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MadamVanessa:



There are things I know can never ever stand no matter how hard people preach or go against. Men will forever marry from the lower class in the society. This is a phenomenon and nothing anybody can say about it or do about it.

That is now changing. Just as women are changing, men are also changing.

Only a fo.olish man will still have that old mentality of marrying down in today's world while all women bring business mentality to marriages with "gender equality".

This advise is to be taken based on the country you live and your gender.

If you are in Africa for example, both men and women. It's okay to marry and not co-habit.

If you are in western countries, and you are a woman, try everything to marry because it will pay you when the marriage scatter, BUT if you are a man in western country, try everything within your power to co-habit and avoid that thing western countries calls "marriage".

Even cohabitation with a woman in western countries as a man, you must be very careful to ensure the woman has same financial status or better than you. If not, you will learn a hard way.

Relationships and marriages are always business to women from the date you say hello to the day she leaves you or dies. It is never about "love".

Women can only love their biological son, brother and father in that order.

The truth is that she will still dump the abroad man when she settles down or gets "a career" in the new country.

What I call "December wife" don't end up well for men.

KobomatPhones:
I was like, na your ex go tell you your faults before you realize them? As an adult wey you be.

I will just tell you the truth. That her ex is richer than you. This is why she is pursuing the guy with a torchlight and ready to be a backup girlfriend to him

Don't take the girl serious. You are just a back up plan.

Did the man weld her with a welding machine or used super glue to glue her down in the relationship?

She can also take a walk if it's not working.

Women don't even wait for men to allow them go. They take a walk once their mathematics is not adding up with you.

Any woman that stays with a man for long has already done her mathematics and the man is her best offer for that period.

This is blanket generalization. It's very wrong.

The advise should be that men should be logical and look out for their interests while dealing with women, irrespective of where the woman comes from.

Men are always logical except when dealing with women. Then they become emotional and reason with their 3rd leg.

Women are always emotional except when dealing with men. Then they become logical and use their brain.

Chidollars1994:
Ever since our father died my mother is something else she will react to anything always trying to manipulate everything if you ignore her she will start crying .
Every family member from father side is evil and if I disagree with her on that it will become a problem I’m thinking of sending her back to the village but I’m afraid she will be so lonely there and I don’t want people to think I don’t care about my mother i need an advice please I’m tired

Your mother is not just becoming now. She had always been since birth, even before she met your father. This is what your father dealt with while alive.

Women are like that. All of them.

And you have done right for this step daughter. It's time to let the girl know who her biological father is.

You don't want the girl to find out through another means or through another person. You and your wife will lose her trust and it can back-fire on you both, even with all your efforts on the girl.

Face the reality now. Forget all those narratives of you being her only father. You are the step father. The truth is the truth.

I know you are already attached to your step daughter. Setting the record straight will not remove that bond, but continuing to hide this from the girl could jeopardize the bond and the trust the girl has in you.

Jamiejames:
Her siblings are the kids from our marriage and no they don’t know that I am not her biological father because why would I do that. The only people that knows she’s not my biological daughter are immediate family members.

Not one time did we stop that man from having a relationship with her. Less than 6 months of coming into her life she had a major surgery that kept her at the hospital for 4 months, that’s when I got close to her and that’s when she started calling me dad because I am the one she sees every night and day. I was young and had just graduated from college, navigating through work/business and that did not stop me from being there considering the fact that I just met her mother, a lot of sleepless nights at the hospital, he came only once and another one time when they went home and that was it. No call, no letter, no email just no form of communication for almost 12 years.

Put himself on child support and never paid a dime and believe we don’t care and don’t need his money.

Do you know how many doctor’s appointment I take her to in a month? A lot till this day, she went through a lot due to the surgery, a lot of sacrifices being made and still. We spend over $11,000 a month on medication that insurance doesn’t cover for for about 3 years straight. Man none of these matters but I’m just trying to give context. I am more worried about my daughters mental health.

Like I said earlier on, I am not a selfish person and I want to treat this carefully which is why I came here anonymously. Like some clowns here had said “she’s not my daughter why am I calling her my daughter “ wow lol well I don’t care about what anyone says, she’s will always be my baby girl for the rest of our lives.

It is more clear now with more information.

The fact still remains that he is the biological father. And you are a step father to the girl.

Yes he was not in the girl life for more than 10 years but if he is back now to make things right, please don't deprive the child this opportunity. The highest you can do now is to ask him to pay up all the child supports he is owing you and your wife. If he is a reasonable man, he will appreciate all you have done for his daughter in his absence and pay with thanks. That is if he has the money.

Don't waste any money on any legal problems at all on this. It's not going to work out. If he is not into crime or anything that will be detrimental to the child well-being or development, it will be difficult to even get the girl adopted by you if he fights you in court.

imoh4king:
Great move by Volkswagen. Other Companies also need to stand up to America. All Bentley, Audi, Bugatti etc customers in America should hit at Trump...

And their market share will go to American luxury brands like Cadillac, Lincoln, Genesis, etc.

Very good and their market share goes to Ford, Chevrolet, Jeep, Toyota, Honda etc.

The story is not complete. How come her siblings think you are the father of the girl?? Is this same with your siblings too?

At what point did you get involved with your wife and this girl?

Have you heard the girl's father side of the story? Or you just believe what your wife told you?

Men have been doing this same job of bus driver in Nigeria for ages ooo. These men have been assaulted for ages ooo. They will not be looking for cheap sympathy up and down

It is a woman turn to do same job now. We are seeing sympathy seeking up and down. I thought the new world says Men and women are equal.

She should leave the bus driving work if she cannot cope

And that saying that the women will kill you if you have more wives is not even logical.

In monogamy, there's more incentive for the woman to kill the man because she gains all his property after he dies. This is why most men whose wives killed them are in monogamy.

If the man had say 3 or more wives with multiple children between the wives, the motivation for any of the wives to kill him is near zero because the man's property will be shared among the wives and children.

Monogamy gives women power over the man while polygamy takes away many of their powers. This is why all women, including my mama will not like polygamy.

Also this is how it is for real.

A man with one wife is not far from being a bachelor. This is because once the woman settles down, she can start her troubles and start rationing affection etc.

A man with 2 wives will be having alot of fighting to settle at home between both wives. But they will now be competing for his attention.

A man with 3 wives will have more peace of mind and attention. This is because the factions will be 2 by 2. First and second wives in one faction, the man and third wife in another faction. Balance of power, and that brings peace. They might still be disturbing the peace of the man at this stage but it's usually minimal.

A man with 4 or more wives is finally free from from women troubles, and shenanigans. And he will enjoy all attentions he deserves. This is because at this point, women know that their shenanigans and troubles will never bother the man again. They will either maintain peace or pack out of his house.

If not economic reasons, polygamy is the best for any man when it comes to marriages.

If you can afford it. Go ahead.

No let anyone tell you what Bible says o. That was in the old days. Today women don't obey that verse of the Bible that says they should submit to their husbands but are quick to refer you to the verse that says "one man, one woman".

Yes ooo. Marry her, build a house for her, etc.

Una no dey hear word.

A typical case of " Women are always in business while men are in love".

Wake up guys.

Hahahaha. Simple na. Try put fingers deep into her thing. If 2 or more of your fingers can enter, she is not a V.

The number of fingers it can take beyond 1 finger determines the mileage.

If you struggle to even put 1 finger in, she is a V.

KobomatPhones:
I met this girl on 8th of March (last month) and around 22 of the same march. She called and said she was experiencing pregnancy symptoms. In less than 2 weeks?

Long story cut short, she’s pregnant.

Pls how is this possible?

According to her, her last period was around 20th-25th of last two months (that’s February)

There is 50/50 chance that the you impregnated her.

Just make sure you do DNA test to be sure after birth, you can't trust people these days because she might be sleeping with other boys.

Feldie:
there is no country on earth that has grown as much as the US economically in the last 80 years but somehow somehow white uneducated Trump lovers are convinced the whole world is taking advantage of them despite the fact that they spend more money on their defense than the entire African continent spend on their entire budget. Where are they getting that money from if the world were truly ripping them off? They can print dollars if they want and the whole world shoulder the inflation. I'm glad Trump is tanking their economy. This time they will experience what bad economy and inflation truly mean.

China did not place 67% tariff on the US. Trump totally made up those numbers. He even claimed an uninhibited island, whose population are only penguins also placed tariff on them. The earlier you people understand that Trump is insane and also suffering from cognitive decline due to aging, the better for you.

Those Islands must be included so that Australia and different organizations will not use them as loopholes to avoid paying tariffs.

This is well known in maritime industry worldwide. This is why you see some ships owned by US or UK companies flying Bahamas or Panama flags, to avoid some taxes or tariffs.

Mr Macron should first tell us if European union are charging tariffs on US products or not.

You call yourself my ally but you charge me tariffs and I don't charge you. What kind of friendship is that?

That's a parasitic relationship.

She must be given same prison sentence as a man who molested an underage girl. Simple.

Only a Virgin should be looking for a Virgin to marry. If you are not a Virgin, who will marry your leftovers??

Also, NEVER reward an olosho with marriage. YOU WILL REGRET IT.

CoronaVirusPro:
Oh!

But Elon Musk can do same for UK, Germany and Canada.

Stop licking the asses of your slave masters.

Those countries are also free to cancel Elon's visa too. Visa is a privilege and a country can cancel it for any reason including politics.

He will keep his mouth only on his country politics next time.

I don't understand entitlement mentality of some people.

Which day in court Visa is a privilege and not his rights.

Did he tell the US embassy he was going to do political activism in the US before getting his F1 visa? The answer is obviously a NO.

Hope he has learned his lesson from this. He can only do political activism in his country, not on a temporary visa in another country.

This smells like fish.

neolboy:
This is my life story

Extra: The guy who got her pregnant was aware and even told the girl's sister that his property with them he is coming in future to collect it. Na so I for dey look after another man's property

Were you both not having sex or were you using protection? This part is missing here.

Anyway, congratulations.

Amo12345:
thanks foe your response: I just checked the EB1A now and guess my MA in education psychology might help or I shouldn't include it cos I can see EB1A support science as well as education, think if I add both it might help, ur suggestions is well come, pls, my published articles include the following, working on 3rd one
Production of Glucose Oxidase from Aspergillus Niger using Yam Peels as Carbon Source*,
2. *Effect of Green Synthesize Silver Nanoparticles from Orange Peels on Growth Performance and Liver Function Parameters of Male Albino Rats*,

1. On the publications, I was asking about their citations since you published them. Since they are articles, do you know how well read is the journal? Is it a popular and respected scientific journal?

2. For the 1A, you can add the masters degree if you want but it doesn't really matter. What matters is how well you meet at least 3 of those 10 criteria. Or if you have won one major award like Nobel etc. before in your field of endeavor. I have the 10 criteria below, you met number 2 and 6. Check number 1, 4, 8 and 9 if you can meet any of these commonly met ones.

1. Evidence of receipt of lesser nationally or internationally recognized prizes or awards for excellence
2. Evidence of your membership in associations in the field which demand outstanding achievement of their members
3. Evidence of published material about you in professional or major trade publications or other major media
4. Evidence that you have been asked to judge the work of others, either individually or on a panel
5. Evidence of your original scientific, scholarly, artistic, athletic, or business-related contributions of major significance to the field
6. Evidence of your authorship of scholarly articles in professional or major trade publications or other major media
7. Evidence that your work has been displayed at artistic exhibitions or showcases
8. Evidence of your performance of a leading or critical role in distinguished organizations
9. Evidence that you command a high salary or other significantly high remuneration in relation to others in the field
10. Evidence of your commercial successes in the performing arts

Mental. How man will leave all the succulent, creamy women in the world and find a fellow man sexually attractive is beyond my mind.

I guess it's because I am normal.