₦airaland Forum

Casham:
Honestly I would not want to be the person to destroy another man’s faith, because that is one thing that give people the hope for the future. I am also not a man who will live my life in fear of some kind of retribution from some vengeful god.
But if there is a hell; then I have seen it here already. I see people going through all kinds hell here on earth right now.
And if there is a heaven; I am living some form of it now already. There is no heaven better than taking charge of your life, loving someone and having someone love you and also making someone’s life a little bit better.
I do not fear the future or the afterlife, if there is any. And when I get there, I will want to be proud of the fact that I lived my life here and now in honest truth to my conscience according to my own dictates.

keep praying for Allah's guidance. He is The Most Merciful

Casham:
Greenfaces, I respect and envy the fact that Islam gives you peace and assurance. But I have read through two [English] versions of the Qur’an and, if I am being candid, (I have never said this to anyone; not even to the second half of my family who are Muslims), I think Islam is a joke. I do not mean to troll. Islam is way too petty to be from any true God. If the Qur’an is to be scrutinized half as much as the Bible was, it will not last a single more minute in any enlightened person’s library. Even the various Hadiths are more significant because they can, at least, have some historical as well as literary value.
But I LOOOOVE Islamic culture. The calligraphy, the poetic recitations, the ‘Umma’ thing and the hajj. Islamic doctrine, Though is still the most petty religious doctrines I know.
Mohammed actually did a great job uniting the Scattered and warring Arab clans into one Nation. He is a cultural hero, and I respect that about the man, but nothing more. I understand why he felt the need to use the GOD factor to bring them together, and I expect people in this 21st century to understand that too. ‘GOD’ was only a uniting factor and Mohammed rode on that knowledge to unite his people and give the Arabs their most Valuable and lucrative international export.

It is only a way to be safe from the torment of what comes after this life. Ask questions about it instead of calling it a joke

saphiere:
Stories of men sleeping with their house helps and even impregnating them is not new to us.
Why do men indulge in such act?
If you must cheat as you men do saying it's men's nature to cheat. If you must cheat why should it be the househelp?

please I need answers

Lol. Maybe the househelp use to lure them comedy. And again... the temptation is right there in the man's house.

Saudi Arabia

Lolz

nairamaniac:
I don't think a Sharon would be as reliable as a Corolla. I don't think the Sharon would have original spare parts in the market as the Corolla would have.


Yeah, a nigerian-used Corolla of 2004 to 2007 can be as reliable as a tokunbor 1999car, depending on how clean it is. Especially the Engine&Transmission.

Besides it's reliability, the beauty and class matters to me.

that's true. Now I love benz. The balance is second to nothing.

nairamaniac:
Yeahh. You cant get the C300 anywhere for 2M.
Op is actually reffering to Nigeria used. Notwithstanding, they can't can't Nigeria used c300 for the price.

However there are some nice second hand cars you can get for around 2M
Like Corolla (Bolt spec, 2004 model).
Camry big for nothing,
Benz w203


These Nigeria used cars at those prices are quite reliable.

But is it better to buy a Nigerian used corolla for instance than a tokunbor 1999 car? Because I've bought one very clean new looking Sharon that almost took my life. The day I sold that car I almost celebrated the relief.

Beverlyjean:
Lies... 2m cant get u any Mercedes from 2005 upwards ( Nigerian used ) ...

I tire ooooooh

Even for kano wey dem dey bring cars cheap from katsina. He said c300 is 2m! I say ha! I bought 1999 c180 this year for 2.5m. Where did he see c300 for 2m? Except na Nigerian used. And who will carry 2m to buy a Nigerian used car if its not from his family member or close friend that he is sure the car is not a potato already. You buy car 2m that needs 4m repair. Why not buy older model tokunbor and have peace of mind

Kenmatt:
You're on point Gee.

I've began to "reason" that C300.

That car get wahala oh

DARLINGTON869:
Benz c300 for 2 million naira. Hmmm! Just dey play. Continue to dey play oo

na why I dey ask if na tokunbor or Nigerian used

These cars and prices you just mentioned, are they tokunbor?

Casham:
Honestly, I’ve got two, at least. The first one is religion. Sorry I am not trying to be rude, but I was so much into religion and all. I believed everything Bible back then. In fact, by the age of nine, I’ve read the Bible back to back twice in two different languages. I really wanted to be a Pastor.But now I see it as all lies. The second thing I now hate is gender wars. Even as a child, I always saw it as healthy competition. But now, it has become something else. We now seem to be promoting hate against the other gender. The thing is even putting me off social media.

Islam is the true religion. The media don't portray the truth

The fact that death is real and certain. The fact that the date is unknown. And the fact that we never really pay attention to it despite its reality.

May Allah save us and screen us from His wrath

Bunkbars:
i agree with you on this, but the problem is that, it backfires when the dumbo

Begin to make his personal problem, every other person problem by begging for help.

On how he can't feed anymore.

Truely we are the architect of our own problems.

How can a sane man, buy a car on credit. Fueling alone rakings in a crazy figure.

If you can't pay a one time payment for a car, forget it, who you wan impress. Don't you have Sense.

I know people that bought a car, after owning a house in an estate. This is someone buying a car at 40

Na mumu dey bow to pressure o!

a cheap car is okay because of emergencies. Our transportation system is poor in some states like kano state. If your wife is pregnant and goes into labour at midnight, you can't get her to the hospital without a car. Keke people go home by 10pm. Its difficult

ezechi24:
You don't have enough money to buy a car, but instead you went for a 12 million car, to be paying in instalments ...are you crazy?.

What's wrong with buying a 3 million naira car with the money you have..

Even 1.8m for a c180 benz if you're not so buoyant, use the rest to buy a land that will appreciate in 5years. That c180 classic or elegance is very strong and fuel economical

Bunkbars:
It is a foolish man,that would pay installments on a liability.

Plain foolishness.

Exactly. I rather buy a land with installment than a car

Jovialjune1:
See how your Inferiority complex is smelling everywhere, name one Nigerian man and white woman marriage that has lasted for 50 years let's see, yet we see Nigerian marriages lasting more than that everywhere in our society, but because you have to showcase how COONISH you Nigerian men are known for abroad, you had to bring down your women including your mother, or is she not a Nigerian woman? Is she also a curse to the society? What of your sisters, cousins, and every female in your family? You think Nigerian girls are like you below par men that prefer to be househusbands to white women, gleefully washing her pant and licking her feet simply because she has a pink skin, then when she's done with your sorry asś, she kicks you out to the streets and look for the next black Hot fool to take your place, you think we would tolerate such nonsense? No wonder black men are seen as bottom feeders, you people have no self worth whatsoever, you can't even produce anything or make your continent a little bit better or like theirs, because you have nothing upstairs except women, women and more women, very disgusting lots.

hope his mom is white oooooo..... if not this one na mumu raised to power 100

Nengiraw:
Hello nairalanders, please I need help on this situation. So I’m a lady in her mid 20’s. I’m actually very much set for marriage in the eyes of my family, since society deem it fit to place marriage as an achievement for women, and always bring up your age to remind you to. Anyways, it’s not a priority for me to get married now, as I feel like I’m not ready mentally,and I have a lot of trauma to work on, but I’m also open to it, if it’s in my face and ready. I don’t stay in Nigeria, so my family don’t know if I have a man in my life, so they decided upon themselves to introduce me to a man who is my uncle’s friend that stays in the same country as me. They were more focus on the fact that he comes from a neighboring village from us and that he was a doctor. (Meanwhile he’s actually a nurse, but he told them, that he was a doctor, he also never mentioned to them that he was married and had a child, before they decided to introduce him to me)

So we eventually started talking on WhatsApp, he saw some of my pictures already and he was mesmerized. In fact he was already kind of making me his wife in that moment. So one day he called me and we were just talking,and I heard like a toddler crying so bad and needed his attention, I asked him who was that , he told me it was his daughter, there was this awkward silence for almost five minutes of us not saying anything, so I told him I’ll call him back. I called my mother that day and was mad as hell, that they didn’t disclose such information to me, but from my mother’s reaction she had no idea, and she was also mad and she told me, she will call me back, so she could verify from my uncle, since that’s his friend. Even my uncle too had no idea. To cut the whole story short, he later called me the next day on a video call, and he started telling me about his wife( Yes! She’s still his wife, because I don’t think he has divorced her yet)and how abusive she was, and how he tried to make it work, but she was so crazy and stuff like that. That he’s actually trying to get shared custody of the child. That he’s no longer married to her. I was not really having it, because I just felt like he wasn’t being honest with certain things and on top of that his wife is still in the picture, and I don’t know if I want to settle for that. Also he just turned 40, and I’m 25. So the age gap is too much for me. Also I have not met him in real life, cause he stays in a different state from me, my family still wanted me to be open minded until I see him in person, then I could make a decision if I want him or not. He always sends me pictures of his daughter, and he recently sent me one with his first wife and daughter, I was surprised that he did, and he said he wanted to show me the daughter instead. I still felt like I didn’t need to see a picture of her. I started seeing the red flags of him that I couldn’t settle with. Also the way he talked about the wife was vulgar, and I felt like he didn’t need to tell me about her in that manner.

Now the most recent thing he started doing was sending me random stuff about marriage to my WhatsApp. I usually glance at it,and don’t reply, cause I don’t know why he’s sending me that. The one that gave me a major big red flag from him, is when he sent where Regina daniels( the actress who married Ned nwoko) was talking about marrying her husband a virgin and how it’s important to be a virgin. He then asked me if I was one. Honestly I felt really numb, because I don’t know why he will be asking me stuff like that, when he didn’t really get a respond back from me, he proceeded to send another message telling me, “No mind them sha, virgin no sabi. With a heart eye emoji. I was dumbfounded, I didn’t know how to reply to him anymore. I stopped picking up his calls and I have no intention to meet up with him anymore. Now my family is mad at me, saying that at least I should see him in person, but I don’t want to. In fact I’m no longer interested in him. Please am I wrong for feeling the way I feel? Thanks.

Don't feel pressured. 25 isn't old. My wife was 30 when I married her. We have two kids. Looking back, I think I can never have settled for any woman less than 30. I appreciate the maturity, experience in life and wisdom than just the age. And there are many men like me. All the things people threaten you with are in the hands of God. There are 18years old married ladies with no kids right? And there are 40 years old still conceiving. This is the main pawn put forward by people who want to query for age as a yardstick for marriage. Some are okay with the drama of 21 years old, some are more comfortable with the maturity, peace and wisdom of 30s. Its life. Its beautiful because we have these choices.

There is really no deadline to finding a suitable partner because with marriage and familiarity, things can get really bad if the character and bond is not strong. It leads to frustration. He will get tired of your body one day, you will get tired of his charm and looks. What will keep you together after that is real values. And those values cannot be faked, pretended about or even wished away. You can be married and feel lonely, deppressed and sinking. Many people who are ordinarily faithful fall for the temptations of cheating because life can be very funny sometimes, you get to meet your ideal partner when you're already married to the person you just decided to cope with or manage because you're running out of time. And then you get stucked.

You have rightly identified his lapses in discussing his partner in a bad light. Just as employers ask intending employers why they left their jobs, they sieve out those who left for bad reasons and talk badly of their former employers. There's really no good excuses for bad results in the real world. He dated and married her and suddenly she became a monster. He would even have been a better person if he told you he had bad traits and she couldn't put up with him, and for that reason he has learned his mistakes and is ready to right his wrongs. Make your choice but don't be under the influence that you're running late. Late to where?

Persephone1:
Lol it's the way they keep up that narrative despite the fact that everyone knows what they are really desired for and how much they have to sacrifice or proof themselves worthy before they get a long term commitment.
Black men have inferiority complex it is why they always put their women down for some sort of superiority they lack and seek validation from the lowest people of other races.
A black man will say negative things to his wife but will complement random white woman who is no where near his black wife. Little wonder they needed no war to be colonized. Just mirror, guns and money blacks are already in slave trade selling their own. It's crazy, I'm not surprised though.

The craziest is, they project the narrative no one wants black women to discourage their women from dumping them or even think they have choices out there. The same fear technique they use on single moms, divorcees and abused wives. I pray black women work on migrating more and doing things out of norms then they will know how rich they are.

This agenda didn't even start with Nigerians funny enough. Nigerians just picked the wave. It started from black Americans living in projects. The real poor one's whose Nigga attitudes attracted white women. The drift from the normal courteous behavior white men displayed when wooing women to the harsh, carefree attributes displayed by niggaz. It became a fetishism for them. You could always see white girls around black artists. If you read the letter 2pac Shakur wrote to maddona his white girl friend on this issue, it says a lot.

The black ghetto girls were typically aggressive, and this was the technique used to tame them. A lot of social experiments have been done to show that black women are a more aggressive lot than their white counterparts. But what was not done justifiably was to compare women on the same socio economic strata. That would point to the fact that the aggression is coming from color and not socio economic factors.

The impression that the black guys had an alternative human specie while they did not. This was the narrative and for some strange reasons, black ghetto girls were also used by white guys because of their big buttocks, but they weren't settling for them. You see the outburst and cries when Eve the rapper got married to a white guy.

I don't really know when our Nigerian guys picked on this wave and started using it too against typical African women. They're not the same. I can never see myself marrying a white girl. I mean it will take a lot to mould her to my own liking. And it is the same for most African men who didn't grow up in a multi culturally diversified environment like USA. Its just lack of appreciation and naievity that would make a man immediately declare that a woman is better on account of her race. The black women who grew up in London and America will offer the same quality of love and emotional commitment to a relationship compared to ekaete in calabar or omamiro in isoko land. We are comparing apples and oranges here.

Biglittlelois:
Amen sister, Amen🙏🏽

Are you a victim or you're just on some siestas supporting sistaz

pocohantas:
White woman has a boyfriend and still wan knack Naija guy.

Naija guy: White women are straight forward. They are open with their sexual expectations. They can just knack you and go. No fake love. #TeamForeignGirls

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Naija girl has a bf and wants to knack Naija guy.

Nairaland guy: Nigerian women are oloshos. Borehole pùssy. I pity who marries these ones. They can fck for indomie and egg.

Another Nairaland guy: Which indomie? Useless girls with itchy pù**y. They must want to knack.

Another Nairaland guy: Then when they are evenings newspapers they will go to Shiloh. Naso one wan trap me enter marriage. I just dey fu** am. Mumu dey wait for ring.

Yet another Nairaland guy: Once I leave Nigeria, nothing fit make me date Naija girl again. Useless entitled oloshos.

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Dearest Naija women, this too shall pass.

The way you use to say things like knack, fck, pssy.... its somehow nao. Or what do you think? Me I just feel there are some cleaner terms for all these things...
You can say sleep with, or have canal knowledge, or private parts or pudenda...

As a woman you shouldn't just freely be saying toto, pssy, fck, knack. It's somehow abi? How do you see it?

Persephone1:
Amen!!!

Just checked all your topics and many of your posts, omo... you like relationship issues oooo.... all this dating, sex, relationship live stuff you really really love participating in them. Why nao?

Oxford what?

MzansiCoolio:
12 out of 10 for idiocracy! Homosexuality was illegal during white rule in SA.The black government is the one that said no one should ever again be discriminated against in SA.Next time read a book first before jumping to praising whites for everything in SA.Look how u embarrassed your corntree 🌽 where u still poop in gutters in the year 2023. Adopt 2 white idols from SA to teach u to poop in a toilet Kunta Kinte.

you are a slowpoke actually and no matter what you write back, I won't respond. Why? Because you're a slowpoke

Dvdpity:
Shit up...when your behaviours says otherwise. And you that is a Nigerian Islamic adherents, how dare you talk about Islamic laws when those that are practicing it for centuries are bombing themselves to go and meet Muhammed. How can you teach Islam to father's and owners of Islam. Muppets. Allah akbom.

what has your hatred for Islam done for you? Has it reduced the number of Muslims on earth? Has it stopped the ignorant Muslims from their actions? Has it erased the truth?

hiyagroundz:
Bros forget this una format, men don wise up Tay Tay using southern kaduna and the venue plateau as case study. Peace indeed

science is bad because of Chinese products too?

inoki247:
Why arresting the Brother In Law his the Super man here....


So he came to rescue someone from rapist na him una still arrest....


So self defense can still land someone in Jail....

Exactly what I was asking. Why arresting ekanem? This is gross stupidity. Someone who should be given a badge of honour

Zchi1052:
I hate this barbaric religion called Muslim with everything

A religion whereby you needs to be extremely wicked and a killer to prove your faith


I hate Islam
I hate his warshipers
I hate Muhammed
I hate Muhammad

Ignorant People are the ones who give Islam a bad image. Islam is a religion of peace. There is a history and a book that explains alot

TheBillyonaire:
I am not religious, so I do not believe in your nonsense. I am just shocked that you Jews, Christians and Islamists are ignorant of Kemetic Tradition and how the Egyptian Book of the death was copied to write your so called Holy Books of mind control.

Stop hitting your head on the flood, you are not supposed to be a slave.

Stop telling me about yourself or religious affiliation when I didn't ask. I mean it when I said I don't care.
Write all this your argument in a book and instruct your loved ones to Bury it with you when you die, so In case you can't talk when your head is been slammed in the grave, then maybe, just maybe they may read your letter. But I doubt they won't slam your silly head the more if they read your pos

Japa.

Nigeria no bad like that sha

TheBillyonaire:
I really am worried about black Africans worshipping some Arabic Entity instead of African Gods. I have never seen an Arabic man worshipping an African God.

then wait patiently. When you die and are in your grave, discuss this very important topic that disturbed you all your life with whatever you find there. Not with me. Why? Your opinions are invalid to me. You dont exist

Buharidgeneral:
How ? Let learn from you

The person rented the house from a barrister and told me he had paid for the house but that it was too big for him. I knew one guy inside ikota shopping complex who was into agency. I was soooo broke and thought of it as an opportunity to even get something.

So I told the agent. Next thing he was able to bring 4 people as tenants. One was a yahoo boy who smoked weed and another was a runs girl

Neighbours started noticing strange activities in the compound. Men (married and elderly) were bringing range rovers to sleep overnight with the runs girl. People started playing loud music and then the Neighbours called the barrister to ask him what the bells his house had turned into

That was when barrister started quoting documents about sublet blah blah blah and instructed everyone to pack out of the house. He even claimed that my friend didn't pay him cash for the house which turned out to be true

Omo... the guy seeing that his canopy had blown, just woke up one morning and ran away from the house. Tenants were asking for their money before packing out, landlord self called vgc police to lock us inside their properties inside the compound that they didn't pay water bill all along.

I was the only person they were able to fall back to. Like... where is my guy, me I no see the guy again he even stopped picking my calls. Na so I take find myself for cell oh

My dad travelled to lagos to remove me and we ended up paying evey tenant their money. Trust me before my dad travelled all the way from benin to lagos to bail me, I had called all my friends and relatives and none showed up. This was a major lesson to me about life. I got a good job not long after the incident so I was paying monthly to the police station. Until one of them (tenant) who was a pastor forgave me his own part. That is the story