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Cynluv: 2yrs dating not 4yrs,we dont live same state,he lives @ ph while I stay in enugu.I think he is financial ok cos he kept on telling me things he bought etc and if he doesn't have d money at d moment why can't he explain dat to me,I will understand cos I love him so much than promising dat he will send it dis week, nxt week and so on bt will never do dat.if I complain he will just say dat he is sorry!.the worst part of it is dat if even I got angry and say that I won't talk to him or pick his calls bt whn he calls me I will nt have d mind to ingoner his calls 4 once.why is dat so.

De Tus: @HisRib, you're doing a wonderful job so far. Are u paid for this job? Am just curious :-)

Energito: the problem the guy have with the girl is that the is hot temper type which made the guy to always be afraid of talkin to her about that.but to say the gal love my guy so much

Cynluv: I have been dating this guy 4 two years,he doesn't keep to his promises always promise and fail...whn it comes to money same thing.now we have done our first and second marriage introduction.he still doesn't keep his promises in terms of gift n money.should I contiune d marriage or not.or will he change after our traditional and white wedding?
I'm so worried

Isk: i honestly wasn't turned on by d fact that he runs a biz cos i dnt really consider that steady income. I agreed to the date(casual date) just to see if something'l spark my attraction-sense. Also, some frnds say i'm too picky so i wanted to see......*shrug* if i really am unnecessarily being picky.
To ans ur oda Q, whn i'm approached by some1, i judge on a scale of 1-10, if i won't mind kissing d person(vain right?). On dt scale, i'm a 4 with him, i.e dnt really find much abt him attractive. He's nt bad looking tho and I am attracted to the fact that he's learned and is down to earth. Sorry if i'm nt making much sense, but this is how best i cn explain myself. Pls help

Energito: Hi please i have sumtin to ask. My friend has bn dating her g.f for 1yr now when the girl broke up with his ex,my guy and the g.f love eachother so much which i know but my guy told me that her G.F ex b.f started calling her g.f on phone since this month telling her that he want her back.he also told me that he allow the girl to pick ex call whenever he called her G.F not minding that both of them spend upto 45mins talking on phone.the guy has bn asking me if it is good to allow that?

Isk: Hi,
here's my story:
1st, the longest i've ever been in a relationship is 7months(dunno if i'm d problem or no)
2nd, i recently met this guy on my way from work. He's an architect and runs his own company. He's pretty boisterous and was a little 2 mch 4 me to take at first. D second time we met, i felt a lil more at ease with him and his hyper state. We haven't had a real date yet and ds 2nd time we met, he askd if i'd be his gf. I told him let's see what happens after our first date and he said ok. My concern is: i dnt feel any attraction to him at all so my 1st tot would be to say no, but, i gues d attraction cn come with time ryt? Also, since i've never hd a long lasting relationship, i'm wary of entering 1 i feel may nt last at least a yr.
What do u advise pls?

Bryt B: Hi,pls my 1st nd only gf lies nd cheat.i met her 3yrs ago, bt discovered dat 9mnths later.so i became careful wit her by nt showin her hw much i care fully even tho i luv her so much.she jst agreed 4mnths ago abt her lies nd cheatin nd beggin 2 get back my luv fully.d problem nw is dat, i dnt trust her to have change 4 real.pls advise

emiye: We couldnt have known how succesful lumumba would have been, he spent less than 8 months as a leader (1960 -1961)

From the article i quoted, the division and crack started from within in a matter of months after independence between prime minister lumumba and president kasavubu, a self centered tussle for power between the two most powerful congo men of the time.


Do not also forget as you can see from the article i quoted immediately above, it was lumumba who empowered mobutu sese seko as the chief of staff of the army. it is the same man that backstabbed him, and declared mutiny

The crack was from within, my point is more reaffirmed, Africans are typically self centered and care little about the greater good, once a situation does not benefit them .

i will repeat, Africans have themselves to blame, the "west" can only take advantage of a divided house.

okpara ugo: There is this girl I like. When I toasted her, she fell for me after 2 weeks and started being nice. One morning, she cried on phone that she might be jilted after developing feelings for me. from that day she started being very cold towards me. I know she wants marriage.. but I don't like this approach.

I want marriage too but i hate a rush. Direct me.

I know from past experience that feelings grow and are meant to develop to maturity. Girls of today will ask you under one week of meeting them ''what do you want from me''? When you say, ''marriage''. she goes ahead to say, ''is that a proposal''? to tag along, you say ''yes''. Only to realize later that you never loved such a girl...

24in7: I hope say no b toes u use they type dis ur post

PurpleHouse: thats a big fat lie my dear!
Nigeria is no ones puppet... Do you know whats called a puppet? Cameron is called a puppet, Not a Country like Nigeria...
Yes! We may respect other Oyibos them whenever we see them, even giving them contracts ahead of our fellow blacks, relax, thats just part of the Inferiority complex we built into ourselves.. Robert Mugabe was able to charismatically wipe that out from his homeland, unfortunately, we haven't had a leader like that down here.. But, we are no man puppet and thats why no countries seem to support us whenever we are in trouble, they only seem to be protecting their interest and investments.

PurpleHouse: I remember during the time of Obasanjo, when Charles Taylor was being asked to be released to the International Court or so, OBJ didn't buy the idea, he never wanted to release him. He was invited to pay a visit to America by Bush, Taylor got missing, only for him to be captured at the point of crossing to another Border... Now, why was OBJ invited to America by Bush? Lol, the guy tell am many things naa.. Twist him hand. Warn am wella. Who you be? Oyaa release that Criminal before we open your nyansh.... Was i there? Nope! But thats how the game is played behind the scenes.
Talking about trades within African states: tell me, How will Cameroon do trade with Nigeria without permission from Oga at the top? How will CIV do biz with English speaking countries when the Oga will not be too happy? How will Africa do serious trade together when French speaking countries have taken over CAF? There's always some ringing the Alam Bell from the Top... And thats why i Love My Present Nigeria, we don't Worship no Britain, we stand man to man with 'em and flex muscles sometimes too, yet, they still know our weak points, Very Well.

ROSSIKE: Intra-African trade is increasing by the day. There are roads being built that connect all of West Africa. Even rail projects are in the pipeline. Nigerian and SA companies are setting up branches across the continent etc. These things will take time to fully develop. It was only 50 years ago African nations became free to do anything. We need to be patient.

ROSSIKE: Patrice Lumumba was the great Congolese leader who was accountable, progressive, and popularly elected after their independence. He was about to turn Congo into the economic powerhouse of Africa, but was overthrown and assassinated in a CIA led coup in the 1960s, and they promptly imposed an illiterate sergeant, Mobutu Sese Seko on the nation. The rest is history.

How is that about ''Africans having no one but themselves to blame''? People like you need to simply think before playing loud lapdog to western manipulators.

GeneralShepherd: Good evening Hisrib, hope you are doing great?

Please,there's this girl I've known for four years now,she's 29 and I am 26. I have always liked her but I know I can't date her because one she is my elder sister's colleague and everybody keeps saying she attaches no meaning to sex. My elder sister detests it when I even talk with her,yet in their office she's the girl that goes out of her way to make everybody hapy!

On wednesday,I went to her house(planned by us) I spent two nights there and the sex was superb. We clearly know we are not dating or planning to because she has a bf and we can't be. She also loves dating men that are stinkingly rich.

Yet,right from when I left her house I've been feeling empty,to be honest with you I am liking her awhole lot more. Her cooking is heavenly,she is very nice and caring (at least while you are with her)

This is not the first time I am having this kind of relationship,but something doesn't feel right. Any advice please

faakay: @relationship expert

Niz one.

Here is mine own questn
I have a gf, but I met her friend of recent. I must confess she fine die! But didn't show it. Before I knew she wan commending me and whenever she sees me she smiles giving me green light. I got her number then decided to play a trick.

I called her one night but unfortunately she was wit my gf so when she knew I was d one she hung up.

The next time I went to check on my gf, she was busy so she sent her friend to me. So we walked along we were chatting normal convo. When it got to a stage she said I'm not for her dat I'm for my gf. I was like what do u mean? I end d convo and left.

I sent her a txt sha wasn't like that bla bla bla - format tins, inside d txt I told her I love ma girl so much

D next day she sent insultive txt to me lol. I replied to wit insultive msg

Before ds girl was xe txt wit me, she sent me upto 20 msgs until I got tired and stopped responding even thou my txt was abusive but nasty and eroooooticcc lol,

Thou my gf knew later cos she told her but didn't show d msg. Lool was expecting troubles thou but just wanted to ve fun, she started to posion by gf mind towards me thou my gf still came back to me.

What does she really want?

biafranqueen: this is correct and once they have peace in the Congo the Western world would be brought to their knees. Also the product that makes flat screen TV is from here. Anybody that thinks white supremacy has nothing to do with the conflict in Congo is a brainwashed fool. They keep the conflict going so they can control the person controlling the mines. Divide and conquer the oldest tactic used since they discover Africa. Africans are to blame to keep falling for such nonsense and not realizing they have more to gain. When you are worried about just staying alive and finding food the masses will not rise up against those looting the resources!

biafranqueen: this is correct and once they have peace in the Congo the Western world would be brought to their knees. Also the product that makes flat screen TVA is from here. Anybody that thinks white supremacy has nothing to do with the conflict in Congo is a brainwashed fool.

Why isn't Congo on this list?
www.nairaland.com/1522954/richest-countries-world-metal-minerals#19881468

solomon111: Congo is a painful paradox.
The biggest and richest tech coys in the world like samsung apple,boeing BAE will crash if they fail to get access to congo's silicon and coltan deposits,yet congo is one of the most improverished nations in africa.
The entire military apparatus of america will collapse without congo's colbat,yet that same congo is one of the weakest nations in africa.
Imagine if congo had the leaders that would unite them and force all these tech coys leaching from them to establish manufacturing plants there.
Their industrial revolution would eclipse europe and china.
The AU has tremendous power,unfortunately they're not using it.
Our continent is the richest,and should be the most developed in the world.
The best brains in the world should be migrating to africa,the reverse is the case.

emiye: @op, DR Congo is not the largest country in Africa. it is the second largest.

the top 3 in this order are Algeria, DR congo and Sudan.

You are right about the richness of DR congo in mineral resources, but it is a misnomer that the country's poverty rate is still one of the worst in the world, no thanks to bad leadership and political instability.

Mondisweets: Romantic dinner at home? What if all your man can do is make idomie with eggs

drnoel: DR Congo: Cursed by its natural wealth

The Democratic Republic of Congo is potentially one of the richest countries on earth, but colonialism, slavery and corruption have turned it into one of the poorest, writes historian Dan Snow.

The world's bloodiest conflict since World War II is still rumbling on today.

It is a war in which more than five million people have died, millions more have been driven to the brink by starvation and disease and several million women and girls have been raped.

The Great War of Africa, a conflagration that has sucked in soldiers and civilians from nine nations and countless armed rebel groups, has been fought almost entirely inside the borders of one unfortunate country - the Democratic Republic of Congo.

Congo waterfall
Many of the country's mining operations are connected to the waters of the mighty Congo River
It is a place seemingly blessed with every type of mineral, yet consistently rated lowest on the UN Human Development Index, where even the more fortunate live in grinding poverty.

I went to the Congo this summer to find out what it was about the country's past that had delivered it into the hands of unimaginable violence and anarchy.

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-24396390

mister josh: 9ja will always b close to my heart, thnk God I've a large heart.

mister josh: I wanna migrate there!

chymystique: After doin all these and d relationship still heads to the cliff, wahs d use