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onuku:
We both are from Imo state.

In this day and age; single income can't sustain an average household anymore.

All I am saying is that isn't she supposed to chip in the family expenses aside grocery. Here, 3 of the kids have their breakfast and lunch in their respective schools.

Lastly, I am compelled to inform her parents of what's going on!

You are not alone in this issue abroad. Most of the families that relocated abroad face similar issue for madams to adjust to helping financially. Same way our brothers also find it hard to adjust in some ways.

Just keep pushing for it and be patient. With time, discussion and family intervention, she will adjust. But it's usually a hard battle for most families I know here in the US. Some might even divorce or nearly divorce before they agree.

Truth of the matter here is western countries are not built for 1 income to raise a family. It's just the needful. I pray God helps your family to pull through this stage.

unzend:
Hello everyone, I need your opinions on this issue that’s causing some interesting situation at home.

I’ve been working fully remote for two years now, taking care of the kids and managing the house after moving into a state in Nigeria from Lag. (I was hybrid before and go to Lag weekly before- not easy). Last Friday, my wife came back home from Lag - we stiĺl maintain our house there cos she works there , and everything just went upside down.


I stepped outside to take get somewhere, and she checked my phone (we’re recently being locking phones). She saw a pregnancy scan on my phone that mentioned something about “breech presentation.” The thing is, this scan isn’t mine! It belongs to my Farm worker’s wife. He showed it to me while talking about her condition, and I took a picture to keep it for him for hospital records and future reference. That’s all.

When my wife saw it, her mood changed instantly. She started asking me tough questions, but I gave vague answers cos I knew her tendedncy to have persismistic thoughts and conclusions. Haha! She concluded I got another woman pregnant. Before I knew it, she called my mum, then my dad. That same evening, my dad came over to comfort her. From his expression, it looked like he also thought I messed up. I just excused myself and left the room.

Now, my mum and dad have called me, saying they’re disappointed and telling me to repent from “adultery.” I got upset and told them I’m a grown man who can make my own choices, and I haven’t done anything wrong.

She informed all my in-laws and says my FIL is really angry.

The while situation has sent my wife into a spiral—she’s paranoid, heartbroken, and acting sick. She’s telling me to pay off this “woman,” block her, and never speak to her again. I told her I won’t do that cos the woman may have being her!

Right now, I’m just letting things sit to see how it plays out, but the tension between us is heavy. My wife is not herself, and my parents are treating me like I’ve sinned. She even acted up to the point She was prophesying my Downfall cos of my Adultery. Like in the spirit the 30 minutes straight. I just dey shake my head.

What's your opinion about this, I plan to keep it on for as long as I can withstand the drama.

What kind of stooopid drama is that you are looking for

If you didn't impregnate another woman, stop the drama now. Don't cause unnecessary trouble in your marriage.

Caaz:
Kobojunkie my love,stop misleading women,you re in a sane country where things are working perfectly,the govt even offer shelter and free Meals.


Now let us be realistic....this is nigeria,most family are struggling,i assist my husband,he didnt compared me,i do it just to ease the burden from him,because that's the essence of being married.


This man has carried this(Billing)for 15yrs,it will not be out of place for his wife to assist with some bills,if she contribute the heavens will not fall.

Even in the "sane country", women assist their family financially. The "sane countries" are built for 2 income households.

onuku:
The marriage is over 15 years. Husband was taking care of everything throughout the period during the marriage. She started working last year's January, and started doing feeding for a family of 5 last July. 3 months ago, we agreed that she will also contribute some money towards utilities. She contributed towards utilities for 2 months and stopped. Reason being that she doesn't have money

You just have to continue to insist and be patient.

This is how many women are, home and abroad.

A man can shoulder all the responsibility for years, nobody will hear outside. Let the woman do it for 2 months, problems will be everywhere.

This one is a Google doctor oo. How can he say that? Is he just joking?

Fallacy of Generalization

Double0h7:
I have a question for the men what happens when a man experiences ED or just grows old and can no longer do the do? Should his wife turn to local boys to do his job?

Many women that are in that situation go outside too. It's not a new thing. It was there during our ancestors and it will continue to happen.

You people just like to deceive yourself.

Women prefer six packs in a man's pocket.

If you like carry 30 packs for chest with 7ft height, one fat, short rich guy will still collect your woman.

Go hustle and make money.

All those things hardly work once the women get to that stage.

Stop wasting your time. Get yourself sorted out or stay celibate.

casualobserver:
You will learn!

In a hard way self.

All I know is that "A married olosho is just on work leave or vacation".

She will resume work later when she is done resting.

NEVER REWARD OLOSHO WITH MARRIAGE

All I know is that "A married olosho is just on work leave or vacation".

She will resume work later when she is done resting.

NEVER REWARD OLOSHO WITH MARRIAGE.

OlaOfLagos:
As a guy, no matter how good you are sexually, when you meet a Nymphomaniac you'll understand the true meaning of the phrase “olomi lo ma re”

A man can also be a nymphomaniac too. Women too run from too much sex when they jam the one that pass them.

Men are in love, women are in business in relationships and marriages.

NEVER FORGET THAT.

You will learn and be alright. I just pray you don't learn in a hard way.

Means it's the man that will be tired in the other room. He is the one that will drop bodily liquid.

This is only true if the man don't know how to handle his woman to get her to o.rga..sm too. If he does, both of them get tired.

It can also mean it is the giver or doer that will get tired as the receiver or collector is just there to collect.

Where is concrete evidence abeg!

This is 2025 where women falsely accuse men all over the world.

I hope he directed his advise to both gender??

Ilekokonit:
What is good for the goose is good for the gander.

Me I dey even call police for woman wey do anyhow to me.

Today's women can not stand or handle a "real" man especially if he has a low tolerance for their bullshit.

Shebi na women want to dey drag power with men abi.

Me, I dey call UK police for women now o if they cross their boundary.

I have used the law and police against 2 Ex girlfriends in the UK in the past 7 years and am looking for more girlfriends to use it on so that they will tell their girlfriends that no be only woman fit call police for man for UK.

One ex girlfriend pushed me during an argument outside a restaurant at 12 midnight. I no talk. I just call London police and told them I had just been assaulted and they asked me where I was and I told them the name of the road and told them I was outside Barclays bank on that road. I then put the phone on speaker so that the tramp go know say no be joke.

Immediately she hear police voice see say na true, she just picked her rucksack (which she had dropped in order to push me) and begin pick race. (she no get papers and the fear of being deported to Muritala was the beginning of wisdom for her). Once I saw her running away I just told the police over the phone that she is running away but I am following her.

She ran back to her work place and I followed her and ensured she got a salary advance from her boss and paid me back the whole money that caused the argument. She was too willing to pay it back as she just wanted me to carry my police wahala away from her illegal immigrant self lest she gets deported.

The police kept calling me up till the next morning asking if I wanted to press charges for her assaulting me but I did not pick their calls as I just wanted to put the fear of God in her and ensure she never physically attacks another man again in her life (i.e repaying a woman in the same coin they use in dealing with men).

More men in the western world should call the cops on their wives and girlfriends who assault them even if its just a push or even verbal assault as women don't waste anytime to call the cops if the tables were turned.

E dey even hungry me to get a stubborn woman deported although I no get mind do that one as I no want make hunger kill her.

Another ex girlfriend started sending me multiple abusive texts and curses when I tell am say I no dey do again. I ensured she almost got charged with domestic malicious communication by UK police. I just carry my phone with the text messages from her go police station and told them to call her and tell her to stop contacting me although I told them I did not want her to lose her job.

The cantankerous greedy overworked fool later forgot that the police had asked her not to contact me again and she sent me another text a few days later asking that we continue the fight.

I just texted her the Met Police Reference No for her case and asked her if she wanted me to reopen the case again. That reset her overworked greedy brain and sent the message into her head as she has not called me for about 5 years now.

Enough of pandering to or treating these rascals called women with kid gloves when they will not bat an eyelid before sending a man to jail if the tables were turned.

Real men have tolerated enough s.hit from women for too long and its about time you let the law deal with them once they cross the line which they ALL will do sooner or later especially the ones who live in Western countries where too much latitude has meant they no longer know when they are crossing the line.

Exactly 💯. Men should just play it same way the women play the card.

1. They want equality. Give them with equal responsibility and accountability.

2. They see a man as poverty mitigation tool. Men should dump them too when they are broke. One just became an ex. here after she lost her job.

3. They use police and laws against you. Men too should do same.

Onatounkiki:
Just stop already. It's not your fault na me Carry my matter come online that's the reason you keep jumping from one place to another.

As I said earlier to you. There's nothing wrong in being a second wife but it has to be treated on case by case.

In your case, you have a young man, not rich, but "comfortable", with already 3 children and 1 wife before you. The word comfortable is subjective to an individual assessment, so I don't know what is financially comfortable to you. His wife is "okay" with it according to you.

Then, you on the other hand is not gainfully employed I guess since you said you recently completed NYSC.

1. Don't believe his wife fake smile on this. No woman wants to share her provider with another woman. Women can share the gbola but not the provider. So, be cautious around a rival woman whose husband is a provider.

2. There is 50pct chance that the man will struggle to cater for 2 wives and more children in future if he is just "comfortable". This is just a probability because he could also grow financially over time but don't rule out the possibility of financial struggle.

3. Based on 2 above, you need to be prepared for that possibility of him not being able to cater for you and your children in future. This is why there must be a concrete plan in this whole arrangement for you to be gainfully employed before going into this marriage.

4. Be prepared for another wife in future. It's also a possibility.

5. Have a discussion of how many children he is willing to have with you and consider if that's okay with you too.

The decision is yours, I am just trying to point out factors to consider before taking that decision.

Onatounkiki:
He's 38, not rich but he's doing well for himself.
He has 3 kids already
He's ready to have more kids

Those are good.

Are you ready to cope in case he marries another wife in future?

Are you employed yourself ?? If not what are the plans to be gainfully employed in the marriage

Onatounkiki:
Good day, I'm a lady of 29years, I have a married suitor who sincerely wants to marry me.
I have known him for years and I have always known that he loves me. We started seeing each other last year , his wife knows about us so his children and they accepted me wholeheartedly. I have spoken to his mum and sister too.

I told my family about him and he's willing to come over to see my parents anytime they are ready but my family hasn't agreed yet. Mind you, we've not had sex but this man checks everything I have ever wanted in my husband.

Is there anything wrong in getting married as a second wife

Note: We've not had sex and we are both Christians

Nothing wrong in being a second wife.

How old is the man, just a range?
How financially capable is he?
I guess you had no children before, is the man ready to have more children?

Those days when women were not claiming equality ba And not using men in the name of relationship and marriage. Those days when women don't say " I don't need a man".

Those days are gone so are Those men too.

Men of today's world are only responding to whom today's world women have become. We are all evolving. 😀

You are lucky to notice it now.

The lady got relaxed after she saw you planning traditional marriage. This is how she feels about you right from the beginning. She was just settling for whatever reason known to her.

You were never her "world". Now you know who you are to her.

The ball is now in your court. I will just say 99pct of them settle for the ready highest bidder.

That's how toxic and broke feminists define all men they cannot manipulate

Ayob3:
Please, I think I may be a bit confused and would really appreciate some guidance from those who have gone through the EB2 NIW process.

Is the Endeavor Statement the same as the petition cover letter? Or are they two different documents?

Also, I have an additional question:
Does USCIS accept credential evaluations from IEE or WES?

Do we need to submit both, or how exactly does it work?



I’m just starting out and want to make sure I get it right from the beginning. Thanks in advance for your help.

Endeavor statement or explanation will be contained in the petition cover letter. There is another letter called Letter of Intent. That's separate from the petition cover letter.

USCIS accepts credentials evaluation from WES USA, not WES Canada.

Jannyfranc:
I need accommodation for short stay in Georgia, does anyone know how to go about it.I also need link to group of Nigerians in Georgia, I am moving to Georgia in 3 weeks time and needed a guide on how to settle easily with my family.

Short accommodation options

1. Search for "extended stay" hotels in the city you are moving to. You will see those "hotels" with small kitchen inside and affordable. You will see names like HomeTowne Studio, Studio6, Motel6, Extended Stay America etc. Just makes sure they have kitchens inside. You can book any of these even from Nigeria but you must deposit money on arrival.

2. Get an Airbnb. This is like renting an apartment or house for short stay. Airbnb.com

3. If you are coming to live here, you can search for apartment or house to rent from apartment.com, zillow.com

As per connecting with Nigerians, if you are moving here to live, that's not a problem. You meet many Nigerians in Georgia.

Prettyangelng:
Keeping your wife forever.

They like money but I tell you if you are not romantic and sweet to them they will take your money and give to some man outside that treats them better. Love your wife like a professional nurse would nurse a patient. Most times just decide to bathe her, feed her, cook for her.

The most ridiculous part of the post. The poster is funny 😁 😂 😀 😄

Why will a man that places good value on himself be chasing over another person that brings liabilities into his life?

Majority of Today's women are financial, emotional and legal liabilities to men.

eastOFwest:
🕺🏿

My people wetin you go heaaarrr.
Pope dey for Rome
Param
Archbishop dey for London
Param
Imam dey for Meccaa
Param....

Thunder fire imperialist and their propaganda machine, BBC.

They are looking for a way to give this man a bad name so that they can kill him like Gadafi.

eastOFwest:
..My people them go dey follow Bishop
Them go follow Pope
Them go follow Imam
Them go go for London
Them go go for Rome
Them go go for Mecca
Them go carry all the money
Them go juba Bishop
Juba Pope
Juba Imam
Then them go start to yab themselves....

.. Pararam ra ram.
No matter wetin you say
Pararam ra ram ..

Sunnyrado:
There's this lady am in relationship with for more than a year now, we meet online and we have not seen for once due to the distance between us, the lady is physically challenge she's on wheelchair and and she can't walk but I lover her so much, she is is from Kogi state while am in Lagos and we have been talking about getting married and settling down, but when I told my siblings about they kicked against it, that how can I go and marry such a person like that and are there no other woman around, and that really discouraged me, they said how will she cooks, do house chores and stuffs like, although my parents are late so it's my eldest sister that said I shouldn't do it.. and the lady said I should come over to Kogi state to come and see her parents Wich am still considering, and another this is..even if I go ahead with her, I doubt if any of my family members will follow me to Kogi state, looking at the distance and all like that.. and she is a very nice person with a good heart. Honestly am confused at this point.

Does the lady have money or is her family rich?? This is what women will ask about you if you are on a wheel chair before marrying you.

Don't go and marry a poor girl on a wheel chair ooo. Or you listen to your sister. The only time a woman will give a man good advice in such matter is when it involves her son or brother or father. Better listen