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Even tough i'm not a politician but as for Lagos, PDP should for now keep shut and forget about Lagos state.

Opposition shaaaa
they just can't do without calling themselves names, but let kashamu be wooed into APC now, his songs about APC and Tinubu will change.
It makes me remember Tinubu and OBJ, they were both cat and rat before, but now look at what is happening between them. Anyone that gets involved in this is doing it at his/her own risk, why? Because politicians can not be predicted, they may be worst enemies today and turn out best friends tomorrow.
All i want is that the party that will truly give us the dividends of democracy should emerge the winner, and so shall it be.

awesomeness: Hey Shoerack6! Did u steal my story? Or did u sneak into my crib to see all that is happening?
Lol... Seriously, I used to experience all that u have said except that mine has nofin to do with language 'cos we speak same language. My husband doesn't laugh nor play/crack jokes wif me neither does he to his two kids that I bore for him. Somx he cld just return frm work angry n vent his anger on us @ home, he cld wake up frm sleep n be angry, we cld even be talking and then mayb l ask to leave for saturday rehearsals in d church of which I go wif my kids, upon my return, I'l meet an angry man @ home who will refuse to talk to me and d more I ask to know wat happened n y he is nt tlking to me, d more angry he gets n ends up not eating my food. Wenever he is angry, aside not talking to me, he doesn't eat my food neither does he sleep in our room, he'l rather sleep in another room. This cld go in for days/ weeks and d more it breaks my heart. Wen I cry, I seem to worsen d situation because he will get angry d more, tell me I'm disturbing him wif my cry n that if I shd shed blood, that wouldn't move him, worse still, he walks out leaving me to cry. Most times I ask myself hw I ended up wif him. I used to think I'm d only one in this shoe until I saw ur post. I'm only trusting God for a change n I also want u to do same.

does he attend church with you? If yes, why don't you get your pastor to help talk to him, and when he's in good mood, why don't you recommend a pyschariatic doctor to him, because what you described here isn't normal at all, God forbid he gets so annoyed one day and decide to maim you or the kids, he really needs to be treated, please im not being sarcastic o, im damn serious, he needs a counsellor as well as a doctor, please, don't just look at him as a perpetual angry man, see him as someone who neeeds help and do help him out.
May God direct you rightly.

@op, can I send you a mail, please allow me and reply. I sincrely love you and I will like to be your friend. I promise to respect your privacy..........pleeeeeeaaaaseee

This is just a reminder that there is nothing new under the sun.

tofek4real: Am suprised dat nobody heard of what happened in benin last month where a house wife conived with a pastor 2 kill her husband and use her husband new car 2 sow seed 2 d said pastor ehn? They're both cooling off in d cell now. D matter is still very fresh... Infact d pastor is her boyfrnd. If ur wife dey carry church n pastor 4 head u better watch out o!

oh God, i pray, do not let me see something that will turn me to a wierd person, because if this happens to any member of my family, i will cease to be a nice person to that pastor, infact, i will...............oh no, im getting angry already.........enough said.

@op, can i mail you?

I think we need to talk one on one, maybe we can exchange bbpin, or anyhow, we just need to talk. Thank you for cooperating.

@BallottiWow!
I love these cuties!
Weldone ma!
More power to you!

kinharold: Amen oooo. Thank U very much. I will tell my Daddy to book a flight for U for our next family vacation, that one maybe in our village.

you're welcome.
But i don't want village o!

My dear, well done, you and your wife's efforts will not be in vain, and ours too.
I will suggest that since the creche provides fun learning enviroment, let him wait till he's two or slightly above two years old before registering him in school. It's better like that, it's not advisable to over-stretch kids' brains, it always have after effect.
Even at that 2 or 2+, it's too early, but civilisation is what is pushing us to all these. I know some standard schools like SOS schools and Montessory schools that will not admit/accept any kid less than 3 years old kid, these are the schools that are following the normal route.
When we were growing up, if one is not 6 years plus, no school will admit or accept you, and today, we thank God, it's not that because of that, we lag behind our mates.
I dont even know why the rush self, if a child finishes primary school at 11, spend another 6 years in secondary school, by then, he will be 17, if he's able to get admitted almost immediately, because of his maturity, he will spend another 4 years in the university, which will make him 21 years old as a graduate, if it's law, 5 years, and he will be 22 years old when he'll be through and if it's medicine, it's 7 years, which means 24 years old to graduate as a medical doctor, so, why the rushing, the truth is that, if kids are overly rushed at their tender ages, there is probability for them to pay for it in the future, why, you may ask, because the maturity has not yet set in when he was being pushed unnecessarily. The maturity part is very very essential for their and ur own good.
May God help us all.

Although, I commend their sincerity and restitution but what about other things they've used the certificate to achieve like using it as a criteria to gain admission into higher institutions, as well as using the certificate obtained at the higher institutions to gain employment, are they returning those also?

WOW!
The 3rd picture is
I love that picture, the swag toooooooo much.
I'm proud of your parents!
God keep you for them and never allow them to be sorrowful over you.
Next time you're going for holiday, please invite me o

coogar: two months after your wife just put to bed, you want to mount her again? dang - pity these women too. how do you know she's completely healed? you need to tie that weapon of yours with a rubber band. the arrival of the newborn should fill you with so much joy & sëx should be the last thing on your mind.

If the woman is comfortable with it, what then is your own? Face front............

If exclusive breastfeeding is exclusively and religiously practiced, it has about 90% assurance of preventing pregnancy, but how many women really breastfeed exclusively these present days? That is where the problem lies.

mysticgal: Hello landers please pray for mum,shes about entering the knife room to remove a cyst before it becomes cancerous,i have been crying and praying but join me in one one accord to ask God save my mum,shes the only mum i have and i cant afford to lose her.please pray.

it is well with your mum, as she's about to walk in int the hospital, she will walk back to her home in Jesus name.
I declare, no weeping, no crying, no sorrow upon her in Jesus name.

@ademotors,
Thanks for honouring me and i sincerely wish you the best from the bottom of my heart.

Nashville: GreatGod12, you are one of the few posters on this family forum I genuinely admire. Your posts are mature, objective and devoid of any gender bias. You have a kind heart and you are always willing to help. Please keep it up.

thank you sir for the compliment, my believe is that we can only be useful to ourselves when we are still alive, you know, one would only be remembered for two things in life...................problem created and problems solved.
@op, it is well, even if you're muslims, that doesn't mean you should be treated like trash, the only way you can free yourself is by financial empowerment.

shoerack6: I already answered. I actually graduated last two years but he refused from going to serve.

you see, the first and major instrument in the hand of a potential abuser is financial dependency. Once they achieve that, the victim becomes helpless and left choiceless.

Once again, for the main time, concentrate on yourself, your kids and your business. Then, keep on praying.
It is well.

shoerack6: @, thanks so much for your advice. He refused me working. It was just of recent he allowed me get a shop to start business.

ok, just seeing this, expect my mail.
Please pull yourself together , this is not unexpected in a polygamous setting.

Was he like this before he married his 2nd wife, or he started behaving like this when he was about to?

shoerack6: This is not super story pls. How I wish it was.

@op, you've not answered me, are you financially independent? If yes, please, focus on yourself and your kids for now, if no, let us know, you might someone here who can help you find one, so that you can keep soul and body together.

Polygamous family!
A very dreaful place to find oneself!

shoerack6: The most painful part is when it comes to begging. I can stand for 1 hour begging him.
Just how many days ago, he was angry that my aunty's husband called me.
He's so jealous and practically controls my life. If not that I already have kids, I would have asked him to divorce me.
He has another wife (i'm the first) so whenever he's not talking to me, he'll just face the other wife and abandon me. This breaks me down.

so you mean you, your hubby and the second wife lives in the same apartment?
Wow!
Are you financially independent, if yes, please, face your carrer now, if now, get something doing that will relieve you depending on him, this is very important, he might be treating you like trash if he knows you can't do anything, especially financial without him, when the shealt is removed from his eyes, he will come back.

For the main time, focus on yourself and your kids, "aja elyi ti sonu na, boya lo le gbo fere olode mo"
May God help you.

From your post, it seems you two are from different tribes, if yes, doesn't he speak his own language when his folks are around.


That being said, the truth is that you married an insecured baby,(is he the only male in the family) because if not, how can speaking one's language with one's people becomes a problem to him?

All in all, since you have begged him and he's still adamant, i will suggest you ignore him for now but make sure you do everything you're suppose to do as regards him, cook his meal as usual, invite him to the table, remind him of something he's used to but which he's not doing. In general, keep on being dutiful and nice with him, after some time, i'm sure he will come back to his senses.










Before i leave, one major reason for having prolonged disagreements is your consent to different rooms from the beginning, if you're always on the same bed, this issue might have been likely settled before now.


When things seems to be normal again, both of you need a marriage counselor, if you're a christian, you can liase with your marriage counselling groups in your church, you people really need it.

And as for you as the wife, i think you need a book, "the power of a praying wife", get one and use it to pray for your hubby, i pray the Lord give you the wisdom to do things rightly.

benedicta0: Good tips there! But people said using a hot towel to press your tummy, makes the tummy to reduce,makes all the bad blood to flow out,and make the womb to go into it's rightful place quickly.
After giving birth to two children,people tell me that I made a mistake by not using very hot water to press my tummy,that it is a little bit big,since I'm on the slim side

using hot towel to press your stomach/body is just like punishing yourself unnecessarily!
Which bad blood is really coming out, abeg, enough of all these primitive methods joor, just make sure you eat hot foods and take hot liquids ALWAYS........lobatan.
After about 8weeks, start some simple exercises like walking and sit ups, and you're good to go.
*talking from experience*


@op, you've been told all you need to know, i wish you goodluck and i pray for quick recovery from lost blood and waters.
However, for your baby, use natural oils like sheabutter, olive oil, cocoa oil or coconut oil, and you'll be free from treating all those irritating skin rashes known to affect babies.
My warmest regards to your baby.

Whoever that is available to do it.
There should be no hard and rigid rule about this.

**assuming this thread is real**



@ademotors, please be sincere, do you really love this lady unconditionally, because going to the extent of opening a thread about her fertility as regards age constraint in order to ascertain whether to go ahead with the relatinship with her, just because she was around 30 years old when you met her, is not only disrespectful and doubtful, it's also conditional, it's like saying if the consensus is that she isn't fit, you wouldn't have gone ahead with the relationship.
There's a better and matured way of going about it than opening a thread, what happens, if accidentally, this your lady get to know about that particular thread, how will she feel?
And one more thing, if your mum didn't tell you that it's God that make children, does that mean you wouldn't have gone ahead with the relationship with the lady.
What happens if after one year of marriage (God forbid), she isn't pregnant for you?



Anyway, we are all learning. I have learnt something from this thread, whether it's real or not.
May God help us all.

**Assuming this thread is real**

@op, please move on, not all ladies fall and dies for money. The fact is that, it's better to be single and be happy than be married and be miserable, because of an arrogant guy/husbamd. If i were your ex, i would have done the same.

Oh my!
How did i miss this thread

2014 is definitely going to be a great year and a year that will be full of pleasant surprises.


I don't normally click on Andyblaze's thread, but something just pushed me to click this and i was wowed at what i saw, couldn't believe my eyes, went back to check the op again, and it remains the same, thank you Andy for giving me pleasant surprise this new year, this is a good sign that i'm going to have uncountable pleasant surprises this year and beyond.

Andy, keep it up, this is the type of thread we want in Family section, as you know, it's a family place, we usualy want something that will help our families positively like this.
I hereby endorse this thread.
God bless you and all of us.

jumzzy448: I really respect you.

thank you ma.
I respect you as well ma.
You know we are all sinners saved by grace.
Happy new year ma.

Ewuro707: ^^ Abeg ignore.

thanks ma.
You're blessed ma.
Happy new year to you and yours!

shizzle11: I'm sorry if I was a bit harsh with my comment, I kinda felt your overzealousness in sympathizing with Americas first family was taken a little too far, its nothing personal sis.

Thanks for exhibiting some courtesy....

A blessed new year to you too

you're welcome my dear brother.
Apology accepted!
We are all sinners saved by grace.
It is well with you and all of us.

shizzle11: like seriously.?

And i guess doing that will solve your immediate family problems. Have you finished praying for your fellow countrymen and women?

nonsense...

why now?
We dey fight before?
This is new year, too early for this, don't you know?
I honestly really don't know why i deserve this comment from you.
Happy new year to you, though.........