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spiceeamiee

Pele dear.

I can feel your pain. After all your plans to slay with the hair. Pele.

It might not actually be the stylist’s fault but the quality of the weave itself.

Another thing is that she might have curled the hair using overly hot straighteners/curling rod. I once had a weave “destroyed” in similar fashion at a very popular salon at ikeja.

The only remedy I can think of is to damp the weave with water and then apply a lot of hair conditioner on the weave. you leave it soaked in the hair conditioner for at least 24 hours. I recommend Garnier ultimate blends “the sleek restorer” conditioner with coconut oil and cocoa butter.

After 24 hours, rinse with warm water and leave to dry naturally.

I use this method for my weaves and it works well.

I always use John Freida serum for all my weaves. If you can get one, it will help in ensuring the weave is soft with lustre without looking overly shiny.

All those American runs girls and “video vixens” will be delighted with this news

Expect them to start trooping to nigeria to “host” pool parties and the likes.

Jaygrl:
Mehnnnn!!! I have been through alot this past few days. Even as a nurse I got so confused. So DS(almost 8months) was a little bit warmer than usual on Friday night,by Saturday morning he had a temperature spike of 37.8,I gave him paracetamol syrup and started lonart, antimalaria

Pele dear. Glad to hear your son is much better.

I enjoyed reading your write up. You make a very good story writer.

It’s very typical of men to think that we are overreacting over certain issues.

Ever since I had to go to the hospital with a sick child around 2am, I have learnt never to allow any symptoms fester for long before going to the hospital. My threshold for “wait and see” is maximum 24 hours (and that’s for a child older than 12months). Younger than 12months, we are off to the hospital that same day.

I have realised that the longer you wait, you only end up with a child whose symptoms go from bad to worse, you have sleepless nights, you are stressed, you can’t go to work, you can’t do anything.

So the earlier the child is seen by a doctor the better for both the parents and the child.

Self medication is very bad. These days, there are just too many drugs out there that it’s impossible to just “guess” which one will work except one is an experienced medical professional (doctor).

As for the laboratory technologists no words. some of them “learn” the role as apprentices without any formal tertiary education.

SULPHUROXIDE:
Mamas please i have been a shadow of myself since morning,headache,body pain,plus stomach tighten,mouth is bitter,nauseated,etc,i have been using pcm since morning,but i cant take it anymore,i am 32weeks4days gone and i have treated malaria like 3to4 times since conception , my matron said i cant take anything again till i put to bed,i should take glucose water please mum and health practitioners in the house what can i use.

Your matron is literally a nurse. She’s not a doctor. It’s not in her place to decide what medication you need for malaria.

Malaria as we all know if left untreated is dangerous - both for pregnant and non-pregnant women.

Please go and see your doctor. He will recommend the necessary malaria tests and weigh all options before deciding on the right medication to give you based on the age of your pregnancy.

It’s actually safer for a pregnant woman to take medication for malaria than to leave it untreated. Leaving it untreated puts the lives of the mother and baby at risk.

ammy5565

Happy birthday to your son. Lovely pictures.

Realtalk19. You are both legally married

It appears from all you’ve said that there’s a lot of resentment and anger from all the parties involved in your relationship.

Resentment and anger from yourself because your husband isn’t pulling his weight financially in addition to the previous domestic violence issue.

Resentment and anger from your husband because of his current financial status and the hurtful things you might have said to him.

Resentment and anger from your family because he hasn’t completed the traditional marriage rights and they also have to keep supporting your family financially.

Resentment and anger from both families over the fact that both of you chose not to marry from within your tribe.

I came across this perfect definition of resentment:

“Resentment, or the strong and painful bitterness you feel when someone does something wrong to you, doesn't have actual physical weight, but it feels very heavy and can last a long time. Forgiveness is one way to get rid of resentment.”

https://www.vocabulary.com/dictionary/resentment

You need to find it in your heart to forgive your husband and rid your heart of all bitterness. It is something that you have to consciously work on and specifically pray over. Ask God to rid your heart of all bitterness and anger towards your husband and restore love and peace.

All the anger and bitterness might actually be the reason why your prayers for financial breakthrough, etc remain unanswered. What’s the point of going to church, fasting, praying, etc when you harbour such bitterness towards each other?

I believe a part of him must really love you hence the reason he made all efforts to reconcile with you. He could have easily remarried or chosen to remain single. How has your behaviour been to him since you reconciled? Do you nag him, keep malice, ignore him, bring up old arguments, etc?

Some women are destined to be richer than their spouse. However, it’s how we react in that position of financial superiority that makes all the difference. Just because you are financially well off than him today doesn’t mean he won’t be richer than you few years from now. In the same light, God can also open doors for you to the extent that you will have more than enough to take care of your family including your husband without batting an eye.

Have you made any efforts in helping him with getting a well paid job? There’s no harm in helping him prepare his CV to a good standard, applying for jobs on his behalf and forwarding job adverts to him. Sometimes people need a little helping hand/push/support. You can actively play that role in your husband’s life without belittling him.

Personally, I feel communication is key in every relationship. You both need to sit down and talk about the present stage of your marriage , discuss your finances, open up to each other on areas you’ve offended each other, trash out any lingering issue and apologise to each other. You need to let go of anything that has been done and said in the past and not keep opening old and bitter wounds.

He is probably going to CAC because he feels he needs their firebrand type of prayers in his life and he wants you to partake in the prayers with him. See it as one of the sacrifices of marriage. Days you are extremely tired, just explain to him calmly and if he’s upset, hold your peace and let him go alone.

Do you ask him to help out with housework? Men tend to believe that we are superwomen and we know how to multitask. Don’t just assume that he should know you need help. Ask him politely and thank him afterwards.

I believe something must have triggered the insults he dishes out to your family. Whatever it is, apologise on their behalf. It seems you’ve really badmouthed him to your family and he has lost all respect with them. Stop reporting him to your family (except he hits you). Stop lamenting to them about your husband’s inadequacies. Think of ways to augument your income rather than running to your family all the time for financial support.

Is there any married elderly person (non family member) whom you both respect that you can open up to and can sit both of you down and act as a mentor/counsellor whilst you navigate this tough phase in your marriage?

I feel all options should be explored before talking about separation.

Finally, I hope you have no plans for more children . . . At least until your financial situation improves and there’s peace and harmony in your home.

realtalk19:
God bless u for ur response

firstly he is not familiar with my family coz he blieves he has no business with them except me ( am ibo nd he is yoruba,he hasnt married me rightly coupled with previous domestic abuse.

secondly my husband isolates everyone from me nd then starts to emotionally and verbally abuse me nd he puts me in a situation whereby i cant tell anyone what an going tru(i live in constant fear). after d first domestic abuse my mun nd evryone else had put an eye on him.

my mum paid for my CS delivery recently when hubby said he dosnt av mony nd was blaming me for not delivering my baby normally when i know d situation of tins. i ran away from addmission for two weeks before labour took anoda turn nd had to b admitted on emergency. my mum was d only saving hope if not i would av died coz he kept saying no mony nd his family didnt help out either. my sis bought d hospital tins nd baby items, i paid for most of my appointments.

he just got a job of 40k and has only bought one formula nd pampers.no feeding or transport.he says he dosnt av any mony to give me. i feed myself nd kids.

on the church issue we attend redeem but all of a sudden he changed to a CAC church.nd dats when his behavious changed. i like d prayerful routine of d church but d prophesy is wat he is after nd he uses it to victimize me into attending vigils,weekly programs and reival despite d stress of work,taking care of two kids,washing and other chores which leaves me exhausted. he got obsessed wit d church nd prophesies they give .

his family ar not even involved or showing concern.its like am on my own and he sees evryone as enemies even my mum.

i dont trust him since we reconciled. hes bin a liability
nd trouble maker.

secondly

Before I address the issues you’ve raised, can you please provide clarity on the bolded?

When you say he hasn’t married you rightly, is it that he hasn’t paid your bride price and concluded all customary rights ( or he has done some)? Are you married legally? That, is registry (court) wedding? Did you exchange wedding vows in a church ?

Or is it the case that you two started living together after you got pregnant for him and you are yet to formalise your relationship legally or in the church ?

Ammy5565:
Thanks so much. But its a little sitting room party o. I'm nt quite sure how we can make these games happen.
Please if you know other games that can be done indoors, i'll appreciate. Thanks.

hmmm. musical chairs will work well indoors. same with face painting.

you can also come up with current affairs questions or simple maths questions (quiz) and have the kids answer within a given timeframe.

you can also play character games. eg. pretend to a kangaroo and jump around like one and have them guess what animal you are.

for all the games/competitions, you will have to hand out a prize (no matter how small) to each winner.

realtalk19:
hi mums.plz i nid ur opinion on an issue.

i and hubby reconciled after 2yrs last year june wit seriouz begging and promises dat he has changed nd wil bcome more responsible of which after d initial incidence of domestic abuse which made us seperated my mum made me understand that d only reason she is wanting me to go back is to give him a second chance nd also av all my kids in one place( i already have a 5 yr old daughter)

on reconciling, despite my doubts about him changing i got pregnant sept last year nd gave birth tru CS in june
ever since we reconciled hes not bin stable with source of income which was a burden on me coupled with my daughter. hubby kept on pleading that i should b patient dat tins wil b okay nd it continued till november when he eventually gota job.
meanwhile all tru my pregancy i used evry penny i get to sustain the family to d xtent of debt which i pay back month end.

my mum and her family paid for my delivery nd did d naming with only hubby mum attending.ever since my mum has bin helping in her own little way ever since my hubby had bin insulting and keeping malice with my mum. he got a job nd stil dosnt do his neccessary responsibility as expected rather he hides mont nd kip telling me he dosnt av nd i end up using my mony as usual.i can count how many times he bought formula nd pampers which is always with quarrell

am tired and depressed from taking responsibility nd his toxic attitude,constant verbal abuse and humiliation from him.

now my mum nd family has decided i move on with my life. hubby isnt remorseful at all nd he has bin insulting my mum . i av lost evry feeling i have for him ever since we seperated nd i see him as a threat to my life.


what do i do with my life with 2 kids(5yrs & 7 months).

thanks for ur response.

I have many questions to ask before I can give my opinion.

@ bolded. . . why should it be your mum and family to decide that you should walk out of your marriage and move on? are they the decision makers in your life/marriage?

what has triggered the constant insults on your mum? what led to your husband keeping malice with your mum?

does your mum and family interfere with your marriage? does she come to your home often?

I feel this family interference is the crux of the issue in your marriage. once there is undue third party interference either from the husband's or wife's family, that marriage can't be a happy one.

your husband probably feels you update your mum and family on every single thing that happens in your home and your mum is the one 'teaching' you what to do, hence the reason he has so much resentment against her.

that said, are you still facing domestic husband from your husband? do you know how much he earns monthly? does he take financial responsibility for some household bills (e.g. feeding) or he does absolutely nothing at all? do you attend the same church?

Ammy5565:
Please o mamas, help your girl. Our birthday is tomorrow but the party will be on Sunday, i'm trying hard to put a plan together but a few hitches here and there. Pardon me if some sound ridiculous like the first nw. We plan to go for our photoshoot tomorrow(shebi any good studio like studio 24 can do it, i'm in ph) as he will be exactly one tomorrow but tomorrow is also his 12 months immunization and we have to go in the morning. The question now is will he be in a good mood ans and smile well seeing that the 12months immunization plenty no be small? Or do i schedule it another way? Because we need to drop the pics with the printer to start work on the customized exercise books same tomorrow.
Second question : Please any ideas for things we can add to the gift pack apart from the exercise books, very very affordable things please.
Third question : Ideas on fun games they can play that day. Its a small party, with just few kids but i really want them to have a good time.

Please mamas don't jump and pass (especially if you've been down this road) as i'm planning this alone.
Tips on ways to save cost will be appreciated too pls.

its best to get the jabs after the birthday party. last thing you want is a cranky baby added to the stress of planning a party.

Activities:
*you can get a bouncy castle (not sure if they come cheap in PH but there is no harm asking/shopping around/negotiating). bouncy castle is usually well loved by kids at parties and it keeps them very occupied.
*face painting for kids (and maybe agbaya adults ) is another favourite for kids. again, i do not know how much this will cost but shop around, check instagram and negotiate as well
*you also have to keep the parents entertained, so it is a good idea to get a DJ (or buy DJ mixtape CDs) to play music non-stop.
*musical chairs competition for both kids and adults is also very exciting.
*sack race competition for both kids and adults is another good idea.
*splitting the kids into two teams and have each child take penalty kicks (an adult that act as the goalkeeper). the team that scores the most goals wins. this activity can also be done by the adults.

party packs:
plastic whistle, pencil, eraser, small notebook, assorted lollies, small plastic rulers, key holder, colourful hair bands/ribbons, fashion hand bands, plastic combs, sharpener, crayons, small colouring book. .. .

ahnie:
madam helovesme,I have bn looking for u upandan.I have a case of extreme picky eater.I"ll send you a pm.

before them go keel person pikin troway,the kiddo wails every morning de always shake my hood.

Can’t check my PMs . . . Email login issues.

How old is your son and what meals does he currently enjoy eating ?

Chanbaby:
Pls mama, my son opens his mouth to take his food when feeding him but he store it in his mouth and refuses to swallow it. What could be the problem, or its a phase he is passing through? Pls I need to know cos it works me up alot. I try to give him water to push it down but he still stores it in his mouth.

How old is your son?

Did he previously swallow food without any issues or is this something he started recently?

What’s the texture of food you are feeding him? Puréed? Mashed? Lumpy ?

He might be experiencing pain or discomfort whilst swallowing hence the reason why he’s holding food in his mouth.

It’s best to take him to a doctor to have him checked. It might be a case of tonsillitis, sore throat or a cold (mouth) sore.

Everwhiz:
Great Mothers, Please help o. ..

There is a little girl of almost 3yrs that likes me in the neighborhood, I am her teacher. Infact we are really close, closer than her mother....

Her mother left home about a month ago saying that she isn't interested in marriage again... But the problem is that She left her daughter..
Although this isn't her first time of separating with her husband.. Her husband could not take care of the child and begged me to take care of her for the main time..
The girl has been with my family for 3weeks now...she is very playful. she talks and eats well...

But the problem is that she won't talk when she wants to wee or poo.. She will just sit down and poo wherever she is..

D worst of it was when she was eating....She was eating and within a twinkle of an eye, She has messed up..... I dunno waht to do! I don tire! I am confused


Please help

She’s not yet 3 years old. She’s 2 years +

I know some kids that age and even older that are still wearing diapers.

She’s still a little child that’s learning. Every child develops/learns at a different pace depending on the love/support/environment they find themselves in.

Please no spanking or shouting. Both won’t work and it might actually be counter productive and instill fear in her. You need to be patient with her. If you apply the right technique, she will be toilet trained in less than a month.

Have you asked her parents if she exhibited the same toilet habits whilst staying with them ?

The problem is that she might still be adjusting to a new home/routine/environment (yours) , so you need to give her some time to adapt both physically and psychologically to her new environment and the people around her.

That said, hold her hand, explain to her calmly that it’s time for a wee and take her to the toilet(or put her on a potty as she might be scared of falling if she sits on the WC) every 2 hours.

Regarding the poo issue, are you sure it’s not a case of very loose stools as a result of what she’s been fed? If her stools are loose, then maybe you should watch what she eats.

If that’s not the case, then you need to help her build her confidence so that can freely walk up to you and let you know when she wants to have a poo.

A reward system works great. You could get a cheap colouring book with crayon and tell her that everytime she poos in the toilet/potty, she gets to colour a full page. Offering treats such as sweets or biscuits as reward for good toilet habit also helps with toilet training.

There might be the occasional slip up but don’t make a big fuss out of it. This is only a phase that will pass before you know it. You’ve done really well by accommodating her in your home. God bless you.

77FOT:
Hello fam,

Thanks for all the wonderful inputs.

I find myself reading through all the over and over again.

I must confess all your advises are thoughtful and well balanced.

Update:-

It feels so good to be in-charge!

I am not there yet O

Na investments and side hustles I dey look for now!

As a follow-up to the great input from everyone here and my desire to make a change....

1. November 20th, 2017: I searched for my" The Richest Man in Babylon" I couldn't find it so I opted for the audio version on Youtube.

Menh! that book something else. The first chapters of the book was very revealing.

What?! I saw my life in the main character.
That was a mirror of my the state of my finances.

I also saw that my concerns are not new and are not particular to me.

And that I was not bewitched.



2. November 28th, 2017: I formally informed "Mrs." that the monthly transfer of 250k will not happen for December.

Her reaction?

Just Ok and was well managed.

To be candid occasionally,I feel like venting my frustration over this financial mess on her but I just keep my cool.

I understand that to be in this mess is bad enough....I don't want to make an already bad situation worse by allow the financial mess to cause cracks in my relationship with her.

The fault is not all hers. I also share part of the blame.


3. November 5th, 2017: Took a day off from work and off we went to Mbiama Weekly market.

It was an experience:
With 60k we were able to buy all the food stuff that we needed for the month(except rice)

Learnings: Stuff are repetitively cheap but Mbiama is too far from where we live in PH, going-forward will try Oil Mill Market in January 2018

4. November 6th, 2017: Gave Mrs. 100k...(50k for Baby and 50k for general house keep)

5. November 11th 2017: I made a list of all request for financial assistance: Total:260k... I gave out 40k....I beg I can't save the world!


Till watching how things play out.

Revolutions:

I am determined to start paying myself at least 10% of my income in-line with what I learnt in the book"The Richest Man in Babylon"

You’ve done really well so far.

Remember to stay focused.

That said, investment/savings nko? What have you done with the extra cash (no matter how small ) that you’ve managed to save this month ?


Do not leave idle cash in your bank account as it’s easy to fall into the temptation of spending it. Get your spare funds locked up in an investment product pending when you decide what you want to do with the bulk funds.

I mentioned the MM Fund. Have you thought about it ?

xeexee1:
Txx mumy d rash doesnt mak him mak him uncomfortable here is d pix

Just as other ladies have said, stop the particular formula you are giving her and see if the rash disappears.

If the rash persists and there’s any changes to her health (eg. High temperature, loss of appetite), then take her to see the doctor.

I don’t really know much about milk allergies so I can’t really suggest another formula for you to try. I do know some babies are lactose intolerant though and there are a wide range of formula/brands that cater to babies with specific allergies.

You might want to speak to your doctor about it (which is the ideal thing to do when you discover allergic reactions in a child that age) and see what they recommend.

maradelkitchen:
Good day to all wonderful mamas on this thread
#Longpostalert

Let me start by appreciating all the mamas that has out of their tight schedule been able to answer other mamas question.

I've been following this thread since I gave birth to my DD(now 13months) even though i was not registered then and I can boldly say its has really helped me being a ftm.

DD has been running temperature for some days after given her pcm,it subisdes and after that it shows up again.so I took her to hospital on wed and she was given antibiotic,antimalarial with pcm after given her the drug the temp would come down only to resurface again.

Around 3am on Friday,her temp.was high again and after given her pcm, I decided to log in and read post that I've missed and I saw review on NUROFEN.
Immediately I gave the drug,even though it was another brand,her temperature has been back to normal

God bless all super mamas and their LO's

NB:I hardly ask question(s) here because most time the questions has been treated,so what i do is to read previous post


HELP!!! She has been on BF for the past 6days without food. Also I noticed some rashes on her body and she has been crying frequently than usual,there's decrease in amount of urine passed.
Cc:-) and all super mamas

Glad to hear that neurofen worked for you.

I think you should take your daughter back to the hospital.

This is the 5th day (counting from Wednesday) since she started the medication and by now, there should be improvement in her health.

The high temperature on Friday, loss of appetite, outbreak of rashes, little urination (which is a sign that she’s possibly dehydrated) and frequent crying are worrying symptoms that should be looked into by a doctor.

She might need another type of antibiotics or have further checks carried out. I remember once my son had very little rash which didn’t look really worrying but I took him to the hospital all the same only for him to be placed on two types of antibiotics for 3 days. I was told the rash was the onset of scarlet fever.

So please take her back to the hospital today and tell the doctor all the symptoms you’ve noticed since Wednesday.

xeexee1:
Mummies gdafternoon only that una no dey like reply my matter abeg mak una no vex or get tired of me... i started giving my 4months old cow and gate (nutristart) yesterday he took it so well without any throw up only 2 wake up and i notice some rashes like dis cld i be the milk i gave him?? Pls mama that have use cow and gate pls kindly respond

is the rash on a specific part of her body or all over?

does it make her uncomfortable? that is, is she unusually cranky or crying frequently than usual?

the rash might be pure coincidence with the introduction of the milk or it might be she is reacting to the milk.

that said, why not post a picture of the rash? this will help in offering a solution as a mum here might have experienced something similar.

tombeck:
She returned at 8m+. SHe only had measles and yellow fever snc the last shot at 14weeks.

Do you mean I should ignore the next measles and yellow fever shot? Then take the 12-13 months shot and chicken pox?

I haven't register at a private clinic yet. I just moved close to Lagos now. I have not been Stable. Thank you

at 12 months, she would have received the following vaccines if she had remained in the UK:

1.Measles, mumps and rubella (MMR) vaccine, (given as a single jab)
2.Pneumococcal (PCV) vaccine ( third dose)
3.MenB vaccine (third dose)
4.Hib/MenC vaccine, given as a single jab containing vaccines against meningitis C (first dose) and Hib (fourth dose)

So look for a private hospital preferably one that can administer the above vaccines.

in fact the best thing to do is see a doctor (not a nurse or midwife o) at a private hospital with a copy of your UK red book so that he can determine which vaccines are outstanding and then give you an adapted vaccination schedule that can work for your baby. what I have realised is that not all vaccines in Nigeria are administered as combination doses, some vaccines are omitted totally and are not even part of the standard schedule while others are administered when the child is older than 12 months. so a doctor would be the best person to speak to concerning this issue.

I won't suggest you miss skip any vaccination until you speak to a doctor.

personally, I would rather repeat certain vaccines (such as measles) than omit it totally. measles in children can be life threatening.

tombeck:
Hello mamas. How you all doing? Concerning the vaccine, DD had
1. (dTap,/IPV/Hib, PCV, menB, and Rota) at 8weeks

2. (dTap,/IPV/Hib, MenC and Rota ), @12weeks
3. . (dTap,/IPV/Hib, PCV, and MenB)@ 16weeks.
Only BCG at birth no HepB.
Please, my little one is 15months already. I had her in London n we returned to naija after she had all the above. Normally her next vaccine should be at 12-13months( Hib/MenC, PCV, MenB and MMR )1ST DOSE.

I went to the health center when she was due.I showed them the next vaccination. But she was only given vitamin A and I was told that's all. I didn't have the naija immunization card.

About 2weeks ago someone informed me abt the other vaccines.

I went to another health center on Wednesday. She was given measles and yellow fever that she was supposed to take that at 9months and then come back after three months for the last dose which is for 12 months.

She will be 19months after the said 3months. Can she take the vaccines for 12-13months at 19months?

Then where can I get /MenC, PCV, MenB and MMR for her? Do I need to wait till 3months?

I had been following the UK immunization chat. I wasn't aware of all this. I am confused please..

Kindly ignore the typo errors and bad grammar.

Cc other mamas. I cant remember your moniker. Please help me or ask question if you do not understand

Thank you

what age did your child return to nigeria?

with the UK vaccination schedule, the most important vaccines are given within the first 12 months of the child's life and do note that they also give combination vaccines. so one shot could cover a wide range of diseases. by the time my son clocked 12months, he was done with the last vaccine and the next vaccine he received (flu vaccine) was when he clocked 2 years.

i think you should ask mums here to post their nigerian vaccination card and then compare it to your UK red book so that way you do not end up repeating the same vaccines for your child.

the only vaccine that I know is not offered to kids in the UK (except the child falls into the sick/vulnerable category) is chicken pox vaccine, so you might want to get that from your health center.

fruitfulhome:
Hello Mamas how we dey?

Plz can i use baby tribotan for this stuff on my baby's back? Or what other better thing can i use as I heard baby tribotan bleaches.

Abeg o my baby still hasn't started sleeping at night but once it's 5am-6am he sleeps for an hour 30 minutes plus. My nippl.e is always in his month till day break when he doses, just to console him. Not as if he will even suck well o. He sleeps off on it and in less than 30 minutes or so, he is awake again. He is already six months plus. My dh said it could be his hair because every time he wakes up, he pulls his hair to the extent they fall off and then he cries even louder. Because according to my dh, the reason he himself doesn't keep hair its because it itches him and gives him headache if he doesn't cut it off. We don put on AC even remove clothes for night, sotey dey open everywhere, non seem to work. Plz can i cut or trim my baby's hair very low?

No, baby tribotan doesn't bleach (except they've started selling the fake).

it is one of the mildest topical skin products for babies that I have ever come across. It is so mild that it takes a fairly long time to see any improvement in the skin irritation but it does work.

have you introduced solids to your babies diet since he is 6months plus? have you introduced formula? his persistent crying might actually be hunger. breast milk might not be filling him up hence why he keeps waking up so you might want to introduce formula to his meals - maybe a bottle just before bed time or maybe when he wakes up at night. another option is to feed him baby cereal just before bedtime and give him a bottle of formula when he wakes up in the middle of the night.

regarding his hair, its choice your really if you want to cut it off. my son's hair was soooo full that I gave him his first haircut (did it myself with a pair of scissors when he was around 5months old). I felt it made him uncomfortable and I was also tired of shampooing, conditioning and applying detangling hairspray literally every morning.

queensnow:
Thank u I will just try aveeno till am able to make coconut oil pls any idea how to detect fake aveeno don't want a repeat experience with sebamed

when it comes to buying skin products, where you buy them from actually determines whether you get yourself a fake or the real thing.

you can buy aveeno from any reputable supermarket in Nigeria or buy online from a US or UK store and have it delivered by one of the numerous companies that offer cross border delivery services. I think some ladies here use the delivery company MFA or so. it might actually work out cheaper than buying from a store in Nigeria but most importantly you are guaranteed you are not buying a fake product.

queensnow:
Mama Is carrot oil good for babies and how can I distinguish btw fake and original aveeno cream

Carrot oil/carotene is popularly used in skin bleaching/lightening products. It is not a product that should be used on a baby’s skin. All might look good initially but once you stop, you are going to end up with a child/adult with dark skin patches all over/uneven skin tone.

If you are concerned about your baby getting dark, then apply age appropriate sunscreen with spf 30 and above before you expose him to the sun. Nivea, aveeno all have popular sunscreen products for babies as young as 6months.

Shea butter is also known to darken the skin in some individuals.

Coconut oil is a very good alternative.

LadyPrecy:
does sebamed body milk and soap clear all manners of rashes and blemishes on baby's skin?

No. It does not contain any major antiseptic properties.

It might prevent rashes but not cure it.

lightedpath:
thanks will do. She's about 13 months not 24

sorry @ age mixup.
teething isn't responsible.

its best she is seen by a doctor.
it might be malaria or a viral or bacterial infection. . . . .

Orente21:
Gudevning ma,pls mamas i nid reviews on nutribon cereal.its sold in pack.pls help a confuse mum.tnx in anticipation.@helovesme

sis, no idea. I have never given it to my baby.
I can only speak on aptamil and cow&gate range of cereal.

lightedpath:
Hello mamas pls i need help!!! My 1yr3wks baby is stooling, yesterday she threw up and has done that today too (once). She no longer accept anything aside breastmilk and water. She is actually cutting teeth. I have been trying to give ors but she only takes very little and stops when she knows its not plain water. Already thinking of going to the hospital, but pending i would love tips/advice on what to do

take her to the hospital asap.

teething at 24months (almost 25months) is not responsible for stooling, vomiting and loss of appetite.

edithodg:
My 4 months baby place her finger on top a hot pot while on my back.The finger is swallow a bit,it just made me cry.I pour water on it,what else can i apply .

Apply Vaseline (petroleum jelly). . . lots of it at regular intervals.

you can also give her paracetamol.

if it becomes very swollen or red or develops blisters, you will have to take her to the hospital ASAP. at this age, wounds get easily infected.

olubankemi:
Any educationist in the house? Or anyone with clear understanding of preschool thing?

Looking at my kids starting school in January so we checked around and we picked one base on recommendations from parents around us.

However, we are worried about their toddler class not wearing uniform. My neighbour said that's 'jeliosimi', yoruba literal translation for 'make house rest', I really don't like something that for them. I don't want where they just make them sleep like that. They will be 20 months old by January.

I want them to be in 24 months old class. Is this appropriate?

Please someone help.

I got the mention from ebony13.

I think it depends on the school and if they want to mirror how things are done abroad (EU, US,etc).

Kids do not wear uniform till they get to primary 1 (which is usually at age 4 - 5 depending on the country and what month of the year the child was born).

If the school is of good standard,wearing uniform or not will be the least of my worries. I am more concerned on what activities they engage the child with.

Regarding what class they should be in, it really depends on their age, what skills they've acquired and the school's placement policy. For example, if kids in the 24months class engage in activities such as painting, it pointless putting a 20months old child that cannot hold a pencil or a paint brush properly in the same class.

Reliablejay

This is not an issue to hide from your family. I will suggest you call your dad and tell him everything ASAP.

He's older and he will be able to advise you on how to handle your husband.

I won't be surprised if your husband has already confinded in a member of his own family. Who knows how long she has been in a relationship with your husband ?

The lady obviously has a plan. Her lies are aimed at sowing seeds of discord between you and your husband. You do not know what promises,gifts, plans, etc including assurances she has received from your husband. With such lies, she is going to blame you for every headache or cough she experiences all through the pregnancy and also for anything that happens to her child if she goes ahead with the pregnancy.

God is with you.

E-hugs.

Debclem:
Good morning mamas, please help a sister, my baby is 4wks old and her toddler brother generously gave her cough and catarrh. My little girl hardly sleeps as the cough won't let her, her breathing is noisy due to the catarrh .
It breaks my heart to see my little one struggle and cry through it, I even had a break down early this morning

Mamas what can I do besides the warm massages (it helps the catarrh phlegm come out tho), the cough is what I feel soooo helpless about, please help me.

If the cough is as bad as you’ve explained, you have to take your baby to the hospital.

The doctor might prescribe mild antibiotics to prevent the cough getting worse and clogging up her lungs.

In addition to this, get mild metholatum (there are brands available for babies) and apply it on hee chest, back, sides and feet about three times daily.

Try and treat your toddler’s cough so as to prevent him passing it on to his sibling.

oluplus:
Money paid to the account voluntarily ( personal contribution) can be withdrawn anytime. It is only the one paid by your employer that you can't access. I do this on monthly basis and withdraw after 6 months. In the face of job security, this is far better than doing adashe with colleagues

Interesting.

Nigeria’s ways of doing things sha. Why ask depositors to pay into a PENSION FUND account (money meant for old age o) when you then allow them to withdraw as often as they like?

What happened to advising the depositor to use a standard savings bank account for that purpose? This your pension fund administrator get as e be. They are not helping you to be financially disciplined.

Yet we wonder why a lot of pensioners live in penury ?

I also pay voluntary topup contributions to my pension fund but the terms are very clear. It’s money for retirement and I can’t touch it till then.

oluplus:
Op, if you ask me, you are not doing bad, though there's room for improvement. For you to have realized issues around your finances means you are prudent financially. Nigerian economy is bad and things are generally expensive.
My advise: try to get inverter and do away with weekly generator fuel money. It pays in the long run.
You may also consider subsistence farming, of youbhavr the opportunity. I did that this year with rened 5 plots of lands and am happy with the produce. I will definitely not buy some food stuff throughout next year.
Finally, take the advise on contribution seriously. Alternatively, do a voluntary contribution to your PFA account. You will get it back with accumulated interest.
Pls don't querry madam again. Just work closely with her.

@ bolded. Isn’t that a pension fund account ?

Funds paid into such accounts are not redeemable until the depositor reaches a certain age (around the age of retirement). You should read the terms and conditions.

If your pension fund administrator allows you to liquidate before you reach the agreed age, it usually comes with a very stiff penalty. Sometimes as high as 25-30% of your total investment minus taxes and other admin fees

Pension Fund Accounts (PFAs) are solely meant for planning towards future retirement and should not be compared to other short term investment products.