Uniquekriss:
who is this wan sef, you brought your ass to public domain and asked for opinions which I'm giving you, moreover, did I ask you to take care of the child? I kept hammering that u tell him to take the child elsewhere while u stay with your man cos I'm not in support of divorce except when it involves domestic violence, I don't even blame you, he was never your husband, you were only cohabitating that's why you were seven months gone after 2months of marriage. I'm tryna help you and you're here talking nonsense. U can leave him and jump to another man and get pregnant, this time around what you'll discover about him after you're 8½ months pregnant would be worse. Mtcheeeew

latolz:
My dear, you should not face this burden while pregnant.. Not good for you and could be dangerous... Please kindly leave... The mental torture is too much and to be honest you can never trust him again..

Uniquekriss:
nobody has asked you to raise the child especially in that condition, mandate your man to take her elsewhere and stay where you are, going back to your parents would be more shameful and it would result to u having multiple baby daddies, forgive him for not telling u of his child beforehand, it would have been Okay to leave if u weren't carrying his child.

bonnyhope:


Was there anywhere in the passage she mentioned her age?

emmysoftyou:
you stayed in ur brother place now, the one u told us he's stringy and doesn't take care of ur needs or is he another brother? If he's another brother then u have two brothers in abuja cos from ur last thread u said ur brother wife died after some month of she gave birth and ur mother want u to take care of his children or look after them..
It's well with u.
No one knows tomorrow..

CAPSLOCKED:



DON'T LET ANYBODY GUILT TRIP YOU. IF YOU CAN DO BETTER ON YOUR OWN, YOU SHOULD SURELY DO WHAT IT IS THAT YOUR MIND TELLS YOU.
YOUR POINTS ARE VALID. IF YOU WERE MY FAM YOUR BAGS WOULD HAVE BEEN IN MY HOUSE BY NOW.

bonnyhope:


The fact that he hid it from you is enough to divorce him, that implies that the union was built on lie from the very beginning.

Uniquekriss:
My dear you have to carry your cross, u got married 2months ago and you're already 7months pregnant, in as much as I'd blame your man for keeping such secret from u, it's possible u were already pregnant and he felt there was no need telling u since he wasn't expecting the woman to appear and moreover the child has issues and he's not so proud of her as his child. If you leave, you'll suffer more, just make sure he finds a place to take the poor child and stay with your man

Reference:


One thing I have noticed so far is that as a person you seem not to have support structures of your own to help during this phase even without this 'incident'.
At 7 months most women, mothers to be will have their relations in, out and about.
Why are you by yourself.
Surely that village you go to will have someone to assist at home for a while, except by choice.

Teymanhenry:
You' said you are sticking to your decision, it means you've made up your mind. I won't advise you to either stay or leave but one thing is certain. If you leave for the village another woman will come and takeover and probably take care of the disable child

HoneySwag:
You're married for just 2 months, and pregnant for 7 months, looks like you trapped him with pregnancy.

Ebymyk:
Please madame, leave and have your insanity intact... You're pregnant, you need to be cared and cattered for... Your condition is critical... Let him bear the burden alone...its his responsibility and you shouldn't be dragged into this... Better move back to your village where you can have your peace of mind...

Davidoff2000:
hmmmm...this your pregnancy so..how are you sure it will not be a deformed child too? Another case of cerebral palsy? Do you know if it runs in his genes? thats what you should be more concerned about. before you divorce, give birth and get stuck with a child with medical conditions you cant take care of alone, because you left and he wont have you back

lawrenzooo:

It's sad enough that he didn't tell you and no member of his family told you. When you eventually find love next time, do your own research on the person. Wish you all the best.

Juanmike:
You have a child on the way,don't reject that child, the law of universe has a way of getting to us.

zedegit:



I understand seriously I do. I have lived with a neighbor who is grandmother to a such a child. As a matter of fact, they abandoned the child for her. This child can cry for Africa.

Even feeding the child is a messy affair and a fight.

But if the child is the only problem, granted he didn't tell you but if you can forgive him and you people go and check the child into a government Motherless home.

iammarvellux:


Okay..how about if someone or any organisation that takes care of children with special needs decides to take care of the said child... would you still opt to leave the marriage?

If yes, then what are your reasons?

maasoap:


Don't mind him, do what will make you happy and what will keep your sanity intact. Life is too short to be carrying burdens that are not yours.

phemmyfour:
It's not even about the condition of the child but the fact that she can hide such huge secret from you. Do you know what else is hidden from you.

Separate from him, it's not worth it

MediMedi:
poor girl, you're leaving cause you have seen the said man broke and can't cartel for your expenses.
bad wife

Mcleo007:
You can leave, the marriage was built in lies.

However, also note that with you pregnant and having a child soon, you already have become a baby mama and your chances at remarrying becomes slim.

Cutehector:
its your cross, carry it.. Why are you a christian?

iammarvellux:

I always tell people no matter how you sugar coat a lie, one day the coat will fall away thereby leaving the truth bare.

Truth can't be hidden.. now you seen the truth and your option is to share the grace and leave the marriage with another unborn child belonging to both of you..
Don't you think the neglect you have shown to this child with special needs will hunt you later in life..of cos the unborn child now has a step sister.

No man can run away from his shadows.



But op if I may ask you, how old is this Child with special need?

Cutehector:
if God leave you, can you stand in life?

Sheistoopretty:



Keep your filthy thumbs away from this thread little boy, you have little intelligence. Her child is her child no matter what and everyone isn't senseless enough to abandon their children like how the ex-wife did. If the girl's mother would be able to ditch her own child then why wouldn't an outsider?

Oh, you expect her to suffer like dis in taking care of someone else's child and then what happens when she gives birth to her own child?

BloomingDale:


To be honest I won’t even accept to look after a healthy child. You tried. I would have left the same day. Please look after yourself so you don’t miscarry.

advanceDNA:


Madam.....if you want to stay...no wahala....

But u are not bound to a marriage that you didn't know the conditions before enetering it...
....you were deceived....withholding information that could be a deal breaker is fraud.

..dont let anybody blackmail or guilt-trip you with "for better or worse" clause......

Thank you

Nonexisting:
If he had told you before marrying you, I would've called you names but on this one, I support you to leave. You too should go and check the baby you are carrying for him incase the disease is genetic.

Rupertek:


Even if he told you before the marriage, you. Would still be giving these excuses, what preparations would you have made?
Do you know, your husband wasn't expecting the baby's mother to do what she did, that informed his not telling you.
By the way, will your parents recieve you warmly with heavy pregnancy?

alamoht:

And you married a man like that?

Ijaya123:


And why does it have to be on my birthday?

Midas01:
Let me tell you something....

You don't know that gender...

If you leave now, no right thinking person should blame you. Even some churches annul marriages built on deceit and lies and I'm talking about even the most conservative churches here.

Wether you should leave permanently or temporarily is up to you but I highly suggest you leave first until he takes the child away to some other place because if you tolerate this then just know that he will throw much worse things in your face in the future and expect you to take it all...

A neighbor of mine has a kid with cerebral palsy and even she gets tired. The child is 100% dependent. They once left her for some minutes and she fell into fire and got badly burned and couldn't even leave the fire.... So sad.



Wish you the best