Loveisascam: My experience dating a 28 years old stupid boy - Age and place of employment does not necessarily mean maturity.
I and my bf have been friends online before we finally decided to meet. After meeting, we mutually decided to start dating.
Unknown to me my bf had shared me with two of his friends to tempt me. Friend 1 chatted me up but I didn't give him any attention so he stopped all conversations with me. Friend two chatted me up too but somehow he was able to get my attention. I however clearly told him I had a boyfriend and was not interested in any romantic relationship with him. He told me he didn't have any issues with it but that we could still be friends.
I am a very sincere and open person and so I told my bf about my friendship with Friend two. I usually share screenshots of my conversations with Friend two with my bf. I did not hide any thing from him because I had no intentions to cheat. I was very transparent.
Little did I know that my bf on the other hand was also busy sharing everything that has transpired between us including very sensitive information like our sexual styles, the state of my vagina and even my financial status with his friend.
My bf told friend two to stop the game and leave me alone. Friend two refused. According to him, he realised I was not the slut my boyfriend painted me to be and thought I will be a great catch for a girlfriend.
To discourage him, my bf started slandering me to him.He even went to the extent of telling his friend that the last time I visited, he didn't enjoy the sex because my vagina was wide and that I had probably slept with some people before meeting him.
I had told friend two that the next time I visit my bf, I will endeavour to make arrangement so we can see too since him and bf stay in the same location. However on visiting my bf, I changed my mind and rather told him to visit my base if he really wants us to meet. He agreed to come around. I told my bf about my plan to meet friend two but didn't tell him that friend two had agreed to come to my base.
Friend two told my bf of his plan to come and visit me in my base and that finally he is going to have his way with me. My bf tried to discourage him from coming but he refused.
My bf was then forced to confess what he had done but told me not to let his friend know he has told me.
I kept chatting and receiving calls from friend two without revealing to him that I knew what he was up to.
After 3 days, I decided to let friend two know that my bf told me about their game. He was shocked and started opening up all my bf told him about me.
He told me my bf never really loved me and that he was with me because he didn't have to spend. I didn't ask him for money and even when I come to visit, I don't ask for tp.
Friend two also told me that my bf said I will be useful in his plans to relocate to Canada as he will convince me he wants us to marry, and that I should support him relocate first and then later when he is stable he will come back to Nigeria so we can wed and then he can bring me over. Meanwhile his actual plan is to relocate to Canada and marry a white girl for citizenship. I would never have suspected this could be my bf plans because he works in an averagely good place where he earns averagely well.
Friend two then advised me never to reveal my financial status to any man and to be selfish when I love. He said he still genuinely wants to date me and that he is sorry.
I am not stupid though. Friend 2 and my bf are idiots. I cannot date any one of them. I have blocked both of them.
This experience has shattered me though. I will never ever trust any man again even the man I marry. I used to believe in the idea of shared finances in marriage but not anymore. No managing with any man.
Men are scum. Love is a scam. The so called bf is a nairalander and I know he makes sensible comments here to deceive innocent girls who don't actually know he is a fool and a scammer.
hanty from all you said......your boyfriend is obviously an idiot in fact he's an ingrate
choi just look at what I've been praying for na him one fool just take dey do yeye e no go better for the goat
but another thing be say I no know say the guy f-up but you shouldn't tag all men along for one fool's mistake ni
I swear no be mouth if God take you do Christmas for me e don do am finish
Amberon11: I see people who jump into hasty generalisations as daft,dumb and stupid. If your mother, sister, girlfriends are like that doesn't mean the average Nigerian girl is like that.
I personally have never expected much from any guy and have never dated for monetary gains and so many of my friends are in that category and nor have I ever been on dates for food as I treat myself to nice meals in restaurants whenever I feel the need.
We could say the same for you men who act too authoritarian towards your Nigerian gfs beating them and thinking its your right to cheat. Other men do not Lord over their gfs that way but I'm not saying all Nigerian men are like that. There are good ones.
So my point is this, identify the good one and stick with him/her because all these rants are senseless . Thank you!
Omojola Ogundipe, a 20-year-old Bristol University student took her own life in a Cardiff hotel room, just days after a visit home for Mother’s Day. . . Staff at the Citrus Hotel in Cardiff found her body hanging in her hotel room on March 14 this year after she missed her check-out deadline. . . Omojola, described as “bright and bubbly”, was in the second year of her economics undergraduate degree at Bristol University, and was a leading member of the Gospel Choir Society. . . A campaigner on environmental and human rights issues, she volunteered with several groups and was popular among her peers. . . An inquest into her death heard her dad tell Pontypridd Coroner’s Court his daughter had visited home just three days before they heard the tragic news. . . During the court hearing on July 5, her dad, Kurle Ogundipe, said in a statement: “I last saw Omojola on March 11 when she returned home for the weekend. She appeared her usual bubbly self.” . . He said the family were not aware of any ill health and did not think she suffered from depression or mental health problems. . . However, Miss Ogundipe’s close friend, Hannah Agbeyegbe, in a written statement read out to the court, said: “She was an independent person. Quite private. . . She didn’t really talk a lot about her personal life. It was around this time (when she moved to Bristol) that she disclosed to me that she was depressed and she had been having suicidal thoughts.” . . Summing up, coroner Christopher Woolley accepted the cause of death given by consultant pathologist Dr David Thomas at the University Hospital of Wales as death by hanging.
plessis: What do you mean by that?.... What nonsense advice is this?. ....
@OP.... If she begs you for forgiveness, take her back, bang the hell out of her, I mean fvck her like a paid whorree .... Wait till 1-2am and throw her out of your house....
That's how you treat hoes.
Yea I know you're hurt...... every adult male had been in that poo one time or the other but I want to tell you to chill
see eh fucking that girl and throwing her out at a wee hour would not remove the emotional pain you already found yourself in
But might put you into more trouble...... because if anything other physical harm comes to her along the line it'll be your fault
so my advice is the best way to go about this is to let her know you found out all her escapades and then take a walk and be happy for yourself
see eh the best way to hurt a woman is to be happy without her
I and my girlfriend had a hitup conversation this afternoon that we even quarrel after then.
This is the issue, she read medlab in school and she is planning to go for her internship by Gods grace soon. I told her that after our wedding I will be giving her five million to setup a LAB and after 8 months she can start contribute for the upkeep of the family and when we start having kids. My Dear brethren in Christ, do you know her reply? She said NO, she can only provide when the husband exhaust his money on the family. I then asked her whats the point opening a bizness if you cant make a joint contribution with your husband at the end of the month for the upkeep of the family. She said said her work is a HELPER she can only help her husband when the husbands own finishes. My Dear I was shock.
She Even said I will be giving her money for her hair, cloth e.t.cs, when the bizness is still functioning fine. My reply was that what then will you be using your money to do? She said I don't have business with her money, I should face my responsibilities as the man, she can only assist me when I don't Av cash.. I told her is better you even be a house wife than acting in such manner.
Her Female friend was siding her oo. . What's you take on this.
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A girl that started thinking like this before marriage plus her friends supporting her is a very selfish girl
Oga you marry that girl at your own risk.... i see a home with divided ambitions
you better start to rethink now and plan a better heart break techniques..... do it now before it becomes a divorce after marriage or forever enslaved
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The female mechanic who is from Anambra state - assembles tricycles popularly known as 'Keke Napep' after the imported parts arrive Nigeria.
muller101: There is nothing bad taking enough alcohol. Take 20 tins of milk u can't pull down a building. But consume 5 bottles of beer . Stand back and just watch how the building falls off.
poolice and awoof are like bread and butter they can even resign the moment they stumble upon any awoof.....if I was around that place where they're drinking I for don disappear maka accidental discharge
This boy is really an isi-okpukpu...and it really paid him to be one.
If not how come an adult could not successfully drive a 3-inch nail deep into his skull.??
sometimes I wonder why people like you weren't created to be animals.....because you reason like a heartless fellow..... with all the maltreatment and agony the lad is going through all you could say was that he's an isi okpukpu......with all the money wey you don thief from your parents how many nail them don drive into your head .......Oga try buy sense
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anyway let him spend and spray......but he should bear on mind that he's not going back there anymore.....cos Malaysia has banned all form of visas for Nigerians......apart from politicians
lifezone247: • Clearing agents seek review of auto policy • Customs redeploys top officers
Scores of vehicles were yesterday trapped at land borders as the Nigeria Customs Service (NCS) began the full restriction of vehicle importation through those areas.Some stakeholders especially clearing agents who claim that their vehicles were ordered months before the announcement of the restriction are caught on the wrong side.
It was learnt that many of the clearing agents are also considering alternative ways of delivering their consignments through smugglers’ routes, but the NCS said that would not be possible as its officers had beefed up security at all routes linking the borders.
With the takeoff of the ban, the prices of fairly used vehicles popularly called tokunbo will rise as many Nigerians who are contending with economic recession may not be able to buy new ones. It may also increase smuggling, thereby making government to lose revenue. But it has the potential of revving up the local production of vehicles.
The Federal Government had on December 5 placed a ban on the importation of used and new vehicles through land borders with effect from January 1, 2017. The order, however, gave the importers of vehicles through the land borders a grace period of up till December 31, 2016 to clear their vehicles at neighbouring ports.
The Public Relations Officer of the NCS, Wale Adeniyi, confirmed to The Guardian yesterday that the borders were already shut and the officers were at their duty posts to enforce the law.
President of the Association of Nigerian Licensed Customs Agents (ANLCA), Olayiwola Shittu, in a telephone interview with The Guardian yesterday said the government was avoiding the real issues. He urged the Federal Government to solve the problems at the ports; review the auto policy and publish the duty payable on every model of vehicle to halt the regime of extortion by the customs. He said: “What we expect is a total review of the auto policy by the Federal Government. Where the vehicles come through does not matter. It is because of that policy that people are taking their consignments to the neighbouring country. Blocking the borders against vehicle importation is just like an ostrich burying its head in the sand. The problem is not solved. We need to adopt the Ghanaian model about clearing cars and we have told the customs this in the past four years, we don’t know the reason why, other than protecting themselves because of the extortion they do on vehicles. “Let them forget about banning vehicles from the borders. What they should do is, the newer your vehicle, the lesser your duty. The older your vehicle, the higher your tariff. If you go to Ghana now, you will see them using new cars, not all these old things they are dumping here,” he said.
Shittu stressed: “Whether you are coming through the border or the ports, everybody should know how much he is paying as customs duty. You will pay the money and take your vehicle. You don’t need to appeal to anybody. Why is that difficult for them to do? It should be a public thing. They should put it on their website. This will reduce the level of extortion on importation of vehicle, if they can do that. It will solve the problem.” On the stranded vehicles at the ports of neighbouring countries, Shittu said the only viable option is that shipping companies should engage barges to bring vehicles from neighbouring countries to Nigerian ports.
“They will use coastal vessels to transfer them. But the problem will continue to be there as long as the customs continues to make the duty payable on vehicles a secret,” he said.
The Public Relations Officer of the NCS, Seme Command, Mr. Selechang Taupyen, said “the Federal Government has directed that importation of cars through the land borders be banned and we are the agency to enforce it and we have started with that.
“The border is close to the point of importation of cars and the command has placed its men and escorts at strategic places to ensure that there is no smuggling of cars through the border.“We also have a good working relationship and synergy with other security agencies who assist us in enforcing this policy because we all work for the same government.
“We advise the public to abide by the government policy and if they must purchase a car then it should come through the sea port as any vehicle that tries to come through the land border would be seized and confiscated. Violators of the law would face the full wrath of the law.’’
It is unclear how the issue of orders that had been made through land borders before the enactment of the policy would be handled. Officials were not forthcoming if such vehicles would be permanently restricted in the ports of first entry or allowed into Nigeria at added cost to the importers. If the latter becomes the case, there will be great wailing among importers and clearing agents who will be made to lose everything. One vehicle importer told The Guardian that ‘‘this is an area the government has to resolve one way or the other to stop people from committing suicide.’’
The President, National Council of Managing Directors of Licensed Customs Agents (NCMDLCA), Lucky Amiwero is even more concerned about the workability of the policy.
He said: “The same policy was reviewed by the previous government because we were losing revenue. All the old vehicles were in Cotonou and that policy alone enriched that country. Now we are bringing the policy again when we have failed to address the issues at the ports. If you bring in vehicles to the ports with high costs, how do you sell the vehicles? And the kind of valuation that customs are giving vehicles at the point of entry, these are the issues we must address.” Amiwero lamented that procedures at the ports in terms of valuation of vehicles are worrisome, alleging that the customs are not complying with the valuation principle. “Government should address the issues of valuation of vehicles; cost of bringing in the consignment into the country; and the entire procedure. That is when you can then start to talk about banning it. Besides, government must understand that it is not every vessel that can come into Nigeria due to shallow draft. Most of the vessels can decide to go to Togo than coming here because of our draft level. Go to Togo, Benin Republic and Cameroun and see how many ships are berthing,” he said, even as he expressed doubts about the capacity of the customs to combat massive smuggling that would arise as a result of the policy.
In another development, the Comptroller-General of Customs, Col. Hameed Ibrahim Ali (Rtd), has approved the redeployment of eight Assistant Comptrollers-General and 238 Deputy Comptrollers of Customs in a bid to strengthen operations and reposition the service to meet the challenges of the New Year. Customs Spokesman, Wale Adeniyi has been redeployed to Apapa Customs Area Command, Lagos.
I guess this is why my Uncle does not want to come home, him dey fear lots of things. Na only to send money him sabi . . . . . . . . Happy new year fams
nawa ooo......such a handsome dude......guess he was busy showing love to his kinsmen......while they are busy conducting night vigil on his matter......RIP bro......it pains to see a youth waste for nothing.....what kinda world are we sef.......baba God na your hand i dey ooo
sweetjude: what will i say self the money is small, my queen collect more than that everymonth from me, i am not adding hair oooooo the money is too small for this kind fight, pay her and stop behaving like a lazy man
sweetjude: what will i say self the money is small, my queen collect more than that everymonth from me, i am not adding hair oooooo the money is too small for this kind fight, pay her and stop behaving like a lazy man
ifybae: Dear Friends please I need your advise. I have this guy have been dating for months, and we have not had sex before. what troubling me now is that he once dated my friend, not like she is my close friend, we just gist sometimes when we see our self in school, at the first instance when the guy was asking me out, I had to make some findings, then some people told me he dated my friend, when I asked him he told me everything that happened in the relationship, how she cheated on him and treated him like shit, I took pity on him and I decided to date him,but i did not tell my friend. the day she found out she was crying and she reported me to her friends that I snatched her boyfriend, I gave her some space then later explained everything to her, she said she has gotten over it and she is cool with it. We have been dating for months now and we are doing good, he has improved me both spiritually, mentally, and physically. But I don't know why I have a bad feeling like maybe "he used me to get back at her" maybe "he wants her to be hurt the way she hurted him " maybe "he wants her to realize what she lost by not valuing it". (cus he loved her so much) this questions just keep popping into my mind. I feel so scared that he might wake up one morning and say he is going back to his ex, I feel guilty most time because I interfered into their relationship. I just have this random thought most time. Please I need some advice......
EmperorLee: Okay let's assume say this thing dey work.
If I smoke cigarette or check her through the mirror and decode say she be ghost? Wetin I go kan do? Where I wan run go? Abi no be ghost we call am where I wan hide wey d ghost no go see me .
no worry just come and hide under my bed while i speak to the ghost on your behalf...............olosi fear fear boy
Delicious22: I wish the "Headmaster" a quick recovery.
if you look well.................you go see am say that pussy na made in aba..........and the head master too na olodo because him dey pursue amaka go uncompi when him mate dem sit down for class dey learn .........i wish him kpomo lips sorry normal lips.........in jesus name Amen...
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the money is small, my queen collect more than that everymonth from me, i am not adding hair oooooo
where I wan hide wey d ghost no go see me