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As a poor man,you have no business being in the church,if you value your mental health. You would be treated with disdain everywhere in the world,not just in church. A poor man is on his own in this cold world.

ufotunang:
Na Tinubu renewed shege hard economy cause am

This one no be tinubu matter ooo...Na so the life just be. Porverty is never celebrated.

Truthseeker10:
You mean poor people are next to hell?

Porverty is even hell itself.

GboyegaD:
Is life really this hard? I guess you may need to read more on the value and power of relationships.

life is Very much easier without fake people.I don't need to read anything.people and time have taught me what no book can.

You have made vital points....I don't blame the USA for our problems as much as I would blame our own people selling us out.Our leaders are very much the people to blame in all these. They have proven repeatedly that they don't care about us,now the citizens out of desperation are left with no choice than to expect help from outside. Imagine when one is not shown love at home,an outsider only needs to do little to convince the person that they care.

For some years now,I have stopped calling anyone my friend...The highest I can call anyone,no matter how close we are is acquaintance. Na una dey give people title when dem never earn. People are selfish and opportunistic,they only come around when there is something to benefit. Once benefit stops,they vanish. For years now,I have never met anyone worth calling my friend...I have very high standards now and you have to prove it before earning my friendship.

I believe this your story die. Human being dey very unpredictable

Oracleee:
Peter comes to mind.


Early 2000s. We were kids close childhood friends. Our mums worked at the same place. We spent alternating weekends in each other’s houses. Him and his brothers would stay with us, we’d stay with them. We attended the same primary school. It was that kind of bond family-level closeness.
Then his mum got the opportunity to relocate to greater London. This was even before the whole japa wave became a thing. While she was sorting herself out, they stayed with us. Eventually she came back for her husband and kids, and off to London they went.
We lost contact for about a year.
One day, my mum said, “You people want to speak with the Babatopes?” We were excited me and my siblings. Childhood friends reconnecting after relocation? Sweet moment, right?
Wrong.
Peter and his siblings denied knowing us.
Flat out.
Asking “Who is this?” When I tried explaining, he acted like he had no idea who I was. My mum was shocked. I was a boy almost entering my teenage years, and my supposed best friend more like a brother that I already used to brag to my friends around erased me like I never existed.







That day stayed with me.
Fast forward about 15 years later. He wanted to come to Nigeria for something and needed help with security and accommodation. He reached out through my mum.
At that time, I was in the UK on course at Sandhurst.
I took my pound of flesh.
I feigned complete ignorance. Said I wasn’t even in the country. His mum called, acting surprised that I didn’t “know” them. The irony was loud.
Eventually I returned to Nigeria after my program. He was still around and tried reaching out to meet up. But that childhood hurt stuck with me. I cut ties completely.
Maybe people change. Maybe kids do silly things. But one thing I know is this if he had met me in a place where I wasn’t doing well, I doubt he would’ve wanted to reconnect.
Some people remember you only when you’re useful or successful.
I don’t hate him. I just believe in energy matching energy.

1MILLIONLiGHTS:
My problem is not the women. IF ONLY HER AND MY FAMILY,FRIENDS, NEIGHBOURS, CHURCH, WORK PLACE, RELATIVES AND COUSINS CAN LEAVE US ALONE, MARRIAGE WOULD HAVE BEEN SWEET TO ENTER. EVERY BODY WANTS TO CONTROL AND PILOT. NA WOMAN I MARRY ABI NA PEOPLE? MCHEW! AFRICA? HMM! EXTERNAL DISTURBANCES ARE THE GREATEST DISCOURAGEMENT TO MARRIAGE FOR ME. I PREFER TO MARRY IN OYINBO LAND SHA!

my brother,thanks for bringing up this point... ordinary relationship with a Nigerian gal;mama,friends, siblings,pastor,neighbours go want influence the relationship...you go come dey wonder wether na full community you dey do relationship with. Come imagine say you marry that kind person,na outsiders go dey control your marriage for you.

Check this out.

Una still dey marry?...Una never see anything, continue playing.

Malagans:
Depression is Real.

No family. No friends. No life

family and friends can't save you from depression.

For state when work no dey....

showlove911:
Awkward and terrible mindset and mentality....
There is more to life than food and consumption.

It's not ur fault....an average Nigerian is consumption conscious.

All the cheap food you hv been eating since ur childhood, has dat improved the global perception of Nigeria and standard of living

Re you intentionally proud to be called a Nigerian even from our nearest African neighbors?

Sycophants....

No mind am...all they know is food and fvck ...no accomplishment,no innovation... other countries are doing exploits but he is only concerned with cheap food...yeye ppl.

Nnamdipapa:
So everyone in Nigeria earns 70k?

most people in Nigeria are earning 70k or less.

Nnamdipapa:
There are other bills, mortgage $2800/month, heating and electricity, about 500$ per month. I was relatively healthy and had no need for the hospital. In Canada or western countries, you get the money and they all go out as bills plus you have to live a super boring life. I would prefer the bad roads and occasional power interruptions to a super boring life where you only exist to pay bills.

come back to Nigeria and be earning 70k with your family,I'm sure that will be better than paying high bills in Canada.

how much is minimum wage in Nigeria and minimum wage in Canada?

StoryHaven:
Sharaap! Who gave you the right to call me a Simp?

But really, I've been one sha.

Lessons learnt.

every man don simp before...

ZombieTAMER:
Met on a first day

knack on the first day

No rubber?

Idonbelivit

e dey happen even for Nigeria. I have experienced it personally,I always use rubber.

Tenrack:
bruh. That's it. Take care of your fawking self. Your health, eat well, no let any woman gaslight you. I learnt the hard way like yourself. Put yourself first, if her papa no well, no be your responsibility. I messed up gan. But I needed the wake up call. Now if I woo you, and you do shakara, I don't waste time. Girls too plenty to dey let one dey use you play. Omo that dude up there with him car still chop disgrace. Kai the mistake we make is thinking most women can be more than a sex object and offspring making machine. I'm not sorry to day.

una still dey try to even date woman. After my last relationship ended last year,I never woo woman again. Na to just fvck and move on....na so one call me the other day say she want sell something give me,sharperly I tell her make we lodge na if I come pick the stuff...she tell me say she no be that kind gal, immediately I delete her number and move ahead...I no get time to waste. I want fvck and no drama. If you bring drama,I cut you off.

Tenrack:
bro..wahlai. With all my experience and things wey dey sup for this life now. You'll be a fool to shoot yourself in the foot by getting yourself stuck with one female. You don set up yourself for failure.

I have been saying this too. These women aren't worth a man's commitment.do not take women seriously. Fvck as many as you can but do not commit,I repeat do not commit.

Duduyankee1:
My mistake is marrying to change her but unknowingly she doesn't need change. Guys be wiser than me when choosing your partner

I'm glad you learnt your lesson... don't try to fix women,you will regret it. If you met her a smoker, either you accept her like that or you leave her. Never try to fix a woman, it's not your job.

ZaddyJ:
Oga if you Dey and don’t have a woman you can be proud of then you need to check yourself. Bible sef talk am sey he who finds a wife finds a good thing. So if every woman wey u meet from Jan to December no match you taste then na you get problem.

fvck bible,face reality...no worry your eye go soon clear.

OredoPikin2:
Been born in Nigeria is a mistake and I intend not to bring up my kids in this environment.
If I nor fit travel out of this country, then make I nor just born.
Let everything associated with Nigeria end with me

I like your kind of person...You pity your unborn children enough,not to bring them into this hellhole.

LowKeyManny:
For the young kings, never spend your first big bag on family. I paid so much black tax and ended back where I came from, like I never left because I wanted to be a 'good child'. Paid over 6 million worth of loans for my mum. Spent another 3 million trying to set her up. All went down the drain. Funny thing, the stupid hag keeps calling me for loans I know nothing about. While I am quietly drowning. Lol. I work with my dad. Made profit of about 150m during the period I was trying to set up my mum (thinking my cut from the 100m would be for me to set up myself). My pops bought me an SUV in my name for #13m as a 'surprise'. And that was it. Not even 1 kobo from the 100m for maintenance or fuel. Lol.

My boss I've been working with for about 3 years now. Can't ask for more loyalty. I fucking bashed my SUV from my other hustle, chasing money with my boss, expecting some mad funds to roll in. After we lost over #450m in last minute dropped deals in 2025, I tried not to mount financial pressure on my boss. But tell me why I casually saw payment receipts from 2024 issued by the office to the govt ministry when I did all the work and my boss been acting like the ministry hadn't paid all this while. The job was small sum. #10m. meant to be a start for bigger contracts. And my Voss received #7m since 2024. I didn't even know. Lol.

It hurts. But we live and we learn. Walai. If the roles were reversed, I wouldn't treat any of these people the way they treated me.

Last last na only yourself you know.

I agree with you...na only you want the best for yourself,the rest people will always act from the place of selfishness.

bayfed:
Taking a girl I met online out yesterday, on reaching, noticing she wasn’t fancying me, i foolishly proceed to place orders, forcing communications, trying to pleased her, until she couldn’t ave it anymore, she left me there in my car. Don’t be like me, leave immediately as soon as you notice the feeling isn’t mutual.

stop taking women out,they are not worth it. Bring her home instead. If she no gree come your house,cut all ties with her.

ZaddyJ:
Oga if you Dey and don’t have a woman you can be proud of then you need to check yourself. Bible sef talk am sey he who finds a wife finds a good thing. So if every woman wey u meet from Jan to December no match you taste then na you get problem.

just dey play. You know bible reach pastors when their marriage don crash?

Emdi1914:
Are you sure it's about looking well and marrying the right person?Which kind of telescope would you use to look well?
My guy,life is about time and chance, you never know who would turn out good or bad, everyone needs LUCK.

e never understand life... people when never understand life dey quick blame others if they fail in something...In life,you can do everything right and still end with bad results.

Olachase:
I was warned to let her go but I refused because I met her in church

Not knowing that she has retired 😭😭

The church is the final bustop of every retired OS.

23jerryking:
Lies upon lies
At 31 years of age, I still haven't been with a girl, I've always had a strict moral code and by the grace of God have been careful enough not to get my priorities messed up. No sex till date I'm telling you, and yet why am I not succeeding in all that I do?

just imagine your case now.

Seeplusplus:
And some na 50k dem de collect like that. Omo the level of poverty and injustice in this country is mind blowing. Sadly, we're not sure it'll change during our lifetime

yes na,that kind job if them too pay na 70k to 100k salary monthly... that same time person when dey UK don use am work 3 jobs with far higher pay.