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Many people are in your shoes. I have come to the conclusion that the realest people are the ones that are alone. They can't connect with a world full of fake people. It gets to a point that conversations become very shallow and the real ones can't keep up with the facade. One thing that should keep you going is knowing that no one has it all figured out,forget what people are projecting outward. They have their weaknesses, difficult times, insecurities. It's a world of masks and unfortunately the realest people struggle to maintain the fake persona that is acceptable by the society.

Kastonkastroll:
Whats wrong with this girl? Anyway sha I just hope men are learning from this. No dey over do for any woman that is NOT your mother!

Buy the entire world for a woman and tomorrow that same woman will tell you what have you ever done for me.

Pa Ned should cut his loses and let this girl be. Get the custody of your kids and cut off whatever thing you had with her and her family. If Ned continue fighting this people online he will just keep loosing big time and disgrace himself

You deserved to be paid as Ned's adviser on family matters. This is the best advice for him right now. One thing I learnt overtime is, a man should not fight or quarell with a woman. You lose alot when you do that.

Abee79:
OP, your article presents a very one-sided and divisive view of relationships that doesn't reflect most people's reality. While it's true that both men and women can face real challenges in dating today, framing it as a secret "war" where one gender is unfairly attacking the other only creates more misunderstanding. Most people, both men and women, are just trying to find genuine connection and happiness. The healthiest approach isn't to see each other as enemies, but to work on clear communication, mutual respect, and understanding each other's perspectives to build better partnerships together.

bros,you are still sleeping. Virtually every woman out there is fully aware of this gender war going on. I pity any guy that is unaware of the dark psychology of the female gender. These women won't pity you for been ignorant.They are very ruthless and wouldn't hesitate to take advantage of a man's naivety. Relationship and marriage can be likened to a war where a man sleeps with his enemy. Your wife/galfriend is your competitor and enemy.Guard yourself with relevant knowledge and information.it is a cold world.

haggai247:
If you want to safe yourself from all this, THERE'S A SOLUTION, I'll summarize in ONE sentence.

NEVER CHASE A WOMAN...

ONLY DATE A WOMAN THATS INTERESTING IN DATING YOU.

IN SUMMARY LET THE WOMEN CHOOSE YOU AS A MAN... YOUR JOB IS TO SCREEN FOR GOLDDIGGERS, TENDENCY OLOSHOLISM ETC

plus the law of Satan (THE MOST RELIABLE WAY TO GET RIDE OR DIE)

IF SHE NO GIVE CLEAR GREEN LIGHT NEVER APPROACH HER.

ANYTHING ELSE MEANS YOU'RE PLAYING A Game you can lose

the ultimate solution is mgtow. If every man out there should go his own way, the whole system would collapse and men will be valued again.

Ezeama400:
I thought they claim to be respectful, Abi the respect na eye service ?

From beating their oba, to kpaing their teachers

Bros na eye service ooo...they are very disrespectful.

MikeofKd:
The truth...
Money doesn't entirely bring happiness , if you feel otherwise it's because your broke and when your broke you see or think of money as a god but then when you have enough of it , it becomes boring , Ur brain is now looking for something new that's challenging cause apparently your money problem has been conquered already.

Even the things that once use to shark you before doesn't shark you again , that's exactly the same way money is.
I pray you have enough money too sha so you can experience and realise that money doesn't necessarily equates to a happy life. It's very lonely at the top.

it's also very lonely at the bottom. Money contributes to people's happiness. How can a man that barely feeds be happy?

Freshandfitpod:
But it brings comfort, why are men still getting married for heaven sake? This bannies don't want you, they are only using you. I have a podcast where I explain why? Google my moniker.......

Omo,me self dey wonder...even dating self is no longer worth it.

PhilipEboh:
The Truth is your woman is not any better.
I wish the men here knew what Thier respective women secretly fantasize about and a fully capable of. Coming from a married man!

I like this your comment...if men knew what their supposedly innocent women are truly capable of,they would not even commit in the first place. Women are bunch of pretenders. They are not genuine.

jaxxy:
It's an open relationship or she's keeping her options open or she's still looking for her husband.

It is not cheating unless its an exclusive relationship and u have set the limits or boundaries.

There are different kinds of relationships. serious casual, undefined, exclusive, mutually exclusive or open, relationships.

So pls b4 u get insecure know the context of the situation. u are not married to her. She has a choice.

So you think getting married to her will make her bad behaviours go away? You obviously don't understand female nature. If she is doing this while dating, expect her to do worse in marriage. I pity man when no understand women. E go learn the hard way.

Women are not meant to be taken seriously...they hate to take accountability for their actions. I see no reason why a man should commit to that gender.

Kobojunkie:
So you know of standard yet pretended that women requiring them are silly? You think you are smart by half,abi? 🥱🥱🥱

kobo, people still wear slippers to dates...guys and gals wear slippers to dates. If I'm on a date with a gal and her slippers gets spoilt,I won't judge her with that. If there is anyway I can help her,I would do that. Anybody that abandons you because your slippers got spoilt on a date should not be in your life. It means if worse situation should occur,she would not hesitate to ditch you.

Kobojunkie:
You mean women are not allowed to have standards as far as the bare minimum that they would date?

what standard are you talking about?That the guy's slippers accidentally got spoilt should now be considered a redflag? It's something that can happen to anyone no matter how careful you are... it's why I prefer wearing shoes sometimes cos I know shoes are more reliable but that doesn't mean I will now crucify the guy cos his slippers disgraced him.

I stopped that maaadness 11years ago...instead of giving my money to any church I rather use it to carry olosho

nams77:
Not at all. had an ex- girlfriend who had like just one pair of good shoes when I met her. Never looked down on her, rather motivated her to pay attention to her appearance and even got her some stuffs later. But if it was the reverse, most of these generation women would abandon the man.
You lots are so materialistic. If that's a true story, the bro should just thank God because he dogged a bullet.

Na live bullet e dodge...he doesn't need a prophet to tell him that the gal is not for him.

Authoreety:
But if it wr to be the other way round, man wldnt hav blanked her

Men need to stop mugu-ing

very correct...Na men dey stress themselves on top liability. If it was the other way round,the guy might have even given up his own slippers but just imagine what she did to him when the reverse was the case. Omo,this life. Dey for who dey for you make you no go dey mvmv yourself ontop liability.

meobizy:
Content creation at pandemic levels nowadays.

everything no be content jaree...this na normal thing some 9ja babes fit do man.

Iamcomingforu:
Being realistic? If the table had turn the other way, the guy would have look for a solution to the situation rather than abandon the lady all by herself. People like you with this mentality will be the reason many girls will remain single for a long time.

You can imagine what is coming out from a grown female adult. This generation is gone. Tell me why a Guy in his right state of mind would commit to a lady that has this kind of reasoning... It's far better to live and die a single than have this kind of woman beside you. She is not a help mate but a liability.

I hope he learnt his lessons with this before it's too late...these gals don't even deserve to be taken on a date... ordinary say slippers cut,she block you... imagine what she would have done if something worse happened. I stopped all these nonsense dates since last year. If you no fit come my house then rest...No time for any nonsense date.

Angelfrost:
This indoctrinated spite and bad blood between Yorubas and Igbos just makes me realize that most Nigerians are not really educated and intelligent.


I mean... If all you need to hate another person of the same color and nationality is what you were told about their tribe, then how are you not as bad as RACISTS in America and Europe?!!

American racists are better than Nigerian tribalists... Nigerian tribalist hates his fellow country man. To tell you how terrible it is, once a Yoruba person knows you are ibo, automatically you are an enemy. Even without having any bad or negative personal encounter with you,he already concludes you an enemy... education hasn't really done much for Nigerians cos even the educated ones are so myopic and can't think for themselves. It's such a shame.

FreeSpirited:
The scripture is not the thought of man.
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The Bible said God inspired holy men to write the word of God.
Peter said as holy prophets were moved and inspired so they spoke.
All prophesy in the Bible was not written by the will of man. Timothy said all scriptures are written by the inspiration of God.
. ... ..

Genesis said God created Adam in his Image. That means Adam being male was the true copy of the image of God.
But Even was created out of Adam. If God was Female, he would probably have created Adam female and make a male out of his rib.... This is straight forward....
You can't classify Bible like the literature you read for your UTME

Are you aware the bible you put your whole trust in has been edited overtime? Many things were removed and many things were added just for the purpose of controlling people. What stops that same God from inspiring you and not relying on the writings of those that claimed to have been inspired by God?look around the world today,so much injustice,pain and suffering and you still believe this is a design of a loving God.

FreeSpirited:
Why do you want to know who created God.
Who told you you have the capacity to know who created God even if he were created?
Do you even know who your true Father is, or the true father of your great grand father. Except that you were told, and a man told you his your father. Can you verify the claim? What if you were adopted? What if you were a product of paternity fraud that your mom never revealed to you or anyone. What if your great grandfather was a product of paternity fraud too.
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You don't even have capacity to know who truly was your father you want to know who created God....
Does that even make any sense? Like God of the whole universe O. Yet he gave us a witness through his prophets and scripture that his knowledge/wisdom is unsearchable, u want to search it bro? But u can't even have proof of the true Father of your great grandpa.
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Oga, better go and sit down and seek mercy

one issue I have with you people is throwing insults around when explaining something....The God you are addressing as "he",how are you so sure it's a male gender and not female. Op has always encouraged us to be open minded,but here you are already concluding God's gender because one religious book that was written by human being like you told you so...one thing that I have always learnt is to to keep asking questions and not accept everything I hear or read hook line and sinker.

OKOATA:
Bros abeg no tell me say na you form all these things cos at the end of the day na inside book you read am. Although I believe in reincarnation cos people who go into coma usually don't remember a thing so no doubt but years back Nigeria was around 100M and now we are about 250M so the world population keeps increasing. Does it means new souls are being created and reincarnated. Lol.. For your aspect about God that's your believe though.

A phone has a maker, gadgets and all have a maker. Definitely humans have a maker. Do you think it's by coincidence that we are in the likeness of our maker? You that you can't create your own brain or see inside of it and how it functions assume God doesn't exist. Wait that sun that's mighty and blazing hot up there in the sky do you think the entity who created such can be stayed close to? If the entity created the sun bros it's impossible to see such a being without perishing. Merely looking at the sun alone can blind ones eyes. Do you expect to see such an entity who created such? And for fear you are mentioning yes humans are created in fear, subjugation and that's how the life of humans is. So whether humans are afraid of the entity or not doesn't matter.

If we go by your reasoning that everything has a maker,then who created God? Don't tell me God created itself.

$13000 for airfare? Na Jupiter Una dey carry person go?

Prechgold1180:
She don win already. Nur be Nigeria we dey. Those stupid men go chop her then give her post. I hear say wan sitting governor buy lambo for mercey eke.

not governor,former house of assembly member.

3kay945:
Hahaha, apart from other factors mentioned, I personally believe it is also associated with your beliefs. People wonder how and why they were born into a poor family, that they were brought here especially Nigeria to suffer.

Well,, let me borrow the Grail message" I am not propagating it or something but there is some of the teaching I key into cos, it explained issues like this in a way that makes sense.

For your parent to born you into a poor background, it is belief that their souls attracts yours and that of your siblings.
You have something in common.

So it is not their fault. It is just like a bird of a feather.

However, you can change the situation if you strive to be a better person and create your own path in life.

So, I laugh when I see stuff like this.

bros, life is deeper than your grail message

Riversides2003:
Less than a month wey supply stop Regina no fit pay 570k Na wah o

these women are worth nothing without men...forget all the noise they make online,na still men dey fund their lifestyle.

Saturnalia:
That number 4 image na die. It is called urinating in the multiverse of backflipping madness.

you got me laughing out loud.

Sonnobax15:

All for the cam, just to pepper Dem the single members among them whereas,back home,they use different styles of smack down in greeting each other

You get the gist my guy. All na fake life.

2elliot:
I believe that the world is made of more NPCs than humans. They are the soulless beings who are used to try and persecute the righteous ones. They are the fake humans who defend the wicked system of killings and oppression.

flesh and blood did not reveal this to you. Ever since I realized this,I now focus on my self alone. No time for Npcs that wanna derail me from my path.

I don't agree with you on kidneys.

Zonefree:
An average Nigerian has no right. So, wtf are Deji and co fighting for?

No one is fighting for anyone. They're all fighting for their pockets.

I agree with your statement. An average Nigerian is a slave in his/her country.

ReacherSaidNoth:
"Foolishness" of the male species is not limited to humans. The elaborate courtship display of other animals makes ours look like child's play. You've male animals fighting to the death for the chance to impress and mate females.

Ultimately the blame lies in nature.

you can blame nature as much you want but humans should have self control.self control is what makes you different from lower animals. We men all feel sexual urge, let us not lie. That doesn’t mean we should allow that urge control our logic. One advice I will give to guys that love sex too much is instead of simping for a woman, get OS and pay her for it. It saves you stress and emotional stress. Oloshos are the only honest women out there. They don’t have to pretend to be who they are not.it is simply pay for service and render service.It is even cheaper on the long run. Another option is masturbation. A lot of guys frown at it but it’s better to masturbate than simp for a woman