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Politics / Re: Iyabo's Letter: A Call For Reflection by gohome: 8:47am On Dec 19, 2013
sademola: Op, most things said abt OBJ by the daughter just described their personal family life to reaffirm what we already know - the messenger (OBJ) smells but we want GEJ to address the MESSAGE!

I don't see how imposing a sick president and 'on prepared' VP on Nigeria is a family affair.
Politics / Iyabo's Letter: A Call For Reflection by gohome: 8:24am On Dec 19, 2013
When the "infallible" and "omnipotent" Chief Obasanjo sent his Satanic Verses: fabrications based on bad belle, greed, personal ego, and the propensity to make mischief to sitting President Jonathan, all in a grand design to pitch one region against another, set Christians against Muslims, and North against South, but we did not read nor hear of any caution, decency, decorum, norms, values, virtues, fairness, etc., etc., and now that Dr. Iyabo Obasanjo has decided to free herself from the bondage that her abusive father unleashed on her family including her siblings for decades unabated, we are beginning to read from the warlords, ethnic jingoists, comedians, and sycophants calling on Diaspora Nigerians to rise up that Dr. Iyabo Obasanjo is out to adulterate indigenous Nigerian culture (s) with "British/American culture where children can talk to their parents without caution, into our system." and that, dah..dah..dah.......".

However, their strategy is to trivialize what the Obasanjo nucleated family, especially, the children have been through in their lives as a result of Chief Obasanjo who trampled on their basic natural rights to live quality and productive lives as humans would do under any normal circumstances, and now the picture is getting clearer. Realistically, as Africans, but what African culture promotes the physical or mental abuse of defenseless children by a mother or father? Also, who could have imagined that one of Nigeria's former Military Heads of State can confine his children to "boys quarter" solitude while the dictator (father) will do owambes with women of low-virtues right inside Nigeria's opulent Doddan Baracks not until Dr. Iyabo Obasanjo went public to narrate their mental torture? My good people of Nigeria, let's cast emotions or sentiments aside here, what you sow is what you reap, and as you make your bed, so you must lie on it. If Chief Obasanjo cannot lead his immediate family by keeping his house in order, then, he cannot keep the Nigerian house together either.

Moreover, it will be very senseless of any sane-minded Nigerian to inject sentiments into any brazen attempts to publicly rehabilitate Chief Obasanjo's fallen political fortune in Nigeria. You can take people for fools, but not all the time. Nigerians have wised up to these games of deceits to instigate untold crisis in our country. When Chief Obasanjo pretended that he was midwifing peaceful settlement between the warring factions inside his former party-PDP whereas he was fanning embers of hatred in a clandestine maneuver to pull the PDP structures from the grip of his party leader, President Jonathan, before he-OBJ officially decamps to the APC, but very little did OBJ know that his first daughter, Iyabo, will be the one to reveal his evil machinations to the political-world in Nigeria.

Finally, the foot soldiers and ardent defenders of Chief Obasanjo as Nigeria's Messiah just have to suck it up. May be, when the likes of Chief Obasanjo re-incarnate, they will know how to use peoples' power for the betterment of the very people they were mandated to serve. Regrettably, OBJ has learnt the effects of Retributive Justice at a very ripe age, and what an irony of fate.
Literature / Re: Chimamanda Adichie & Husband Ivara Esege (photos) by gohome: 8:39pm On Sep 24, 2013
eaglechild:
"A Britain" is grammatically incorrect and kind of irritating. Said it once to a Briton with a half - Nigerian son and that put an END to our friendship and all the fun TIME we spent doings THINGS together.

Doings" is grammatically incorrect and kind of irritating. Said it once to a Briton with a half - Nigerian son and that put an END to our friendship and all the fun TIME we spent doing THINGS together

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Politics / Re: Should State Of Residence Replace State Of Origin In The Constitution by gohome: 11:12am On Aug 14, 2013
babe_online:
First of all Nigeria is a country where people with different customs, traditions and ethnic group live. We all know how Nigeria came to be.

Second, as a result of the tribes/ethnic groups being very different, people have differences and this differences people have has not let people to be able to SEE EACH OTHER AS ONE.

Having said what I said in the sentence above, do you think people from different ethnic groups should be able to have equal rights considering we all move to different parts of the countries most especially for a better life?.

I think I have been able to answer the question you asked on if people should have equal rights(although I did not answer directly).

Last, the law will definitely not take us back. I don't know about forward.

Yea Nigeria is a country where a lot of people live by strong tradition, but a lot of my generation (80s) care less about those tradition. I grew up in a Cosmo town and attended a secondary school that cut across all tribes and even race. Apart from the a few tradition I picked from home, I imbibed a new culture, a mixture of cultures of those I grew up with including culture from TVs. I do not know to speak my native language. Up till today I still rep the town I grew up in. My sister has a similar story. Infact she is an American just because she was born there. She has a greater chance of being an Obama than a councellor in Kano. In my opinion, if we keep with this mentality, then we can only go backwards. No tribe started this earth and no tribe will finish it. Tribes go and come, but people will get better. Thats what we need. That is what London, Newyork, Dubai, Paris, Houston, LA, HongKong did

In conclusion, The new generation Nigerians (My type) and the Elite Nigerians don't care about tribe... What they care about is Hapiness, development , advancing and wealth.
Politics / Re: Should State Of Residence Replace State Of Origin In The Constitution by gohome: 9:22am On Aug 14, 2013
babe_online: NO. State of residency should not replace state of origin. Yorubas value their state of Origin compared to their state of birth by a clear mile. While growing in Nigeria, I never really bothered about my state of birth which is Lagos. All I was concerned about was my state of origin, i.e Oyo state.

I think this question was just asked as a result of fear and clannish nature of some people.

State of Birth should not be replaced with state of residency because every tribe in Nigeria(including the Igbos value their state of Origin compared to state of residency).

N.B: Although the writer of the article raised some good points but it should still not be replaced.

Definition of Origin: 1. The first stage of existence; beginning.
2. Ancestry; parentage; extraction: to be of Scottish origin.

http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/origin?s=t

You are very correct. State of origin is state of origin and state of birth is state of birth. But in the eyes of the law, should anybody with a residency permit have equal rights? I need suggestions that says this law will not help us advance.... No sentiment. It seems to be working for every other progressive nation. Why cant it work here? Being Tribal to me may not be bad, but once it comes to advancing and developing don't you think we need others that cut across race, tribe and religion? I just need reason. Will this law set us back or forward?
Politics / Re: Should State Of Residence Replace State Of Origin In The Constitution by gohome: 11:07pm On Aug 13, 2013
I ask this question again?
Politics / Re: Akwa Ibom 'deportation Of Non Indigenes', Joe Igbokwe Lied, Says Akwa Ibom Govt by gohome: 10:22pm On Aug 06, 2013
Culled from another thread

It will be difficult to ''judge" in this case because we do not know what the FACTS are. Until be put forward the facts, we will continue to go in circles.

I will go ahead and state as facFts what we have heard from the media.

1. 14 persons were re united with their family - Fashola
2. 69 persons were deported - LASG
3. 72 person were dumped at 3 am at upper Iweka under bridge - Anambra Red cross
4. I was arrested some month back on my way to the shop - Victim

Based on the above, I will make my decision based on principle and not constitutional law.

Bearing in mind that the so called destitute have flesh and blood, if I was in charge of Lagos State What will I do to reunite a human being with his family? Get in contact with the family and hand over the said person. It will be foolish for me to use tax payers money, move people all the way from Lagos to Anambra only for them to find their way back. Unless these 'destitute '' agreed to go back home. And if they agreed? Is upper Iweka home? If UK deports Nigerians from their country, they don't just dump them in Ghana or Mali and expect them to find their way to Nigeria, after all they are all black. They take this Nigerians to Lagos or Abuja or PH or Kano and handover to the authorities. Based on Principle, dumping 14, 69, 72 or even 1 person is wrong on so many levels.

Another question that bothers me what if their families are resident of Lagos? Was it put to the public to come and identify these destitute before they were deported. I know a lot of people that do not have relatives in their state of origin. What if they are orphans ? What if their parents are also destitute?


Again, some of the destitute have accused Lagos state of maltreatment . My question is who confirmed these people destitute? What laws were used to tag them? What if a bigot (TuTsi and Hutu comes to mind) Out of hatred decides to tag someone a destitute? Using his own criteria ? Remember what the Nazis did to the Jews?

In conclusion, we should seek to get the facts right and stop playing politics with a very sensitive issue like this.

Destitute today, Billionaire tomo, inventor tomorrow , president tomorrow.
Politics / Re: Internal Deportation Of Citizens: Is It Constitutional? by gohome: 6:56pm On Aug 06, 2013
There is no such phrase like internal deportation . But I must agree this phrase best describes what happened between Lagos & Anambra.

The constitution just like any law is only as good as a case by case bases. So your answer is Yes and No.

It will be difficult to ''judge" in this case because we do not know what the FACTS are. Until be put forward the facts, we will continue to go in circles.

I will go ahead and state as facts what we have heard from the media.

1. 14 persons were re united with their family - Fashola
2. 69 persons were deported - LASG
3. 72 person were dumped at 3 am at upper Iweka under bridge - Anambra Red cross
4. I was arrested some month back on my way to the shop.

Based on the above, I will make my decision based on principle and not constitutional law.

Bearing in mind that the so called destitute have flesh and blood, if I was in charge of Lagos State What will I do to reunite a human being with his family? Get in contact with the family and hand over the said person. It will be foolish for me to use tax payers money, move people all the way from Lagos to Anambra only for them to find their way back. Unless these 'destitute '' agreed to go back home. And if they agreed? Is upper Iweka home? If UK deports Nigerians from their country, they don't just dump them in Ghana or Mali and expect them to find their way to Nigeria, after all they are all black. They take this Nigerians to Lagos or Abuja or PH or Kano and handover to the authorities. Based on Principle, dumping 14, 69, 72 or even 1 person is wrong on so many levels.

Another question that bothers me what if their families are resident of Lagos? Was it put to the public to come and identify these destitute before they were deported. I know a lot of people that do not have relatives in their state of origin.


Again, some of the destitute have accused Lagos state of maltreatment . My question is who confirmed these people destitute? What laws were used to tag them? What if a bigot (TuTsi and Huti) comes to mind Out of hatred decides to tag someone a destitute? Using his own criteria ? Remember what the Nazis did to the Jews?

In conclusion, we should seek to get the facts right and stop playing politics with a very sensitive issue like this.

Destitute today, Billionaire tomo, inventor tomorrow , president tomorrow

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Politics / Was Abacha Regime Better Than This Democracy by gohome: 6:50pm On Jun 10, 2013
Daughter of the late military dictator, Gen. Sani Abacha, Gumsu, says she is still mourning the death of her father, 15 years after his demise.

Gumsu, who may have cut short her sleep early Saturday morning, took to Twitter at 3:16 am to pay tribute to her father, saying, "I miss you so much."

Abacha became the 10th military Head of State of Nigeria on November 17, 1993 but died in office on June 8, 1998.

"May Allah grant my father Aljanna Firdaus. I miss you so much. Fifteen years already. Allah ya jikan ka da rhama  'Baba,'" she stated in a tweet.

A few hours Gumsu posted the tweet,  former Minister of Aviation, Femi Fani-Kayode, replied her, saying, "Ameen." However, Fani-Kayode's move to share in her grief on the 15th anniversary of the death of Abacha made a handful of his followers on Twitter to raise an eyebrow.

When Fani-Kayode's gesture was noticed by Gumsu, she replied his tweet,  saying, "Thank you,'' while Fani-Kayode responded, "My pleasure,  dear.''

But Fani-Kayode's  followers on the social service wondered if he was one of the Nigerians who subtly benefited from the Abacha regime.

"Fani-Kayode, sir, were you pro-Abacha?" one of his followers, Dolapo Bello, queried in a tweet. But realising what damage that could do to his reputation online, Fani-Kayode responded swiftly by dissociating himself from the Abacha regime.

He stated, "Of course not. I was not pro-Abacha government. I was one of those who fought his government."

But as the day broke on Saturday, the Nigerian Twitter space was soon turned into a podium for debate with some arguing that Abacha was a hero, while others vehemently disagreed on the social network.

A Nigerian with the name, Ikhide, who tweets via @ikhide argued, "Nigeria's democracy has seen more extrajudicial murders, state-sponsored looting, incompetence and insecurity than two reigns of Gen. Abacha. If I had to choose among Goodluck Jonathan, Olusegun Obasanjo and Abacha, I would choose Oga Jonathan, followed by Abacha, before OBJ. My father Papalolo was happier, safer and more prosperous under Abacha.''

Segun Bamidele said, "With due respect 'Mr. & Mrs. Death' you have been unfair to Nigeria. You took Abacha and Abiola 15 years ago and left us with more wicked charlatans.''

Meanwhile, some Nigerians used the picture of the late President as their Display Picture on their BlackBerry Messenger. One of such persons, who is a contact on our correspondent's BBM,  with the name Engr L.G. Adinoyi,  wrote on his BBM,  "Nigeria needs another Gen. Abacha.''

Reacting to the way Gumsu mourned the death of her father on Twitter, a prolific user of the social service, Tolu Ogunlesi, said, "That's the lesson: That even the cruellest of dictators have families. And are often loving and caring daddies.''

Though Ogunlesi was silent on the "Abacha hero debate" he painstakingly equated the Abacha regime with that of the Goodluck Jonathan administration.  He explained that some of the achievements the Jonathan administration was laying claim to were also there during the Abacha regime.

He said, "Truth is, many 'achievements' Jonathan Government is claiming, Abacha too claimed. African Cup of Nations win; Petroleum Trust Fund (for Abacha) – Subsidy Reinvestment and Empowerment Programme (for Jonathan); Failed Banks Tribunal (for Abacha) and Fuel Subsidy trial (Jonathan).

"Give Abacha's list of achievements to Doyin Okupe (presidential assistant on public affairs) and Labaran Maku (minister of information), you won't recognise the dictator again o. Bottomline is that there are no heroes anywhere, are there? Only varying degrees of non-heroism. Nigerians celebrated Abacha's death. There were parties in Britain celebrating Margaret Thatcher's Death. Therefore, the summary of the matter is this: All leaders are evil but some are (much) less evil than others."

For Adelola Edema, many Nigerians praising Abacha as a hero on social media are youths who need to take some history lessons. "It's really sad to see young Nigerians praise Abacha. It makes me fear for this country. Should the youths not be our hope for a better tomorrow," Edema noted.

One Kunle,  tweeting via @kunledee, laments, "June 4, you celebrated Kudirat Abiola as a fighter for democracy. June 8, you now wake up to hail Abacha? Seriously? See the disconnect?"

Nedu,  tweeting via @nedunaija,  lamented, "If you tell me Nigeria was better under Abacha than it is now, that'll be because you don't know about the time value of corruption.

"Our inability to think is our real problem. How Abacha became a hero overnight beats me! I remember vividly, by this time 15 years ago, our street in Ijeshatedo (Lagos) erupted in jubilation, with people shouting Abacha ti ku o (Abacha has died o!"

When one Abiodun, tweeting via @biodunonline, confronted Gumsu, saying, "You and your family, return stolen wealth of the nation," she replied, "That's your opinion. Allah kareem."
Politics / Re: Nigeria Governors Forum Crisis: It Is All Politics by gohome: 8:18am On Jun 08, 2013
Jonathan is smart after all. With all this, he might just clinch the PDP ticket. As I have always said, the PDP ticket is Jonathan's main problem, if he wins the primaries, he will return as president.

Before now, the question was how especially when he had Overambitious governors from the North, the likes of Lamido, Aliyu etc. and the South South guy. These guys have huge PDP presence in their state and can sway their delegates to vote their interest. The Govornors forum just exposed the ambitious in these ways

1. NO GENTLe MAN AGREEMENT .
Jonathan will be going into the PDP primary knowing his enemies, unlike Akpabio and yaguda and Jang that foolishly agreed to an election hoping on a gentle man agreement.

2. SUSPENDED PDP GOVORNORS CAN'T PARTICIPATE IN THE PRIMARIES

The likes of Wamako and and Amechi if they remain suspended wont vote and be voted for. It will mean delegates from these state will mostly likely be in Jonathan's control. The Niger state Governor should read in between the lines and keep quite just like Lamido is doing to avoid being suspended. At the moment Jonathan prefers Govornors loyal to him than those that aren't. The reason is simple, that's the only way he will win.

3. THE WAY FORWARD FOR JONATHAN IS NOW CLEAR AND EASY

The road to victory is now clear and I will add very easy for Jonathan in the primaries and the general election. From the NGF election, it has clearly shown who is for who. Jonathan has secured his friend. Also, from the data we have of those that voted, more PDP Govornors voted for Jang. The same PDP governors that voted Jang will vote for Jonathan in the primaries. Do the Maths .Though a number in the North and of course the ACN did not, this will be inconsequential in the primaries. Now projecting forward to the presidential election proper, the North is lost, it can not be swinged, APC will clearly win there by votes and rigging. pDP will only pick up crumbs from states like Sokoto, Kastina, Zamfara, Adawama, Gombe etc. Kaduna with a voting strength of 1M will be 50-50.The North Central will be all PDP, including Nasarawa state. The SS and SE will be 101% PDP including rivers and IMO both by votes and rigging. Depending on the APC candidate the SW may just be 50-50. At least Lagos will be. This is what will matter for PDP. APC should think very well here. The big difference here is, while PDP will pick crumbs in APC/ACN states, APC would not pick up anything in PDP states (SS & SE). Also, apart from Kano, PDP will win all the states with 1M + votes or at least share the votes 50-50.


In summary, it is a big shame that pDP will return in the federal level, the opposition and the over ambitious are playing catch up. Nigeria will have another 4 years of darkness.
Politics / Re: Aliyu Insists Amaechi Defeated Jang by gohome: 2:36pm On Jun 07, 2013
Jonathan is smart after all. With all this, he might just clinch the PDP ticket. As I have always said, the PDP ticket is Jonathan's main problem, if he wins the primaries, he will return as president.

Before now, the question was how especially when he had Overambitious governors from the North, the likes of Lamido, Aliyu etc. and the South South guy. These guys have huge PDP presence in their state and can sway their delegates to vote their interest. The Govornors forum just exposed the ambitious in these ways

1. NO GENTLe MAN AGREEMENT .
Jonathan will be going into the PDP primary knowing his enemies, unlike Akpabio and yaguda and Jang that foolishly agreed to an election hoping on a gentle man agreement.

2. SUSPENDED PDP GOVORNORS CAN'T PARTICIPATE IN THE PRIMARIES

The likes of Wamako and and Amechi if they remain suspended wont vote and be voted for. It will mean delegates from these state will mostly likely be in Jonathan's control. The Niger state Governor should read in between the lines and keep quite just like Lamido is doing to avoid being suspended. At the moment Jonathan prefers Govornors loyal to him than those that aren't. The reason is simple, that's the only way he will win.

3. THE WAY FORWARD FOR JONATHAN IS NOW CLEAR AND EASY

The road to victory is now clear and I will add very easy for Jonathan in the primaries and the general election. From the NGF election, it has clearly shown who is for who. Jonathan has secured his friend. Also, from the data we have of those that voted, more PDP Govornors voted for Jang. The same PDP governors that voted Jang will vote for Jonathan in the primaries. Do the Maths .Though a number in the North and of course the ACN did not, this will be inconsequential in the primaries. Now projecting forward to the presidential election proper, the North is lost, it can not be swinged, APC will clearly win there by votes and rigging. pDP will only pick up crumbs from states like Sokoto, Kastina, Zamfara, Adawama, Gombe etc. Kaduna with a voting strength of 1M will be 50-50.The North Central will be all PDP, including Nasarawa state. The SS and SE will be 101% PDP including rivers and IMO both by votes and rigging. Depending on the APC candidate the SW may just be 50-50. At least Lagos will be. This is what will matter for PDP. APC should think very well here. The big difference here is, while PDP will pick crumbs in APC/ACN states, APC would not pick up anything in PDP states (SS & SE). Also, apart from Kano, PDP will win all the states with 1M + votes or at least share the votes 50-50.


In summary, it is a big shame that pDP will return in the federal level, the opposition and the over ambitious are playing catch up. Nigeria will have another 4 years of darkness.

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Travel / Re: Nigerians In Diaspora: What Do You Miss Most About Home? by gohome: 9:36pm On May 24, 2013
REALITY101: If you live in the US and feel like you're missing anything about Nigeria, time for you to relocate to Houston Texas. Nigeria community much.. Too many African food store and restaurant, incase you miss their whooo loudness, go to some Nigeria events/parties.

If I was born in Nigeria and live in Houston I no go miss nada thang.. Whenever I need taste of Nigeria, I usually go down to Houston.

Gala dey Houston ?
Romance / Re: Feminism. Ay Or nay? by gohome: 8:47am On Apr 27, 2013
luvmijeje: Ay! I'm a feminist and I believe in women's right. A right to make a choice. A right to aspire to the highest position. A right to be judge fairly. Above all a right to all these and more without being called names by the society I live in presently.

You have those rights already. Now whats next?
Romance / Re: Feminism. Ay Or nay? by gohome: 8:41am On Apr 27, 2013
mondi_cheeks: its practicable to have equal opprtunities where there is a SOUND AND JUST REASON for it! Common sense will tell u that women who normally make decisons like that hire someone to nurture for their child but at the same time its putting her own mental and well being at stack! Its not an inherent requirement to give men "paternity leave" that's why it doesn't exist! He is not UNFAIRLY discriminated against by not being given a paternity leave...there aren't any effects on his right to bodily and psychological integrity as they would be on a woman who just gave birth.

Paternity leave exist.

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Romance / Re: Feminism. Ay Or nay? by gohome: 8:37am On Apr 27, 2013
luvmijeje: Ay! I'm a feminist and I believe in women's right. A right to make a choice. A right to aspire to the highest position. A right to be judge fairly. Above all a right to all these and more without being called names by the society I live in presently.

People like you give feminism a bad name. Like you said feminism gives you a right to make a choice, this choices include but not limited to

1. Being a house wife
2. Owning a shop
3. Being a market woman
4. Becoming a finance Minister etc.

It's rather unfortunate that rogues... "corporate women " have hijacked feminism for their selfish interest.
Romance / Re: Feminism. Ay Or nay? by gohome: 1:03am On Apr 27, 2013
Mrs.Chima:


For the illiterates...feminists are women who are lesbians and hates men. Feminism is simply an ideology that supports women having equal access and right to employment, wealth, education, health, housing, vote, and run in public offices. If that is bad and horrific...I feel sorry for the women and men who shares such idea.

Many are confusing myandry to feminism.

So from your definition is it right to say the feminist fight is over?
Romance / Re: Feminism. Ay Or nay? by gohome: 12:55am On Apr 27, 2013
mondi_cheeks: gender equality doesn't favoring women it means giving them equal opportunities to women.

>Firstly the reason why a man doesn't get paternity leave is because he doesn't go into labour and he won't require rest to recover from giving birth, for a woman however it is an inherent requirement because she has to recover (Caesarian section or if he tears during natural birth) nurture her child e.g. breast feeding...the reason why women get maternity leave is because it is simply an inherent requirement whereas there aren't any valid reasons that can be given for man to get 'paternity' that's why some countries have 'family responsibility leave' so that a man could be allowed to spend time (even though its very little) with his family. Remember equality before the law still has to have limitations... Maternity leave for a pregnant woman is an inherent requirement because she has the right to bodily and psychological integrity and to give effect to that right she has to be allowed to go on maternity to recover and nurture her child. Not allowing her the rest could cause complications with regards to her on her health (physically and mentally) and lack of rest may cause her to under-perform. paternity leave would not be an inherent requirement because the men don't have justifiable reasons for them to be granted one. It's common sense

You can't just hand out leaves like free sweets, there has to be a just and sound reason for it!

In other words, is it really practicable for Men and Women to have equal opportunity? How do you measure the equality? What if the woman is a career woman, and wants to go to work immediately, why can't her husband have paternity leave while his wife works?
Romance / Re: Feminism. Ay Or nay? by gohome: 8:53pm On Apr 25, 2013
‘Humanism over Feminism’ is what I like to say. I believe the word “Feminist” in itself defeats its perceived purpose of gender “equality”. I think Feminism’s battle has already been won in the past: women can now vote, drive cars, go to school, hold public offices etc. What we need to concentrate on now is Humanism, not Feminism. Modern “Feminism” to me is just a joke. Especially in developed nations in Europe and America, where some women are beginning to raise the bar for gender “equality” pretty high up (take the case of feminists in Sweden for example).
I also believe that this idea of gender “equality” is a little far-fetched. Male and Female were never created equal. I’m not saying one gender is more equal than the other; they are just not equal, that’s all. It is sensible that we expect men and women to have similar rights for issues like voting, education, healthcare, employment and the like, but there are some areas that should just be left the way they are because they follow the natural flow of the universe. It is a known fact, for example, that men are physically much more stronger than women. I don’t have the stats, but I believe women on the other hand emotionally and mentally stronger. So when feminists in the US start to promote the inclusion of more women, for combat jobs, in the US Army, I can’t help but think that they must have too much time on their hands.
Romance / Feminism. Ay Or nay? by gohome: 3:20pm On Apr 24, 2013
Feminism. Ay or Nay?

Feminism.

A dirty word in some circles. When I hear the word, I think of fiery black women with dreadlocks or white women in badly fitting suits. Don’t ask me where these images come from; I don’t know. I do want to know: what’s all the fuss about?

I am a Nigerian woman. I am educated. I hold a job that pays me the same as my male colleagues. I voted in the last election. I can drive. I can own property… Now that I think about it, what exactly does being female forbid me from?

I can’t be out by myself late at night. Common sense. I could be robbed and/or raped. But that isn’t feminism’s war. That’s a function of security. A guy would be vulnerable too. Well, being female puts you at a disadvantage in the corporate world, some say. You can’t be a top-level executive. And they have stats to prove it. I’ll get back to that in a bit.

There are societal norms about how I should interact in society as a woman. But I think that those norms are shaped by the family I grew up in. I was told I was intelligent. Not relative to a boy. Intelligent in my right. The world was my oyster, the sky my limit, my life was charmed. My future was placed before me in pragmatic terms. I could be a career woman like my mother, keep a store close to home like both my grandmothers or be a housewife like many of my cousins. Each was a valid option and growing up, I was exposed to the pros and cons of each.

And this is the thing. A woman should have choices. We may not always agree with those choices (to stay with an abusive husband, to never marry, to take up a job, to become a housewife, to drop out of school) but they’re hers.

I was taught to respect men, to honour the man I would eventually marry. I like to think that my future husband was taught to respect women, like my brother was taught, like my sons will be. But I was also taught to pay for my drink. To be content with what I had. To earn my money without selling my dignity.

Society didn’t teach me this. Family did.

Yesterday, I took a male friend out to dinner. I called the waitress over. I requested the menu. I ordered. And when we were done, I requested the bill. When she got to our table, the waitress made to give it to him. I stretched out my hand to take it. She ignored me, and still pushed it to him. He smiled and handed it to me. The look on her face as I counted out the money from my wallet was priceless. Was I offended? No. Amused, more like. And frankly, I considered it too small to hold a grudge. I don’t blame society, I understand that it’s a function of her family and upbringing.

And then, there are bars/restaurants/clubs who refuse entry to unaccompanied women. On one hand, I find it amusing that a public establishment would seek to make moral choices for its patrons. On the other hand, I would boycott such an establishment. If you don’t want my custom, why would I force it on you? My own money? But I also think that this is a petty battle, and one I wouldn’t waste effort on.

What battles would I be interested in? Poverty alleviation. I hear of families that send only their sons to school because they think their daughters could do no better than to marry well. But often, these families can’t afford to send everyone and so they have to make a choice the best they know how. But what if they could afford to send them both? Would they still refuse? I could be wrong, but I don’t think so. And so our battle should be getting them across the poverty line. I know a mother who runs a small kiosk to support her family. Getting a bank loan to expand her business would be difficult. But that’s not because she’s female. Her husband is a vulcanizer (Nigerian term for a person who fixes tyres), and I daresay getting a loan would be difficult for him as well. It’s not really a gender problem, but one of class distinction.

Gender equality battles aren’t complete if we don’t fight for men’s rights, as well. Does this sound odd?

Back to the corporate arena. I overheard female colleagues complain that we aren’t well represented in our company’s leadership. They insist that D & I should be brought to bear. I differ. Leadership should be given to the most capable, not shared between the genders. If I want to be manager (as a male or a female), I have to work harder and longer than my peers to develop the right competencies faster. That’s easier when I’m unencumbered by family commitments. However, if after getting those competencies, I was turned down and the job given to a less competent male, then I would cry foul.

If I have a family, it gets harder. Some jobs are inherently incompatible with raising a family. With a family, I simply will not have enough time to develop those competencies faster than my peers. As a parent, I have a responsibility to raise my child. I can’t balance this with working long hours unless I have a very supportive husband. Let’s say he supports me 100% and he’s willing to take responsibility for our child. If he’s a house-husband, this is easy. But house-husbands aren’t common. Men have not been wired by their families to be house-husbands. So he has a job. Will his job let him close at 3.30 to pick our child from school? Will his job allow him take the afternoon off to take our child to hospital? Or his school’s soccer game? No. Women get those breaks in some companies, men hardly ever. And so this is what I think should be feminism’s cause. Flexible working hours for both sexes, so that each spouse can choose to support the other. Not just women, but men too. My husband should get paternity leave as long as mine so that if I choose to return to work a week postpartum, he can stay home to care for our infant. Amen?

There is the aside that even with these perks, some men would not support their wives’ ambitions. A shame, but that’s all it is. Society (or a movement) cannot force a man to support his wife, it’s a personal choice. The same way it’s a wife’s personal choice to support her husband.

But don’t hand me a promotion because it’s the politically correct thing to do. It’s an insult to my intelligence, and tells me I wouldn’t have been good enough otherwise.

I fear I may have gone off on a tangent. So back to my original question? What’s all the fuss about feminism? Honestly, I’m interested in hearing a feminist’s or anti-feminist’s thoughts.
http://eurekanaija./2013/04/19/feminism/

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Literature / Re: What's Your Favourite Chinua Achebe's Quote by gohome: 9:23am On Mar 23, 2013
Yeku James
Yesterday at 8:47pm · 
I am finding it really difficult to choose my favourite of these Achebe proverbs. Which is yours?

"If you want to eat a toad you look for a fat and juicy one."

"An only palm fruit does not get lost in the fire."

"A man who lives on the banks of the Niger (river) should not wash his hands in spittle."

"A man does not challenge his Chi to a wrestling match."

"When a new saying gets to the land of empty men, they lose their heads over it."

"You cannot plant greatness as you plant yams or maize. Who ever planted an iroko tree - the greatest in the forest? You may collect all the iroko seeds in the world, open the soil and put them there. it will be in vain. The great tree chooses where to grow and we find it there...so it is with greatness in men."

"The eye is not harmed by sleep."

"We do not want to be like the unfortunate child who grows his first tooth and grows a damaged one."

"He who has people is richer than he who has money. "

"Shall we kill a snake and carry it in our hand when we have a bag for putting things in ?"

"If a man returns from a long journey and no one says nno (welcome) to him, he feels like one who has not arrived."

"A debt may get moldy but it never rots."

"The most horrible sight in the world cannot put out the eye."

"The sun will shine on those who stand, before it shines on those who kneel under them."

"If a child washed his hands, he could eat with kings."

"When the moon is shining, the cripple becomes hungry for a walk."

"Let the kite perch and let the eagle perch too - If one says no to the other, let his wing break."

"An old woman is always uneasy when dry bones are mentioned in a proverb."

"The lizard that jumped from a high iroko tree to the ground said he would praise himself if no-one else did."

"Eneke the bird says that since men have learnt to shoot without missing, he has learnt to fly without perching."

"Those whose palm kernels were cracked for them by a benevolent spirit should not forget to be humble."

"When a person says yes, his Chi (personal god) says yes also."

"A man that makes trouble for others also makes trouble for himself."

"If one finger brings oil, it soils all the others."

"When a man blasphemes what do we do? Do we go and stop his mouth? No. We put our fingers into our ears to stop us hearing."

"A man who calls his kinsmen to a feast does not do so to save them from starving."

"As a man danced so the drums were beaten for him."

"Whenever you see a toad jumping in broad daylight, then know that something is after its life."

"When a handshake goes below the elbow, then know that it has turned into something else."

"It is praiseworthy to be brave and fearless, but sometimes it is better to be a coward. We often stand in the compound of a coward to point at the ruins where a brave man used to live."

"The man who has never submitted to anything will son submit to the burial pit."

"Wisdom is like a goatskin bag; every man carries his own."

"An old man is there to talk."

" If the lizard of the homestead should neglect to do the things for which its kind is know, it will be mistaken for the lizard of the farmland."

"When an adult is in the house, the she-goat is not left to suffer the pains of parturition on its tether."

"A boy sent by his father to steal does not go stealthily but breaks the door with his feet."

"When an old woman hears the dance she knows her old age deserts her."

"It is only when you are close to a man that you can begin to smell his breath."

"If a blind man does not know his own stick, tell me what else would he know ? "

"If you fail to take away a strong man's sword when he is on the ground, will you do it when he gets up? "

"A man who avoids danger for years and then gets killed in the end has wasted his care."

"When a mad man walks naked, it is his kinsmen who feel shame, not himself."

"A madman may sometimes speak a true word."

"A madman may sometimes speak a true word, but you watch him, he will soon add something to it that will tell you his mind is spoilt."

"A goat does not eat into a hen's stomach no matter how friendly the two may be."

"A man of worth never gets up to unsay what he said yesterday."

"The inquisitive eye will only blind its own sight."

"A man who does not lick his lips, can he blame the harmattan for drying them ? "

"If we fall back, can we complain that others are rushing forward ?"

"When suffering knocks on your door and you say there is no seat for him, he tells you not to worry because he has brought his own stool."

"What a man does not know is greater than he."

"Only a foolish man can go after a leopard with his bare hands."

"In dealing with a man who thinks you are a fool, it is good sometimes to remind him that you know what he knows but have chosen to appear foolish for the sake of peace."

"A man may refuse to do what is asked of him but he may not refuse to be asked."

"When we hear a house has fallen do we ask if the ceiling fell with it ?"

"The death that will kill a man begins as an appetite."

"If a man sought for a companion who acted entirely like himself, he would live in solitude."

"He is a fool who treats his brother worse than a stranger."

"The greatest liar among men still speaks the truth to his own son."

"A boy who tries to wrestle with his father gets blinded by the old man's loin cloth."

"A woman who began cooking before another must have more broken utensils."

"When we see an old woman stop her dance to point again and again in the same direction, we can be sure that somewhere there something happened long ago which touched the roots of her life."

"In all great componds there must be people of all minds - some good, some bad, some fearless and some cowardly; those who bring in wealth and those who scatter it, those who give good advice and those who only speak the words of palm wine. That is why we say that whatever tune you play in the compond of a great man there is always someone to dance to it."

"When brothers fight to death a stranger inherits their father's estate."

"The man that brings ant-infested gays into his hut should not grumble when lizards begin to pay him a visit."

"A disease that has never been seen before cannot be cured with every-day herbs."

"No matter how many spirits plot a man's death, it comes to nothing unless his Chi (personal god), has a hand in the deliberation."

"A man who means to buy palm wine does not hang about at home until all the palm wine in the market is sold."

"If you thank a man for what he has done he will have strength to do more."

"The language of young men is pull down and destroy; but an old man speaks of conciliation."

"It is the fear of offence that makes men swallow poison."

"A traveler to distant places should make no enemies"

"Travellers with closed minds can tell us little except about themselves"

"A man of sense does not go hunting little bush rodents when his agemates are after big game"

"No man however great is greater than his people"

"Every lizard lies on its belly, so we cannot tell which has a belly-ache"

(Prepared by Nwabu Nnebe)

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Literature / Re: What's Your Favourite Chinua Achebe's Quote by gohome: 7:37pm On Mar 22, 2013
NEW YORK (AP) -- Select quotes by Chinua Achebe, the pioneering African writer, government critic and advocate for African storytelling:

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"Okonkwo's fame had grown like a bush-fire in the harmattan. He was tall and huge, and his bushy eyebrows and wide nose gave him a very severe look. He breathed heavily, and it was said that, when he slept, his wives and children in their houses could hear him breathe." - from the 1958 novel "Things Fall Apart."

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"The story of this man who had killed a messenger and hanged himself would make interesting reading. One could almost write a whole chapter on him. Perhaps not a whole chapter but a resonable paragraph, at any rate. There was so much else to include, and one must be firm in cutting out details. He had already chosen the title of the book, after much thought: `The Pacification of the Primitive Tribes of the Lower Niger.'" - from "Things Fall Apart."

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"`Heart of Darkness' projects the image of Africa as `the other world,' the antithesis of Europe and therefore of civilization, a place where a man's vaunted intelligence and refinement are finally mocked by triumphant bestiality," from "An Image of Africa," a 1975 lecture that became a widely printed essay.

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"The point of my observations should be quite clear by now, that ('Heart of Darkness' author Joseph) Conrad was a bloody racist. That this simple truth is glossed over in criticism of his work is due to the fact white racism against Africa is such a normal way of thinking that its manifestations go completely undetected." - from "An Image of Africa."

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"She looked at each in turn with a strained smile on her countenance. `Truth is beauty, isn't it? It must be you know to make someone dying in that pain, to make him ... smile. He sees it and it is ... How can I say it? ... It is unbearably, yes unbearably beautiful.'" - from the 1987 novel "Anthills of the Savannah."

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Literature / Re: What's Your Favourite Chinua Achebe's Quote by gohome: 5:49pm On Mar 22, 2013
"If you don't like someone's story, you write your own." #Chinua Achebe

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Literature / Re: What's Your Favourite Chinua Achebe's Quote by gohome: 5:40pm On Mar 22, 2013
"Writers don't give prescriptions. They give headaches!” - Chinua Achebe #RIPAchebe

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