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perfectcrown:
Please mamas,i need help ASAP! My DS would be starting school(pre-nursery)next week monday. The school says they cook for their pulpils but were're yet to decide if we should pay alongside the FEE for cooking or always prep his own meal from home. I'm also yet to see the kind of food and what they give them daily(will do dat tmrw,God's grace). DH & i cant make up our minds yet dats why im here for help. Thanks.

Pleeeeeeaaaaaase,dont read and waka pass.

Thanks all in anticipation.

request to see their food menu list for each day/week and ask what time of the day each meal is served.

also ask if there is an onsite chef and if meals are prepared fresh from scratch at the nursery everyday- (this is very very important as I once visited a nursery whilst I was searching for one for my child and they told me the meals are prepared 2 weeks in advance and kept frozen. . WTF !! ). also ask for a brief visit/tour of their kitchen.

if the menu is varied and covers all the key food groups and they are all prepared fresh from scratch everyday onsite by cooks/chefs in a clean/decent kitchen, then maybe you should consider this option - if you can afford the extra cost.

my child attends a nursery where all meals are provided covering breakfast, lunch and supper. there is also a bowl of different fruits just by the exit door and the kids are allowed to pick on their way out whatever fruit they want to munch on. this means that rather than having a child snack on unhealthy food like cake, biscuit or caprisoone, etc on the ride home, the child snacks on fruit which is very healthy.

kids that age would love to eat what their mates/friends are eating so your child might refuse to eat his homemade meals and get upset and insist on eating what his friends are eating.

personally, I actually prefer the option of meals provided by the nursery as its super convenient for me (who has time to make fresh spaghetti Bolognese or chicken mushroom soup at 6am for a toddler's lunch).

queensnow:
Na like this this 14wks immunisation dey be my baby has never cried like he's crying now since he receive d needles I wish I know ts gonna be like this I for skip d 14wks own ooo

Awww. Pele. You should have given him paracetamol before he was given the injection. Give him paracetamol at regular intervals. He will be fine.

But wait o. You mean you believe in immunising babies?

Don't tell me there is no AGBO available to prevent/treat measles, small pox, polio, pneumococcal, meningitis, mumps, rubella, whopping cough, tetanus, rotavirus . . . .

goodfortun:
Just want to say a big thank you to all the mommas in the house for the good wishes. I truly appreciate. May God meet each of us at the point of our needs. Amin.

We are back home and navigating motherhood one step at a time.

Want to also appreciate everyone who had always answered my many preggy questionaires... cc
#teamseptemberforeasyandswiftdelivery

Congrats dear.

Just to add to the agbo debate.

Personally, I'm strongly against administering any form of herbal treatment to a child.

These herbs have been linked to the high infant mortality rate not just in nigeria but in Africa.

Detailed/proven research have been carried out on this. There are so many research extracts on this issue available on google.

http://journals.lww.com/jpgn/fulltext/2003/02000/death_due_to_use_of_traditional_medicines_in.28.aspx

Doctors and nurses singing against the use of herbs for infants know exactly what they are talking about.

Ammy5565:
He is 8months old. That particular boil dried up after using palm oil as other mamas suggested but I just notice two new ones. One on his arm and leg too,tho not big. Pls wat anti biotic can he take?Thanks

Thanks to other mamas that contributed. God bless.
Happy sunday

It's best you take him to a doctor (preferably) or a registered pharmacist.

It will be wrong for me to name a particular antibiotic (based on what a doctor has previously prescribed for my child) because there are different infant antibiotics for different ailments.

Throwback:
So you mean Trump invited a Muslim janja-weed arewanistan Buhari to the Christian White House?

Trump is seriously toying with his re-election. He has by this action lost the vote of the rejected Jews in Aba and Nnewi. He has lost the backbone that was to ensure his re-election like Jonathan.

Still waiting for Putin and Trump to invade Nigeria to liberate the endangered specie.

You forgot to mention Benjamin Netanyahu.

beyedew:
Helovesme
For taking your time to write that long note to help coolniks with her fears about her child, I say God bless ma.

Amen. God bless you too

Benignasweety:
Pl

Is it compulsory my lo takes pap?

No, it's not compulsory at all.

There are cheaper, healthier and other stress free options.

Ammy5565:
Pls ooo mamas epp me, my LO suddenly developed a boil on one side of his head on his face. I've been applying penicillin ointment but no much difference. it hurts him and he z been crying. Pls is there any quick remedy for this, I'm so uncomfortable.

Pls no pass by o

helovesme

all sabi mamas

How old is your son?

He might need a course of mild antibiotics. If the boil still persists, I will suggest you take him to the hospital.

Boil can be very painful even for adults. You can give him paracetamol pending when you see a doctor.

J0hnTrevolt:
Hello great mamas. Please what could be the cause of persistent rash on my baby's skin? He has taken more than excessive antibiotics, skineal, tribotan yet the rashes still appear after disappearance of like a week. It's even spreading to his head.
Please Mamas help a concerned dad.
Note we've bn to hospital severally the same antibiotics they keep prescribing.

Focus more on using disinfectant (original dettol) to rinse ALL his clothing including bedsheets and pillowcases after every wash.

There are also antibacterial washing powder available that you can used to wash his clothing.

Stop the use of his current body cream/lotion/oil. Stick to original Vaseline blue seal.

emmasege:
Methinks Ooni should do a thorough appraisal of himself before jumping into marriage again. His three ex cannot be all bad. And rumour also has it that his sisters are all divorcees. Ile O'odua may need to arrange many wives for him, so he can always confine anyone who misbehaves to his palace.

I also think sending Olori Wuraola packing is against our culture. She is supposed to remain an out of favour Olori in the Ooni's palace until she regains the king"s favour or he joins his ancestors.

Please, what are the new generation monarchs doing with our culture and tradition? They seem to be destroying what they are meant to conserve.

@ bolded. Exactly.

This is the first time I am hearing of an Oba sending an olori packing. Even if he was no longer interested in the marriage or he wanted to marry more wives, she is supposed to remain in the palace with him.

So much noise has been made on this his "divorce". It's sad to say that this Ooni is bringing a lot of embarrassment to the throne.

He is not the first or last Oba to fall in and out of love with an olori. He should go and ask Aalafin how many wives he has - yet, they all remain in the palace and they are well taken care of.

belladsweet:
oh my God Nairaland.

Me sef weak.

Thehomemaker. Thanks for sharing dear.

ofedegbe

You should be more concerned about a potential visit from the police at your home address and subsequent arrest.

It must be a very serious case that's currently under investigation for the bank to have taken this step.

Thehomemaker

Please share your hair regime. I like the way you styled your hair - especially the curls. Thanks.

jazzyjazz:
Yes I did
She said its safe but then you know some of these doctors too de get skoin skoin for head

Lol @ skoin skoin

If she's given you the go ahead, then trust her.

Another option (which is really hard) is to stop breastfeeding till you are done with the drugs.

What's the core ingredient of the tabs? Google it and see if it's safe to use in pregnancy.

jazzyjazz:
Abeg make Una no vex
I've been really ill.
Finally went to the hospital yesterday and results show malaria plus plus. The Doctor decided to place me on arthemeter injections for 3 days first before I start taking arthemeter drugs and pcm
These are the drugs I was given

Usually before I take any drugs I use an app on my phone to check and be sure it wont affect my son but I can't seem to find anything about these ones

I hope its safe (how's baby)

Did you tell the doctor you are breastfeeding?

feddy27:
Stand up for the champion!!!!! Go girl....you broke it down perfectly!

Everything you've said is absolutely correct

Good job

Burntcoal:
lol ...Jesus Christ!!! is ur name barracuda.....? love d sincerity... I'm 4week postpartum CS, I'm damm scared of DH touching me. I just dey pity d guy

Hahahahahaahaha @ bolded.

bookholla:
Good evening mothers,hope our lo are doing great.my lo is just 8 days today and he has not been suckling directly from my breast. He prefers to suck from d bottle.he cries and refuses to suck wen I put him to thee breast. Am getting depressed now cos expressing milk is making my nipples hurt and I can't bear to make him cry so much to suck directly,and get little or notthin into his stomach.sabi mamas wat do I do...pls help a first time mom.
All other mamas

1. Get lasinoh cream for your nippless. Any cream with lanolin as core ingredient will also work.

2. Introduce formula pending when your nippless heal and you can cope with the stress of expressing. Your baby is crying so much because he is hungry. Do not starve him.

Why did he wait till long before crying out?

The tumour is quite big and it's most likely at state 3 or 4.

He should have rallied around friends and family and requested they began an online fund raising campaign on his behalf.

Omron

She might have destroyed the certificates and photo album or thrown them somewhere that's not traceable. If not, she would have returned them by now.

For her to have gone to the extent of destroying your wife and baby's dresses, then she has destroyed those certificates.

I will suggest you keep off totally from that your sister. She has got deep seated mental issues.

Calling her won't make her return certificates that she has burnt to ashes.

babythug:
You're sure you don't teach/lecture part time at least?

Hehehehehe. Not even close.

My background/career has nothing to do with teaching.

The closest I got to teaching in my life was when I was asked to give a career talk to secondary school students during NYSC as part of my CDS. (I actually saw this as a punishment from the zonal coordinator at the time as I was found out to be an absentee/arrangee corper)

I have been given a lot of free books and free reading materials by midwives, etc right from pregnancy stage on all these practical/useful tips on parenthood and raising children. Some of them are literally 'big' textbooks which I do take time to read and implement. Luckily, I enjoy reading and I do not find them a bore.

I hope someday this is something the Nigerian government or a very rich Nigerian will fund/support. It won't cost the government much to set up a Book Trust and hand out free books,etc to parents and children at regular intervals at least for the first three years of their life.

As for the long post, it's just one of those questions from a very concerned mum that one cannot help but share as much tips as possible and offer support.

Sansa143:
Morning all!I get issue oh!My s*x appeal decided to go on sabbatical leave or will I say missing in action!I found out dat since after d birth of Jay,dat ministry just doesn't appeal to me again!I don't enjoy it at all!Is dis normal or a thing of concern(am alrdy worried)!Who has had dis kind of xperience n how did u handle it!Please I need ervy ones opinion on this(is a serious issue)!Thanks,i await contributions! Nobody has bother to ansa my research question! Guess calling sum names will wrk d magic!Will mention few dat I can reemba n odas can contribute too!

And odas please,i need inputs please!

to be honest, mine was the reverse. during pregnancy, i had zero interest. But as soon as i gave birth, oh la la .

it is on record that barely a week after my C-Section, i was back in action.

i think it is a phase that will pass. it must be all the stress that come with settling down to motherhood, a crying baby, etc.

Ask your hubby to concentrate more on extended pre-intimacy. Plenty fingering, playing with your titss, fingering and so on to get you really in the mood. Then try a different sex position and not missionary.

nkhay:
Better start the candle stuff fast cause scammers don't return monies. So you didn't see all the warning posts by @Oautemitayo?

MODATH , you need to see me giggling like a frog

afi candle na

AlphaHandMaiden:
Its a really touchy topic, i am unsure how i will react BUT i will advise the cheater to leave the house for an unstipulated amount of time because at the point where the cheating has been uncovered..... their life expectancy is very greatly reduced.

Some will say... you are chasing him into another womans hands.. the marriage is already potentially ended, so the cheater will be wise to choose his/her destination carefully.

so if he is truely repentant or at least making a show of repentance that will not be an issue he will find some place sensible to chill while tempers cool and we decide what is happening to the marriage.

Choose your co-cheaters house and it will confirm that the idiot is blatantly unnrepentant so the other patry will have clarity on matters. End the relationship it is beyond salvation.

Do macho man and stay in your house and get buried under the mango tree in the backyard by day break. I mean ...... accidents happen!

babythug:
Zaynie


Helovesme

babythug, this one na PhD project oh

i kinda agree with ifyalways approach.

one thing for certain is that there will be a period of separation where we will both live in separate homes. this will give me time to think about what my next course of action.

the child has been in care since 2012.. . . . . and we are in 2017.

they should quietly accept their fate and wait till the child is 18 or work on their personal circumstances and prove to the courts that they are fit and proper parents.

all this noise in the media is a waste of time.

"the boy suffered a displaced fracture to the right femur, a metaphyseal fracture to the lower humerus, a right parietal fracture to the skull, a fracture of the first metatarsal bone and cut to the lip.''

look at the multiple injury the child sustained. how did his mum and aunt escape a prison sentence?

why did the previous nominated guardians - the mayodele - return the boy back to the government? were they getting threats from the boy's family in Nigeria? maybe this is the reason why the judge has refused to appoint any other guardian suggested by the boy's parents.

SURElee:
How come the mother of the child neglected the said child after noticing the injuries on the child and where was she when the said child sustained those injuries because the write up said she went visiting a paternal aunty in the UK seeing she was visiting and not there to work? Even the aunty who is based there and who should know the laws regarding children took the baby's health condition with levity, abi them think say na Nigeria where some mother's allow their babies crawl about without clothes on and pick things from gutter?

Biko nu ndi UK me sef dey here, I need to be forcefully adopted.

It's possible the child was not taken to a hospital immediately the injury happened/was noticed.

It's the doctors that would have called the police to report the injury.

It's the same UK that I read of a case of alledged child neglect. one of the allegations against the parents was that the child wasn't registered with a dentist. Imagine that!!

Those peeps don't play. From the doctors to the midwives to the health visitors who come to your house (whether you like it or not) for routine checks on the child right to the staff at the crèche. They are constantly watching the kids and parents like hawks. If anything doesn't sit well with them, they report it.

Afolak:
That is "UK" for you,"where the system works perfectly".

Gbam!!

When I tell people on this site that UK authorities do not play at all when it comes to the welfare of a child, they think I'm joking.

Those family courts don't play. They should even thank their stars they have small access to the child.

As long as the child is resident in the UK - whether or not the child is a UK Citizen, the government literally owns that child and will go to any length for the welfare of that child.

It will take the Grace of God for them to have full custody of that child before he's 18.

Making noise in the press won't help them. Their only hope is to demonstrate that they are good parents and they've repented from their negligent ways and then approach the courts again to see if the judge will change his mind.

coolniks:
Good evening mamas, how are your LO doing. Please make una help me touch light this mata. My 23 months old hasn't started talking o. He is my first and presently the only. He only says baba for his dad, maa for me, si for six, kiss,and see. He babbles alot also He likes to watch tv a lot which am trying to reduce. He has started school as well. We have gone to have his earing checked and it came out clean, the paediatrician also did an evaluation for Autism. He said he doesn't have it. However he sometimes wouldn't respond to his name when called especially while watching tv. He doesn't always point at things. He loves being around kids, adults have to stay for a while b4 he warms up to you. He is good around familiar faces. He has no issue with eye contact. I have been trying to teach him body parts, he won't respond when I say touch your nose or eyes but he will put my hand his head when I say head. He likes to play ball and climb anything available. He doesn't always sit calmly either, he is always opening this touching that, scattering. he won't get the ball when I say fetch your ball or get your shoes. He understands very little command like come here, sit down, take food, stop it, wave bye, kiss mummy. The doctor said to make him say things before giving him. Like do you want water or milk he will only point at what he wants and if you dont give he just walks away or starts crying. He loves been read to and scrabbling. He is also strong willed, he knows what I mean by kiss mummy but sometime when I say kiss mummy he wil just look at me like what is she talking about. There was a day he was pulling my hands and holding his book which means he wants me to read, I told him say read, he kept on pulling and I kept saying say read, he got tired and left me and kept flipping over pages, I then wanted to read to him he pushed me away. He knows what things are used for, Mama please help how do I get him to start talk. Am sick with worry all kids in his class are talking and potty training with him is difficult. My MIL said not to worry his dad didn't talk till age 2 and till date his dad isn't much of a talker and am not either. In fact his Ped.mention of that factor as well. I have seen two other doctors who think to wait till he is 2 1\2. He never had issues with reaching milestones except for communicating. and all the sabi mummys please help.

I think there is nothing wrong with your son. Kids that age can make so much progress in milestones within a month. A child can go from saying just one word at 20 months to saying 10 words at 23 months. My son is about 2-3 weeks older than yours and I know where he is speech wise now compared to where he was at 16 months.

Do not compare your child with other children. I have come to realise that if you ask a parent how old their child is, if the child is actually 2years and 11 months old, they will tell you the child is '2years old'. The fact is that there is a massive difference in the speech and communication skills between a child aged 24 months (2years) and another aged 34 months (2 years and 10months). so when next you see that 'two years old' child telling her mum what she had for breakfast, lunch and dinner, ask well, the child is just shy of 3years.

That said, I believe in trusting a mother's instincts and I do not think you did wrong by having him checked by a doctor - it only shows that you are a caring and proactive mum. Sometimes our instincts are right. Now, let's assume there is the slightest trace of autism - the doctors are not going to put him on any medication. All they can do is come up with different mental development exercises/techniques that you can use to help him improve his speech and communication skills, so you can as well imbibe some of some techniques and start now. All it takes is a lot of love, patience and commitment and you will see drastic improvement.

First of all, you need to work on his diet. There are many articles online on foods that aid brain development in children. This is the time to replace ogi (if you are an ogi voltron ) with oats/oatmeal. This is the time to introduce varied vegetables and fruits in his diet. Prepare efo riro heavily garnished with assorted fish, small prawns, etc and give your child. Give him bread with peanut butter (you can actually make peanut butter yourself at home). Google - there are many articles from reputable websites discussing food that aid brain development in toddlers. Multivitamin syrup should not be used to replace feeding a toddler a rich/varied diet.

Secondly, since he goes to a crèche/nursery/day-care/preschool, you need to find out from his teachers what activities they engage him in. At the end of the day when you pick him up, always ask what they've been up to during the day - this chat doesn't take up to 5 minutes. No matter how pressed I am for time, i always get a recap of my son's activities for the day. what he was fed with, how many wet/soiled diapers, how much sleep he has had during the day and what activities they engaged him in. You are paying for the services they render, so you have every right to demand daily answers to these questions. Regularly discuss areas of improvement you will want seen in your child -if its speech or his interaction with other kids, you let them know, so they can also focus on these areas. When you do see improvements, commend his teachers and let them know. The educational foundation of a child is very, very, very key and it encompasses not just speech, communication and writing but also social skills.


This is not the stage to teach him how to write 1,2,and 3. This is the time for activities that will enhance his mental development. This is the period for them to engage in activities such as painting, drawing, recognising and naming animals, sorting items into boxes, messy play, singing, dancing, etc. if you are not happy with the activities he is engaged with at his crèche, then speak to them about it or move him to another crèche where things are done properly. Again Google and you will see examples of activities that you can engage your child with.

You need to seriously reduce his TV time. Personally, I am not a fan of cartoons at this age. I feel nursery rhymes are more beneficial to kids because they are a lot easier for kids this age to remember, hence it develops/improves their memory. It also helps their speech. My son learned how to name body parts from the popular nursery rhymes 'head, shoulder, knees and toes''. You should also learn to sing along with him to nursery rhymes and amuse him. I sing, make funny faces and do a choreography for my son and he absolutely loves it. Sometimes he attempts to copy the choreography and he also attempts to sing along or finish the song with me. We do this so often that sometimes I get bored and want to stop but he insists I continue. Popular classics like 'row, row, row your boat''. ‘‘Old MacDonald has a farm'', if you are happy and you know'', etc are great with kids. You can get so many easy to follow rhymes from YouTube.

As a mother, you need to communicate with your child in English and speak to him like an adult. For example, you want to take him to the bathroom. You tell him what you are about to do and while in the bathroom, you pick his sponge and say sponge about three times and then drop it. Do the same with soap. With time he would be able to recognise these simple items and say them.

Regarding obeying instructions, you need to teach him. If you want him to get his ball, you tell him what you are about to do 'let go and pick your ball', then you hold his hand and you both walk together to pick up the ball and then hand it to him. As at 14months or so, my son could drop his diaper in the dustbin. I taught him by using the technique is have just explained. If I want him to get something for myself, for example my phone. I will tell him calmly 'mama wants to get her phone from the bedroom. I will hold his hand, we will walk to the bedroom together, I will pick up my phone , show him and repeat the word 'phone' about three times and then we walk back''. Now my son runs errands for me. He gets my charger, brings my phone from the bedroom, brings my handbag, drops rubbish in the dustbin, he gets his shoes, brings a fresh diaper when it’s time for diaper change, etc.

Repetition and routine really works at this stage. My son can count 1-3 and how did I teach him? Anytime we both walk on steps, I will hold his hand for support and count 1-2-3. I did this so many times as a routine and now once he is on any stairs, he starts counting 1-2-3.

Repeating words to your child works - especially simple words. For example, you want to give him an apple. You tell him ''apple'' and repeat the word like 4 times. Before you know it, he will say 'apple''. Start/stick with one syllable and two syllable words. As soon as his speech improves, then move to three syllable words.

You also need to get books - basic pictorial books with few words but big pictures (popup books are a waste of money at this stage as he would most likely get them torn). Get books with pictures of animals with one/two syllable names like dog, chicken, donkey, etc. so you open the book, point to the animal, pronounce the name of the animal and then make funny sounds to amuse him. For example, if you say 'dog', then you make barking noises. If its chicken, point it to him in the book and you flap your arms like a chicken. Not only will all these amuse him but he will also be interested in all you are saying. With time, not only will he say the words after you but he will also mimic the animal sounds you are making.

That a child is shy and quiet doesn't mean they should not be able to communicate when they are in their comfort zone. Saying 'baba' and 'mama' at this age is normal. My son only calls me ‘mama’ when he is upset. It is only within the last week he started calling me 'mum'.

The 'not kissing' you part is normal. my son has his moments and sometimes he ignores me when I request for one. In fact now he tells me 'noooooooooooo' and shakes his head when I ask for a kiss when he is not in the mood. Sometimes he will just bring his forehead to my lips. However, when I least expect, he would hug me and splatter my face and lips with saliva on top of this kissing issue. I learnt recently that he knew what a 'hug' meant and how to give one. Apparently, at his nursery, if you upset another child (for example, by not sharing a toy or pushing a child, etc), you walk up to that child, they are instructed to say sorry (even though some of them can't pronounce the word sorry) and then you hug each other.

In summary, communication and patience is key. Speak to him like you would speak to an adult. Even while you are doing tasks that relates to yourself, let him know what you are about to do. If you want to drink water, tell him 'let’s go to the kitchen. Mama wants to drink water''. Then you go to the kitchen, get the water, say the words 'cup' and 'water' a few times, drink and offer him some. If you want to go to the bathroom to pee and he wants to accompany you, you tell him what you are about to do, you pee, wash your hands and wash his hands too. Now my son always wants to flush the toilet on my behalf and even without prompting, he wants to wash his own hands too.

Finally, kids this age thrive on praise. Anything he does well, no matter how small, you need to praise him, clap for him, give him a big smile and say 'good boy'. I do this all the time that now my son praises himself and says 'good boy' when he does something he feels is an achievement (eg. spilling water on the floor and then getting the mop). It could even be for rather cheeky things like pressing a random button on the remote control when I am engrossed with what i am watching - he then smiles and says 'good boy'.

Be positive, pray and tell God what you want for your son, try not to shout or get angry or frustrated anytime you feel he should be doing something and he isn't.

All will be well

Very talented yet an underrated artist.

spiceeamiee:
Mamas good morning. My baby has been throwing up since every fees yesterday evening because someone fed her ice cream yesterday. Ice-fucking-cream! Who Does that? Who feeds a 5week old baby Ice cream? My 47years old Sister in law that you expect would know better. I'm literally shaking as I'm remembering this. Now my baby is throwing up at every feed. She throws up every thing she is fed and starts crying and then I have to feed her again and she throws up and starts crying. This is how it has been since last night. We would do n go to the hospital, just waiting for hubby to come and pick us up but she has managed to sleep and I'm wondering if anybody has any remedy for me.

Meanwhile, make una help me judge this matter as I'm about to go off tangent and insult somebody not minding she is almost 20years older than me. My husband comes from a large family of 9children and he is the last born and you know how large families are. Although they same mother and father, kwanta dey plenty so I dey try stay on my lane but I'm very close to my husband's immediate elder sister who had her baby 's birthday yesterday so everyone was there. I was in the sitting room with my baby but tge party was downstairs so this my eldest SIL (let's call her A) comes up with their eldest brother's daughter who is 9months and she starts feeding her ice cream. I did not say anything but in my mind I felt it was wrong. About 30mins later, I wanted to go downstairs and take something so I have my bay to my husband's cousin. Less than 10mins ,I was back and I saw my baby smacking her lips with A trying to scoop more ice cream into her mouth. To say i was she'll shocked is an understatement. This is a 5weeks old baby for pete' s sake!! How are you feeding her ice cream? I quickly dashed and carried my baby from her and said (not to her face though but loud enough for her to hear) that she should never try that with my baby. I angrily left for a friend's house close by and did not return to the party until my husbAnd was ready to leave. Now SIL A married quite late and does not have a child. That is where I entered trouble. I was told she went downstairs where the party was and started crying that she carried my baby and I insulted her, that is it because she does not have a child? That I shunned her snd told her never to touch my child. Hubby called to know where I was and he came and I explained to him. He told me not to pick any of his siblings calls and we went home. Everyone started calling hubby telling him to put his wife in check, that how can I insult A who is almost 20yrs older than me? Hubby told them that she fed out baby Ice cream and they said and so what? God knows I did not say any of those things. I only said no one should ever in their life feed my baby if I'm not there. Now MIL and FIL are saying I must go to her house and kneel down and apologise. I have told my husbAnd I'm not going. Now baby is throwing up and feeling lethargic all cos someone that should have known better fed her something she should not eat and I'm being asked to apologise for being protective of my own child. I don't want to apologise but I'm being pressured to on all sides and its driving me nuts!

TTC or not is no excuse for ANYONE to feed a 5 weeks old baby ice cream. It is totally wrong on all levels. It's a totally stupid thing to do. Not only is the baby exposed to cold/cough from the cold ice cream, the baby is also exposed to diarrhoea, dysentery, cholera..... name it!! You did absolutely nothing wrong by expressing your displeasure.

She knows what she did is totally wrong hence the reason why she is making up all the stories. Say NO to any emotional blackmail from her. God forbid anything happens to your baby, does she know she will be labelled a witch and all sorts.

Only go to her and apologise when your baby is out of the hospital and given the all clear by the doctor.

When you apologise make it known to her that your baby fell ill and had to be hospitalised because of what she did. Do not even mince words about it.

I do not understand why people feed other people's children without obtaining consent from the child's parent. I cannot offer anything to a child without obtaining consent from the parent. I expect the same from other parents and that's exactly what other parents do to me. A child can have allergies or all sorts that's only known to the parents. People really need to learn.