Jewessgratitud3: It's amazing how I was contemplating making this post before a member here requested or should I say started asking me questions in that line and being a very free and open person, I promised I was going to post about it.
Well... Let me start from my background and up bringing which also contributed indirectly to my nonregrettable actions that has left me in this wonderful marital status.
I grew up in a Catholic christian home where good virtues moral values were instilled in us by engaging us in christian children activities from an early age. The Most social part of my childhood ( apart from school) was around the church then back home with close monitoring. So there was no room for nonsense even up to our secondary and tertiary level. the monitoring was topnotch. So we didn't really get to do shit like our mates who got exposed early to certain lifestyle,; dating number one.
We were overprotected and shaped with these guidelines that a mindset was formed that boy and girl relationship is a taboo ( and it's true). So we knew better than to toll that part.
In the long run, after I have come off age, it became very difficult to date. This was at age 21. Whenever I manage to give a man a listening ear and he mentions sex, I'll run without looking back because that was a danger sign we were taught to look out for. So i was always running away from men because of premarital sex. It got to a point, after looking like that's the only way to get a husband and I was already in my mid twenties, a time when a girl should be getting ready to settle down, I said ok, let me see if I can bend the rules a bit for this one. This man was a chronic responsible bachelor. So I felt it could work out since he's ready to settle down. He was in his mid 30s the and never married. We were in the same compound. So I gave in and we started dating. Mind you there was no pressure from both parents to get married. My parents will never pressure you to get a suitor.
Being a novice in the game, I never knew men could double date or even knew how to handle one when it happens. So, on this fateful day the randy goat came home with another girl. It was our last born that came and told me some girl came to look for him because everyone in the compound knows us together. I was heartbroken and right there I broke up with him without even finding out who or if what they both have is serious. Though I made him cry cos I started entertaining other boys that have been chyking me and bringing them to the compound but I never had anything with them or knew any of their houses. I was just using the to pepper him. Once they say hi, I'll drag them to the compound and we will sit on top of his car sometimes until he now confided in one of our neighbors who now told me to stop that the man is always crying. E never cry. I showed him two can play that game. He tried coming back but I bulshit him.
After that I locked up and never trusted any man. I began to see why my dad was being overprotective. I didn't date again for almost five years and then men were coming but that was when my own shakara increased. I mean responsible well to do men o. That was when men had good jobs from banking, investment and oil companies in ikoyi and vi both staff from five star hotel like Eko hotels and suites, federal palace cos those were the places I worked so I had many suitors and friends but the moment they mention relationship, Ill take off.
Part 2
It continued like that and I was enjoying my life with peace of mind that I forgot about time or didn't bother about it cos I don't care.
When I entered mid thirties, I said let me loosen up a bit but because Ive gotten used and enjoyed single life with peace of mind to that age, I found it difficult to commit again because anytime I tried, I'll start having anxiety. The thought of him cheating on me or even as little as admiring another woman will just make me unsettled and I'll think of aborting mission before it's too late.
So I said to give one man a chance, he too brought another girl in my absence. I found out from the sister and that was it. I called it off he begged and begged that the lady was forcing herself on him and sending him money bla bla.. he made a conference call with his family begging, my mind was made up I dumped him and moved on to a Choir boy Ive been admiring who was also trying to talk me into a relationship. I truly loved this guy and I think I was older than him in age . Though he refused to tell me his age but I was able to deduce from his Facebook profile cos he wrote class of 2006 while I finished 1999 but because I don't look my age, we just looked like age mate and we loved each other.
I met him when he just finished serving and was squatting. I was out of job then but one thing that made me stick with him was, even though he was not working, he shared whatever little he had with me. We were together when a very rich young pastor came asking for my hands in marriage. I told him about it and he started feeling sad that because he doesn't have a bearing now some guy wants to take me away from him. I on the other hand don't really fancy the pastor but wanted to force myself and see if it will work but it wasn't working because I didn't have feelings for him. To now make matters worse, he started showing stinginess. In the three months we courted, we didn't get to sit together because he's a pastor so we only see in church, stand and talk very briefly and disperse and each time he kept posting me about money I asked for to enable me travel for Xmas and the day was fast approaching. It was my Choir boyfriend that wen to borrow money from one girl selling recharge card to give me to travel. Now coupled with the fact that I don't even like him, i just texted him to look for another sister. The highest he ever bought me was two two hundred naira recharge card a stinkingly rich ajebota pastor for that matter ( 2014) but he would always call me.
Lastly, in 2016, my bobo got a job in Chevron with a nice apartment in lekki. Before then we had a small quarrel and we're not in talking terms because I requested for money for hair to attend my twins introduction and he told me no money but he didn't tell me he was saving for an apartment. Even then, how much? So, after months of not talking, he called and invited me over to see his new place. A surprise I guess. I got there and we had a nice time. He tried to make it up to me. He gave me his short and polo to wear that day and took me to a pepper soup joint. **Smiling** later we got back and ad I was about to shower, I saw a used shower cap in his bathroom. He now handed me a new one from his wardrobe where there were many more. I asked him who used the one in the bathroom, he said baby don't start again. I held my peace. The following morning he did something that I can't say for sure what really happened.
I slept over because there was no way I could go back from lekki to the mainland that day. That night he came to disturb me and I told him you know we can't be doing this. Please let wait till everything is formalized. When he wouldn't let me be, I left him and went to sleep on the floor. In the morning he woke up and was saying you, you, I was just looking at you as we were talking someone knocked on the door. It was a ladies voice. My ex went to meet her and they were together for almost 30mins before he came back inside. Me i didn't talk. I suspected he went to do nonsense because his thing was up when he left only to come back and it has come down.
We prepared and left together that morning for work. When I got home, I called and told him off. Na small thing dey vex me. He didn't believe it. So many things on my mind that made me take that huge decision. Men are not worth my type.
Since then till date, I stopped anything relationship especially if it's not a born again and I must like him. I faced my God ever since and decided to give myself peace. I can't stand a cheating partner. Disease dey town and I don't want to end up a baby mama.
Now, with the way things are, no jobs, the few decent men can hardly fend for themselves let alone catering for a family, I just decided to let sleeping dogs lie. Make person no come enter from fry pan to fire. Some family men now are dumping their family and running away from their responsibilities leaving the women to carry all the burden. So tell me what will make marriage enticing to me again? Abi na domestic violence? Biko Biko.
all of you will just die for nothing. Come out with your full chest to do your stupid illegal protest.
Radicalwarrior: National Rescue Congress exists to create a Nigeria that prioritizes transparent governance, where the sovereign will of the people is paramount, and every citizen, both home and abroad, thrives under a system of justice, equality, and unparalleled democratic principles.
We reject impunity and slavery. We stand firm against any form of oppression, autocracy, or subjugation of the Nigerian people. We work to ensure that the authentic voice and choice of the people are recognized, respected, and instituted.
The Enugu State High Court, Thursday, ruled that the proscription of the Indigenous People of Biafra, IPOB, by the Southeast Governors’ Forum in 2017 amounted to administrative abuse, hence null and void.
Mazi Nnamdi Kanu, the IPOB leader, had approached the court to seek the voidance of the prescription based on the fact that IPOB is a registered organisation, and composed of members who are exercising their right of association.
The suit was instituted by Kanu’s special counsel, Barr Aloy Ejimakor.
Among the reliefs sought are the de-listment of IPOB as a terrorist organisation in line with the provisions of the African Charter and the Constitution of the Federal Republic of Nigeria.
Other reliefs sought by Kanu include a declaration that self-determination is a right, public apologies in three national dailies and N25 billion damages, as well as restraining the government from proceeding with criminal proceedings against him.
Justice A.O. Onovo, while delivering the judgement, agreed with the applicant that the African Charter binds on Nigerian courts, hence self-determination is not a crime.
On monetary damages, the court granted N8.billion in damages to Kanu. It however declined jurisdiction in stopping the criminal trial of Kanu on grounds that it is before the Supreme Court.
Ejimakor commended the court for being the last hope of the coming man. In his words, “We are grateful that justice has prevailed over this matter since 2017.
“The court has reaffirmed the hopes of the common man in the judiciary. You have saved thousands of lives.”
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Additional information: Situated at a corner piece, 2 soakaway already constructed and a well infront of the structure.
Igbo with greediness this why the presidential election was lost...they betrayed Wike because of Atiku's money. You contesting for governorship election an still want to hold on to National Secretary position.
ganisucks: I can't wait for the downfall of that Port Hacourt drunk and his good for nothing, useless, pathetic Topboychriss lackeys. Yesterday the Port Hacourt drunk wore all black for his senseless boring media chat. I thought he said he's not a cultist. Original ozuor.
DaTruths: Buhari appointed his Northerners from the far end of North-West to the Far end of North-East.
Tinubu clamored for Southern Presidency, the whole Governors of Southern origin had a meeting at Asaba which birthed the Asaba Declaration where we all agreed that Power must return to South.
The South was somewhat in unity on it.
Now Tinubu has become the president, but unfortunately the president for the South-West.
He is appointing mostly Yorubas, Southern Presidency indeed.
He should remember that Buhari was nepotic, but he opened his arm across the whole North.
But Tinubu doesn't want to open his arm across the whole South.
Quite unfortunate because this should be the turn of the South not just South-West.
Building 6km road with 0ver N32 billion? Continue to play.
mokwechineme: Just in few months he already hit the ground running and the only governor contructing with Julius Berger. If there is anyone better please let us kjow. He is the one I know from my own end?
Why don't you arrest IPOB terrorists. It's only innocent hawkers you can harass?
Titusele87: Anambra arrests 30 street hawkers,shuts 100 shops for environmental offences
Titus Maduako Eleweke
Anambra State Government has arrested 30 street hawkers and shut over 100 shops for environmental offences .
The Managing Director of Operation Keep Clean and Healthy (Ocha Brigade) Mr Celestine Anere disclosed that they have arrested 30 people violating hawking and trading laws of the state and shut down almost 100 shops at the popular Eke Awka market.
Anere who led the operation yesterday evening said the state government will no longer tolerate street traders who blocked roads and shop owner who keep their environment dirty.
"We are here this evening to decongest streets and stop hawkers and traders from blocking access roads for motorists to ply on the roads. We are tired of begging them not to trade on the main roads " he said .
According to him,what they are doing is to arrest persons who hawks on the Streets and consificate their goods ,noting that they must set the streets free from blockage by traders .
He said that ,while clearing the street traders,they discovered that drainages were filled to brim and cause flooding during rain.
"The control of flooding in this place is simple,what we need is just to distill the drainage to allow water flow freely .
"Our intention is to distill the drainage from Eke Awka to Amawabia bypass both sides and Agu Awka . We know this task will not be easy but we must get it right because solution is here. The governor is serious about clean and healthy Anambra and it is the duty of Ocha Brigade to get it done " he said .
He also said that they are happy that the traders have started complying with the distilling order, noting that their shops would be opened immediately after evidence of serious commitment.
The MD also stated that those who built on drainage and water way are being compel to dismantle and allow water to flow freely.
"We close the shops because their shops were dirty,the distilling laws of Anambra State made it clear that you must keep your environment clean and clean gutters. Based on these laws ,we are compelling the shop owners to distill and keep their sorrounding clean. We will continue to close their shops untill they fully complied " he said .
Speaking to News men, during the operation, Chairman of St Mary Traders Association, Mr Obinna Umeh said they have problems in clearing the drainage in their area.
According to him, they have cleared the drainage three times within the years and immediately after clearing the drainage it will be filled again because of tunnel closure.
He said that there are closed tunnel in the area which need to be opened to allow water flow freely and he appealed to the governor to help open the tunnel. According to him, government ought to open the tunnel, noting that it was only when the tunnel is open that their distilling can be effective.
What's the land size? What of the interior pictures?
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North will always support their own no matter what but you see those bastards from the south they will always tear their own down. South will get sense by force.
Continue to cry...
garfield1: Former Kaduna lawmaker, Sen Shehu Sani, has applauded the appointment of Imam Ibrahim Kashim-Imam, as the Chairman of the Federal Roads Maintenance Agency (FERMA).
In a statement issued last week Friday evening, presidential spokesman, Ajuri Ngelale, said the appointee is expected to serve for a renewable term of four (4) years, in accordance with Section 2(3) of the FERMA Amendment Act, 2007.
Reacting in a post via his X (formerly Twitter) handle on Monday, Sani said there is nothing wrong with the President appointing the 25-year-old to head the federal agency.
The former Kaduna Central Senator said the state of Federal roads in the country shows that those old people appointed over the years have not merited the position they held.
Sani, therefore, counselled that the youths, and young people should learn to rally around the new FERMA chairman.
He said: “There is nothing wrong with appointing a 25-year-old to head FERMA. Just look at the state of Federal roads in the country and ask yourself if those old people appointed over the years merited the position they held. Young people should learn to rally around their own.”
Politics / Re: OBAZEE REPORT: TINUBU SHUNS DANGOTE, 'GO AND REFUND 3.4BIL$ COLLECTED FROM CBN' by gratefulheart(m): 12:11pm On Oct 28, 2023 
