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DropShot:
I can boldly say I belong in the third group.

I was taught a bitter lesson with the wonder banks of 2006/2007 and 2008.

So, my criticism and warning is very sincere.

MizMyColi:
I read that you used collipan for your son. Please @Helovesme, how did you administer it. Dosage, I mean. Thank you.

pring:
I stopped going to shilor 2 yrs back, when one of the ushers started counting the number of people in the church.
I felt like, am just a business tool for this pastor. Pastors this days are too business conscious.

jummy004:
Hello mamas, pls my princess is having wt yoruba calls 'eela' in her bumbum n am now noticing 'alefo' too n d later is doing as if it wants to b spreading.
Note: am using mixture of shear butter n karinna promade (dats wt we used for my nephew n his body glows very well) then i use sudocream for her bombom wen i change her diaper. I dnt knw wer it came frm. Aldo mil did agbo for her b4 we left her place abt two days ago but am nt a fan of agbo.
Pls anybody dat has xperienced dis shld pls come to my aid. I dnt wnt any crocro on my baby's body. Thanks
Pls dnt waka pass

shrekandfiona:
@ helovesme & AlphaHandMaiden, you ladies are my favourite posters on this thread. Your posts are always enlightening. Please keep it up.

Though I am done with child bearing but I learn a lot from your posts. I actually showed a colleague helovesme post on force feeding yesterday and she was shocked it could lead to the death of a baby cos she does same to her infant. Didn't even know that. She has vowed to stop.

You see, that tough love you displayed just saved a life.

Please ignore all negative comments and know that it's better a baby's life is saved even if it brings out the wrath and frustrations of a thousand women.

Know this a lot of people follow this thread offline and learn a lot. Peace y'all

MummyGwen:
She can start for all I care I have seen how she fight everyone on this thread and also act ITK, and u should have gone blind urself after typing that and not comment further... I can see u re jobless, that's y u fight everyone and act ITK, my company is actually employing... They re looking for nanny actually, u can apply as u re the mother hen that knows how to take care of her chick very well, I continue to dare u to pm ur address and u will see me at ur house tmoa first thing in the morning even if it means leaving work for u... I wonder how ur hubby live with u if all u do is judge, I can imagine the hell that man Is living and how u must have judge everyone around u... Stupid idiot.

helovesme:
First of all, you need to STOP beating your baby. It is a very dangerous path to thread on in motherhood. She will still do many more things that will stress you out and annoy you as she grows older and evolves into a toddler/teenager. She will smash your phone on the floor (like my son did to my husband's phone), smash your laptop on the floor(like what my son did to my work laptop, scribble on your lovely white wall with crayons (my hallway needs a new coat of paint), etc. What are you going to do then? Strangle her to death?

Motherhood requires LOTS and LOTS of patience and anger management. If you think you are stressed, hand her over to someone else (e.g. Your husband) and go somewhere and cool off till you are in the right mood to deal with her.

Children thrive in an atmosphere of love. She can feel all the tension from you and all the negative vibes from you when it comes to meal time. So that's why you need to relax and completely change your strategy.

That said, most babies at 6 months do not eat 10 or 20 spoons of food. Most cases, 5 tea spoons at most and they are full. Don't forget that at that age, their stomach is still small and at that age, they still rely on milk (breast milk or formula or both). This is why weaning/transitioning a baby to solids is a gradual process. The fact that she's even taking a spoon or two means she's doing well for her age.

Before you feed her, you need to relax and be happy. Play with her. Sing. Compose all sort of songs for her. Laugh with her. Entertain her.

You also need to get her prepared for meal times. If you do not have a high chair, please go and buy one. You should also buy colourful plates and spoons for her. Sit her in the high chair and give her the empty plate and spoon to play with. She needs to know that's once she's sat in the high chair , then it's "yummy time" which means it's time for delicious food.

You can decide to do baby-led weaning (where you leave the food on the plate on the high chair table) and leave her to eat whatever she likes and make as much mess as possible or you feed her yourself.

Some meals are instant hit with babies. For example, ripe bananas. Get a really ripe banana, mash it really well and mix with water and formula till you have a paste and give her. While feeding her, move down to her level either by kneeling or sitting down and establish eye contact. Sing while feeding her, act like you are putting the food in your own and make interesting sounds like "yummy" "tasty". For every spoon she takes, make sure you sound very excited by screaming "yayyy", clapping and giving her a warm hug/kiss.

You must radiate positive vibes while feeding her. If after two or three spoons she's not interested, hug her, tell her she's a good girl for even eating at all and giver her toys to play with. Use the same technique at every meal time and see if she won't gradually increase the number of spoon she takes.

Never ever force her to eat or force food into her mouth while it's wide open just because she's crying. It can go disastrously wrong. It can lead to choking and even death.

You should also taste her food before you give her. Some baby foods (even the imported brands) are disgusting. If the food tastes like yuck, then there's every possibility that your daughter won't like it.

The same applies to formula. Different brands. Different tastes. Just the same way Peak milk tastes better than Cowbell milk. Look for brand she likes and stick to it. Some babies are just cut out to be high maintaineace. She might actually prefer a premium formula brand which will cost you more.

You need to be more experimental in the food you give her. Try all sorts till you find out what she likes. For example, puréed SWEET POTATOES is well loved by babies. It must be puréed to a fine paste with no bit and pieces. Add a dash of sunflower oil or a little butter and give it to her. Prepared Wheat is also another favourite with babies. It must be really really soft before you give it to her. Same with amala. Blend ewedu leaves with boiled deboned macreal fish, boil the mixture, allow it to cool down and give it to her with wheat/amala.

You said she drinks water a lot during meal time. Do you give her water often during the day and not wait till meal time? If not, then you should do so. If you leave her thirsty till meal time, then all she will be focused on is just drinking water to quench her taste.

You've also said she goes to a crèche. What's her feeding like there?

She's only six months old. Some babies do not start eating solids "seriously" till they are around 8-9 months old.

zaynie:
Helovesme , abeg just rise above.
No start o!!!!!

Onegai:
Puhlease, my mama lost N3m to NOSPECTO. She needed to dye her hair after because she grew so many greys after. That's where I knew Clairol and Bigen dyes from.

I won't laugh at anyone in MMM, I kind of understand why it happened and I pray they can get out their money, not the interest.

rofemiguwa:
an a

Maybe she knows d woman in real life and they get beef.kikikikiki

Moderators go soon show.maybe then she will drop it.
Na wa! Carry person matter like gala for traffic
Peoples!!!

Onegai:
MMM has crashed, everyone is on edge, today is not the day to chop slap because of one Russian guy somewhere. Even me don vex.

mitchyy:
Is it not a gross violation of privacy for nairalanders to save our baby photos we mamas innocently share here and use as meme on Nairaland?

Someone just did that to Hansel's photo and i'm totally bummed

ambient:
Helovesme you really don't have the right to call anyone a bad mother because she spank her baby.I don't care which saner environment you are living but I think you shouldn't.do to your kid what you think is best for them but don't try and smother someone else with your opinion.

I tap my baby bottom today when he threw up all his medicine and yes he is six months old.

Onegai:
I really, really think everyone does NOT want to discuss this topic anymore, Helovesme, Farydah, faithisallihave and any other mamas planning on commenting. Please feel free to take this as a very serious suggestion that this topic should be dropped on this thread, however I'm sure the PM function can help continue this discussion offthread. Thanks ladies.

farydah:
my dear don't be hard on itself. Im sure ure doin ur best and all u do is out of love and concern for ur baby. About the beating, we must all admit that we 'tap' , 'spank', 'knock' our kids for one reason or the other but we wont come here and say it as u did thereby making pple go all judge Judy on u. All in all, keep trying to feed her at her own pace, be patient with her and she will thrive. Best wishes

MummyGwen:
mind u I have changed her crèche twice in a period of three months,

MummyGwen:
cos I know none of u re better mom than I am

MummyGwen:
, asking if she eat in the crèche, am not there but I always ask when I pick her if she eat and ofcourse they will say she finished the food but when I carry her she always look light... ok.

MummyGwen:
At shilloh a woman have to tell me that this ur baby is two people that will hold her to feed

MummyGwen:
U all have said well... But if only u know what am passing thru with this my drama queen, u all will raise hand for be and a trophy for been the best and most caring mother on planet earth, my baby don't eat, a six months old looking like a 3months old, looking lean, she can put food in her mouth and not swallow it for ages, she will just keep it there. And for the record, I have tried all those blend fruit, even my colleagues do laff at me, I have to go to shoprite the other day to get all the good fruits baby likes, like kiwi, apple, pear, potatoes and the rest, I spent 8k that day, money is not the problem here as I and her dad have decided to give her anything she wishes to eat but she will put the food in her mouth and not eat it, this moment she will eat it the next she won't, for u all to see the many things I ve bought for her in the previous post means I ve done all what u have said, I have read and read all in how a baby will eat, I search Internet everyday cos of that, and as for giving adult food, I am also doing that, but she don't eat much, she will take one or two lil one and d next thing is water all thru. I love my baby so much as I have even ask and they said take her for massaging and I have done that, they said buy her multivitamin and my house have become a mini pharmacy that have all the multivitamin any one can think of including dynamogen. Oya those that said they have pass thru this kind of situation maybe u will tell me that ur baby will put food in their mouth and refuse to swallow it at all and she will pretend she is sleeping, she can sleep with that food in her mouth. Hehehe... I wonder how she learnt all that trick, I am not happy beating my child, it not a thing of joy that any mom will beat even her grown up not to say a six months old. And besides when she is crying she don't still take much she cry in a way that she won't still swallow the food like she is crying and the food is still in her mouth, have anyone also seen that or pass thru that. I have join this thread almost four months and I read everything, before I posted here know it has gone beyond my control. Thanks for all the response, and mind u am not justifying myself. She even refuse formular, I tried that one when ever I notice she want water and she refuse drinking it, the only thing she take is breastmilk. Can a six months survive on that and am a working mom. She goes to crèche. Oya make una respond again.

faithisallihave:
I don't care what your reasons are, that is child abuse. Is your husband aware that you are maltreating his baby?
I wish we lived in a saner society where things worked within the ambit of the law. That poor baby would have been removed from your care.
If God forbid she chokes during one of your forceful feeding sessions and something happens to her, you will never outlive the guilt.

kidco:
Most mothers are in a hurry to ho to work
Most husband Do not supports mama works at home when the mama works
So 1plus 1 equal 1
Fraustration and stress set in
The spark flew
Action speaks faster
Words shealtef
Love dies
Hi...
I don't think mama seriously beat the child
yo her it was a serious beat cuz she felt guilty
Please no condemned Mama's here
Let ask how she can fed the kids let's help if we can
...no condemnation

MummyGwen:
Please mothers u all have to help me o... I have been reading all the topics in this thread including feeding issue, please u all should help with method to feed my six months old dd as I ve tried everything o, I have also change series of food just for her to eat, have given her pap, gerber, custard, cerelac, mothers delight but she is refusing everything,she don't even want to take anything into her stomach, I have to beat her seriously for her to cry and swallow and it's frustrating as I always feel bad afterwards for beating my six months old.pls sorry for the long post but abeg make all the sabi mums touch light my mata, before I go crazy, biko help a ftm o

BluStreak:
We cut corner and neglect a lot of things in Nigeria and most times even go way below the approved standards.

A few super beams should have been introduced and woven into the design and aesthetics of the building to carry the loads since they didn't want to introduce a centre beam or transverse load balancer.

I will blame the architect 101%.

wirinet:
Soil test to determine load bearing capacity is not the issue here as the building did not collapse because of foundation failure. The building collapsed due to design failure.