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[quote author=born_to_be_gr8t]Source[/quote]"The Democratic Republic of Congo is potentially one of the richest countries on earth, but colonialism, slavery and corruption have turned it into one of the poorest, writes historian Dan Snow."

Source: http://m.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-24396390

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Ur source ?? You need to substantiate ur claims[/quote]Chaiii this one just won't accept it.

careytommy: Congo is not just the richest country in Africa, but the whole world.......potentially.

Do you know where I can find more info about the country? I'm just so interested in it now. I'm just so shocked I've never heard of this before.

[quote author=born_to_be_gr8t]DR Congo my foot..a barren waste land[/quote]Dear, I was just as shocked as you are. It's a very rich country. I even found out the mineral used to make the chip found in our phones & gadgets come from Congo. It's called Coltan. It's only found in 2 countries, Australia, which has 16% of it & Congo (DR) has the rest of it.

[quote author=born_to_be_gr8t]Fake news [/quote]Sweerie! This is not fake news! I know you're hurt to find out Naija is not the wealthiest country in Africa, but it's the truth.

[quote author=Chima_Agbalajob]DR Congo is indeed one of the wealthiest countries in the world.

But like Nigeria, in the end potential count for nothing if your people will rather fight over what they potentially have than work to develop that potential for the good of every citizen. Africans are a sorry race of people

I fear Nigerians will typically of Africans spend money meant for their development and higher standard of living to purchase arms to kill each other after 2015. Classical of black people.[/quote]It's so sad! We suffer because we have horrible leaders. Our leaders are slaves to the West. This is why I respect Mugabe. He refuses to be anyone's puppet.

[quote author=born_to_be_gr8t]Source[/quote]Ask google.

I've always thought Nigeria and South Africa were the richest countries in Africa -- in terms of minerals and resources. But, yesterday a friend of mine (who is from Congo) sent me a video about the Congo (DR). The video, which I thought was quite interesting, inspired me to do some research about the country.

I was shocked to find out that not only is Congo the richest country (in minerals/resources) In Africa, it's also the richest in the entire world. Worth well over $24 trillion in minerals & resources.

Oh and Excuse my ignorance, but I had no idea Congo was the largest country in sub-saharan Africa and the second largest in the whole of Africa. It's amazing how much you learn when you interact with other africans.

Just the other day, I learned a few things about Mugabe that made me have so much respect for him and his country. He might be crazy, but that man loves his people & his country. Who knew Zimbabwe was the most educated country in Africa, with a 90% literacy?

I'm inspired to learn more about my fellow Africans.

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Sorry Mods.

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pasqal09: This doesn't apply to nigerian girls abeg

This isn't address to women only! Men as well. Romance is both for women & men. And both partners must contribute.

Danhumprey: Thumb up!!!!!!!
These sure can make a relationship to be romantic. But most Naija girls are just money-conscious. All they want in a relationship is money!

But Naija men are partially responsible for that. Most Naija men use materialistic things to attract women?

Regardless of how much money you may have, why not woo her with your intellect? Kindness? Politeness?

Why must it always be I can do this for you or buy this for you?

That should come later.

Romance should be mandatory in every relationship. Most couples shy away from it because they've been tricked into believing one needs to have a large amount of money in order to be romantic.

I'm going to teach you five ways you can implement romance into your relationship without having to spending too much money:

1) Quality Time

Spending quality time with your significant other can be quite romantic. There are many ways you can spend this time with you partner. I would recommend watching movies (at home), going for a walk, cooking together, shopping together and much more. During quality time, you have your partner's undivided attention. That's what makes it so romantic.

2) Romantic Dinner at Home

You don't always have to go to a fancy restaurant to have a romantic dinner. You can have it at the comfort of your own home and make it special in your own way. What's better than being at home with your lover, eating delicious food and listening to slow/sexy music? And of course after dinner, we all know what's going to happen in the bedroom.

3) Fun Activities

There are so many fun activities for couples out there. Plan something! If you are the boring type of couple, why not do something out of your element? Do something out of the norm.

4) Romantic Gateway

Not everyone can afford to go to Mexico, Monaco, Barcelona or the Bahamas for a romantic vacation. That stuff is great, but it's also overrated. Why not book a weekend at a 4 or 5 star hotel in your city? Not only is it cheaper, it also gives you the chance to explore and create memories in your own city. Or, you can visit another city within your country. It's amazing the things we discover when we stop taking what we have for granted. There's a lot to discover in your city/country. This is your chance.

5) Sex

Yes, that's right! I'm talking about the type of sex where you take your time to make sure your partner is fully satisfied.
Small tip for the Ladies: when he comes home from work, meet him at the door naked and slowly bring him to the room and rock his world. Don't just do the same routine sex like everyday. Once in a while, light it up in the bedroom and I guarantee you, he'll be hooked to your hip forever.


Please Note: I offer free relationship advice and guidance. If you have any questions about your relationship or love life, ask here: http://askhisrib.weebly.com/ask-his-rib.html // I also started a thread on here where I've been giving advice. Feel free to ask your questions there as well.

joechima: Do I have a problem??am a guy of 29 am always falling for girls that am Ten Years older,and feel I want to get married to that range later on.

There is nothing wrong. But, if you want children, this may not be a good option for you. Unless maybe you already have children elsewhere. If a woman 10 years your senior is really what you love & prefer, go for it.

Ashlamzee: Why is it that men do use me and dump, they always cheat on me i dn't have man of my own why op?

Do they use you sexually?

It could be that you are dating bad guys. When you meet a guy, take time to know him. I keep telling women that. Don't be too quick to become his girlfriend. Get to know him first. Go on a few dates & see what type of guy he is.

Questions for you:

Do you have sex with men quickly after you meet them?

What is the longest relaionship you've been in?

What reasons have your past bf given for dumping you?

drake99: no girl wants 2 date me,even wen i offerd money,am nt ugly,som1 said its spiritual wife problem,could it be true?

No girl wants to date you?

How do you ask them out?

I'm not a pastor. I can't tell you if it's a spiritual wife problem. Have you talked to your pastor about this?

Fkforyou: Hy,I've known dis girl since I was in JSS 3..back in 2006,she started showin me signs dat she was into me since but I ignored her,wen were in SS 1 my friends use to tell me she was into me and dat made me angry dat I was very cold to her infact I hated her back then,fast forward to early dis year when she got admission (am in 300 lvl while she is in 100lvl)....I started to hang out with her as per former class mate..one day,when were discussing about life in sec.skul she opened up to me about how I was mean to her and how miserable I made her feel and to make matter worse I was hanging out with one other of my other female classmate(we even use to walk home together with 2 of my best friends but seriously my friendship with her was just platonic cos we were living in thesame area).....I appologised cos I realy felt guilty,we became closed friends that I even began to have feelings for her,when I told her abt it she was happy but expressed regret that I was late,she has waited for me for so long and now she was in a relationship(although it's not that stable) we still became friends but with time I began to realise that I had all those feelings for her out of pity,then abt a month a month ago I asked her if she has made up with her former boyfriend after their previous break up,her answer was no,I felt pity for her and encouraged her to even get into another relationship cos I only wanted to be friends with her,she felt betrayed and disappointed and ever since I've felt guilty and to be honest she is a good girl but I know deep down I don't love her as much as she do...although she is not all dat beautiful(am sowi for beign shallow) she is a very nice person and I feel she deserves a good guy.pls how do I make dis feeling of guilt go? I've even reduce the frequency of calling her just to make it go away... I just want to be friends with her, I don't want to be in a relationship with her out of pity of how long she has bin there for me..Can you love someone out of pity and guilt?
Am sowi for my long post I gave details so that u'll be able to understand where am coming from...thanx in advance.

Hi Dear,

Never get into a relationship with someone because you pity them. That's a very bad idea. There's nothing wrong if you don't like the girl. You should never force love, let it happen naturally.

You have absolutely no reason to feel guilty. If you feel guilty everytime you talk to her or hang out with her, I suggest you withdraw from her a little bit. You need to give yourself some space.

If this girl is in love with you and you know very well you don't want to be with her, you need to stop hanging around her/calling her too much. By calling and hanging out with her, you are not helping her or the situation.

Don't be too available. By always being there, you're sending her the wrong message.

If you want the feeling of guilt to go away, you need to give yourself some space. Don't be around her too much. Don't call her too much. By being with her too much, you're only digging a hole for yourself.

Thr feeling of guilt has nothing to do with the girl. It's you. You need to forget the past and move on. Give this girl some space so she can move on with her life as well.

Barryp: This reminds me of my situation (posted here). I av decided to travel to my state nxt month because of that girl. My mission is to 'disvirgin' her and then break up wit her! This myt sound nasty, bt I feel am on the loosin side, havin maintained d sexless relatnshp wit her for 2 yrs. Ops, wats ur take plz? Besides, I'v deleted her contacts

Hi There,

I don't think that is a good idea. The best thing to do is to move on and learn from this situation. Next time you find yourself in a relationship don't allow your partner to trick you. Before you get committed to anyone, take your time and make sure you really know the person you're dating. Don't just jump into things because you are very attracted to her. Find out if her feelings for you are real.

Move on with your life. You will find a better woman. Don't worry.

bigW: Plz I av a very disturbin issue bt I dnt want to paste it hia,can u send ur mail addy to me,so I can send my prob to u,nd u advice me thru dat medium,thank u

Hey there,

Sure. You can email me at askhisrib@gmail.com or you can submit your question through my blog http://askhisrib.weebly.com/ask-his-rib.html

Hi guys! I'm a bit busy today, but will answer your questions as soon as I get some free time.

Stay strong!

Sanguine: Why not just go around shabbily dressed so that ''men, especially the married ones'' would be very disgusted by your presence, huh!! Lady pretty! Keep hyping yourself!

No need to hype myself. I'm speaking the truth. Don't like it? Not my prob.

joromi: In the class, library, programs in school.....
No, to the last three questions...

Well in this case, I would suggest initiating small talk with him. Ask him if you can borrow a pen or something like that. Don't make anything obvious. Just be normal.

And another thing you can do, give him a compliment. You can say, you like his shoes, color of shirt looks great on him or something along those lines. Again, don't make anything obvious. Just see it as though you were giving a friend a compliment. Don't do anything extra.

If he's interested, he will take the opportunity to carry on a conversation with you. OR he might not carry on the convo right away, but next time he sees you, he will say something to you.

If he doesn't care to do all that, he's simply not interested.

Vickycherish: thanks dearie!! I feel betterr now

You're welcome luv! I'm glad you feel better!

[quote author=joromi][/quote]Well it's hard to suggest hints because I'm not sure about how/where you and him often run into each other.

Do you just see him in class?

Do you ever see him outside of school?

Do you have mutual friends?

Do you have him on your facebook?

Vickycherish: i relly do like the guy we hav evn discuss the marriage tin and hes like waiting4 2yrs would be lon4 him..bt evem after he says that he still gets closer to me he dosnt keep any distance frm me...i dont knw if hes still making hes decision to wait or not....i just dont wnt 2get hurt at d end of the day if hes not able to wait

My dear,

If this man truly loves you, he will wait. That's all I can say to you.

It's very selfish of him to refuse to wait just 2 years, knowing very well you're still a student.

If he refuses to wait, let him go. Don't sacrifice your future/education for a man. It's not worth it.

Vickycherish: Need your advice on this
i met this guy this yr jan ending and we have been close frnds we even discuss intimate issues he even has a pet name for me now the issue is the guy likes me and is attracted to me and he says he would like to marry me(hes working and ready for marriage) but the tin is im still in d uni and im running a 5yr prog nd im in my 3rd yr im not considring marriage untill i get to my finals....whats your advice on this?? Shuld i let him go since im not ready 2marry yet

Hi There,

Why should you let him go? You can engage in a courtship until you complete your finals and are prepared for marriage.

Have you talked to him about your feelings towards marriage? Did he say he wasn't willing to wait until you are ready?

I suggest you have a talk with him about it before go ahead & make your decision.

But, for some reason, I'm under the impression you don't really love this guy.

gooses: Pls I want to ask a question,I have bin dating this guy for seven years now and recently I just found out he has another girlfriend he has been dating for 5yrz,and from what I found out he truely loves this girl too,pls im so confused and down,i love this guy so much and right now im so confused,I cant even think straight anymore on what to do. pls I kindly need your advice

Hi Dear,

You've been dating a guy for 7 years and you recently found out he's had another girlfriend for 5 years?

Do you realize this man has been cheating on you for 5 (maybe more) years?

If you want to continue with the relationship, you need to confront him about the whole situation. He needs to choose whether he wants to be with you or her. But, I wouldn't recomment continuing with the relationship. I know you love him, but you need to understand this man lied & cheated on you 5 out of 7 years of your relationship. How can you trust such a person? Do you want to spend the rest of your life with a man who would do this to you?

I have a few questions for you though:

Is this a long distance relationship?

How serious is this relationship? What do you want out of this relationship?

Have you met his family? If Yes, are you close to them? If No, why not?

joromi: So, there is the guy I like.....
But he has not tried to talk to me all through this semester...
He just stares at me all day

This semester is going to end in about 2weeks...
Do you think I should go ahead and start a conversation, get his contacts, and all that good stuff he should be doing

Thanks.

Hi There,

Don't go asking for his contact information just yet.

Show hints that you like him, but don't make it too obvious. If he still doesn't approach you, that means he's either shy or not interested.

If he doesn't approach you after you've given him a few hints, but you're still very convinced he likes you, go ahead and initiate a conversation, after all he might just be a shy person.

Good Luck!

X0x0

Godswill A Judins: Ma babe called me yesterday that there is something she wants to tell me.
She said she does. Not like the way am treating as if she is not ma girl friend. She also telling me this because she love. Me an can't keep it in her heart. So I asked her what have I done she said she refuse to tell me. Your advice pls.

Did you guys have the discussion yesterday as I advised?

One thing is clear now, she has confessed that she likes you, and I'm sure it's because you followed my advice and ignored her.

If you have not had the talk as I advised you yesterday, do it as soon as possible. Tell her you've been acting strange because you were not sure about her feelings for you.

ChiSun27: Very simple...since ur wish cudnt kom thru...u can wish it on ur kids...ewu!!!

What a low blow! Bringing my future children into this isn't the proper thing to do.

marvis5077: Some men are not worth pampering at all. You need to see the way guys talk about girls when discussing with their friends in groups. It's so annoying. If a girl pampers her bf, the guy would easily termed her to be 'desperate and foolish'. You would hear such words like "she dey find my money", I don catch one foolish girl", she think say I go marry her", And as a wife, if you pamper your hubby and make him feel like a proud tyrant, he would take it that he can do u anything. And that cannot even prevent him from cheating on you. @op your scenero can be applied at least to the whites, not in naija where true love has almost developed wings and disappeared. Not to African men who are so full of Ego, pride, and jealousy. To the ladies, I'm not saying you shouldn't pamper your man, if you must- do it with SENSE.

I'm not saying you should pamper him everyday. I clearly said, once in a while. If you are with the wrong man, no matter what you do, pamper or no pamper, he will still roast & mock you with his friends.

Chilug: Dis ur topic nd d way u d yarn d choke me sef. Simply irritated. Shebe na attention u want, congrat u don get am. Abeg fresh asir. Vivica A fox

I opened this thread on April 10th! A person who was staking me went and brought it back to create all this unnecessary attention.

Agybabe: I believe that beautiful girls don't make noise. Pocket the sentiments!

Whatever rocks your boat. :-)