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ibkaye:
cheii, you are so wrong about that!

That is your own opinion.  What do you think is right?  
And please don't tell them you don't have a job yet. Fresh graduates get no love until they get the salary.

gabe_logan:
i don check your profile

my sister, u no try for that picture oh! and u get mouth well-well for nairaland!

    why you take style dey yab your nigerian sistah like this.
micheline why you self no use face cover.

iice:
[color=#9900ff]Lol, am not dreaming oo
Yadiyada, we know alot of women want a man with money. But some have other priorities.[/color]

Thank God o.  Iice has finally admitted the truth.  The blood of Jesus shall set you free my sister.  Selah!
It's good to want money.  Everyone wants good things, especially in 2008.

After you show them the money and the fancy car they will more than likely show interest in you.   But not before then.

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Lol at iice! Iice is dreaming.

logan you are actually on the right line. something that is already made. most of them will pretend not to notice you until you drive through in your 2009 Lotus Evora or something like that.

My magic hat shows that 85% of nairaland women will not date you if you are not financially stable.  I reserve my statement.  I believe it's true.

No mind her o. Na lie dem go dey lie like that. If they see one wretched looking average joe working man like that dem no go pass am twice.

gabe_logan:
[s]there is absolutely noting women desire in a man more than wealth.[/s]

money is on the top of their list, then everything else follows in no particular order. make una no dey follow the mouth of these nairaland girls

A lot of women desire financial stability.  It is at the very top of their lists, but that's not the only thing they desire.

i think he meant to say that hoes love loot.

sage:
Hey guys I was just wondering

Maybe, just maybe the white men were right

We Africans are subhuman creatures, We are animals and there is no running away from that.

We can't govern ourselves and the white masters should come back and whip us like the beasts that we are

Speak for yourself please. A lot of us actually disagree with these thoughts, I'm sure. Go yessa massa to your white master if you want to.

naija_diva look at you

so you are also exchanging ideas

Feministic:
You're not an oppressor because you're male, and when did I ever mention hating anyone?

You're right on both men and women having different requirements for each other, but maybe I should have made myself more clear (my fault) , I was referring to the obvious standards that most men and women are limited to. Not every woman has to be a housewife and not every man has to be a bread winner. Not that I'm saying that you mentioned that but I am saying that the standard still exists and hasn't been very flexible. I'm not sure what your definition of "respect" is so I'm not going to touch those comments. You may want to try looking up the definition of a feminist because we are not all man haters, and FYI I didn't become one to earn respect, I became one because I had respect. And as for the word "submission" if was the focus of the thread! So naturally, I focused on it. And I never said that it stripped women of their worth, I was referring to the more than obvious lack of flexiblity women have in their roles due to the need to be "submissive".

Oti o, a feminist said I'm right?  Who woulda thunk it! The standards have been flexible in recent years.  Women are allowed as much freedom as men where I am.  Sure there is a type of glass-ceiling that prevents many women from attaining certain goals (like reaching the top at a prominent male-dominated workplace) as fast as some men, it still doesn't mean they are not allowed to do so.  The women with the will to do it usually go for it no matter what obstacles are in the way.  We see more and more women coming out to flaunt their independence, strength, glamour, you name it, everyday.  Are you going to say that they're living in some sort of different system or that they're exceptions to the rule    Don't use submission in marriage as an excuse not to be flexible.

Again, I never mentioned anything about hating men. I was responding only to what I read and why are you pretending like my comments justify your responses? I would have understood if you have said something that actually challenged my idea , but that whole "feminists want to be men" bullshit is tired, old and over played. And I'm sure you don't attack or hate women, just the ones that challenge your ideas, right?

Your comments do not justify some of my responses but they propelled me to say the things I did.  you see men as the enemy.  The man-bashing is too much.  Put a lead on it.  I did challenge your ideas.  Isn't that my reason for responding the way I did?  I would have kept quiet, pretending it was okay but I didn't.

I love women who challenge my ideas.  I find it sexy.  Forces me to think    .  Hopefully you can challenge my ideas with good logic, not by generalizing.

@Feminist,
It's been real but I have to go now.

naija_diva:
Right. you're always "exchaning ideas" with people.

thanks, i need to change it though.

Hey, abeg o. There's nothing wrong with an old-fashioned system of communication within a group of people.
Besides, you were here exchanging your ideas too .

you are welcome.

naija_diva:
you 2 are still arguing.

Hi! It's not like that o . We are just exchanging ideas. I like your profile picture.

Feministic:
Wow, strange words from someone who reccomended a sex change to some one he doesn't know.

I have made my points, your choice to ignore them is not my fault or my problem.

"Emotions" eh? another generalization. You're not emotional for insulting me but I'm emotional for having an opinion?

I don't understand if you really do have an opinion and you think that it's superior to mine in some way then prove it. I'm always open to new ideas.

LOOL!! You have to admit that was a good one wasn't it?    
I can't say I'm too sorry that I perceived you that way.  I did it after reading through your obsession with equality.  That's why I recommended you become a man if you really feel like men are in the superior position.  It could put you in a position to be the superior one, so by that I believe it was a good suggestion.  You're emotional for beginning the insults.  It's too feminine in nature (name calling especially) .   Women folk (sorry to generalize) have this knack for throwing haymakers when they feel like someone is challenging their thoughts.  Men do it too but just not as much as women.  I won't bother to prove to you that my opinion is superior to yours because that is completely pointless.  Opinions are merely opinions.  Everyone is entitled to their own yucky opinions.  

Feministic:
"Whining?". Because, I have noticed a reoccurring trend that has preyed on women for quite some time? Right. Kind of like how black people were "whining" about slavery and segregation. The oppressor always finds it easy to ignore the obvious.

Here you go dissecting my post like a dead insect. Yes you began your whining a long time ago but it didn't catch my attention until now. You even whined in the post you dispatched to me. Talking about being this big bad strong whatever as if someone questioned your strength.
Why do I have to be an opressor just because I'm male. Why not get over your hunger for hatred? Feed it to those who want it.

It's not as obvious as you think it might be, are you telling me that you have never met a man that has had "requirements" for a wife? Or has demanding non reciprocated respect from his wife? This thread was not titled " why do most educated women have no respect?" the key word was submit. And I only respond to what I think pertains to the issue, instead of going off into some sexist jargon.

Men have requirements for wives, wives have requirement for their men. It's double-layered but you are too biased against men to include that in your comment. I haven't come across men who demand non-reciprocated respect from their wives. Those type of men should not be sought by women who value their worthy anyways. Why would you bother pursuing a man that cannot respect you? It's not like all men refuse to respect their women. You don 't have to be a feminist to earn respect from your husband.
What about submit? Perhaps you are putting to much focus on the word that you forget that it doesn't necessarily mean you get stripped of your worth as a woman.

No, I'm calling you a woman hater because when I decided to respectfully described an opposing opinion, you opted NOT to stick to the issue but to make an offensive generalization, which reveals your thoughts on any other woman who does so.

Respectfully? Give me a break. There was nothing respectful about throwing men under the bus like that. You have generalized a whole lot, pouted too much, complained about men being offensive oppressors . . .
I responded to you like that for those reasons. I don't attack women or hate them, but I have a problem with women who think all men are woman-haters.

Strong ko, weak ni.  Weak is probably more appropriate, otherwise you wouldn't be whining so much about the structure of marriage.  I don't think I have met too many men who jump into marriage with a mindset that their wife will become their loveslave.  Next thing you know you begin calling me a woman hater just because I refuse to share your shallow ideas  .      

If you could actually put together some rather intelligent points instead of disbursing fallacious strawmans all over your post, then maybe you could be worth having an argument with.  Everything else so far has been speculations turned into name calling.   Your emotions are causing you to crumble.

naija_diva what makes you think you will change the feminist's mind. if you feminists want so badly to be men why not replace your cunts with balls and a Dick?

you two have no clue. none whatsoever. strong emphasis on you two, sk and rp.
you wouldn't know something good if it smacked you on the head.

i'm hola, what about you?

not upset o

Ugh! This sucks.

blue-sky:
i was just in america last week actually, in miami to be precise!
went there for 3 weeks, was cool, and hott. don't think i can ever live there though, the accent is too wierd, and too much spanish people
am i flirty, hmmmm, lets say i wouldnt flirt with a stranger i havent meant on an online forum , y r u?
so mr chemistry, u wont tell me your name, or u age. . .

no i am not. summer is hot, duhh! certain areas in miami are known for being hispanic-heavy, you're right. if it's so hard for you to tell me your name on this public forum, do it at your convenience where-ever you feel. you can pass me on the street some day and whisper it into my ear.

ohhhhhh. my name right after yours. bummer! what are you doing all the way in london . . . come enjoy the beautiful america has to offer. my age is in a range relative to yours .
are you usually this flirty? habitual flirt you are

. you would normally respond to that question by presenting your name.

what school are you attending ? I could almost swear you finished schooling.

Ohhh now you're talking. That's good to know. So, you're done with school . . . what else should I know. Do you have a name or something.

KarmaMod:
where did you get the idea that it was arranged?

Isnt it the "nigerian" thing for old agbayas to run after young girls?

agbaya oshi. Loser didnt even have respect for the law. The woman had a bloody restraining order against him.

Silly. you worked out what sort of chemical I am. Does that make you like 40 years old or what? Wondering

Does kind of yes/no count too?
Are you a chemistry student or something