₦airaland Forum

ibkaye:
hahaha

rotflmfpao

onyinye2:
It is true. i know people who are 25 and over who are still virgins. has hard is that to believe. i guess people who have morals is becoming an extinct group.

. Quite frankly, I know there are people out there who are . . .just didn't think you knew that many who are actually virgins at 25(as in they're outspoken about it). Most of the people around me have probably done it, but it's their cup of tea.

michelin89:
It won't make things go away, true.

I speak my mind and this is already enough for me. Tell me what proofs have you got to back up your accusations? Did your mama tell you she saw me at work with her? You seem to know a lot about me.

Enlighten me, young man. Show me the evidence of you what you said earlier!

I know enough though    .  I can't simply hand over the evidence, for I am afraid you will destroy them  . Just kidding o.  Anyway, take it easy and simmer down, I am only giving you a hard time. I feel bad now

Ruby_Pearl:
HCH/MICHELIN

W/E you two make of the pic below is all up to ya.

Thanks  ! I won't continue I promise.

onyinye2:
Truly questionable. maybe with the folk you hang around but i know alot of virgins who are 25 and over.

Truly questionable. Unless you mean you know a lot of people that are employed at virgin nigeria. I was told those people are called virgins too.

agaba123:
Acid never said so. Just asked you how old because an 18 year old who have not had sex should be commended but it is not very uncommon. If you are 25 and never did, then na de koko.

Well people dee do all sorts apart from penetration and they are still virgin ooo.

Abeg no vex lol

oohhhh okay thanks . It's a big deal for some but for others it isn't.

Feministic:
LOL, Yes, even us feminists can agree with other people . Let me make it clear once more that rb]real feminists don't hate men[/b], but we do recognize that submission is another blockade on the path to true gender equality;and I am not denying the progress that women and men have made, I never said ALL women and men were living a rigid lifestyle, but I think denying that most do is unrealistic. I have seen many women that work hard at their jobs and are still expected to fulfill their "role" as the submissive wife when they come home. Male submission is never brought up or suggested, we need to recognize that the only way that the marriage system can be saved is through compromise on both parties.

It really comes as a shock to me that you agreed with a guy. Real feminists don't hate men, they just go on rants about men controlling their lives, men being misogynists, men being oppressive, and so forth. Being a female topdog at a top company as a CEO does not automatically assign you a right to lead your home. If you are in that type of family and your husband allows you to be the authority over him, kudos to you. Being a good wife isn't all dependent on the type of job you have. I don't see how a wife should feel too bloated to give her husband his dues because she's making more money than he is. Marriage is usually based on compromise between a husband and his wife. Men would rather do somethings while women would much rather do other things. A man is not biologically programmed to nurture his kids, women are geared more towards those types of marital duties. Men take care of their kids too but the women do it better, in my opinion.

If my comments come off as man bashing to you then I apologize, but to deny that while m[b]en are not a superior gender ,yet they still are a dominant one [/b]is, once again, unrealistic.

It's okay. Apology accepted. We have no choice but to get along with each other. I don't buy into the concept of total superiority but there are aspects where the man is - - i don't like to use the word superior - - where the man should be the one to call, just like there are other aspects where the woman is the best for the job.

In the legal system, health system, work place and society in general women are constantly being bashed or mocked for it. When a woman questions authority or the "norm" people will call it "whining" or "bitching" in order to belittle our opinions, also try to note the recent beauty standards and physical and emotional strains they have been posing on women in general; then compare it to the standards that many people set for men.

Men call it whining when it becomes too routine, despite the fact that women do have as much (maybe even more) protection from the law as men do. Men call it whining when women keep focusing on the words 'superiority and submissive' when thinking of marriage. It takes more for a woman to get where she is, I admit; but, with hardwork almost anything is possible. Double standards exist everywhere. Some favor men just like some favor women.

agaba123:
acetic acid how old are you?

What does it matter.  I'm old enough to have sex.  Do i have to 

Ruby_Pearl:
Ibk, make I slap the naiveness out of you. now now.

@HCH
of course

She's not being naive when she's accepting the truth.

I did denigrate you, that's why it's paining you in the butt. Go ahead and die now . Talking back will not make things go away.

michelin89:
Are you stalking me?

You are an idiot and you deserve no more words than I have already spent on you!

Shut your trap up. You are not better than him and don't claim holier than thou here. You stink everywhere you go!

@ Ruby

Don't mind them. They are just cowards. They won't engage in an honest and intellectual debate because they are afraid. They stoop so low as calling someone they don't even know names just to make themselves feel bigger. They are worthless!

All this pent up anger will lead to you to hypertension. Go drink some ice.

ibkaye:
ahh, he's lying?

He's not

Ruby_Pearl:
mehn! are people gullible!

It's true Ruby! But you don't have to believe me. What does it matter. My value is not in virginity

ibkaye:
oh wow, that's cool and for one reason or the other i actually believe you

Crazy as it may seem, I really find it virtuous.

onyinye2:
Truly questionable.You don't necessarily deserve to be told. you should know but you deserve it. it is her decision if she tells anyone or not. personally i would actually think i would most likely not tell him. maybe after years into the relationship.

Thanks for saying I deserve it.
I believe I do.  It varies from one individual to another, but in my relationships there are issues like this one here which are crucial to me.   It's important for me to know about trauma that might affect how I interact with my partner in my relationship, beforehand.
I know how difficult it is to reveal anything this serious.

ibkaye:
seriously?

God yes! NVA, Progress!
I wouldn't ever use the lord's name in vain. Please o, it's not lack of opportunity

Sisikill:
 

Nah! Not even not even close to the matter at hand. I mean this is like comparing apples to oranges. I'm sorry but there is a vast difference between PRE-Relationship Psychosis and POST-Relationship Psychosis.

Yes I did! I also mentioned pre-relationship freakishly psychotic behavior o.  It was a good analogy to show that men, women, boys and girls all posess traits of immaturity sometimes when they can't have the things they want.  I actually think men handle it better  . Call me biased.  The guy here fashi'd[i] her after she said no but she refused to let him go.  In addition to all that, why would she continue feeling on this immature dude that's dogging her?  Some girls are attracted to these kinds of assholes who act immature to prove a point. 

One goes crazy after a yes I will go out with you, then kiss kiss, hug hug, then I love you, then You are the best I ever had lovemaking, then you're in my heart forever, then I live only for you, then I want to be around you for the rest of my life, then [i]se won be sorin meja ni? I said I need my space, Gawd, then we need to talk, then I don't feel anything for you, then it's over.

The other goes crazy after a simple no.

How can you even compare?

Omg ! You blew it totally out of proportion.  How do you even begin to quantify how badly the guy was hurt after the rejection?  He could have been feeling this girl for ages, yet all it took was a simple no to shatter his hopes of ever having the girl of his dreams  Abeg o.

And please for the psycho girls out there that just don't  understand that when it's over, IT IS OVER! Go away! Stop calling me, asking me where I am, begging to come over to my house, constantly checking up on me, asking who I'm currently dating, stalking me.  It's over.

LOL. Okay, I'm going to use semantics as my defense here. . . I said immature uncouth Nigerian Guys. I didn't say all Nigerian were immature and uncouth. Is he Nigerian? Yes. Was his behavior immature? Yes. Maybe the uncouth part is where I misstepped but everything else still stands. Does it hold water?

The uncouth part was slightly off but, yes, you hold some water. Both their actions are immature.

ibkaye:
roflmao


@HCH3COO
boyfriend poke ke!? don't you know sex should not occur before marriage

Say what? I'm a virgin so mind yourself.

If you're in a serious relationship then what does it cost you to tell him something traumatic has happened to you. If the guy is truly in love with you he wouldn't see you as less of a woman. It takes a lot of gut to cope with rape but both of you can work on it together. Don't you think he'll notice the changes in your mood? You could begin having nightmares, etc.

onyinye2:
This kind of issue isnt something you bring up on the first date. I mean you are eating and he is all like "tell me about yourself." and i would say "Well my name is Onyinye. im a med student. i was raped. im an athlete." you see it just doesnt work.

Ewu! Who said tell him all that on your first date? Somewhere down the line you will communicate it to him. For my girl, I deserve to know, period.

Don't you think you at least owe it to him to let him know something that important before he at least starts poking you?

Na wa oh! I can't picture being in this situation. I could easily call off the marriage.

Sisikill:
See this right here is the ododo of the oro. You guys have the "Do you know who I am?" mentally, that's why you take it as a personal affront when a girl says no . . get all "Emi! Me? Me? She said no to me? A whole of me? The son of Baba Elewe Tutu from Iyano meje not Iyano meta. . . me? Nah, Nah, Mba, Mba, she gots to pay the price and after swearing from floor to top, you bring out the other multiple personality and start boning up and down the place. *Rolleye*

It ain't that serious, bros. . . it really isn't.

Sisi see as you dey throw bobos under the bus like this. So many girls get all crazy freaky when they don't get the attention they desire from a guy they like. Have you ever seen behaviors of these girls? Some of them stalk him, talk bad about him to every girl on campus, look for a girl he likes and take her out. . .
Let's not even talk about those girls that won't leave you alone after you break up with them -- Gurrgh!

Sisikill:
No, moving on is not immature, refusing to talk to her anymore IS. Come on now, what is with the boning? What. . . is he trying to emotionally blackmail her? And to press home the point on how immature he is, he asks why she is bothered about him not talking to her. Gah! he's even lucky she is still talking to him. Me. . . I would added his name under my growing list of Schizophrenic guys. Talking and chilling one minute and then boning around the place the next, what nonsense?

We don't always get what we want and accepting rejection or failure in stride shows a certain degree of Maturity.

He did not refuse to talk to her anymore.  He said he ignores her sometimes. I know it's immature that he does it intentionally, but if the guy has nothing further to discuss with her why should he have to force himself.  Asking a girl out does not automatically equal a ticket to talk to her everytime I see her.  Maybe the first time he ever talked to her was the day he asked her out, meaning they weren't friends before.   The girl in questioned seemed like she didn't want to let go even after she rejected him.  Getting jealous when she sees him talking to other girls is a little immature too.  This is a case of hard to get that backfired on her.  It's his turn to play hard to get   .
He's wrong for intentionally ignoring her, but that's not exactly because "Nigerian guys" behave like immature, uncouth punks after rejections.  Guys generally react defensively when their ego take a slight hit.  I would feel a bit funny after a rejection too . . specially if I truly liked the girl.


A lot of guys need a lesson on how to be friends with girls that reject them. It ain't easy o

I would want her to tell.

I will feel guilty.  She's going to start acting all paranoid.

Abeg no mind them.

fasttrack:
@busy body
you'll be making the wrongest mistake telling him, because the only thing that would be running through his mind is how the guy f****d the living daylight out of u. like i said your man would f**k u like an angel but a regular dude would give it to you like the world is coming to an end.

oh Gosh too graphic please.


Lol@ ice

he don bone, she no gree.

Oh you mean you area virgin too

Thanks lovergirl

Ah! Can't beat a good old-fashioned flogging.

Please o . You know i'm innocent. I belong to Nairaland Virgin Association (NVA) - Progress!

Aww that's good. Make sure you pray for me next time oh.
Boyfriend I understand. It's not at that level yet.

Yeah. Actions speak louder than words . But If I love her and she really needs to hear me say I love her, I have no problem doing that.