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brain54:
They are talking about promise to marry now...

You are talking about sex. I can never understand some of you!

did you bother to read what the person I quoted said before jumping on my mention? She is comparing the case of a guy that promised a gal marriage and ended up not marrying her with someone that got paid damages after a gal ate his money without showing up. Are they thesame?

saphiere:
So a lady promises a guy she was going to visit him. She later didn't go and was sued and made to pay damages.

On the other hand, a guy promises a lady marriage and did not marry her and she cannot sue him. Like seriously?

For those who would say that the former scenario collected money and refused to go visit him, also note that the latter collected sxxx and refused to marry her.

sex is intangible and it's mutually beneficial.

bigpriik:
I don't even care if you call me broke it's all manipulation.

women think calling men broke,stingy, unromantic will make us do their bidding. Na mvmv man dey take such words from women as insult. One called me stingy and unromantic yesterday,and I said "Thank you."

This life no get manual...who e favour go think say na him smart pass. There are people that rarely make effort,yet make progress while others toil day and night yet nothing to show for it. Do your best and leave the rest.

correctguy101:
Huh... I don't know what it'll be like. But I'm sure I'll prefer to kick jerrycan if I'm ever reduced to that. What's the point of living? I was once dependent
on mummy and daddy because I couldn't even think for myself let alone handle normal human matters. So after being able to take care of myself and others, I'll now let my own Royal Self revert to such helplessness? I might not tell anyone but I'll surely exit myself from existence...

I know I'm very casual with things like that as I've explored it before just to check something about myself back when I was younger.

You think like me bro....if it ever gets to that point for me,I would gladly exit myself.

Una still dey do relationship for this 2025?Make Una dey play. Thank God say I don wash my hand commot. I no dey like deceive myself.

Tendd:
You need a proper health and not necessarily alot of money.What is happening to all us men? Every one is talking only about money for longevity.The true elixir of life is a consistent exercise and this does not require much money.

Money dey very important...if you come dey physically fit and money to take chop no dey,no be misery be that?

Kobojunkie:
What is described in the OP has nothing to do with nature, but the result of human action, or in this case, inaction. This is the typical end of men who refuse to bond emotionally, mentally, and physically with their children and wives, or with their siblings and friends. This phenomenon has been studied, and yes, there is a male loneliness epidemic today, a result of the pattern of refusal by many men to connect in meaningful ways with their very friends and family when the chance to do so was before them. 🥱🥱🥱

2. Trying to further brainwash your baby boys into worshipping you will not remove the problem. Men need to learn to become emotionally and socially intelligent human beings, like humans are supposed to be. The onus is on men to learn to become better human beings overall, so they can connect with their fellow human beings on a level that best works for the species; stop expecting that you can use others to do the work for you. 🥱🥱

just dey play...A man can still do all you listed and end up lonely. In a world where a man is valued for what he can provide,the day he stops providing,all friendships are gone. The best bet for a man is on himself and his money.

Kalatium:
There’s a man in my neighborhood whose story has stayed with me.

Years ago, his home was a hub of life. Teenagers everywhere. Music blasting. Laughter spilling into the street. Young boys full of promise, respect, and energy. A mother holding the center. A family in motion.

Fast forward to today and the house is silent.

One son is gone. Another has relocated. The wife and daughters have moved on. What remains is a man sitting alone behind a gate, cooking for himself, washing his own clothes, watching the days pass without the noise that once defined his life.

This is a reality we rarely discuss.

We talk about career growth. We talk about wealth. We talk about legacy.

But we almost never talk about male loneliness in old age.

For many men, life slowly narrows: Children grow up. Homes empty out. Visits reduce. Attention fades.

Mothers are remembered, celebrated, visited with gifts and affection. Fathers, too often, are left behind quietly enduring, saying little, asking for nothing, but feeling everything.

This isn’t about blame. It’s about awareness.

Sons: Your father may not say much. He may act distant or grumpy. But he wants connection too. He wants to feel seen.

Daughters: Celebrate your fathers, not just on special days, but in ordinary moments. Presence matters more than presents.

Fathers: Be kind to your wives. Be warm with your children. Emotional deposits made today compound in old age.

Because here’s the uncomfortable truth: No promotion, no achievement, no title prepares a man for an empty house.

Old age doesn’t arrive suddenly, it creeps in quietly.

And how we love, show up, and stay connected today determines whether later years feel full… or painfully hollow.

This is not just a family issue. It’s a societal one.

Let’s do better while there’s still time.

it's not new...a man's life has always been a lonely one. It only gets worse with age and lack of money. People only come around a man mainly for what he can provide. It's a sad reality we have to face. The old and lonely men you see today are like that because they no longer have money. Even if dangote gets to 100years,he will not be lonely because he has what people can benefit from. In all you do as a man,make sure to have money. Na only your money fit save you last last.

Psoul:
Please, how old are you again?
When you ppl make some comments that can only be attributed to a kindergarten, we will need to verify your age to know who we are arguing with and know the level we'll need to come down to in order to respond to your label of understanding.

If you wouldn't mind, how old are you?

It's low IQ to assume you are wiser than someone just because you are older. Idiats also grow old.

JuanDeDios:
Avoiding a Sienna is basic in Nigeria?

that one no follow cos na sienna me dey like use travel.

NaijaNaWaa:
Na cheap oloshow dey take N100k/night oo. It’s N350k/ night now oo.

you don't mean it?? Gold dey their pvssy ni?

Lukuluku69:
She has a Job if you care to read the post and comprehend.

Besides, what has hook up prices got to do with raising Air Fares during the Yuletide periods?

Do you guys really think things thru before you comment on posts?

500k to Oweeri from Lagos? Is that not too.much?

E no get wetin some people no dey justify for this country. Little wonder why the country is a hell of place. Anything goes,no accountability,no responsibility. Why will our leaders even take us seriously with the way some people reason.

gentlegenius:
Very true...
You see, one of the sad realities of life is that everything we call relationship is transactional. Even the relationship between you and your family members, your friends and even your God.
Most of the people that hangs around you are simply there because of what they can benefit from you.That's why everyone wants to be friends with the rich, but desert the poor.
How about God?
Almost everyone that goes to church or tries to have a relationship with God, are doing so not because they love God, but simply because they expect or believe God to do certain things for them. People also try to relate with God because they fear that evil may come upon them if they don't do so.
How about Pastors/men of God?
Remove tithes, offerings and other financial benefits and 95% of them will run away from ministry. Church/ministry is where you'll see the height of transactional relationship. Very unfortunate.

don't even compare it with the relationship between pastors and their members. Pastors are ripping their members and in turn provide them with false hope. Closest comparison of such relationship is the one between yahoo boys and their clients.

Sonofgod1990:
I lie?

sex is good no doubt but I can no longer stress myself for it. Especially,if it comes with so much emotional stress then I'm off. To be honest knacking without any attachment is the best for me. No strings attached,no commitment.

Mistersolar:
no b small shege....imagine ur fiancee cheating and still rubbing it in ur face because u had slight misunderstanding

wtf menh...I gave up on anything marriage and relationship since last year... It's not worth it anymore. Make everybody do wetin work for am.

Sonofgod1990:
It worth d stress bro. I need to chop one tight opueh in d night so dat I will have a nice sleep. No opueh? No good sleep. Nice opueh will reset your memory to normal. Aswear

😂😂😂😂😂

A colleague of mine once told me that if he had known,he would not have married. His marriage was barely 3 years when he made that statement. Only honest men will tell you they regret getting married,the rest would pretend to enjoy their marriages and even deceive you to get married. Indeed,Misery loves company.

Sonofgod1990:
When you don scrutinized her opueh finish you go dey vex for her in any slightest mistake. Dat why I don't chop opueh 2 times. I chop you once and you go your way no matter how beautiful you are.

If you play hard to get I will use money to catch you and I will scatter your opueh and take your indomie then you go

The opueh is not worth the stress after all.

Another unpopular opinion is " He who finds a wife,finds a good thing...". This one too na scam.

OGwales:
Behind every successful man, there is a woman. That thing naa lie, most women are living liabilities not sorry to say

very correct.many of those generally accepted statements are all lies meant to deceive the gullible.

HeatSeeker:
Economics is always the major determinant in any relationship. When I say "economics," know that it is not always about money, but opportunity costs and other benefits (some of which you highlighted).

All relationships are inherently transactional in nature. No one maintains an interaction that does not benefit them either financially, emotionally, physically, spiritually, socially, and/or psychologically. There is always an exchange of benefits and that is the Koko

every relationship is transactional...remove the benefits and you see how useless it becomes.

theophorus:
Una go just call figures anyhow, so tey person go dey wonder which school una go.

50Million PoS Operator ke?
How many we dey for Nigeria, wen PoS Operators go reach 50Milloin?

The thing shock me ooooo...na to just dey cook up figures from him bed room.

Which kind lie be this.... northern people no drink alcohol reach south south. Una go just dey Una bed room dey cook up stats.

kiddaz:
Na so 2 weeks... No wonder una dey always vex. Na all these evil una dey do to una body and mind. When we never enter full blown war human being dey reason like this? Your moniker sef

my brother,if I hear some of them talk I go dey reason whether na aliens dem be becos I can't even imagine this kind of life they are living and promoting.

Caaz:
Oga these are foods cooked from my kitchen,not pictures generated from the internet. I love cooking and taking pictures.

continue deceiving yourself with lies...2000 go cook this food Just dey play

You don come again with another lie....na who no dey go market go believe op

Na lie you dey lie....you no fit cook this food with that amount.

Kalulu44:
Shey you hear my words, “take style”. And the style means you will eventually need them to give you children. Secondly you will be very very worried if after making money and women didn’t come to you or rushing you. That’s why I say technically we are working for women.
Let me ask you this question and be truthful with yourself. Will you take #1b and stop having sex till you die?

bring the 1 billion first,pvssy got nothing on me.