. After the break, it’s was you not him that initiated the reconciliation.
2. After how many years, all of a sudden your tribe is an issue - a popular break up excuse
3. He suggested you see other people.
4. He has told you waiting for him is your choice not his.

He has tried in so many ways to tell you the relationship is over and you should move on but love no go allow you see am. It can be painful but you need to move on, time heals most heartbreaks. Break all ties and date other people. The more you stay and linger, the harder it will be for you.

Update: the woman has served her sentence and she is now a free woman. More stuff came out during the trial, the husband was also into prescription pills drug business, he was selling prescribed drugs through his six pharmacies, he was under surveillance when she killed him. He also tried to force her to sign a post nuptial agreement that would transfer all properties to him and hand over her children to the nanny, whose daughter he was sleeping with.

At the end the judge believed she snapped after suffering verbal, physical and sexual abuse, the judge had the option of sentencing her to 4 to 50 years but she was sentenced to 4 years with one year served already while waiting for trial. Excerpts...

The written agreement was found by investigators on one of Adebamiro's computers in a locked office in their home. Also found on the computer was surveillance footage that captured images of Adebamiro having sex with other women and conducting a drug deal, van Amerongen said.

This data dump provided a significant break in the case, she said. While it did not show Adebamiro physically abusing his wife, it did show him using on other women intimacy gadgets that Temitope had claimed were used to assault and scar her, van Amerongen said.

"The big picture starts to look like he was sexually aggressive and violent toward her," she said.

van Amerongen gave the judge this information, as well as hospital and police reports that lent credibility to Temitope's statements about the abuse, some of which occurred while she was pregnant.

https://www.delawareonline.com/story/news/crime/2016/12/15/red-lion-woman-who-killed-husband-sentenced-today/95342564/

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What of a joint account that needs two signatures before money can be withdrawn?

Fountainofyouth:
Joint account, never advisable, always the beginning of the end for couples,sad.

lol leave him, he’s trying to be patriotic.

MrBrownJay1:
Wouldn't you assume the same when some foolish African dude tells you he loves you and wants a family with you (let alone marry you) 2weeks after meeting you and while knowing absolutely NOTHING about you?!

Of course! Facebook is the number one social media platform about 2.2billion users. It’s no longer used as it was before, most use it as a news aggregator and forum. That where I get most of my news.

seunmohmoh:
Quick question : Do people still use Facebook?

I agree with you but I hope you also apply this as the reason women who are raped don’t come forward.

BRATISLAVA:
I'm surprised at the callous response of men. This is why he didn't report it. He probably walked confused and traumatized to wherever he did. Some are asking why he didn't show the police his bleeding anus(can you imagine that?), so that they will lock him up for 14 years without provocation, or what?

Still searching

Olodo she is already working AKA has a business.

Datazone:
Then you can be referred to someone who has the tool but don't know how to use it. You simply follow dictionary definition but don't think out of the box. Okay, gender equality "access to equal rights and opportunities". In this case "right to work - engage in productive activity to earn money". I'm asking her if she lacks such right. Mumu

Shut the f^ck up!!!! Are you married? The sister already said the wife has a business. Do you know if that was the arrangement between the woman and her husband?! ”I doubt that” see your yeye mouth what do you know about a dispute between husband and wife??

pocohantas:
Is it under this few weeks that they are already fighting over "change"? I doubt that, the issue has been there. Your sister should return all his change to him whenever she comes back from the market, to the last kobo. If he feels like giving her back, fine. After that she should face her business very well. If she were working a 9-5, salary for sure, but as a business woman- she has to find a way around it.

E get as you go ignore man money, not maliciously but because you are pulling your own weight- he would be the one trying to make impact. Allow his ego do the job.

lol olodo that's NOT gender equality though. Gender equality means access to equal opportunities regardless of gender. E.g a woman shouldn't be barred from being a pilot and a man shouldn't be barred from being a hairdresser.

Datazone:
Then let her work and earn some money. Stop being a parasite. You all want gender equality, no?

If you know this info, so I guess she knew too...

Nonstoprain:
the might be right because whenever Tunde talk about sex on Instagram he always maintain that he prefer skin to skin rather than using CD.

Why don’t we leave it to the female lawyers to choose what they want to wear? Nigeria is so backward.

KngGezy:
I must state the obvious that we are still making use of alot of archaic practices in Almost every Sector of the Country

Not just the legal sector but every other sector in Nigeria. From the health with no electronic birth and death registration,to the security and their outdated ak47s , to government parastatals and their bureaucracies with manual file keeping ,etc .Then now the legal sector with the wig. The wig which most legal systems have long dropped.

However it is important to note that. Wearing trousers to court doesn't add nor remove from the case at hand. And if we look at it from the perspective of morality. I am of the opinion that female lawyers should stick to skirt.

You must be an indomie generation for you not to know she is naturally light skinned, look at her scalp.

Where did you go to school? Phenotype expresses randomly. With your logic explain Seal’s dark skinned kids to a WHITE woman?

ORIENTATION101:
shut up what you understand by genotypic ratio and phenotypic ratio in Biology?

The main reason why er complexion is fraud. If truly she is mixed race or naturally fair. Her offspring will share a percentage from her complexion whether she married a burnt offering